Broken Promise

[Mermaid02]

Me and my Fiancee worked everything out he bought me Chocolate and Rose and he made it up to me and apologized for not being able to take me to see the movie.

Good! Glad you had a nice night

 

[FayeW]

So now how are you going to apologize and make it up to him for posting about your personal business on an international message board with his full name in your avatar?

Me thinks that is a bigger error in judgement than overspending on a fishing trip and leaving yourself short for a gift for a trumped up "9 month" anniversary celebration.

 

[LuvsDragonflies]

Good for you honey.

 

[DebIreland]

I'm glad you made up. He sounds like a nice guy. A bit of advice though. From now on, stick to important occasions for gift-giving. Celebrating monthly anniversaries puts too much pressure on an already stretched budget and pressure on the relationship in general. Presents really don't matter in the overall scheme of things. Stick to birthdays and Christmas and eventually your wedding anniversary. Even then, keep the presents affordable.

Faye has a point about his name being on display in your avatar. Not very wise really. I'd remove it if I were you.

 

[Goofyluver]

So now how are you going to apologize and make it up to him for posting about your personal business on an international message board with his full name in your avatar?

Me thinks that is a bigger error in judgement than overspending on a fishing trip and leaving yourself short for a gift for a trumped up "9 month" anniversary celebration.

Oh please. I've seen way worse on this board.

Everything from the horrifying posts by a parent of some poor tween who just started her period (imagine if the offspring sees that one), to the jilted spouse who just found out their partner has been getting a li'l somethin' somethin' on the side.

Really...rather than participating in humiliating the OP, folks here, if they're concerned, should send her a kindly PM. Instead, we have folks berating her for her posting.

 

[npmommie]

LOL--I am more confused by getting engaged to someone you have only known for 9 months!!

I'm not one to talk there...Met DH in November 2003 and got engaged in Jan 2004 and married July 2004. We've been crazy happy ever since!!

But even with our extremely short dating history we never celebrated "month anniversaries". That's reserved for kids in middle school.

Here is another one for you.
I married my dh 7 months after meeting.

we just celebrated our 24 year anniversary

 

[kamik86]

I kind of understand the 9 month anniversary thing... kind of. I did them with my husband but we didn't do gifts. It was just an excuse to make that night the night we do something a bit bigger then we normally do. Then again when we hit 9 months of dating we were both still in high school but he had a job and I had just recently gotten one, so we were starting to actually have money to do things. So I think it really was more of an excuse if we couldn't go out that night whatever.

For the spending money thing... that would annoy me a bit. but its because I'm a planner I was even in high school so if I promised to do something for someone that money would have been set aside and there is no way I could have touched it on my trip. That would also have x amount of dollars. assigned to it. Because a movie for 2 people is what $20 (because popcorn and stuff can be skipped)? I don't think even in high school once I started working I ever didn't have $20 to fulfill a promise and that was without going to mom and dad.

 

[Goofyluver]

Me and my Fiancee worked everything out he bought me Chocolate and Rose and he made it up to me and apologized for not being able to take me to see the movie.

Enjoy your chocolate and flowers!

 

[happygirl]

OP glad everything worked out!!! Happy belated anniversary

 

[sparklynails23]

So you stay at Shades of Green a lot-are you a Military Attorney?

To th OP-why such a long engagement? This is something I simply don't "get"- when DH and I decided to marry=we did -4 months later.

BIL is an attorney with a JD for the military and an officer. He does alright. He and sis stay at Shades alot, and we all get those coveted military discount tickets. Why are you hatin' on the military?

 

[MichelleVW]

I kind of understand the 9 month anniversary thing... kind of. I did them with my husband but we didn't do gifts. It was just an excuse to make that night the night we do something a bit bigger then we normally do. Then again when we hit 9 months of dating we were both still in high school but he had a job and I had just recently gotten one, so we were starting to actually have money to do things. So I think it really was more of an excuse if we couldn't go out that night whatever.

