Would you ever yell at your screaming 5 year old to "Shut Up"?

gymnasticsmom68 · Aug 24, 2004

Evolving story because, don't you think if there was a worse angle on that story she would have told the worst of it right away? Why would she keep piling on tidbits until she's practically saying the woman is a child abusing hooker. Because she wasn't getting the reaction she wanted, so the story got bigger and bigger until people saw that she just wanted a big reaction.

Saying shut up to your child is not a very nice thing, but hardly HARDLY child abuse, and for her to even suggest that she would 'call somebody' over it? She needs to get over herself today!! Or at least become a Mother before she decides that raising your voice is abusive.

CookieGVB · Aug 24, 2004

Originally posted by JVL1018
Weeellll..when I first had my children, I swore never to say Shut Up to them..and even still now, Shut Up is a naughty word in our home..however there are times where as a mom you are pushed beyond your very limits, more than you can imagine before you have chiildren, pushed by hours- nay, days- of whining whining whining, bickering bickering bickering, yelling and fighting and when the words:
FOR PETE'S SAKE SHUT UP SHUT UP SHUT UP!!!!! JUST. SHUT. UP. come out of your mouth, you are just relieved that "shut up" was the naughtiest word you said when you realllllly want to say much much worse.

I love my babies more than life itself, but oh my, can they test my patience and I have said plenty of things that I feel badly about later on. They'll live. If I say anything inappropriate, we have a nice chat about it later on when we're all calm and I apologize and we talk about why I got frustrated and what I should have done and what they should have done etc.

What she said. ::yes::

CEDmom · Aug 24, 2004

Originally posted by Pete's Mom
Evolving story? Maybe EsmeraldaX didn't originally post the woman's attire because she thought (gee, I'm going to go out on limb here) that she might have gotten flamed for it.

So far as the MYOB crowd, let me say that as I child I wish the MYOB crowd would have stepped in and stood up for me when I was too little to take up for myself as it would have saved me from a childhood of extreme verbal and physical abuse.

I'm sorry someone didn't step in and help you. I have to agree with you here though. I don't agree with those that say MYOB. What if that child was being abused we should all just walk by and say none of my business? I thought as a society we had come farther than that. There was a time where nothing much was done about domestic violence and I hope we never go back to that period. Whether this mother was being abusive or just having a bad day I can't help but think she was out of control either way.

While I don't think the mother should be judge by her appearance had she been in a suit and carrying a briefcase her behavior might not have drawn so much attention.

As far as the OP not having a clue about this situation because she doesn't have any kids that doesn't hold a lot of water with me. There are plenty of people that understand inappropriate behavior without having to live it.

jipsy · Aug 24, 2004

How do you know she was their mother? Maybe she was their big sister. Big sisters say mean things to little brothers and sisters all the time.

KristiKelly · Aug 24, 2004

Kids can always push our buttons & sometimes you act on instinct. Here's my worst mother of the year & child abuse story about DD & me.

I was at Walmart in 2002, 2 days after Christmas (an absolute mad house). Anyway, we were leaving the store, DS5, DD3 & me. I had bought some big rubbermaid storage containers, my cart was full & I was dragging 1. As we were walking out of the store, I told DS to hold onto my beltloop with one hand & DD's hand on the other side. Well, as soon as we got out of the door & into all of that WalMart parking lot traffic, DD pulls away, takes off running & screaming "I don't want to hold his hand" & traffic was having to stop for her, my hands were full, but I dropped everything in the middle of the traffic, grabbed her roughly by the arm, jerked her back & popped her 3 or 4 times on the butt. All the while, our Pastor's wife was walking by & saw the whole incident. I called DS & told him that I would probably make the 6:00 news for beating my kid in the parking lot, but I didn't.

Point is, I didn't beat her (but some who caught the tail-end may have thought that I was), but this was a situation where she had endangered herself & counting to 10 or some other "cool down" method was not in order. She needed to know that what she did was wrong. Kids will push us to the limits. Let's all hope that EsmereldaX did catch the tail-end of this situation & this woman on the subway doesn't make this part of her daily routine.

Raysplus1 · Aug 24, 2004

I would hop that I would not but I have had to take a step back and calm myself from saying things that I would be sorry for later.

jeffemy · Aug 24, 2004

Originally posted by JVL1018
Weeellll..when I first had my children, I swore never to say Shut Up to them..and even still now, Shut Up is a naughty word in our home..however there are times where as a mom you are pushed beyond your very limits, more than you can imagine before you have chiildren, pushed by hours- nay, days- of whining whining whining, bickering bickering bickering, yelling and fighting and when the words:
FOR PETE'S SAKE SHUT UP SHUT UP SHUT UP!!!!! JUST. SHUT. UP. come out of your mouth, you are just relieved that "shut up" was the naughtiest word you said when you realllllly want to say much much worse.

I love my babies more than life itself, but oh my, can they test my patience and I have said plenty of things that I feel badly about later on. They'll live. If I say anything inappropriate, we have a nice chat about it later on when we're all calm and I apologize and we talk about why I got frustrated and what I should have done and what they should have done etc.

Ah, that's when a deep breath and counting to 10 come in handy!

Robinrs · Aug 24, 2004

Originally posted by minniepumpernickel
Robin,
I admire you so much! I had no idea that you didn't have your first child until you were 36! Well, I guess there is still hope for me then.

I'm an aunt and my job so far has just been to spoil my neices and nephews. My little neice calls me and screams "cake" into the phone. Thats what she associates with me, lol! So I know nothing about parenting.

Awwww, you're so SWEET! BackATCHA!

Yup, as my Mom said, there is nothing like an OLD Mom! We LOOOOOVE our kids!

I remember not having kids and thinking I had it all figured out. I became an aunt at 10 so I thought I could do it better than my sisters ANYDAY!

Having your own is another story altogether. I love Michael to death but sometimes "shuttup" is a small word compared to what I say to him! Remember he's BIGGER than me and I'm a motormouth from Brooklyn!

The best part is he totally knows me and basically figures it's just his crazy mom again.

EX, welcome to the world of the CB! We come in with our best intentions and before we know it we learn NOT to share too much! Take it from one who KNOWS!

God bless,

Robinrs