Adam and Katie's wedding PJ -10/2/2010 SBP/SCP need floral advice!!

[Boardwalk_bride]

YAY for updates! I'm happy for that you got a lot figured out! I can't believe you have a timeline for everything already, that is amazing!!!

The shower situation is really tricky. I went to a bookstore and read some "wedding etiquette" books, and researched it online, and everything said that you can have a "normal" shower as long as the people invited are also invited to your reception (so it doesn't need to be the ceremony as well).

My FMIL is throwing ours for us, and it is likely that she will invite people that are not invited to either event, so we are not putting a registry list on the shower card, so that people don't feel obligated to get us anything.

Also, I have a personal note for you, although you may not feel the same. Df and I , like you and your DF, already live together (for 3 years) and have a home together. We went and registered, and decided later it was kind of a waste. We already have everything, we just could "upgrade" some stuff, but I would rather pick out my own things. We decided to only tell people we are registered at Disney to get $$ on the gift card!

HTH

 

[Petals & Pixie Dust]

Yeah! You're back! Glad you have a number of things working out!

As far as the shower things goes...I'm a bit bummed about this myself. My mom was going to throw me one...but there just isn't enough money to go around...or at least do it the way I wanted to do it. So, mom and I decided that we would just split the cost of a room at GF for one night before and have a girls night. Cheaper yes...but not really what I want. DH and I have been together for 8 years-We don't need anything...but how much fun would it be just to get together with friends?
DH was afraid it would look like we were asking for gifts if we registers...I still want to go and play with the scan gun thingy. We can do that when we have kids...b/c that will be all the stuff we don't have...
I feel for ya....in someways I feel like we are missing out too...

 

[figment fan21]

Yay! You're back! Wow and lots of big updates!

I think a reception at a place will work out so much better for the main reason that you won't have to clean up before or after. DF's friend had an at home reception at their house, they had a small destination wedding, and while it was really fun and everyone had a great time...their house was pretty much trashed at the end. I would not wanted to be them the next day. And even better that it'll be at a place you go to all the time and the price is right.

The timeline sounds good and once you're able to book with Disney you'll get it all nailed down.

Glad you found a day that worked for everyone. Can't wait to see pics of what you guys try on and pick out!

Now onto your dilemma. I would absolutely register. It's not just for the shower either people may want to buy you wedding gifts and not want to give cash. No one is forcing them to buy things off the registry, but most guests will want to get you something you'll actually like.

I think you should definitely have a shower. There is no reason not to, and I think it will help people that are not going to the wedding feel included. And if these people are invited to the at home reception, I really don't think it's rude at all. If people are opposed to it, they don't have to come. Simple as that.

I would be very upset by your DF's family not coming too, so you're not being a Bridezilla at all. First of all, attending is a sign of respect to you and your DF. You will be part of their family now and they will know DF's mother and each other, so that is definitely not an excuse. I wouldn't get too upset yet though. Sometimes guys don't understand these things and he may just think they wouldn't want to come. If you did have one and not invite them I bet they would be offended and make a big stink! So let your sister's throw you a shower and don't worry about it.

Yea i'm really glad we decided to do the reception at a room instead of at our house. Its good neutral territory lol.

I'm trying not to get upset about the whole future in-laws being rude and all but as much as i hope DF is wrong i think he may be right...

yay! You're back!

I think its very smart of you to decide to have the reception in a hall. You don't need to be all stressed on the day (more so then you might already be with DF's fam) The place sounds great! Post pictures soon.

I'm glad you have set up everything for the wedding day. Sounds great! I think its great that you and DF will have sometime to yourselves. I can't believe its only 23 days away! thats awesome and sooo close! You must be so excited to book.

yay dress fitting! I am glad you asked your BM's to take the day off. No more fooling around this time. Don't forget to take LOTS of pictures.

Okay so now to the problem. I think you should DEF register. Where were you thinking? Why don't you just register for things at Disney for the honeymoon? I don't think its rude to invite them to the bridal shower! You are having a reception and all. This is a different situation to the norm and they just have to understand. I can't believe they wouldn't come! Isn't the point of weddings and bridal showers to bring family together? Not everyone knew each other at mine but they talked! You are only going to get married once...you don't want regrets and you deserve a bridal shower just like everyone else. i'm sorry you and DF fought.

Thank you for your input! I feel the same way... if i'm spending the money to have the reception at home to make them all happy then why shouldn't i have a shower? I'm trying really hard not to be bridezilla but i think this senario justifies it.

YAY for updates! I'm happy for that you got a lot figured out! I can't believe you have a timeline for everything already, that is amazing!!!

The shower situation is really tricky. I went to a bookstore and read some "wedding etiquette" books, and researched it online, and everything said that you can have a "normal" shower as long as the people invited are also invited to your reception (so it doesn't need to be the ceremony as well).

My FMIL is throwing ours for us, and it is likely that she will invite people that are not invited to either event, so we are not putting a registry list on the shower card, so that people don't feel obligated to get us anything.

