Adam and Katie's wedding PJ -10/2/2010 SBP/SCP need floral advice!!

[shippedtosea]

Hey Katie how are you doing? Just checking in to see how things are going! Having a good day off? hope your doing something fun!

 

[figment fan21]

Thanks for all the comments girls... sorry i've been alittle MIA lately, things have been crazy.


Anyway I did speak to my wedding consultant (not to be confused with the wedding planenr) and I asked AGAIN about having dinner and dessert served at our DP at SCP and I got the green light! YAY!

So what we may do is have a "come if you want" welcome dinner at BOMA the night before the wedding, and then move the wedding to 2:30 or 5 and then have the DP at SCP as kind of a reception.

My planner kept stressing that we won't be able to book it until 6 months before the wedding and it did get me a tiny bit nervous that we wont be able to get it but i'm going to make sure that i am on the phone th second DFTW opens the day 6 months before the wedding comes so that i can get that location! I do want a back up however so if anyone wants to throw out ideas on a back up let me know because i'm clueless.

I also spoke to Randy yesterday (if was wierd he called about 5 seconds after i got off the phone wiht Disney) He was really nice on the phone and just wanted to touch base with me since most of our conversations were through email. It was good to talk to him because he made me feel really comfortable and not awkward like when you're normally on the phone with someone you dont know lol.

If any of you know anything about serving both dinner and dessert at a DP please let me know... the consultant told me that she'd email me the menu's but i haven't gotten them yet and you know me... i'm checking my email ever 30 seconds for them hahaha!!

Hope you all had a nice thanksgiving!

 

[Boardwalk_bride]

That's great that she finally okayed the dinner at SCP! I hope you get my planner when you are assigned one, she is really relaxed about everything, and she doesn't make me feel like I'm stuck in an Escape package.

I just read your PM, so I thought I would answer here in case it helps anyone else. First, you don't have to call 6 months out to book. Your planner just does it for you, and will email you that morning to confirm if it has been booked. For the dinner, I was sent all the menus there are for DFTW (it is a HUGE document) so it had plated, buffet, rehearsal, etc. I ended up going with a rehearsal menu, because it was half the price, and it still looked like better food I have had at any wedding. I was also allowed to customize it (I completely changed the desserts, and I got rid of a few things). I think it is costing me $47 pp. I really think that Sago Cay for dinner is such a great idea, and that way you get 2.5 hours, instead of being rushed out of a restaurant!

 

[polynesianbride]

That's wonderful that they are going to let you have dinner and a DP at SCP! I can't wait to hear all the details on this... do you have to meet the food minimums of $125/pp like with Wishes brides or how does it work? Make sure you post everything you find out bc I may have to look into this!

 

[figment fan21]

THATS what i forgot to ask you!!! lol what time do you get there? and thats awesome that you have 2.5 hours!!! YAY!!!

I really hope i get your planner too! Is there a way to request a planner?? hehehe


You dont happen to still have that document with all the menus do you? no biggie if you dont. What did you change things to? I'm just curiouse.... DF and I were trying to think of what we'd want and how much it would cost us.

 

[figment fan21]

That's wonderful that they are going to let you have dinner and a DP at SCP! I can't wait to hear all the details on this... do you have to meet the food minimums of $125/pp like with Wishes brides or how does it work? Make sure you post everything you find out bc I may have to look into this!

Nope its a 1000$ F&B minimum thats it. Its going to be easier on our budget in the long run... we did the math for dinner at a regular rest. and then a DP and then did the math where everything was at SCP and its going to be the same or less.

I promise i will post everything!

 

[weedee]

Hi Katie! Just stopped by and read your PJ, your plans looks great so far! We are also doing an escape wedding and were interested in doing a dessert party at SCP, but I didn't realize that you could also host your reception dinner there too! Did you have to book all that through your planner? We can't seem to find any info online about the venue but haven't received our planner yet either so we're kinda stuck! It seems like it's a really cost effective alternative to doing the reception at a restaurant then also a separate DP!

 

[figment fan21]

Hey Wendy!!

Thanks for stopping by!

Its definatly something worth looking into! Is a great way to roll a reception and DP all into one!!! Its something that you book through your planner but i still dont have mine. Only 2 more months until i can have a planner lol. Its a lovely location from what i've seen and i love that i can have my outside photographer take the pictures there.

Let me know if i can help you out with anything!

 

[pezaddict231]

I'm glad it's working out with having dinner/dessert party at SCP. The Grand Floridian is so pretty and I'm sure they'll have it set up beautifully.

There are a few other locations at the GF... the Marina (not sure how many people you need for this) and the Summerhouse (wouldn't have a view of the fireworks though).

I'm sure you could serve dinner and dessert, but if you do a full dinner you could just opt for a few dessert choices instead of the full dessert party menu. Most of the rehearsal dinner menus I saw had dessert options on them. I don't know if they're up to date, but there are some on magical kingdoms. From what I understand, all the menus are just guidelines and you can completely customize the menu if you wanted.

 

[figment fan21]

I'm glad it's working out with having dinner/dessert party at SCP. The Grand Floridian is so pretty and I'm sure they'll have it set up beautifully.