For the spending money thing... that would annoy me a bit. but its because I'm a planner I was even in high school so if I promised to do something for someone that money would have been set aside and there is no way I could have touched it on my trip. That would also have x amount of dollars. assigned to it. Because a movie for 2 people is what $20 (because popcorn and stuff can be skipped)? I don't think even in high school once I started working I ever didn't have $20 to fulfill a promise and that was without going to mom and dad.

The bolded is exactly the point Lol. You were still in HIGH SCHOOL where it's acceptable (but still silly) to celebrate months.

To the OP, I'm glad you worked it out this time...but you need to tone down your expectations of gifts and celebrations from him because I'm thinking if you don't you are going to be disappointed a lot.

My DH sucks at gift giving but I know he loves me. So I usually plan a vacation for my birthday (this year it's Disneyland!!). For our anniversary we usually spend it at a ballgame if the Rangers are in town. Christmas...nope..he usually doesn't get me anything but I don't care. I have everything I want and I would rather spend the money on trips!!

 

[Eeyore98]

BIL is an attorney with a JD for the military and an officer. He does alright. He and sis stay at Shades alot, and we all get those coveted military discount tickets. Why are you hatin' on the military?

I must be missing something in S4M's post...no idea how you see what was said as hating on the military?

 

[marie1203]

I will honestly be more concern about money issues when you are married since it does not seem is a topic you have talked about. And as many said still trying to understand the monthly anniversary thing. But hey to each it's own.

 

[MichelleVW]

I will honestly be more concern about money issues when you are married since it does not seem is a topic you have talked about. And as many said still trying to understand the monthly anniversary thing. But hey to each it's own.

The money issue is a big concern. PP's have said that maybe they have no money because they are saving for a wedding, but is that really the case or are they living paycheck to paycheck and hoping that money falls out of the sky for their "Disney Fairy Tale Wedding".

 

[sparklynails23]

I must be missing something in S4M's post...no idea how you see what was said as hating on the military?

She was questioning the other poster's veracity and the possibility of being a lawyer AND in the military. I took that as "the military doesn't have professionals, like doctors, lawyers, etc." Of course, it does.

 

[marie1203]

The money issue is a big concern. PP's have said that maybe they have no money because they are saving for a wedding, but is that really the case or are they living paycheck to paycheck and hoping that money falls out of the sky for their "Disney Fairy Tale Wedding".

I don't even think it matters how they get the money for the wedding. I am concern that she doesn't seem to know his budget or spending habits. I dated DH 2 years and had a 9 month engagement. Let me assure that before the proposal even came we both knew each other finances like the back of our hands. If they love each other I don't think it matters if they have a lot of money to start with but at least knowing how financially the other one stands it is a MUST!

 

[MrsJackSparrow4Life]

She was questioning the other poster's veracity and the possibility of being a lawyer AND in the military. I took that as "the military doesn't have professionals, like doctors, lawyers, etc." Of course, it does.

Some people don't realize they do. I know it wasn't until I was 18+ years old before I found out the military had more than soldiers.

 

[katie26]

Some people don't realize they do. I know it wasn't until I was 18+ years old before I found out the military had more than soldiers.

Embarrassingly, I didn't realize the military had lawyers until I was in law school. JAG came to recruit on campus and I was like, "Huh? The military has what now?"

 

[sparklynails23]

Some people don't realize they do. I know it wasn't until I was 18+ years old before I found out the military had more than soldiers.

I'm sure the poster was ignorant, but she was rude, too.

 

[tlbwriter]

I don't know why everybody is getting hung up on the fact that it's a 9 month anniversary. Whether or not you personally recognize it or "get it" or give a rat's patootie about it is completely irrelevant. Pretend it wasn't an anniversary. Pretend that it was simply a date, and he promised her they'd go to a movie Friday night. And then he came back and said "Sorry, can't do it because I went fishing." Wouldn't you be annoyed and hurt? I would. And I think that's the bottom line - the fact that he blew off something she was looking forward to because he'd spent money on himself instead. One time? Maybe no big deal. But I'd want to see if it's part of a pattern.

Also, how can he afford roses and chocolates if he can't afford two movie tickets?