A foolish promise finally kept: the PTR! *The TR has begun! Link on page 13, post 189

Okay, so we left ridiculously early on Friday morning. Okay, it was 8am. But that's ridiculously early to me.

We drove about an hour and a half, and then we stopped and my dad dropped me off at the mall. He had business to do. So i spent about 2 1/2 hour shopping. i bought some winter boots, finally. Then i did Christmas shopping. i pretty much shopped until i knew i couldn't carry any more stuff, then i just sat and had lunch and waited. About 1.15 my dad came back for me and we headed out.

The only other thing i bought for myself was a book: Twilight. omg, so good. i read it allll the way to Ottawa (where we arrived just about 4.30pm) and i only stopped because it got too dark to read :(

As we crossed the border into Quebec, and the lights of Montreal became visible in the distance, i felt a hard, heavy dread sink into the pit of my stomach.

We got to Montreal about 6.45, and headed directly to the cemetery. Holy crap, it was COLD. The wind was tearing through the place like it was about to miss its first date. i mean, i live in Northern Ontario, it's pretty cold here. But it was FREEZING in that cemetery. And dark. Pitch black. So we didn't stay long. i cried a little and the tears froze in my eyelashes. Seriously. COLD.

We got back in the car and drove to my stepmom's sister's house. Kim and her husband have two kids, ages 3 1/2 and 2, and they are wild. i mean undisciplined, unstructured, totally ruling the household wild. They also have a dog my dad wants to turn into a slipper. We stayed there far too long, then left and went to the hotel.

Where we couldn't get into our room because the key didn't work. Nor did the concierge's master key. The door would. not. open. So they finally got us a different room. Geez.

Then my dad decided we should go to the bar for a drink. Okay. i planned to have juice. Get to the bar and the bar is just closing, would we like drinks to take back to our room? Yes, we did, and apparently i'd like a Smirnoff Ice.

So we went to our room, and talked, and had our drinks, and then my dad went in the bedroom and i made up the couch, and the dread returned to the pit of my stomach and instead of getting into bed, i read the rest of Twilight (have i mentioned yet? soooo good). Eventually i did sleep a bit.

This is going to take forever to tell! i just can't figure out which parts to leave out.

Saturday morning dawned cold and clear. We had breakfast in the hotel (waffle smothered in fruit, mmmm). We went to the strip mall across the street and into the bookstore, where i bought New Moon and considered the other two books but decided i was too cheap since they're still in hardcover. We went back to Kim's house so my dad could help her with some food she was preparing for a dinner party that night. Then we went to Ikea. i'd never been before. i picked up a few things, and i think i did pretty well for my first time given how crowded it was. We were in there about 45 minutes.

Finally it was time to visit Lorraine, the one part of the trip i'd been unequivocally looking forward to. Deb's best friend, much older than she was. Lorraine (75) and Bob (78) are the kind of older people everyone should know. They're so funny. Bob needs a walker now. Lorraine calls it his Cadillac. She says she regrets not buying him one of those recliners with the "jet boosters" in them. While giving me the tour of their new condo, Lorraine tells me the story of how she bought the king sized bed along with the condo from an 82-year-old woman, only it turned out to be two twin beds pushed together. "Can you believe that old lady screwed me?!" she gasps.

Lorraine makes me happy and sad at the same time. Kissing me goodbye she begs me to come back and visit soon. If i lived nearer i would happily visit her every week just for the pleasure of her company.

She makes me miss Debbie.

Leaving Lorraine and Bob's over an hour later than planned, we head towards my sister Lisa's house in Mirabel.

Lisa and i never got along as teenagers. She's not quite two years older than me, and we were polar opposites in everything. i never took my nose out of a book, she wouldn't read anything. i didn't smoke or drink or get in trouble, she did it all. We loved each other, after a fashion, but we didn't like each other much. She only lived here for a couple of years before she moved back to Montreal to live with her dad.

