Any other DISers trying to concieve? Reread OP for the QOTD!

[DisneyGirl4188]

Amber- not sure what it could be for me either....other than early AF. it's too late for implantation for me....i think that usually occurs between 7-11 DPO. when did you O? this is 14 days past for me. 15 if you count the day of the IUI. i have had no more spotting at all so far today. just the brown this morning- so it's very weird. i usually don't spot either-and this was very very light, but was something. i always just have the period come on full force, especially after a night of cramping like last night, it lasts 2 days usually, maybe 3 and is light, then gone- usually not this brown either. so who knows. maybe there is hope still, but with a negative test 14DPO, i am not counting on it. i am just assuming the BFN is right and AF will be here tonight or tomorrow.

good luck to you!

I'm not sure when I O'd since I don't temp or anything. I am exactly the same as you; I never spot before AF and my breasts always hurt about a week before it. I just don't know what to think.

I'm still holding out hope for you.

 

[helenabear]

First of all welcome to our newest poster here! I wish I could help with the infection, but I have no idea... been lucky enough (knock on wood) not to have to deal with that.

I am feeling a little better today... I am so tired still, but found enough to get through the day with my friends.

I almost wish for cold weather just to give my allergies a break that they need from the wet and mold.

I looked up about implantation bleeding and it seems to say (on average) between 1-2 weeks after fertilization. I know I had light spotting just about when AF was going to show. That spotting wasn't related to the stuff I had a week later with the subchorionic bleed. So I can't say what light spotting at certain days mean. Also if you have BD'd and you are pregnant, you are more likely to spot due to the cervix being more sensitive and blood filled or something. Granted I never spotted much after BD'ing while pregnant (faint yellow at most) but that is also a possibility.
Cramping is totally normal too. I had AF like cramps the whole time off and on. Some were much lower, and sharper (ligament pain) but in general they felt similar.

So... I don't want to give false hope, but since the beginnings of pregnancy are fresh in my mind, I figured I'd remind y'all what I went through.

Carla, I hope you will stop in more... I always smile when I see your sig... just because we did get pregnant within a week or so of each other. I keep thinking good thoughts for you.

Michelle, sweetie I wish I could reach out and hug you. You have been in my prayers and will continue to do so. I can't say I know exactly how you feel, but after 10 months of TTC and then the miscarriage... well I have an idea how you are feeling. Right about the 10 month mark, I was feeling like a total failure. I mean I know so many who got it right the first try... why not me? I am a big believer in God and fate, but sometimes I plain just don't understand it.
I am so glad you have such a great DH to be beside you through this. I am blessed in that area as well. Just remember in the end, you will have a child... and I know you will be great parents

 

[SDFgirl]

Michelle, I don't post here much but I wanted to let you know that you're in my thoughts. I wish the best for you, I know how strong the "mommy drive" is. You have to be strong to through all of this and I truly admire your perseverence.

Best of luck to you and I'm thinking and praying for you.

 

[ImarriedGrumpy]

isn't it funny- on no other thread could we talk about brown spotting or cervical mucus so openly....lol

Tell me about it!! This thread should be dubbed the "TMI thread". DH can't stand hearing about it - he doesn't want to hear about CM or the position of my cervix or any spotting, etc. etc. (He's also warned me that there's no way he's going to be in the delivery room because he'd gag, puke, pass out, etc. From the way he reacts when anyone gets a cut, I'd guess that it's just as well...)

Anyway, he then asked me if I actually discussed this stuff with ya'll. When I said yes, he then paused and said "you don't actually tell them when we, you know, do it, do you?" When I told him that it is part of the TTC process, so yes, I've mentioned it sometimes in my posts, the poor guy got so embarrassed! He freaked out a little bit... ...pretty well describes what he looked like!

So if we ever meet any of you IRL, the poor guy will probably sink through the ground in mortification that you would know the details of our BD to TTC!

 

[Tauwillow]

I see that I misunderstood what this thread was about, and who it was for.

This surrogate will be bowing out.

I wish you all luck in your upcoming cycles.

 

[exwdwcm]

Elaine, thanks for the kinds thought. i know it's been a rough journey for you- and i think you are so strong and hopefully both our days will come. i so appreciate the support.

as for the spotting....well so weird, after the BFN yesterday (14DPO), i just wrote off this cycle, but still no AF. the lightest spotting yesterday am, then nothing else the rest of the day. i had a glass of red wine last night with dinner with friends, sure AF was coming. i know a glass of wine won't hurt anyways. then this am, a little more brown spotting first thing, then some a little redder, looking like AF later this am and nothing since. we even BD last night and no blood afterwards. and i walked 6 miles this am with my sister and BIL and nothing after that. i give up on guessing.

if no AF by tonight, i'll buy another test for tomororw. that will be CD27 and 16DPO. AF is usually here by CD25 or CD26 (today), based on the last 4 months. before that, i was very irregular. so who knows. either AF is late or something else is going on. still having some cramping and twinges.

