I would first like to thank you all for your support and advice both on the original posting and the PMs i have received, it has helped.
On the weekend i lost it big time and spent most of Sunday an emotional mess holed up in bed with my parents going frantic, but i am now on the up.
He STARTED to move out yesterday,(meant to add that he is now living with her but coming back at present to do his "music" and collect more bits each day until all done, he doesnt seem to be in a hurry to go properly to his new love does he) is doing it bit by bit would you believe and for someone going to the love of his life, i and my neighbours have never seen him look so down. He is no longer staying here but doesnt count on being moved out fully for a month or so. I was really cool,calm and collected whilst he removed a bag of clothers and his CDs. And guess what she has already been asking for more more toward the rent that has supposedley been put up......also would you believe he actually walked across to where i was sitting and kissed me goodbye??!!
Very strangley i felt some sort of calm and relief both last night and this morning and have taken steps to see what financial help i can receive.
ON A EVEN SADDER NOTE: On Tuesday evening an awful tragic accident kind of put things of my situation in to perspective. A long time work colleague and close friend had split from her husband last summer as he was having an affair, house on market etc, she has just started to look happy again getting her life in order. Apparentley on Monday early evening they had called some sort of truce to the ongoing bitterness and calm things down (not a reconcilation i add) she said goodbye to him knowing he was on his way to visit his other woman, a couple of hours later she was notified by the police that he had been killed outright with a head on collision with a lorry which had been on its way to our local shipping port on his way to see the other woman. He was only 29 and i had known him for a long while as well. It happend on a notorious blackspot. So at the age of 27 she is a widow, and not now having the chance to know if they could have ever sorted things out. She also has the other woman trying to interfere with the funeral.
This kind of made me feel rather humbled at what now seems a minor devastation to what she must me going through right now. I have the chance of onward and upward but i cannot even begin to think what she has to contend with.
I thank you all for listening once again. alison
On the weekend i lost it big time and spent most of Sunday an emotional mess holed up in bed with my parents going frantic, but i am now on the up.
He STARTED to move out yesterday,(meant to add that he is now living with her but coming back at present to do his "music" and collect more bits each day until all done, he doesnt seem to be in a hurry to go properly to his new love does he) is doing it bit by bit would you believe and for someone going to the love of his life, i and my neighbours have never seen him look so down. He is no longer staying here but doesnt count on being moved out fully for a month or so. I was really cool,calm and collected whilst he removed a bag of clothers and his CDs. And guess what she has already been asking for more more toward the rent that has supposedley been put up......also would you believe he actually walked across to where i was sitting and kissed me goodbye??!!
Very strangley i felt some sort of calm and relief both last night and this morning and have taken steps to see what financial help i can receive.
ON A EVEN SADDER NOTE: On Tuesday evening an awful tragic accident kind of put things of my situation in to perspective. A long time work colleague and close friend had split from her husband last summer as he was having an affair, house on market etc, she has just started to look happy again getting her life in order. Apparentley on Monday early evening they had called some sort of truce to the ongoing bitterness and calm things down (not a reconcilation i add) she said goodbye to him knowing he was on his way to visit his other woman, a couple of hours later she was notified by the police that he had been killed outright with a head on collision with a lorry which had been on its way to our local shipping port on his way to see the other woman. He was only 29 and i had known him for a long while as well. It happend on a notorious blackspot. So at the age of 27 she is a widow, and not now having the chance to know if they could have ever sorted things out. She also has the other woman trying to interfere with the funeral.
This kind of made me feel rather humbled at what now seems a minor devastation to what she must me going through right now. I have the chance of onward and upward but i cannot even begin to think what she has to contend with.
I thank you all for listening once again. alison
