Would you be annoyed?

[BuffettFan]

I would have been absolutely THRILLED if my dh showed the initiative to get some stuff to sell to make some $$$ as we have a basement full of crap that needs to be gone through. (we are in the process of finding a dumpster)



Jill

Our basements sound a lot alike !!!
And I too would be THRILLED with my hubby !!

No one ever took our kids so we could have these nice "alone time" weekends...ever. So its hard for me to feel sorry for you that you lost the last couple hours of yours....especially for the reason that you did.

Romantic evening.....impromptu garage sale......sounds like your hubby is a keeper !!!

 

[beattyfamily]

Here's my opinion based on being together 21 years and married for 17 of those years....

It wasn't a big deal but you made it one. Maybe I would have been a little disappointed or maybe just a bit frustrated but I would have gotten over it and gone with the flow. I certainly wouldn't have slammed the door in his face.

I don't blame him for bringing the stuff back to the garage after he got that reaction from you. My DH would have done the exact same thing as your DH if I reacted that way.

Don't sweat the little stuff. Life's too short. Don't think this one was worth fighting over. But that's just me. Take it with a grain of salt.

Hopefully you guys have already gotten past this already.

 

[mickeyboat]

OP - You overreacted. I would also have been thrilled if DH took the initiative and dragged our yard sale stuff out while I was getting bagels. I would have enjoyed sitting outside in the sunshine without the kids being around for a couple of hours.

I can understand you being disappointed, but you could have handled it a lot better. Time alone is special and rare. Don't undo all the good you did the previous evening by picking a fight the next day.

If I were you, I would apologize and tell your DH you were disappointed. Then insist he "make it up to you" next time.

 

[Angelhalo]

What's wrong with a garage sale on a Sunday morning? I don't do garage sales so I don't know much about them, but I would think that Sunday morning would be the best time.

It wouldn't be worth it here to have a yard sale on Sunday because no one here goes to yard sales on Sundays. Sunday is church day for churchgoers and sleep in day for everyone else. A Sunday yard sale is pretty much unheard of around here.

Anyhoooo OP, I would have been annoyed but I would have just gone with the flow. I think the most annoying thing though would have been him deciding what to sell without consulting me first.

 

[Allison]

So, basically, he couldn't win no matter what he did at that point. You were mad at him for bringing the stuff out and then mad at him for bringing it back in when he saw you were upset.

You made way too big of a deal about it.

 

[sbell111]

Ok, heres the situation. DH and I have two beautiful daughters. We love them to death, but love to get away from them every once in a while . Every 2 months or so, his parents take them for a night so we can get away, relax, etc. So we drop them off Saturday morning, and go into the city for the day. The next morning, we are lying in bed, and DH notices that our neighbors are having a garage sale. I swear to you, dollar signs came to his eyes. Hes like "I'm going to bring our old TV over there to sell." I said fine, got dressed, and went out to get us bagles. I come back, and DH has our whole friggin drive way set up with crap the sell!! (Hes a fast guy - I was only gone for 15 minutes!! )

I got upset. First of all, yes, I knew he ws bringing our TV over to the neighbors to sell (with a few other things as well) but that was it - he wasn't going to have to sit outside all day because of that - now he will. Now all of the sudden we are having a full fledge yard sale which takes a lot of time and work. What happened to our romantic morning alone?!?!? When he sees that I'm upset, he starts turning the whole thing around on me - "You got out of bed to get bagles." "I'm doing this for you - its our Vegas Vacation fund." blah blah blah. I pretty much slammed the door in his face and told him to have a great morning alone. At that he dragged everything back into the garage/basement. Then I got even angrier - our morning was already totally RUINED - no way to get the "romance" back now, and now hes just going to scrap what he started?!?

So would you have been upset about it, or just gone with the flow?

I'm with your husband on this one. You keep giving him mixed signals.

From his point of view:

• You say that it's OK for him to sell stuff.
• You leave the house to go get bagels, signalling to him that morning has broken.
• He sets up the garage sale, thinking that his initiative will reap rewards.
• You get mad at him for setting up the yard sale.
• He takes down the yard sale.
• You get mad at him for taking down the yard sale.

You owe him an apology.

 

[Evil Genius]

The romance is only gone if you let it go. You should have dragged him out of the yard and back up to bed if that's what you truly wanted. Cream cheese isn't only for bagels you know.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Okay, here is where I get confused both you and the OP's DH mentioned the bagels. Isn't going out and getting bagels for someone a nice thing to do? How does doing something nice kill the mood?

I don't think "Oh well you killed the mood first, you went to get me breakfast" sounds like a good excuse.

It isn't what we think about it. It is what her DH mentioned to her. Maybe he had something else in mind, get it.

Now going out together to get the bagels would have been "romantic" and she could have kept an eye on him.

Kill 2 birds with one stone approach.