TAuWillow- i don't know why you would think you weren't allowed on this thread....i remember your posts and your story and i think you belong here as much as anyone. i hope you continue posting. where are you at on your journey? I think i read you got a BFN and were starting a new cycle? are you still trying to surrogate? i think it is a wonderfully selfless act.

well have a good weekend all---i am just waiting for AF or something to happen, so i can move on either way. i leave for orlando on wednesday, so i'd like to get in to the doc before then if we are a BFN still like yesterday's test showed.

 

[helenabear]

TAuWillow- i don't know why you would think you weren't allowed on this thread....i remember your posts and your story and i think you belong here as much as anyone. i hope you continue posting. where are you at on your journey? I think i read you got a BFN and were starting a new cycle? are you still trying to surrogate? i think it is a wonderfully selfless act.

I couldn't say this any better myself. This thread is for anyone TTC no matter what/why. Or in a case or two even those who are just here for support (Denae first comes to mine). This group has come to mean a lot to me over time and I love sharing stories with everyone.

Speaking of stories to share... I am so happy I could almost cry. My good friend who had a D&C at about 7 weeks (after waiting a week to see if her body would miscarry on its own) just told me today that she is pregnant. I was suspecting for a month, but due to her history (of course) said nothing. She finally told everyone this weekend after getting a good check up. Of course she is scared, but OMG, I am thrilled for her. She said it happened the first month she was allowed to try again (she was told to wait 2 months). I am just sooo glad that her wait is over. So think good thoughts for a sticky baby for her.

Imarried, that is too funny how your DH reacted. Mine is actually pretty good about it all. He knows how women talk and just figures it is part of life. He doesn't seem to care much when I talk about things like that with him, though he'd rather just find something more interesting to talk about.

Michelle, my fingers are so crossed for you right now. I would take this as a good sign. My choir director was telling me a story about his first born. His wife had some "breakthrough bleeding" and then took a test only to get a BFN. They went out that night to celebrate something and then two days later she took a test... BFP! Sometimes you never know and she would have been probably about 14DPO as well the first test. Sometimes tests are too sensitive for that even 2 weeks after.

I'm cramping and having no other PMS symptoms, so I am not sure if the pregnancy changed my body enough that my PMS and periods will be different now, or what. I know given the stress of the holidays and taking care of my dad's house so much while he was out of town means that this isn't it... but something amazing is going on... I don't care anymore. If you can understand that... I todl Luis today that if it happens, that is great, if not... it's great too. It's amazing to have peace. I also told him that I highly want to consider state adoption or foster care no matter what. As in we'll keep on doing what we are doing, but I am so drawn to adopting a child (not baby) or helping out children who don't have anyone to love them. I just love kids, so this is something we are both thinking about.

It's nasty out, but I think I need to run an errand so I will brave it. I hope you all are having a great weekend!

 

[DisneyGirl4188]

as for the spotting....well so weird, after the BFN yesterday (14DPO), i just wrote off this cycle, but still no AF. the lightest spotting yesterday am, then nothing else the rest of the day. i had a glass of red wine last night with dinner with friends, sure AF was coming. i know a glass of wine won't hurt anyways. then this am, a little more brown spotting first thing, then some a little redder, looking like AF later this am and nothing since. we even BD last night and no blood afterwards. and i walked 6 miles this am with my sister and BIL and nothing after that. i give up on guessing.

if no AF by tonight, i'll buy another test for tomororw. that will be CD27 and 16DPO. AF is usually here by CD25 or CD26 (today), based on the last 4 months. before that, i was very irregular. so who knows. either AF is late or something else is going on. still having some cramping and twinges.

Michelle, I could have written this myself (except for the BD and walking ) I just don't know what to think. AF isn't due until the 11th and I have never spotted before. Today there was no spotting until just now. I took a nap and when I woke up there was some red (it's been brown). I guess AF is starting, but it is so weird.

I have been reading about this, but can't get a clear answer. I did read a few women that had a similar thing and they had BFN. They went to the dr. and ended up being pregnant (one was five weeks!) I'm not trying to get my (or your) hopes up, but wanted to pass on the info. I'm still praying for you.



Tauwillow, I also don't understand why you don't think you belong. I hope you stick around.

 

[mtakac]

Thanks for the welcome and info about yeast infections. Good luck to everything trying to conceive. I know it must be so frustrating. I always used to get so mad when people would ask when I was going to have a baby. Maybe I was trying for years and couldn't get pregnant? I wasn't, but I can only imagine how upsetting it would be.

Since I'm only on my second month of charting, I'm really curious to see when I get my period because I peaked several days later that I thought I would. This charting stuff is really hard for me because I sleep so erratically. I always have, even as a kid. It's difficult for me to find a period where I've actually slept 3 hours straight.