It's getting late... i will continue tomorrow. Good night everyone. :hug:

Oh, here is a picture of Deb. It's one of my favourite pictures of her, on a cruise with my Dad the year before she died. She looks so happy.

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:hug: Oh Sare. The story of you stepmom is so touching. I'm so sorry for your lose. I know it was a few years ago but you tell the story as if it just happened. She sounds like a wonderful, wonderful women.
 
Sare,
Your story breaks my heart.. I'm in tears:hug: You are a wonderful and strong woman. I sincerely hope that your trip was a blessing for you, and you could enjoy the memories of Deb with your Dad and family.

Paula

Thank you, Paula :hug: As you'll see, it was a wonderful trip in its way - plenty of heartache but lots of love.

:hug: Oh Sare. The story of you stepmom is so touching. I'm so sorry for your lose. I know it was a few years ago but you tell the story as if it just happened. She sounds like a wonderful, wonderful women.

Thanks Melissa :hug: She was very wonderful, and this trip did make it seem much more recent than three and a half years ago.
 
Sare...your story touched my heart I'm so sorry you had to loose someone you loved so much,she sounded as if she was truly a special person and you were blessed as she was to have had each other.
 

Sare...your story touched my heart I'm so sorry you had to loose someone you loved so much,she sounded as if she was truly a special person and you were blessed as she was to have had each other.

Thank you :hug:

Yes, she was very, very special and i was very lucky to have her. In fact i have been very lucky, in my life, to have four parents who love me very much. my stepdad is pretty great, as well.

i promise to try and write more in the morning! :rolleyes1
 
Well, it's not morning, but it is still the next day, so i figure i get half points :)

We headed up to Mirabel to my sister's house. It should have been a 30 minute drive but it seemed to take longer - that sense of dread in my stomach was coming back. i was staring unseeing out the windows - too bad, since i've never been before and i'm sure there was cool stuff to see. i'm not sure, now, what i was so afraid of. i guess it was a combination of not knowing how we would react to seeing each other for the first time since Deb had died, and just not knowing how we would get along, period. i so wanted us to be friends.

So eventually we arrived, and my dad parked and we went to the door. Lisa's husband, Phil, opened the door, so my dad introduced us and we said hello. Given that it was his home, he seemed a lot more relaxed than i did. i was relieved when my sister came flying in to hug me and seemed to be as keyed up as i was. She's so tiny! i'd forgotten how little she is. She felt especially little next to me, but that's to be expected i guess :sad2:

So we said hello, she was busy in the kitchen but promised to give me a tour in a minute. In the meantime, i got to meet her younger son, Cedric (almost 6):

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And her daughter, Jade (3 1/2):

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Jade is such a sweetheart. She's very solemn, with these huge brown eyes that reminded me so much of Deb that it hurt to look at her. i couldn't help myself, though, she's so darn cute. She's shy but friendly, if that makes sense, and spent much of the night in my lap or in my arms, very snuggly. (i sort of have a thing with babies and small children, i tend to end up holding them, whether i've just met them or not). Here's another picture of her looking adorable (and soooo much like Deb):

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When she was done preparing dinner, and with full wineglasses in hand, i got a tour of the house.

This is where i had a sort of... breathrough. A revelation. Lisa has always driven me crazy because of the way she talks to me - very, very condescending. i've always taken it personally, gotten offended and not really listened to what she was saying. This is the first time i've really been able to tune out the tone of her voice and listen to her words, and i can't believe the difference it made. i finally noticed that she talks to everyone that way, and that it's not really condescension, it's just the modulation of her voice. Once i'd had that little epiphany, we got along so much better. She showed me around, and on the way i met her oldest son, Jacob (9):

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(i should mention that all three kids are really much cuter than these pictures show. They just weren't at their most photogenic that night.)

