16 and Pregnant/Teen Mom Thread - Sad but true...we r hooked!

[hereyago]

I didn't watch every single episode - can someone tell me exactly how often Farrah went out? .

So - are there different rules for single moms than the married ones? Especially if the mom is younger than the norm?

Farrah seemed to go out often. I think one episode her parents were saying it was several nights a week. She also had a few potential boyfriends-use that term loosely. She even realized one guy was seeing someone else, left Sophia with her parents to drive I forgot how far to confront him. ANd it's not like they showed the guy saying he just wanted to date her exclusively.She seemed to still want to live her life previously to getting pregnant when it was wang a dang that got her in trouble in the first place.

 

[hereyago]

I also wanted to pop Ryan through the tv with his little comments about her being lazy.

 

[toddlers_mom]

If I had a mother like Farrah's, I'd shoot myself. She's critical, whiny (and OMG, that voice is like fingernails on a chalkboard), controlling, insulting and condescending. Farrah needs to "get it" about the situation she got herself into, definitely, and her responsibilities of motherhood, but I don't think she's getting "guidance" or love from her mother. The grandmother seems very sweet tho...thank goodness.

I do have a mother like Farrah...so I guess I kind of feel for her. My mother has always been the type where nothing is good enough. Even if Farrah was 100% concentrating on school and making a life for her and her daughter it wouldn't be enough. I wish she would straighten up a bit, but being a single mom at the age of 22 four years ago...I know how she feels. It took me a LONG time to get into the groove of things, but that doesn't make me a bad mom. She'll get it.

And jeez...just watching her react to Farrah-

Farrah asks if they will watch Sophia while she goes to dinner with a friend, Shaq, and her mom FLIPS asking where she picked him up, asks if guys fall out of the sky..I think she takes it a little too far. I'd be defensive too ya know?

 

[Sparx]

does any one remember how ryan said he put 60.00 a WEEK into his truck in gas?!

or what about that time that maci had just gotten in bed from work in the morning, and ryan had been home all day, and the baby started crying. maci asked ryan to go change the baby, and he got up and LEFT THE HOUSE. i would have changed the baby and changed the locks!

i don't like gary, but i REALLY hate ryan.

 

[toddlers_mom]

Unless I am missing something....I put $60 a week in gas in my car...I could totally see $60 a week in a truck which is a much bigger gas guzzler.

 

[DisneyDayTripper]

Unless I am missing something....I put $60 a week in gas in my car...I could totally see $60 a week in a truck which is a much bigger gas guzzler.

The difference....you're probably employed......Ryan was living off unemployment with no motivation to get a job whatsoever. He had the opportunity to have a job as a truck driver (not the greatest schedule, but pretty good pay..I mean anything is better than unemployment, which will end eventually anyway right?), but he turned it down and still hadn't found a job at by the time the show ended.

So unless he's spending $60 a week in gas to see Bentley...which is probably not the case...he's wasting a crapload of money on things that are most likely not more important than Bentley.

 

[ZPT1022]

I didn't watch every single episode - can someone tell me exactly how often Farrah went out? Or is the issue that she went out at all? Because if that is the case - I am going to take up for her a bit here. I ended up as a single mom in my early 20's - and I got tons of flack for ever wanting to to go out to see a movie or see my friends. Even though weeks could go by were I stayed home with my son. It got to the point that people/family were making me feel so horrible about ever wanting to spend time without my son, that I stopped trying. I never did meet a partner, most of the friends I had drifted away and my whole world was my son. He has now left and gone off to college and here I am - alone.

On the other hand - my niece and her husband just had a baby. Oddly enough, the whole family is all about making sure there are enough of us handy to babysit so that they can be sure to still have time alone together.

So - are there different rules for single moms than the married ones? Especially if the mom is younger than the norm?

