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[suevee]

C. Ann

I just read your post. I am so sorry. I don't know the specifics of your case. But please rest, try to clear your mind, and make sure you have all the information you need before making any decisions. Do not make any decisions in haste or allow anyone to push you into making a hasty decision.

I think that an extended care facility may be an option for you IF your husband goes to the extended care facility straight from the hospital. The insurance companies will usually pay for a transfer from one facility to another. However, if you bring him home first then decide to send him to an extended care facility afterwards, most insurance companies won't cover the expenses. Please check this out with your insurance company and your social worker. I may be wrong or the rules may have changed.

Please remember that you are in the prayers of a lot of people and you are not alone.

 

[Kitty 34]

{{{{{HUGS}}}}} to you, C.Ann!

 

[tigercat]

My thoughts and prayers are with you. You are carrying a heavy burden and need to also take care of yourself.
tigercat

 

[zurgswife]

C.Ann...Great advice from all the above posters.....all I can offer is lots of

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Prayers and PD....................................

 

[Planogirl]

You've definitely had some wonderful advice and all I can do is offer you my continued support and prayers. And urge you to eat something no matter how bizarre it may be. {{{{{Hugs}}}}}

 

[Mom2Em]

C. Ann, I just said another prayer for you and DH... God will give you strength but don't be afraid to ask for it...

 

[Krisu]

I know others may have addressed this but have the hospital social workers talked to you? This seems like a big step for someone unprepared and by yourself. You need someone to intervene and see what your insurance will pay for. There may be a lot of services out there you aren't aware of. Don't be pressured into doing anything you feel uncomfortable with. good luck

 

[TinkerPixie]

C. Anne: I am dealing with this right now, My Mother is completly bedridden and has to have constant care. Dont let the hospital push you into doing anything quickly. We tried doing the care ourselves and it is so hard, I know that you want to care for your DH and be sure that he is in good hands, but you will need help. Having someone come in to sit or care for him a few hours a day will save your sanity, trust me on this, I'm going through it right now. We haved hired someone to live in, which is pretty expensive, but necessary. We called a local womens shelter, and found a wonderful caring woman that we trust with Mom, she is such a blessing. We couldn't manage without her! Be strong, but consider that wearing yourself out wont do DH any good at all. Take the time to plan for his welfare and yours before you make any quick decisions. Honey, we care about you so much...take care of yourself! Keeping you all in our prayers.......

 

[Pooh93]

I have been out of touch this week and have not been able to respond to any of your previous posts, although I have been reading and sending many good thoughts your way. I'm so sorry for all your DH is going through and many {{Hugs}} for you. One step at a time and take care of yourself.

 

[robinb]

I just wanted to say that I have been thinking of you and your DH. {{hugs}}

 

[Serena]

{{{hugs}}}

 

[torismom]

I just wanted to let you know I was thinking of you and your husband. I remember when my grandmother did this with my grandfather 15 years ago. The same scenario you describe. You will find a strength you never knew you had. It will mean a lot to the both of you that he is at home. If you need help , ask for it. There are many people who are praying for you.

My father has brain cacner and I know one day I will be dealing with this again.

I am very sorry you are going through so much. I have read your post in the past and wanted to reply but the words just werent there. I hope I have said the right things now. My heart goes out to you.