Would you let your SON dress up as a princess at Disney?

[Mrs.Toad]

I once read THIS blog:

I love her.

I've read that one before, too. Heartbreaking that those moms would be so nasty to the little boy.

 

[PeterPan09]

No. Not ever. Would not happen on my watch.

why not? what is the reason your objection?

 

[Goofyluver]

I've read that one before, too. Heartbreaking that those moms would be so nasty to the little boy.

Those moms certainly could have taken a lesson from that little boy.

 

[Uncle Remus]

Anyone remember the good ol' days (the 60's) when folks used to ask would you let your son have long hair?

 

[SLK1]

I think it's great that everyone says they'd stand up to rude people, and the blogger was proud her son wore the girl costume. But at what expense? Kids can see when they're being made fun of, and by then, it's too late. Sure, his mom stands up for him and shuts people up, but the damage is already done. People are cruel, pure and simple. Why tempt it and let someone hurt his feelings at that age? When he's older and wants to defend himself, great, but at such a young age with tender feelings, I just wouldn't want to let complete strangers ruin his fun.

 

[Tasha+Scott]

No, I would not.

 

[Wall-E1]

You'd probably come across less judgmental people at Disney than trick or treating in some neighborhoods.

My son and I were visiting a friend with 2 young boys on Halloween. He did not bring a costume, so my friend offered him what she had - a choice of Darth Vader or a flapper. My son is very masculine, so naturally he chose the flapper...

As you can see, he has the legs to pull off a look like this.

We didn't encounter any judgmental people while trick or treating. In fact, it was hysterical watching the reactions of other people once my son spoke and they realized that he was a boy.

 

[Fintastic]

Honestly? I thought about this and hemmed and hawed and wanted to be open minded but in the end I just don't think I'd be comfortable with it. I don't care what he wears at home. His big sister paints his toenails and that's not a big deal. But he's a baby. In three years his big sister won't be painting his toenails and he won't be wearing dresses in public. I really want to be open minded, I really do, but I can't justify how other people would treat him just to allow him to express himself. I'd rather steer him toward "boy" costumes and save him the heartache.

 

[DisneyLoverUSA]

Says who?

WHO says a Princess is girl's costume? That's the most ridiculous thing I have ever heard. How about the costume manufacturers, society, the general public. Just because someone wants to defend their kid's right to wear a princess dress doesn't all of a sudden make a princess costume gender neutral. It's frilly, it's usually pink, and it is most definitely meant for girls.

 

[Goofyluver]

My son and I were visiting a friend with 2 young boys on Halloween. He did not bring a costume, so my friend offered him what she had - a choice of Darth Vader or a flapper. My son is very masculine, so naturally he chose the flapper...

As you can see, he has the legs to pull off a look like this.

We didn't encounter any judgmental people while trick or treating. In fact, it was hysterical watching the reactions of other people once my son spoke and they realized that he was a boy.

He looks great!

I wish I could work that look as well as he did.

ETA: I think what really pulls the look together, is the shoes! The skater-style shoes give it a little je ne sais quoi.

 

[Goofyluver]

WHO says a Princess is girl's costume? That's the most ridiculous thing I have ever heard. How about the costume manufacturers, society, the general public. Just because someone wants to defend their kid's right to wear a princess dress doesn't all of a sudden make a princess costume gender neutral. It's frilly, it's usually pink, and it is most definitely meant for girls.

I think society used to say that women couldn't wear the "pants" in the family, as well. Those were (literally) reserved for men.

Thank the Lord we've come a long way since then. I hate dresses.

 

[KristaTX]

You'd probably come across less judgmental people at Disney than trick or treating in some neighborhoods.

I agree. And I'm sure the cast members have seen it all. I would suspect even grown men dressed up as princesses.

People might do a double-take with a child, but that's completely understandable. Once I figured it out I wouldn't judge, though. Neither the kid nor the parents. But if it was a grown man OR woman, I'll put on my flame-suit and admit that I probably would think it was rather odd.

 

[sissy_ib]

Where I live they had a charity baseball game at the beginning of the summer where all the men dresses as women and played ball. A few of the kids dressed up too. Halloween and even WDW are for pretending you are something other than you are. It is called make-believe for a reason!
Anyone watch the show "According to Jim"? I know it is not in production anymore but there was an episode where the son wanted to dress as Cinderella and Jim was totally against it. He tried everything to get the kid to dress up in something else but in the end he and his brother-in-law put on dresses and went trick-or-treating with the kid as the ugly step-sisters.

 

[DisneyLoverUSA]

I think society used to say that women couldn't wear the "pants" in the family, as well. Those were (literally) reserved for men.

Thank the Lord we've come a long way since then. I hate dresses.

Pants have been gender neutral for decades. Dresses are not gender neutral. They are meant for girls. And boys who want to dress up like girls. Nobody makes a dress or a dress costume with the idea that boys will be wearing them. Not at Walmart and not in fashion.

Whether or not you like dresses doesn't change the fact that they are meant for girls.

If you want to let your son wear one, that is your right. I just wouldn't let mine. Not in public.

 

[PeterPan09]

I agree. And I'm sure the cast members have seen it all. I would suspect even grown men dressed up as princesses.

People might do a double-take with a child, but that's completely understandable. Once I figured it out I wouldn't judge, though. Neither the kid nor the parents. But if it was a grown man OR woman, I'll put on my flame-suit and admit that I probably would think it was rather odd.

Don't go to Not So Scary or the Princess half marathon then! Lots of males dressed as princesses!

 

[sissy_ib]

I think society used to say that women couldn't wear the "pants" in the family, as well. Those were (literally) reserved for men.

Thank the Lord we've come a long way since then. I hate dresses.

I am getting out of the military soon and spent this last week in a transitioning class. One of the things we went over was dressing for an interview. We were told women should ware skirts to interviews! Yes, I just spent the last four years of my life in camo or a flight suit, learning survival skills, shooting guns, etc. and now I am being told I have to ware a skirt to get a job!

 

[Goofyluver]

Pants have been gender neutral for decades. Dresses are not gender neutral. They are meant for girls. And boys who want to dress up like girls. Nobody makes a dress or a dress costume with the idea that boys will be wearing them. Not at Walmart and not in fashion.

Whether or not you like dresses doesn't change the fact that they are meant for girls.

If you want to let your son wear one, that is your right. I just wouldn't let mine. Not in public.

So, you'd let him wear one at home?

What if someone found out?????

 

[Goofyluver]

I am getting out of the military soon and spent this last week in a transitioning class. One of the things we went over was dressing for an interview. We were told women should ware skirts to interviews! Yes, I just spent the last four years of my life in camo or a flight suit, learning survival skills, shooting guns, etc. and now I am being told I have to ware a skirt to get a job!

Do you get bonus points if it's a camo-print skirt?

Hope your transition goes well.

 

[shortbun]

Been there, done that. My three yo son was best friends with two little girls across the street. Their big sister gave them a 'princess class' almost every saturday morning-dress, tiara, shoes, tea. My son loved it! My macho, strong, loving husband was fine with it. The boy was three and he was having fun. Wearing dress up clothes is great fun and pretending you are a princess at age will not damage you. Grown ups who are offended should step off. It's 2011 and we know much more about gendier issues than we did in the 50's so why act like we're in the 50's with your attitude?

 

[DisneyLoverUSA]

So, you'd let him wear one at home?

What if someone found out?????

No, I probably wouldn't encourage him to wear a dress at home either. I have 2 boys and neither of them have ever expressed an interest in wearing girl's clothes or dressing up in dresses. But if they did want to wear a dress I would probably tell them no. Not sure since I never had to deal with that.