There are a few other locations at the GF... the Marina (not sure how many people you need for this) and the Summerhouse (wouldn't have a view of the fireworks though).

I'm sure you could serve dinner and dessert, but if you do a full dinner you could just opt for a few dessert choices instead of the full dessert party menu. Most of the rehearsal dinner menus I saw had dessert options on them. I don't know if they're up to date, but there are some on magical kingdoms. From what I understand, all the menus are just guidelines and you can completely customize the menu if you wanted.

Yea i did some snooping on the magical kingdoms website and i liked the lady and the tramp rehersal dinner buffet. But then again Adam REALLY wants steak... he and his whole family love steak. Me, well i could take it or leave it, i'd rather the grilled mahi mahi from Coral Reef YUMMMM!!! So we'll see what happens once i get a planner. I'll just tell her how much i'm looking to spend per person and then what we'd want and how we can achive a happy medium.

I know the marina holds alot more people so i'm going to assume it'll have a high minimum.... but what is the summerhouse?? I've never heard about this location. I'm sure if i wasn't able to get a location to view the fireworks from maybe just DF and I could sneak out to the GF beach with Randy and get a few fireworks pics from there. I'm trying to keep an open mind about everything and keep reminding myself that everything will work out.

 

[pezaddict231]

I like that menu too. I'm sure you could sub steak for one of the meat dishes.

The Marina holds 20-150 people and I think the minimum is $1,500, which for 20 people would be about $75 per person.

The Summerhouse is right off the Beach of the GF. It's between Big Pine Key and the Main Building. It's a nice location because it's kinda in the middle of the resort. Here's a pic and the event concept from Disney catering. I'm not sure what the minimum is though.

http://www.disneycateredevents.com/uploads/ResortConcepts/Summerhouse Event Concept.pdf

 

[Chilly]

Sending you a PM.

 

[ghoulish delight]

Oh my sweet, sweet Katie! I just finished reading through all of your 'new' (I've been gone so long that it's new to me! Lol) PJ! I am so happy for you and all of your new plans!! It sounds so awesomely fabulous.

I'm happy that you've decided on a DP for sure, and omg! You look so effin' beautiful in your dress my dear!! It's going to be perfect once it's all done and altered. I still vote for the calla lilies and roses. Hehe. Umm... what else was there? I'm sorry about all your family drama and I'm glad you two are doing what YOU both want. That's all that matters after all.

Oh yeah!! And your DF is so lucky! A Disney cruise?! How cool of a future wife are you?

 

[figment fan21]

Oh my sweet, sweet Katie! I just finished reading through all of your 'new' (I've been gone so long that it's new to me! Lol) PJ! I am so happy for you and all of your new plans!! It sounds so awesomely fabulous.

I'm happy that you've decided on a DP for sure, and omg! You look so effin' beautiful in your dress my dear!! It's going to be perfect once it's all done and altered. I still vote for the calla lilies and roses. Hehe. Umm... what else was there? I'm sorry about all your family drama and I'm glad you two are doing what YOU both want. That's all that matters after all.

Oh yeah!! And your DF is so lucky! A Disney cruise?! How cool of a future wife are you?

AHHHH!!!!!! I've missed you Anj!!!

I'm glad you're back! Thank you for catching up on my new plans! I'm glad you like everything we have planned. the drama has subsided for now but we'll see what happens once the invitations go out hahaha!

 

[Boardwalk_bride]

Hey Katie! I hope you had a good holiday and will be back soon with updates!

 

[shippedtosea]

I second this! come back with updates!

 

[figment fan21]

Hey ladies... so sorry i haven't updated in so long. Its been a busy couple months! I do have a few major updates AND i have a questions that i could use your help on!

UPDATE #1

I've come to the conclusion that host our home reception at our home will NOT work!!! We hosted christmas eve at our house and in my opinion it was umm.... not great. Granted there were only DF's family at the house but it just seemed wierd and awkward (really hope DF doesn't read this ) Not that i dont like his family but they don't know how to loosen up it seems. Everything needed to be proper and hardly anyone talked. We didn't start having fun until the parents left and we hung out with DF's brothers and their girlfriends.

So DF and I decided to start looking into places to hold our home reception... We really thought this would be a challenge but i think we hit the jackpot! We didn't want anything like a big ballroom since its only going to be about 50-60 people. We found out that a place we eat at ALOT has a function room above the main dining room. We got in contact with their event coordinator and checked out the room... It is PERFECT and the prices can't be better! The bar is amazing and the room is super cozy. There is a Big screen that we can use so i'm thinking put our wedding and honeymoon pics on a dvd and play them while everyone is there, and they also have satellite radio and surround sound that we can use at no additional cost. The only thing we need to do is hit 550$ in food and we get the room, the linens, a bartender, and the use of their TV and radio! We are holding November 6th... i just want to make sure that we'll have the wedding photos back from randy by then. I do have a few photos that i took of the room but i haven't uploaded them yet but as soon as i do i'll post them!

UPDATE #2

We are 100% now on the itinerary for the wedding! All we have to do is get it booked with disney of course but we're only 23 days away from doing that!

