Would you "let" your child go to college 700+ miles from home- and UA

[Swan4Me]

All our state -all State universities went to a "select staus' meaning higher criteria was required for admintance. When this happened each 4 year Uni had to have a CC nearby for the kids who couldnt get in the 4 year Uni - but if they reached a ceratin GPA in those 2 years their credits were transferable.

 

[Robinrs]

My husband and I have six children between us. Our youngest is in college now. The others have all completed their education. They range from four year degrees to a law degree.

Some went to school and lived at home, some went out of state. Some came home every weekend, some did not. Every young person is different. They are all employed, productive people. If you put them all in a room and talked with them I don't think anyone could tell who lived at home and who didn't.

Another consideration for some families is money. Not everyone can afford to send their student away for school. Starting off is certainly easier without debt.

In the end we all do what is right for us.

Penny

Love this answer!!!

All kids are different. I have a large family and seen all types. I couldn't move far away because I was too young and immature and very attached to my parents. I was a very YOUNG 16 (and looked 12) so I stayed nearby. Luckily I lived in NY so I had some great choices!

My niece, otoh, wanted to go to the other side of the country (mostly to get away from my sister silly husband ) She went to Stanford while her family lived in NY. Only issue? She wanted my sister to come out whenever she had a proble she couldn't handle. My sister nearly went broke on airline tickets!

My other niece's daughter was told last year as a junior she could graduate early. She was just turning 16 and, like me, is a YOUNG 16. She was accepted into many different schools but decided to go to a university down the block from her family's house! She plans to transfer later, when she's ready.

My son doesn't want to go far away. We recently took on being caretakers of my elderly uncle and he wants to be nearby when he goes next year so he can still help out. He's a great kid! Again, there are plenty choices here in Ga, so he won't be very limited.

 

[Robinrs]

All our state -all State universities went to a "select staus' meaning higher criteria was required for admittance. When this happened each 4 year Uni had to have a CC nearby for the kids who couldnt get in the 4 year Uni - but if they reached a certain GPA in those 2 years their credits were transferable.

What state are you in?

 

[StitchBuddy]

Yes, but it would be hard!!! I would also have to go visit at least once a month for the first couple of months. I can't imagine!

 

[Magic Mom]

Yes, and again, the private schools here are heads and tails above the state schools, which is a lot of why they don't take transfer credits.

I don't know of any state that has automatic transfer to private colleges.

 

[KathyTX]

In other states it is an automatic process to almost every school in that state according to many threads on this topic here on the DIS in the past.

Taking information about education quality and standards from threads on the DIS or any other message board doesn't seem like a very reliable or accurate way to compare... really, it's just a collection of opinions, and you're likely to get as much bad info as good.

 

[KathyTX]

And Lucyanna's post really supports my own opinion (worth no more than the pixels on this screen ):

Academic success, as well as career success and general life satisfaction, depends on the student, not the teacher or school.

A bright and curious mind will learn and thrive regardless of the environment. But you can throw a lazy and unmotivated student into the most prestigious school with the absolute best and most accomplished teachers, and you've still got a non-achiever.

We don't need better schools; we need better students.

 

[marcyinPA]

And Lucyanna's post really supports my own opinion (worth no more than the pixels on this screen ):

Academic success, as well as career success and general life satisfaction, depends on the student, not the teacher or school.

A bright and curious mind will learn and thrive regardless of the environment. But you can throw a lazy and unmotivated student into the most prestigious school with the absolute best and most accomplished teachers, and you've still got a non-achiever.

We don't need better schools; we need better students.

I agree with this. I remember something I heard in college, many years ago "a good student will succeed anywhere". I have kept that with me and thought of it often.

 

[golfgal]

I agree with this. I remember something I heard in college, many years ago "a good student will succeed anywhere". I have kept that with me and thought of it often.

I disagree. If a student isn't comfortable on campus, doesn't like their surroundings, etc. they are not going to succeed. I have seen this happen many times with very good students that either didn't make the right choice for them or their parents made them go to schools they didn't want to attend, could they have done ok, sure, but they didn't because they did not want to be there.

