Big Wedding Debacle

[IndyBride]

Let us know what you decide to do.

 

[Handbag Lady]

If I were in your situation, I know exactly what we would do.

I would go to Sis's wedding and DH would spare no effort to go to his best friend's wedding. Even with a pre-RSVP to the sis's wedding. And get this, my sister would totally understand, too.

My husband is very much like a brother to his best friend. There isn't a line between friend and family in their relationship. They've harbored each other over the years (both being the rock solid one when the other one needed it through divorces, lay-offs, and subsequent financial problems). They've also been best friends since High School. THey still have their grad-night picture from Disneyland even though we are planning their 50th birthdays soon.

But you are in a serious jam. Is there no way to do both? Either have the best friend move by a day (if it is so last minute this might be easy), or have him get married really, really late in the day? (Hey if Phil Collins can do it for Feeding the World...)

 

[dakcp2001]

Close friends ARE part of my family. Id send my dbf to his be in his friends and wish him well, and Id go enjoy my sisters wedding. My sister would totally understand. So would my family, since they know how close we are with our friends.

I think being asked to be in a wedding is a huge honor, and is reserved for the people you want at your wedding the MOST. So his friend will really miss him if he has to ask someone else in his place. I think he will be missed at whichever one he doesnt attend, but I think your sis would be less hurt than his friend would.

How close is he to your sis? That makes a diff if they are really close.