The mother and daughter both have their moments of being wrong- the mother is totally naggy and I could see how her personality would cause you to go completely nuts, BUT Farrah seemed to be out quite a bit. If I were the mother I'd have less issue if it were just dinner or movies with girlfriends but she seem(s/ed) obsessed with getting a boyfriend. I understand that it sucks to be "alone" but with an infant, landing a new guy can't be your #1 priority- that spot is taken. She would also be out until 2 or 3 am- again, totally different than seeing a movie at 8:00 or going to dinner. Maybe it's just me but all that ended when I had a baby to take care of. Sure, every now and then I get to go out but not all weekend, every weekend and during the week too. Maybe more like once a month if I'm lucky.

Unless I am missing something....I put $60 a week in gas in my car...I could totally see $60 a week in a truck which is a much bigger gas guzzler.

I put $35/week at least in my car and I drive a Honda CRV, so like you I can definitely see it being more in a truck. However, Disney Day Tripper makes a decent point:

The difference....you're probably employed......Ryan was living off unemployment with no motivation to get a job whatsoever. He had the opportunity to have a job as a truck driver (not the greatest schedule, but pretty good pay..I mean anything is better than unemployment, which will end eventually anyway right?), but he turned it down and still hadn't found a job at by the time the show ended.

So unless he's spending $60 a week in gas to see Bentley...which is probably not the case...he's wasting a crapload of money on things that are most likely not more important than Bentley.

Where is he going all the time that he needs that much money on gas?? And it also looked to me like he had a chewing tobacco habit- that's what the little wad in his lip was, right?? You have a kid, you're not employed, personal habits have to go by the wayside to take care of necessities. That's just real life. How does he have money for hobbies and going out but he acts all offended when the mother of his child asks for a few bucks to buy a cake mix to make a cake for the baby's first birthday???

 

[MizTink]

Farrah seemed to go out often. I think one episode her parents were saying it was several nights a week. She also had a few potential boyfriends-use that term loosely. She even realized one guy was seeing someone else, left Sophia with her parents to drive I forgot how far to confront him. ANd it's not like they showed the guy saying he just wanted to date her exclusively.She seemed to still want to live her life previously to getting pregnant when it was wang a dang that got her in trouble in the first place.

plus farrah works and goes to school. that's a lot of time away from the baby. just about all spare time should be with her daughter, not her friends or these random guys.....
i think going out 1-2 times/week is MORE than enough. (too much in my opinion).

 

[Colleen27]

So - are there different rules for single moms than the married ones? Especially if the mom is younger than the norm?

Yeah, in a lot of people's minds there are. But you know what? I've worked with a lot of teenage parents over the years and the ones that tend to be the most successful in the long run are those who do get to hold on to some aspects of an age-appropriate life alongside their new responsibilities.

 

[MizTink]

my son is a teen parent. i try really hard to give him and his girlfriend just enough freedom as teens. they are parents, so they have already lost a lot. but they ARE still teenagers too! i wouldn't want either of them to feel trapped and resent their baby. there is a lot of "balancing" to be done regarding being a teenager AND a good parent!

 

[happygirl]

Unless I am missing something....I put $60 a week in gas in my car...I could totally see $60 a week in a truck which is a much bigger gas guzzler.

Ryan isn't working he doesn't need to go anywhere expect to look for jobs.

 

[hereyago]

Sad thing is: There is going to be a girl out there, thinks Ryan is the hot bad boy and if she had his baby, he wouldnt treat her the same as Maci and Bentley because she would be so special.

 

[thewishfire]

Maci -- The best mother on the show. She actually tries hard and prioritizes, too bad Ryan doesn't. I love her, but can't stand him. And Bentley is super adorable.

Amber -- I have mixed feelings about her. She did get herself out of a situation that she felt was not good for Leah (even though it was mostly her own fault it was like that) and went out and got a job. She doesn't go out and party all the time, and takes Leah places with her. However, she is a brat and is horrible to Gary. I like him, he's not perfect, but he loves the two of them and tries. Also, someone asked about his age. I've been wondering the same thing. He is a bit older, I remember on 16 and Pregnant she said he was the same age as her older brother.