 

[merryweather20]

It isn't what we think about it. It is what her DH mentioned to her. Maybe he had something else in mind, get it.

Now going out together to get the bagels would have been "romantic" and she could have kept an eye on him.

Kill 2 birds with one stone approach.

I just feel like I'm living in a parallel universe A bunch of posters after you mentioned it killing the mood too

Whats wrong with things taking place after breakfast? Or perhaps as a thank-you for breakfast?

Maybe its not Romance Shakespeare style, but if someone brought me breakfast I would think it was pretty romantic .

 

[Dancemom03]

wait a sec... just so I understand the question... would I be annoyed if DH went outside on his own, pulled out our junk, without making me do it or even help, and set up to man a yard sale to make extra $$ for us to have a little getaway??

ahahahahahahahaha... teeheehee... no really... ... okay, seriously now... if my DH did that on his own without my begging, pleading, or threat of death, it'd be better than anything that might have followed the bagels... heck, who am I kidding... it'd be better than anything that came before 'em too!

 

[Angelhalo]

I just feel like I'm living in a parallel universe A bunch of posters after you mentioned it killing the mood too

Whats wrong with things taking place after breakfast? Or perhaps as a thank-you for breakfast?

Maybe its not Romance Shakespeare style, but if someone brought me breakfast I would think it was pretty romantic .

I have to agree. How is going to get food for your loved one "ruining the modd" It isn't like she had to go far to get it. She claims she was only gone for 15 minutes.

 

[metime]

First off any effort to clear out unused stuff in my house is a hugely romantic gesture.

Secondly any effort to make cash for it is an even bigger turn on.

Thirdly having children in no way hampers our realtionship or ability to hang out in the bedroom for the morning. My kids are older though, but even so we obvioulsy had time enough to make a second and family lives no where near us.

I guess we take the hours here and there rather than put everything on hold for one weekend.

I like seing my husband happy and making an effort which doesn't always have to be about me. I would think getting mad would make him feel the romantic times are only about what I want when maybe a small amount of free time to make spontanious choices is what he likes.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

I have to agree. How is going to get food for your loved one "ruining the modd" It isn't like she had to go far to get it. She claims she was only gone for 15 minutes.

Again it is not what you percieve, desire, or want. It is what her DH said.

And I might need an exorcism because I agree with sbell111.

 

[Magic Mom]

I don't see what the big deal was. You would have still been together (without the kids.) You could have enjoyed the morning sitting outside talking, reading the paper, eating your bagels (were they from Panera---I LOVE Panera cinnamon bagels.) Consider yourself blessed if the worst thing your husband does is throw together a last minute yard sale to earn vacation money on your special Sunday off.

 

[Angelhalo]

Again it is not what you percieve, desire, or want. It is what her DH said.

And I might need an exorcism because I agree with sbell111.

And my personal opinion is that her hubby said is whackadoo. LOL! It shouldn't have ruined the "mood" and he shouldn't be just selling any old thing without some sort of pow wow first. BUT, I do still think that I would have just gone with the flow. If there was anything I didn't want sold, I would have moved it back in and then just enjoyed the day. No need for a melodramtic episode.

 

[SharpMomOfTwo]

Again it is not what you percieve, desire, or want. It is what her DH said.

And I might need an exorcism because I agree with sbell111.

What did he say????? Your confusing me, and this is my thread!!!!!!


If your refering to him saying that he was doing it to make $$$ for our Vegas trip - that was said afterwards when he saw I was upset. Maybe that was his original intention, but he never said it. He never said much of anything - I was ready to get back into bed and have some fun, and he was already selling my damn Meatloaf record!!!!! And only for a buck!!!!

 

[metime]

What did he say????? Your confusing me, and this is my thread!!!!!!

I just want to point out that while you started the thread with one thing in mind that threads sometimes change.

And by making this point you have now unknowingly OKed the entire thread to be hijacked and turn out differently than you planned.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

What did he say????? Your confusing me, and this is my thread!!!!!!


If your refering to him saying that he was doing it to make $$$ for our Vegas trip - that was said afterwards when he saw I was upset. Maybe that was his original intention, but he never said it. He never said much of anything - I was ready to get back into bed and have some fun, and he was already selling my damn Meatloaf record!!!!! And only for a buck!!!!

No, he gave you the "you got out of bed for bagels" line.

Did you get your record back? That would have pissed me off.

 

[bubie2.5]

I was ready to get back into bed and have some fun, and he was already selling my damn Meatloaf record!!!!! And only for a buck!!!!

Hope the Tag Fairy is reading.

 

[SharpMomOfTwo]

No, he gave you the "you got out of bed for bagels" line.

Did you get your record back? That would have pissed me off.

Ya know, I had so many great records - The Beatles, The Who (my favorite band) and he has sold so many of them over the years at all our garage sales, that at this point, I don't really care anymore. I do wish I still had my Who records though