Is there someplace in the thread that explains the accronyms? I feel a little dense, but I don't complete understand everything that is being discussed.

Thanks,
Micki

 

[poohluvrs]

Hi Michelle,

My twins are toddlers now, so I feel a little guilty hijacking the thread, but I saw your post & remember TTC like it was yesterday, & how down I would get every failed cycle, I would see mothers shopping screaming at their kids & just think, dont you know how lucky you are! Of course,the experience made me all the better of a mom! Hang in there!

I found a lot of support on ivfconnections.com and met a great local group of girls there, it really got me through a lot that none of my friends or family or even DH god love him could understand!

Of course, the DIS is great too! Best wishes and baby dust to all you lovely ladies! Be good to yourselves, you deserve it!

 

[LisaB]

Tauwillow I hope that you continue to post and don't not feel that you belong here because everyone does.

 

[AllyandJack]

Michelle, I spotted from 10dpo to 13dpo (10-13 days post my retrieval). Add to that the cramping and my general feeling of having no chance that this will ever work in my lifetime and I was convinced it was all over. Do you have a blood test scheduled? I hope it's just a late implantation.

Elaine, I'm with you on the cold weather. Enough of this crap. I don't want to turn my central air on again. Plus, we spent all of that money re-doing the driveway and we're all excited about the snow. So far, we've gotten about 3 inches. DH went out and plowed it because he was dying to plow the new driveway. Pretty sad! I follow the blog of a woman who is doing a domestic open adoption. In the last 3 months, she's been shown 4 times! It's pretty excited to read about it. Amazing that so many babies are available to be adopted. She's hasn't found "the one" yet, but most of the time that's because the mother simply decided to raise the baby herself.

I quit my job. I just can't do it. So, I'm starting my new career as a Realtor. As I lay in bed loaded up on medication to control my nausea, I'm studying for my test and I've already lined up a job. It's pretty exciting. It's so nice to not have to get up at 3:30am to beat traffic into the city.

 

[ImarriedGrumpy]

Well, my temp dropped down today, so I didn't test. I'm guessing AF is on the way, although part of me is still hoping maybe the low temp is just a fluke. I decided not to waste a test because I didn't want to see the BFN, although if AF hasn't shown up by Tues or my temp is back up tomorrow then I'll probably test. I don't have any spotting yet, so I'm a little hopeful because of that. It's not over this month until AF shows...and she's not here yet!

Tomorrow is a big work day for me - in addition to my usual "client", a 15mo old girl, I'll also be watching a pair of sisters who are 3 yrs and 6.5 yrs old while their parents head to San Francisco for a Dr. appointment (dad has some health problems so they're headed to a specialist). The sisters are arriving at 7:15am and leaving at 1:00ish, and my usual baby arrives at 8:00 and goes home at 5:00. A long day...hope all my girls cooperate and AF stays away! Tomorrow would be wretched timing for AF...

 

[arizonacolbys]

My internet was acting up at home all weekend, so I was never able to check in with you all! Uneventful weekend for me, still organizing the house & trying to do away with clutter in preparation for putting our house up for sale. I also took down all the Christmas decorations & hubby is bringing them all to the storage unit today.

I've been temping/charting this month, but I think I'm still a bit out of whack after the D&C. My temps started out pretty high, and have really come down, but are still a bit erratic. I just can't wait for AF to come so we can officially start to TTC again... I've been breaking out really bad over the last 2-3 weeks & I really hope it goes away soon!! Hubby is very supportive & tells me that my body's probably not back to normal yet, but it's frustrating!!

Not much else is new here - just getting really excited for our trip!! In the single digits now..only 9 days to go!!

Michelle - Praying for your BFP!!! I know that I truly thought I was getting AF when I got my BFP. I had a lot of cramping that felt just like AF - I don't remember any spotting, but I do believe that's normal, too. KUP!! Are you all packed for Disney yet? I've been working on packing, but the the weather forecast is all over the place right now!

IMarriedGrumpy - sorry you saw a temp dip - with no AF yet, don't give up hope!! Praying for a BFP for you!! Good luck with the little ones today!

Carla - good luck on the new career - that's always sounded interesting to me. I'm with you on the weather (although it's finally nasty & cold here this morning.) I missed snow at Christmas this year!! I was thinking that the weather would have been miserable here for a couple months when we left for FL next week, but we've only seen snow once & it's been in the 60's more than the 30's!! LOL

DisneyGirl4188 - Welcome!!! Good luck to you for a BFP, too!!

Elaine - that's so great to hear about your friend with the BFP!! That gives us all hope. I'm glad you're feeling at peace with everything that has happened & think that it is awesome that you'd like to adopt either way.