Catelynn -- She did the right thing. The environment she was living in was no place for a baby. I think her and Tyler would be excellent parents if they decide to have another child in the future. And I agree that they probably didn't know exactly what they were getting into with the open adoption, but i think they're learning now and will adapt to the situation.

Farrah -- What can I say that hasn't been said? She wants to be the center of attention party girl she always was.. which is most likely how she got in the situation she's in. She needs to learn whats important and grow up. Domestic violence is wrong, but I can see how her mother would just snap.

I can't wait for the second season!!

 

[MizTink]

is there going to be a second season of teen mom (with the same moms)??

 

[Gabes_mommy]

Yeah, in a lot of people's minds there are. But you know what? I've worked with a lot of teenage parents over the years and the ones that tend to be the most successful in the long run are those who do get to hold on to some aspects of an age-appropriate life alongside their new responsibilities.

Definitely! My brother and SIL were teen parents and they gave up a lot when my nephew was born. My brother started working full-time and stopped going out. He still maintained his close friendships though - he just started having his friends over a lot instead of going out. It worked great for them. At first they lived with DSIL's mom, but within a few years they bought a house.

My nephew is now 9 and they also have a 5 year old daughter. They are amazing and responsible parents. They own a lovely home. DSIL finished college after DNephew was born. They defied the odds, but it did take a lot of sacrifice and growing up.

I do have to say that neither set of parents would have allowed them to not take full responsibility for my nephew either though. The grandparents were willing to occasionally babysit, but my brother and SIL were expected to raise their own child.

 

[Gabes_mommy]

is there going to be a second season of teen mom (with the same moms)??

I heard on another forum that there is going to be a Season 2 with the same girls - I hope so!

 

[happygirl]

I heard on another forum that there is going to be a Season 2 with the same girls - I hope so!

Me to

 

[Colleen27]

my son is a teen parent. i try really hard to give him and his girlfriend just enough freedom as teens. they are parents, so they have already lost a lot. but they ARE still teenagers too! i wouldn't want either of them to feel trapped and resent their baby. there is a lot of "balancing" to be done regarding being a teenager AND a good parent!

There's a lot of balancing to be a good parent at any age! The only difference is that no one criticizes the 35yo mom who still goes to her book club or scrapbooking crop when she has a newborn/infant/toddler, even if she does work outside the home as well. Teen parents should be treated similarly; no one should be relieving them of the responsibilities of parenting, but neither should they be made to feel like they need to be with the baby 24/7 to fulfill that responsibility.

 

[Sparx]

Unless I am missing something....I put $60 a week in gas in my car...I could totally see $60 a week in a truck which is a much bigger gas guzzler.

the difference is that ryan put his vehicle over bentley's needs. (the scene i'm referring to is when maci asked ryan to go to the store for bentley and he didn't have any money because he put that much in gas for the week, and later said he hadn't been looking for a job.)

ryan is just hanging out with is friends and going to clubs all hours of the night, while maci is at home with bentley or at work most of the time. and his excruciating schedule of partying and sleeping is too strict for him to go to relationship counseling with maci.

putting sixty dollars a week in your car is not bad, but it becomes bad when you a) don't have a job, b) aren't looking for a job and c) not providing for your child.

ryan makes me sick.

 

[Mrs. Charming]

the difference is that ryan put his vehicle over bentley's needs. (the scene i'm referring to is when maci asked ryan to go to the store for bentley and he didn't have any money because he put that much in gas for the week, and later said he hadn't been looking for a job.)

ryan is just hanging out with is friends and going to clubs all hours of the night, while maci is at home with bentley or at work most of the time. and his excruciating schedule of partying and sleeping is too strict for him to go to relationship counseling with maci.

putting sixty dollars a week in your car is not bad, but it becomes bad when you a) don't have a job, b) aren't looking for a job and c) not providing for your child.

ryan makes me sick.

Yeah...and, if I remember correctly, going out clubbing/drinking costs a LOT more than putting gas in your car!! What a lame excuse for a dad... poor Bentley.