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So after the tour we sat around, drinking wine and talking, until dinner was ready. After dinner the children went to bed and we sat talking some more (with more wine... i swear i drank more on this trip than i normally do in a 3-month span). Eventually my dad said we had to leave :(

We took a couple of pictures, first, me cursing myself for not taking some while the kids were still up. i'd have loved to have one of my dad, sister, the kids and i, but oh well.

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We headed back to our hotel and got there about 11pm. Dad went straight to bed. i read the first couple of chapters of New Moon and went to bed, too. i slept much better this night.

In the morning, we went to a restaurant called Moe's which is apparently famous for their smoked meat (:confused3 i had french toast). Then we went (big surprise) BACK to Kim's again to say goodbye. Somehow "goodbye" lasted about 45 minutes, but oh well. :wave: Soon enough we were stopping to buy some flowers and then heading back to the cemetery.

This was probably the worst part of the trip. It was freezing cold, for one thing, easily well below zero and so windy i was worried the blossoms would fly off their stalks as i held the flowers. i'd carefully taken off every bit of plastic and elastic from the flowers so they'd be environmentally friendly, but then i got concerned they would individually blow away :(

So, i held onto my flowers for a while, my dad and i sort of holding each other and crying, and then i went and put my flowers on the base of the headstone, trying to tuck them close so they wouldn't blow away. Then i stepped back, and my dad suddenly sort of lunged forward - i don't know how else to explain it - and started clearing away all the dead leaves that were around the headstone and on the ground in front of it.

i'm not sure why that affected me even more, but i just sort of stood there sobbing as my dad tried to clean away all the leaves.

Finally we both pulled ourselves together and got back into the car and headed home :drive:
 
I am so glad you enjoyed your visit with your sister and your nieces and nephews are adorable.
Your sister does look so like your step mother. I hope this is a new beginning for the both of you.
 
I have been reading this entire thing for 3 days now when I get a few minutes of time here and there! You have got quite a story! I'll be checking back often!
 
I am so glad you enjoyed your visit with your sister and your nieces and nephews are adorable.
Your sister does look so like your step mother. I hope this is a new beginning for the both of you.

Thanks Vickey :hug: We've already added each other on facebook and have exchanged a few notes. It's nice to be talking to each other.

I have been reading this entire thing for 3 days now when I get a few minutes of time here and there! You have got quite a story! I'll be checking back often!

Thank you, welcome! :cheer2:
 
Hi Sare
How's the visit with BF going .....hope you are enjoying yourselves.

How excited is Jess with Christmas coming up?
I am still looking forward to you letting us know how she reacts to her Disney gifts.
 
Hi Sare
How's the visit with BF going .....hope you are enjoying yourselves.

How excited is Jess with Christmas coming up?
I am still looking forward to you letting us know how she reacts to her Disney gifts.

It's hard to tell from one day to the next how excited Jess is, really. :confused3 She had a friend visiting for the weekend and seemed to have a good time, and i overheard her talking with my aunts at Christmas dinner on Sunday night about Florida, so she must be excited. i gave her a robe, a Tinker Bell rain jacket, and a pink Disney shirt for her birthday along with the Mickey luggage tags i'd bought, and she seemed to like them. Hopefully the t-shirts go over well, too.

my BF and i are having a great visit but i am working too much :(

i will try to get on after Christmas and post some pics and stuff :)

MERRY CHRISTMAS TO ALL!!!!
 
Ahhhh, Christmas. my favourite time of year - except while it's happening. It's one of those things that i spend all year longing for - i love decorating, shopping, wrapping, baking...or rather, i think i do. Turns out i love making lists of things to decorate, shop for, wrap, and bake. The actual doing, not so much. One of the problems is that i commit to too much. Sure, i'll decorate my Dad's Christmas tree. Sure, i'll put up, light, and decorate my Mum's Christmas tree. Sure, i'll do all my stepdad's shopping and wrapping, stopping just short of signing the card "To my lovely wife" that i've picked out for him to give my mum, complete with matching envelope. Sure, i'll do all the baking for a houseful of hungry men, assorted bake sales and bake exchanges, and a Christmas party or two. It's like Christmas is the only time of year i behave like a responsible adult or something - i can't imagine having this much on my plate all year!

