Attending funerals. Where do you draw the line?

[jellymanoffspring]

Attending the funeral is a gift to the surviving family members!

Simply say I am sorry for your loss.....or even say that you don't know what to say.....

 

[Stitchfans]

I agree your wife is a very thougtful person. I personally only go to the funerals of family. I will go to wakes of friends/co workers, so on.

 

[Michie]

My Dh's side of the family, they attend funerals, weddings, showers, birthday parties, ( and sometimes without invatations) you name of it, of people that they hardly know. For example, my Dh's 5 or 6th cousin whom he met when he was 2, daughter's boyfriend father passed away. My MIL wanted us to attend the funeral We said no. I do think sometimes there is a point where your need to respect others privacy.

 

[MICKEY88]

I'm not really squeamish to the point that it would stop me from attending the funeral of a person that mattered to me, not my cousin's husband's mother..... who I never met..... which my wife attended that one too.

in this instance she was showing support for her cousin, and her husband..nothing wrong with that...

unless she attends so many funerals and takes off so much work that it is hurting your family financially, I would let it go..



are you bothered by her attending the funerals, or bothered by having to tend to the twins by yourself.. so often..

 

[jellymanoffspring]

My Dh's side of the family, they attend funerala, weddings, showers, birthday parties, ( and sometimes without invatations) you name of it, of people that they hardly know. For example, my Dh's 5 or 6th cusin whom he met when he was 2, daughter's boyfriend father passed away. My MIL wanted us to attend the funeral We said no. I do think sometimes there is a point where your need to respect others privacy.

I had a hard time following that one
I do agree there has to be some limits.......

My MIL says her Mother used to just go to the funeral home or church when she saw a funeral...even if she had no idea whose it was

I like to watch weddings when they come out of the church....but funerals?

 

[SunFloridaDisney]

unless she attends so many funerals and takes off so much work that it is hurting your family financially, I would let it go..

I would agree with that.

I do know that it is the survivors who benefit.

When my MIL died, my sister and her dh did NOT attend the funeral, and dh had his feelings hurt. We spend a lot of time with them, and they are the type that go to "the cousin of our former neighbor" etc. yada yada. For them to not show up was unbelievable, IMO.