Also, I have a personal note for you, although you may not feel the same. Df and I , like you and your DF, already live together (for 3 years) and have a home together. We went and registered, and decided later it was kind of a waste. We already have everything, we just could "upgrade" some stuff, but I would rather pick out my own things. We decided to only tell people we are registered at Disney to get $$ on the gift card!

HTH

It does help! thank you! Df and I have lived together for three years but everything we have has been from walmart and its been the cheapest of the cheap... i mean we moved into our first apartment at 20.... we didn't have a ton of money. It would definatly be nice to get some pretty plates instead of the plain old white ones we have, or to get a set of matching glasses lol. But again i'm afriad people will get the wrong idea.... like we're only having the shower to ger gifts which isn't the reason i want it at all.... I just want the experience, ya know? playing the bridal shower games, getting the women in the families together, and just being in a room full of people who care about you and want to support you. I could give a crap about gifts... i mean would it be nice? sure! but its not necessary.

Yeah! You're back! Glad you have a number of things working out!

As far as the shower things goes...I'm a bit bummed about this myself. My mom was going to throw me one...but there just isn't enough money to go around...or at least do it the way I wanted to do it. So, mom and I decided that we would just split the cost of a room at GF for one night before and have a girls night. Cheaper yes...but not really what I want. DH and I have been together for 8 years-We don't need anything...but how much fun would it be just to get together with friends?
DH was afraid it would look like we were asking for gifts if we registers...I still want to go and play with the scan gun thingy. We can do that when we have kids...b/c that will be all the stuff we don't have...
I feel for ya....in someways I feel like we are missing out too...

I'm glad you understand what i mean. Its just that i feel i'm giving up so many other traditional wedding things already.... if i want a little bridal shower then why not? And i SOOOOO want to run around with the scan gun! You should make a trip over here and we can go together!


I've come to realize that wedding planning has been very theraputic for me. Its really showed me alot about both sides of our families and its taught me two really important lessons....

1.) You can't pick your family, you have to live with the one you're dealt.

I think DF and I would love it and be extremely appreciative if more family members were supportive and involved but they aren't. Nothing we are going to do is going to change that. They are who they are. which leads me into me second lesson learned...

2.) There is only one person you can rely on to make you happy... yourself!

DF and I have a vision for what we want our wedding to be like and we're going to make it happen. And if my sisters want to throw me a bridal shower then i'm going to let them. I'll tell them to put no gifts necessary on the invitation but i'm also going to register. The people who will want to buy me gifts will know enough to ask my sisters where we are registered. I'm just going to leave it at that. If i want the experience of running around with the scan gun then whose to stop me? Even if we dont get ANY gifts from the registry atleast i can say i did it.

We'll i'm off to work! thank you for all your support and opinion girls!

 

[Chilly]

Men don't understand some wedding related things. You go for it!

 

[figment fan21]

hahaha thanks claire!

 

[figment fan21]

Ok girls i need your help... i'm 13 days from officailly being able to book with disney!!! (I know, can you believe its here already?!?!) So tell me all about how it works! When do i get my planner, when do i sign a contract, when do i put down my deposit?? I'm getting really excited/nervous/stressed/happy.... ya know all those normal bride emotions lol.

 

[Petals & Pixie Dust]

I'm jealous...I have 68 days left until I book! Take notes for me!!!

 

[shippedtosea]

I have no advice....just wanted to say yayayayay!

 

[pezaddict231]

Yay! 13 days to go until you can book your wedding. That's so exciting and it's so nice when it's finally official! I think you're having an escape right? The process might be a little different, but we sent the deposit with the LOA and then got a planner two weeks after that.

 

[Chilly]

I got something e-mailed to me about a day later which we had to sign and return to Disney within about 2 weeks with the deposit, you need to provide your reservation numbers prior to this as they are on the contract. Then it can be up to 2 weeks before you get your planner as they only sort it out once a week I think.

 

[MainStMandy]

OMG are you so excited?!?!?! YAY!

 

[Boardwalk_bride]

Ok girls i need your help... i'm 13 days from officailly being able to book with disney!!! (I know, can you believe its here already?!?!) So tell me all about how it works! When do i get my planner, when do i sign a contract, when do i put down my deposit?? I'm getting really excited/nervous/stressed/happy.... ya know all those normal bride emotions lol.

Let's see if I can remember!

I think on the actual day, or the day before, you get like a confirmation email, so that they get the right venue. Than, once it is booked, you get an email with your LOA, and you sign it with the $750 deposit. They say you get assigned a planner 2 weeks after they receive the LOA, but mine must have been the day the had received it. Your planner sends you the "escape" kit, with all the song options, photo upgrades, floral, etc. If you are using all disney stuff, you are pretty much done with that. Otherwise, that document is pointless You also schedule a phone consultation with your planner at that time.

Yay for booking soon!

 

[figment fan21]

I'm jealous...I have 68 days left until I book! Take notes for me!!!

I will i promise!!!