Anyway, the shopping got done, the wrapping got done, my Dad's tree got done. my Mum's tree ended up being a 3-foot mini tree, but after some initial griping (Jess) and teasing (my brother), everyone got used to the idea. We sat it on the coffee table in the living room and just put the presents all around us.

Dad's baking got done. Not one but two batches of mincemeat tarts, two double batches of shortbread, some date squares. He's happy, my brother's happy, my BF is happy.

And the shopping got done. All of mine, all of my stepdad's, all bought and wrapped and luckily not too much has to go back this year. Whew.

So, how were your Christmases? Was Santa good to you and your families?

Here are some pictures of some of the things that have been keeping us busy this month:

Mum's surprise 50th birthday party:
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Wrapping presents on Christmas Eve:
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Visiting with my friends and their kids:
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HAPPY NEW YEAR Y'ALL!!!!!
 
You are so sweet to do so much for everyone. My DH keeps telling me I need to learn how to "JUST SAY NO". But I don't think he realises that I do enjoy doing things for everyone it is just when they start to take advantage of you that it gets to ya.
Who takes them down?:rolleyes1
How did your mom like her surprise party?
Mincemeat tarts that sounds delicious.
 
You are so sweet to do so much for everyone. My DH keeps telling me I need to learn how to "JUST SAY NO". But I don't think he realises that I do enjoy doing things for everyone it is just when they start to take advantage of you that it gets to ya.
Who takes them down?:rolleyes1
How did your mom like her surprise party?
Mincemeat tarts that sounds delicious.

i'm more of a shortbread girl than a mincemeat type!

my mum was VERY surprised about her party and she seemed pleased. my brother wrote in her card "if you're pissed, blame sare" but she didn't seem mad at all, though she did remind me that my 30th birthday will be coming up in a year or so and she had a sort of evil glint in her eye...

i forgot to mention one of the best moments of Christmas Day: as my bf and i were walking in the door, Jess came running down the steps to meet us, squealing "sare - Mickey came!!". i had had my mum put our t-shirts in a bag and label it "to Sarah and Jessie from Mickey - see you soon!" and it went over pretty well. As expected she loved the Pooh shirts best but she seemed pleased with all of them. The little Disney stuff i'd put in her stocking were also big hits - particularly the Winnie the Pooh temp. tattoos and the "Princess" glittery iron-on patch for her jeans. We also got matching Mickey & Minnie PJs, and since she loves for us to match, she was pretty happy with those. Her new Nintendo DS pretty much stole the show for her though, she was pretty excited about that.
 
I'm glad your mom had a great time and you lived to tell about it. Your brothers note was so :lmao:

I would've loved to have been there to see Jess.I bet she is a blast to take to Disney.

I love shortbread but the mincemeat tarts just sounded interesting.
 
I'm glad your mom had a great time and you lived to tell about it. Your brothers note was so :lmao:

I would've loved to have been there to see Jess.I bet she is a blast to take to Disney.

I love shortbread but the mincemeat tarts just sounded interesting.

You're forcing me to make a terrible admission: the mincemeat comes from a jar... and i use frozen tart shells from Costco. my only contributions are a dab of butter in the bottom of each shell and to spoon the stuff from the jar to the shells! *hangs head in shame*

The shortbread, on the other hand, is made from scratch, double-sifted, carefully rolled, and each little cookie is lovingly cut out and gently laid on the parchment paper-covered tray, then cooked to crisp golden perfection ;)
 
You're forcing me to make a terrible admission: the mincemeat comes from a jar... and i use frozen tart shells from Costco. my only contributions are a dab of butter in the bottom of each shell and to spoon the stuff from the jar to the shells! *hangs head in shame*

The shortbread, on the other hand, is made from scratch, double-sifted, carefully rolled, and each little cookie is lovingly cut out and gently laid on the parchment paper-covered tray, then cooked to crisp golden perfection ;)


It is that special ingredient that makes the difference and that is TLC.So lift that pretty little head of yours.
But thank you for the recipe now I can make them and no one will know they were not homemade from scratch.
Shortbread does take alot of work I make it for Easter and use Easter cookie presses to make a design on them.
 