 

[mickeyboat]

Emil y- After I gave birth to Hannah, my face broke out so bad, I could not believe it! New mothers are supposed to look tired, not like pepperoni pizza. It was terrible! I think you can attribute your breakout to your hormones trying to balance out.

Carla - so happy to see you post. I think a realtor job would be great for you, will you be able to set your own hours for the most part? Do you have anyone lines up to watch the baby? Did you guys find out gender? I am sorry you are feeling so sick.

Michelle - I am still holding out hope for you. I had a lot of spotting with Hannah, but I also had low progesterone. I played around with "is there a line or isn't there" for several days before I was sure I was PG. Good luck to you!

Tauwillow - no reason to leave the thread if you feel it can help you in any way. Everyone is welcome. Heck, I am not even TTC and there are more than a few women who have successfully gotten PG (I think our founder is due in March). We all have different stories, but we are all linked by our desire to be parents, and the trials, tribulations and joys of the process.

BFP's and sticky babies all around!

Denae

 

[exwdwcm]

well ladies- it is definitely a BFN. AF arrived in full force last night about 6pm. just like i thought. so no big surprise. i am not even crying like last time. i guess after all i have been through and 4 IUIs failed, i am just used ot it now.

so i have an appt at 1:30pm with the RE to discuss next steps. i am nervous and excited about the prospect of IVF. i'll give him a chance to discuss another IUi if he wants, but unless he can give me a good reason to do it again.....i just don't know.

Carla- good luck with the new career- how exciting! it should give you more flexibility to work hours you want, right?

Poohluvrs- i will definitely check out that site for IVF- thanks for the support. i have a lot of learning to do--- like learning about blastocysts or whatever...lol!

Imarried grumpy- still thinking of you too- don't count it out til you see the witch!

Elaine- what a great story on your friend....i just sent it to my friend that had a D&C just a month ago to give her hope. i hope your cycles get evened out and maybe your body is different now and your pms will be different. the body is a strange thing for sure! i am with you on the foster care/adoption....i think it can be a great thing....and maybe if we are fortunte enough to have one, maybe we would adopt a second. we might just have to adopt anyways....but we'll see!

well wish me luck at my appt today! maybe i'll be starting BCP this week.

but i do leave for Orlando on wednesday am. yeah! at least i get to see the mouse this time. i go to orlando on business at least twice a year and being there, but not getting to see the mouse sucks. i've made time to to epcot and mK one afternoon/night each. so that should cheer me up.

 

[mickeyboat]

Michelle - darnit! I was so hoping good news this month. You have a great attitude, though, and I am looking forward to what your RE has to offer this afternoon. Have a great time at WDW.

Funny all of you are talking about adoption/foster care. We were ahving lunch at a diner yesterday that had placemats which included advertisements from local vendors. One of the ads was for an adoption/foster placement agency, and DH said, we should think about taking in a foster child. I almost fell out of my seat because I had no idea he felt that way. I asked him of he was serious, but the conversation never took off. I will have to talk to him sometime about it. I am not sure if I would be a good foster parent, but I think I would be willing to try.

Denae

 

[LisaB]

Denae I was thinking about the same thing but I am not really sure about it. I am so glad Carla that you decided to post. Good luck with the new job. I know I started working as a travel agent right after becoming pregnant with Diana. I have actually thought about going into the real esate business.

 

[Tasha+Scott]

I am so sorry Michelle! I hope that you can figure out what you need/want to do. If you go the IVF route, hopefully that will be the thing that works.

Tauwillow~ Like others have said, you have every right to be on this thread if you want to be. I have 1 dd already and hope to have another baby in the future BUT I am not even ttc yet and I pop in from time to time anyway. Noone has told me to leave yet and I hope to be ttc later this year if all works out so I like to see how everyone is doing.

Denae, my nephew (on dh's side) was originally my BIL and SIL's foster child. They adopted him and have had him since he was a baby. He is 12 now. The thing is, foster care can be a roller coaster ride too though. They had a little girl originally too but the girl's biological dad kept trying to kidnap her and the biological mom got her back eventually so it was very hard for them to go through. They had a lot of "setbacks" trying to adopt their son as well...mostly with the biological parents. It is so worth it though but it can be so emotional. I am sure any type of adoption would be though to some extent. Good luck if you guys decide to do it. That would be such a wonderful thing for a child that would need you!

Well, I start my Spring semester of school tomorrow. I am kind of glad in a way. The sooner I start, the sooner I will be finished! We are hoping to go to WDW again in May and *hopefully* plan to start ttc #2 this fall so I am ready for this semester to be over! Good luck to all of you that are ttc and to those that are expecting!

 

[kimntrent]

Michelle

I had 2 IUI and they both failed. I know what you are going through. I am going to counseling now because of the dwelling on TTC factor and 2 miscarriages. Maybe you should think about that too.

Kim