 

[KathyTX]

I disagree. If a student isn't comfortable on campus, doesn't like their surroundings, etc. they are not going to succeed. I have seen this happen many times with very good students that either didn't make the right choice for them or their parents made them go to schools they didn't want to attend, could they have done ok, sure, but they didn't because they did not want to be there.

Exactly my point!!

One who is looking for "excuses" to fail will always find them.

But the truly good student will find a way to learn despite the minor aggravations. The way they'd handle the situations you describe are a good predictor for success in the long haul.

This is when you'll find those who make excuses for their weaknesses vs. those who find a way to excel in any circumstances. It's about character, not about what's handed to them.

 

[golfgal]

Exactly my point!!

One who is looking for "excuses" to fail will always find them.

But the truly good student will find a way to learn despite the minor aggravations. The way they'd handle the situations you describe are a good predictor for success in the long haul.

This is when you'll find those who make excuses for their weaknesses vs. those who find a way to excel in any circumstances. It's about c haracter, not about what's handed to them.

But would you make your child go somewhere they didn't want to go in the first place?

 

[KathyTX]

But would you make your child go somewhere they didn't want to go in the first place?

Of course not! This choice is about THEIR future, and the adult-child is the main decision maker about where they'll attend.

If we've done our jobs as parents, they are well ready to help make and own this decision by the time they're seniors in high school.

And for parents to sit around and argue about "my kid's college is better than your kid's college" is just really pathetic... again, it's the quality of the student that makes the real difference here, not the credentials of the school.

 

[Robinrs]

I disagree. If a student isn't comfortable on campus, doesn't like their surroundings, etc. they are not going to succeed. I have seen this happen many times with very good students that either didn't make the right choice for them or their parents made them go to schools they didn't want to attend, could they have done ok, sure, but they didn't because they did not want to be there.

I agree with this. I remember something I heard in college, many years ago "a good student will succeed anywhere". I have kept that with me and thought of it often.

Depends on your description of a 'good' student.

What WmK describes is a mature individual with the will to succeed. A good student is not just an "honor" student or an A student, it's a complete person with a goal and the ability to achieve it.

All the successful people I know had a goal. They persevered and made it. I've seen some of the most "brilliant" ones fall to the wayside because they only depended on their "book knowledge". It is not always a guarantee of success.

 

[Robinrs]

Of course not! This choice is about THEIR future, and the adult-child is the main decision maker about where they'll attend.

If we've done our jobs as parents, they are well ready to help make and own this decision by the time they're seniors in high school.

And for parents to sit around and argue about "my kid's college is better than your kid's college" is just really pathetic... again, it's the quality of the student that makes the real difference here, not the credentials of the school.

Wisdom... it beats bragging ANYDAY!!

 

[KathyTX]

Good points, Robin!

 

[golfgal]

Depends on your description of a 'good' student.

What WmK describes is a mature individual with the will to succeed. A good student is not just an "honor" student or an A student, it's a complete person with a goal and the ability to achieve it.

All the successful people I know had a goal. They persevered and made it. I've seen some of the most "brilliant" ones fall to the wayside because they only depended on their "book knowledge". It is not always a guarantee of success.

I would say it depends on your definition of "succeeds". I guess I am referring to stuff outside of the classroom, fitting in, feeling like you belong, liking where you are. Sure the academic stuff they can do anywhere but having a successful college "experience" doesn't happen if you don't like where you are.

 

[KathyTX]

But a student who has a drive to excel will make the best of the present situation while making plans to change their circumstances.

Dwelling on the negative and enabling their excuses isn't going to help them. Time to back the mommy-helicopter up!

 

[golfgal]

But a student who has a drive to excel will make the best of the present situation while making plans to change their circumstances.

Dwelling on the negative and enabling their excuses isn't going to help them. Time to back the mommy-helicopter up!

Sure, but if your parents say you have to go to this school....then what? You can make all the plans you want but are you willing to go against what your parents have told you you have to do? That is the point of this thread. If parents are limiting their kids' choices, you are going to wind up with a lot of unhappy kids....

 

[KathyTX]

That was the original point of the thread. Then it degenerated into the tired and unsubstantiated "the schools in my state are better than the schools in your state" nonsense.

 

[golfgal]

That was the original point of the thread. Then it degenerated into the tired and unsubstantiated "the schools in my state are better than the schools in your state" nonsense.