I have no advice....just wanted to say yayayayay!

Thanks for the YAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Yay! 13 days to go until you can book your wedding. That's so exciting and it's so nice when it's finally official! I think you're having an escape right? The process might be a little different, but we sent the deposit with the LOA and then got a planner two weeks after that.

Yea i'm an escape.... thanks though! every bit of information helps!

OMG are you so excited?!?!?! YAY!

I am getting excited... alittle bit of cold feet every now and then but i'm more excited then anything else!

Let's see if I can remember!

I think on the actual day, or the day before, you get like a confirmation email, so that they get the right venue. Than, once it is booked, you get an email with your LOA, and you sign it with the $750 deposit. They say you get assigned a planner 2 weeks after they receive the LOA, but mine must have been the day the had received it. Your planner sends you the "escape" kit, with all the song options, photo upgrades, floral, etc. If you are using all disney stuff, you are pretty much done with that. Otherwise, that document is pointless You also schedule a phone consultation with your planner at that time.

Yay for booking soon!

Thanks Karen!!! that helps alot! I'm so excited i hope everything works out!!!

 

[figment fan21]

Happy Sunday Ladies!!! In between laundry i'm going to give you some major updates to read about!

First, as promised, here are the pictures from the home reception room! I apologize for the quality of the photos... i was taking them secretly when the women showing us around wasn't looking. I probably could have asked her if i could but something about being a secret agent photographer made me happy.

This is where the food goes... she had these tables set up to show how the buffet will be laid out

A clearer picture than the first one... she put a few of the table clothes out so i can see that they aren't going to be bare on the day of the party. Oh and all the christmas decorations will be taken down and seaside art work will be put in the place of the giant wreathes

the bar is my favorite thing in the whole room! (and not because i'm an alcoholic, i promise!) You can't tell but above the bar are vintage paitings of the beach that is right down the street. And the bar top are these really pretty mosaic marble tiles. I just think its really pretty!

The other big update I can share is that Adam and i finally nailed down the tux situation! We were originally just going to look at a few at mens wearhouse but we looked on jims formal wear website and found that a store did have the same stuff CA would have and it was only alittle further away then the mens wearhouse. So we made the trip over. It was a really small store and the guy who owned it didn't have much in stock so we just looked through a really big catalog of all the tuxes. The man was EXTREMELY helpful! Adam and i really liked him. We explained that it would be in florida in October which meant mid 80's. We also told him our color scheme and what the girls were wearing ect.

This is the tux we decided on

I had seen this one before and thought it would be great but didn't think DF would go for it, but he did! So DF will be in this suit with a diamond white vest and tie (to match my gown) and his groomsmen will probably wear the suit in the picture with the silver vest and tie... we aren't sure on them yet. For some reason DF wants their vest and tie color different from his... Again... "MEN!" But they will have different colored bouts.

I showed DF this bout and he really liked it!

So i think i want DF in this bout only with a white gerbera daisy and then his groomsmen with the same bout only have the gerbera daisy fuschia. What do you think??

Ok and ONE more update before i go fold some more laundry. I think i decided i want to have my girls carrying pomanders (flower balls as i like to call them!)

I'm totally stealing Lindsay22's bridemaid flowers (hope you don't mind lindsay!)

I LOOOVE these! I know some people dont but its my wedding and i love them! And to boot, i found one in my wedding colors on the knot!

Now again some people (DF and my sisters) think i should just stick with the normal bouquet so IF i decide i want the normal flowers for my sisters (bridesmaids) then this is what we decided on as a backup

Which would you girls pick? and be honest! I need the help deciding these things!

Alright well those are my major updates for today... thoughts?

 

[MiaBella05]

joining in

 

[MainStMandy]

Loving you updates...the at home reception space is awesome!! Very cozy!!

I vote for the pomanders (but you knew that!!)

 

[Petals & Pixie Dust]

Love the reception site...Nice!
I have to disagree with Mandy (sorry Mandy) I like the bouquet. It's simple and clean...All eyes should be on YOU! Your floral. Your dress. Your details. When I look at the pic of Lindsey's floral-which I didn't realize until I was looking at it critically and answering the question "Which one do you like?"...I don't look at hers first I look at the others...JMHO. All eyes on you!

 

[thatdisneygirl]

I like the bouquet as well, just because it's classic and it's a little more comfortable to carry down the aisle than the pomanders. I do love the look of the pomanders because they're so fun and different, but I tried to use them and my girls felt funny trying to carry them without having them bounce or swing around, so ultimately they were voted out.

 

[Chilly]

The room looks lovely.

I was going to say if you want balls you have balls, but the other girls do raise valid points.

 

[pezaddict231]

The home reception area looks really nice. I think everyone will have a great time. I love that bar area too!

Yay for DF picking his tux. I really like the navy blue.

As for the flowers, I think I like the pomanders better. I would pick what you love. They may not like it as much, but they only have to hold them during the ceremony and for pictures. Plus I feel like they would be cuter decorations for the cake table or something like that.