Okay, so after some not-so-subtle prodding from someone who shall remain nameless (*cough*Paula*cough*) i am here to try and update our trip plans.

However, there's one teensy tiny itty bitty little problem:








nothing's changed. :confused3

All my ADRs are the same as they were when i first posted them... All my park days are the same... i'm pretty boring really, once i make a plan i try to stick to it.

i guess the only thing that's changed, is that we're now coming back over two days, the same as we're going down. We're going to fly to Toronto on Thurs. the 12th, then spend the night in a hotel and take the bus back home on Friday the 13th (hehe). i decided it was too short a time span to make it back to the Greyhound station from the airport (only about 2 hours), and rather than rush it and then have to endure the five hour bus ride, i decided to stretch the trip over the next day. Jess is pleased about this development but my bank account isn't!

So, in real, non-Disney related life, i had to take my BF to the airport on Wednesday and he went back to England :( :sad:

Here's a picture my dad took of us a day or two before BF left...
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i'm not crazy about the photo really, but it's not terrible.

Not much else is new around here!! i preordered The Sims 3 today, it comes out the week after we come back from WDW, so at least i have something to look forward to!

i hope everyone is doing well and not suffering too much of the January blues. i know gellybean is excited about her trip, they are leaving in only 5 days! i'm so excited for them! It's been super cold here, like -25C, with windchills down near the -35C range (and for those who don't know, -40C is -40F, so -35C is pretty freakin' cold!). Florida will be a huge relief even if it's only warm and not hot!

:hug: :hug: all around :hug: :hug:
 
Okay, so after some not-so-subtle prodding from someone who shall remain nameless (*cough*Paula*cough*) i am here to try and update our trip plans.

However, there's one teensy tiny itty bitty little problem:








nothing's changed. :confused3

All my ADRs are the same as they were when i first posted them... All my park days are the same... i'm pretty boring really, once i make a plan i try to stick to it.

i guess the only thing that's changed, is that we're now coming back over two days, the same as we're going down. We're going to fly to Toronto on Thurs. the 12th, then spend the night in a hotel and take the bus back home on Friday the 13th (hehe). i decided it was too short a time span to make it back to the Greyhound station from the airport (only about 2 hours), and rather than rush it and then have to endure the five hour bus ride, i decided to stretch the trip over the next day. Jess is pleased about this development but my bank account isn't!

So, in real, non-Disney related life, i had to take my BF to the airport on Wednesday and he went back to England :( :sad:

Here's a picture my dad took of us a day or two before BF left...
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i'm not crazy about the photo really, but it's not terrible.

Not much else is new around here!! i preordered The Sims 3 today, it comes out the week after we come back from WDW, so at least i have something to look forward to!

i hope everyone is doing well and not suffering too much of the January blues. i know gellybean is excited about her trip, they are leaving in only 5 days! i'm so excited for them! It's been super cold here, like -25C, with windchills down near the -35C range (and for those who don't know, -40C is -40F, so -35C is pretty freakin' cold!). Florida will be a huge relief even if it's only warm and not hot!

:hug: :hug: all around :hug: :hug:


hehehe!! It's nice to see that someone on the DIS doesn't make a million and one changes to their itinerary... i of course ain't on of them:rotfl:

-35C... Holy Crow!! that's cold!! makes me figure i should shut up and quit complaining about our -5F huh???

I like the pic of you and your DBF!! very cute:flower3: Hopefully it won't be too terribly long until you get to see each other again!

Paula
 




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