Pre-Ceremony/First look pictures - 1:30pm (ish)

Ceremony - 2:30pm

post ceremony pictures - 3:00pm (ish) until 5:30pm (ish)

5:30-6:30 spend alone time with DF (who will then be DH) relaxing

Leave resort to go to DP - 6:30pm

Dinner and Desset Party - 7:00pm until 9:00pm (ish)

Please excuse the (ish)'s but we aren't 100% sure on how transportation is going to work since we dont know where family will be staying and things of that nature. But i'm glad at how the day will work out. We cut out doing the BOMA thing before the DP and are just doing the whole thing in one shot. I also dont think i'm going to do a welcome dinner or anything because nobody is giving me an answer as to when they'll be arriving in disney or where they will be staying. What i might do is make a ressie and have it be a "come if you want to" type deal.

UPDATE #3

My DS (BM's) and I are going to be going on a wedding mission. My second dress fitting is on Feb. 27th. I told them that unlike the first fitting i wanted and needed them BOTH to be there. I gave them 2 months notice this time! Over christmas i had a thought and asked them both if they'd be willing to take that day off from their work. They both agreed and the plan now is to go to the fitting which is at 10:30am and then go to Davids to try on BM dresses. I figured instead of having them take two days off just to get it all done in one quick swoop! So makr your calendars girls because i'll be updating with i'm sure a ton of pics how my dress came out and which BM dresses i picked out.

Now for the question i have for you all....

DF and I got into a little bit of an argument over registering.... He said he didn't see the point in it. So i explained that since we're having a bridal shower (i know my sisters are working on one) I thought it would be a good thing to do. He wasn't very happy with this. He doesn't think anyone from his side (other than his mother) would attend because his grandmother, aunts, and cousins don't know anyone from my side of the family and knowing how they are wouldn't attend. I was pretty hurt and upset by this. He thinks that its rude to invite people that arent going to the wedding. I totally understand that but i already told my sisters that they are to write "no gifts necessary" on the invitation. But to tell me that he doesn't think any of them will go just plain hurts. I mean i know there is an etiquette to all this wedding stuff but i'm trying to follow it so that nobody gets upset with us. I understand we're having a small wedding but i am only getting married once and would like to have the full experience. Is that me being a bridezilla? What are you girls doing about bridal showers? Should i just tell my sisters to forget about it? Or should i let them plan it and just go register by myself? I'm slightly upset about this.

Well thats all for now i guess.... only 23 more days until i can offically book so i'm sure i'm going to have a TON of updates rolling in!

 

[figment fan21]

Hey Katie! I hope you had a good holiday and will be back soon with updates!

I second this! come back with updates!

I'm baaaaaaaack!!!!

thanks for posting on my PJ girls

 

[pezaddict231]

Yay! You're back! Wow and lots of big updates!

I think a reception at a place will work out so much better for the main reason that you won't have to clean up before or after. DF's friend had an at home reception at their house, they had a small destination wedding, and while it was really fun and everyone had a great time...their house was pretty much trashed at the end. I would not wanted to be them the next day. And even better that it'll be at a place you go to all the time and the price is right.

The timeline sounds good and once you're able to book with Disney you'll get it all nailed down.

Glad you found a day that worked for everyone. Can't wait to see pics of what you guys try on and pick out!

Now onto your dilemma. I would absolutely register. It's not just for the shower either people may want to buy you wedding gifts and not want to give cash. No one is forcing them to buy things off the registry, but most guests will want to get you something you'll actually like.

I think you should definitely have a shower. There is no reason not to, and I think it will help people that are not going to the wedding feel included. And if these people are invited to the at home reception, I really don't think it's rude at all. If people are opposed to it, they don't have to come. Simple as that.

I would be very upset by your DF's family not coming too, so you're not being a Bridezilla at all. First of all, attending is a sign of respect to you and your DF. You will be part of their family now and they will know DF's mother and each other, so that is definitely not an excuse. I wouldn't get too upset yet though. Sometimes guys don't understand these things and he may just think they wouldn't want to come. If you did have one and not invite them I bet they would be offended and make a big stink! So let your sister's throw you a shower and don't worry about it.

 

[shippedtosea]

yay! You're back!

I think its very smart of you to decide to have the reception in a hall. You don't need to be all stressed on the day (more so then you might already be with DF's fam) The place sounds great! Post pictures soon.

I'm glad you have set up everything for the wedding day. Sounds great! I think its great that you and DF will have sometime to yourselves. I can't believe its only 23 days away! thats awesome and sooo close! You must be so excited to book.

yay dress fitting! I am glad you asked your BM's to take the day off. No more fooling around this time. Don't forget to take LOTS of pictures.

Okay so now to the problem. I think you should DEF register. Where were you thinking? Why don't you just register for things at Disney for the honeymoon? I don't think its rude to invite them to the bridal shower! You are having a reception and all. This is a different situation to the norm and they just have to understand. I can't believe they wouldn't come! Isn't the point of weddings and bridal showers to bring family together? Not everyone knew each other at mine but they talked! You are only going to get married once...you don't want regrets and you deserve a bridal shower just like everyone else. i'm sorry you and DF fought.