Why do people bring nanny's?

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While reading this thread I noticed most of you are parents. I know everyone has thier own idea about parenting. I thought I would put in my two cents about nannies since I am only 17 and was raised by one.

As I stated in an earlier post I had a nanny since I was born. She cleaned my house before I was born and then took over an additional resposibility by taking care of me. My parents owned two business one which is international. Yes, they were very busy when I was younger. They had just gotten married and I was born 7 months later so in my opinion they were busting thier buts to make a career for themselves, which I am extremely proud of them looking back.

My nanny did everything. She was superwoman in my eyes. She did cook and clean and in her spare time she took my places so I could have fun. She was an incredible woman.

Looking back I see nothing wrong with her raising me. She lived in my house for 5 or 6 years while my parents were in their prime working time. When I was 14 my parents retired. It was because of my nanny that my parents could retire so young (my mom was 40). My parents provided with everything I needed. I didn't have a bad childhood or am "psychologically damaged" because I had a nanny. In fact, I am extremely close with my mom now, closer than most teenagers.

My nanny died last year in a car accident. Her two children then told me that they thought of me as a little sister because our families were so close. I realized then I would have been psychologically damaged if she would have died when I was young. I miss her so much now and would want a special person in my children's life such as her if I ever do have children.

I just thought you may be interested in a younger person's perspective.

 

[auntpolly]

The bigger question is why do people feel they have the right to say if someone else should or should not have a nanny - or should or should not have children?
To each his own!

Welcome to the "Who's The Best Mom Show"! The "spending the most time with your kids" competition is especially thrilling today!

 

[awatt]

auntpolly-

 

[jekajekalynn]

Welcome to the "Who's The Best Mom Show"! The "spending the most time with your kids" competition is especially thrilling today!

lol And the next useless arguments will be "Who packs the best sack lunches ?" with the most anticipated thread of "If you don't cut the crusts of your sandwich your self your a dumb mom darn-it!!!"

 

[Kelly Grannell]

I'll start that thread!

 

[Tissa]

Welcome to the "Who's The Best Mom Show"! The "spending the most time with your kids" competition is especially thrilling today!

I'm supposed to be spending time with my kids right now but instead I'm on the computer glued to this stupid thread and they are playing video games. I'm going to start the Texas chapter of the "I suck as a parent club".

 

[jackskellingtonsgirl]

I think it's nice that there are nannies who get to go on vacation with their families. It's like a great reward for taking care of their charges, even if they still have to work while on vacation. They get to see THE WORLD through the eyes of a child. I wish I could have that experience (one day, maybe not too far off, I will)!

For those of you who take your nannies to THE WORLD, do they get some free time to themselves? Just curious.

Sorry, I'm having trouble with this one!

Would you want to go on vacation with your boss? Would you consider that a reward for a job well done? Just curious.

I like my bosses but I don't want to go on vacation with them! And if I did go on vacation with them it would be THEIR vacation, not mine, regardless of location. If I went to WDW with my employers I would be exhausted when we got back - no way would I want to be back on duty the next day!

 

[melomouse]

Such a fascinating thread. We are all passionate about our kids, our roles, identities as well as WDW.

I wanted Mary Poppins to come to my house when I was a kid because things were not easy. The best gift my Mom gave me was to work outside the home and feel better about herself. Just what SHE came to adulthood with....

I've been very lucky in that when I had my DS at 34, I was already established in a career and have always had the ability to make a FT salary in PT hours at my own business. Never hired anyone to sit more than 8 hours a week and went back when he was a month old - (also breastfed til he was 3). Alas, by the time DD was born, DH was already very sick and a SAHD. So now I am a single parent.

Wish that it were such in our world that women didn't have to make so many choices that feel difficult no matter WHAT that choice is... for me, I have more to give to my kids if I have more self - which sometimes I get by making brownies and sometimes I get from attending a professional conference....and.. PS -
I will take all the help I can get, at WDW or at home... so maybe we should all support one another and not have to feel defensive about our individual decisions by attacking another.

 

[Kelly Grannell]

Here's the new thread I started:

http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?t=911493

 

[Nancyg56]

Oh please! I think that the OP was looking for reasons why those who choose to take nannies/au pairs/babysitters with them to WDW choose to do so. This has degenerated into a discussion of whether it is "right" or "wrong" for moms to choose to work outside the home, or stay at home full time with their kids. Every family's situation is different. Every family makes the choices that are right for them. I'm not sure that issues of social/moral relativism even enter into the minds of lots of working moms--particularly single moms--who are just trying to make sure that her kids can eat and have a roof over their heads. On the flip side, why not dads? I never see discussions about why dads should stay at home if mom chooses to work.

Please ladies, it would be much more productive if we could all support each other in the very diverse decisions that we make every day in relation to giving our kids the best that we can give, rather than bashing each other for making "right" or "wrong" decisions.

Well said!

 

[NMAmy]

You hussy! Next thing we know, you'll be hanging out at the local tavern every night and forgetting your kids' birthdays!

Hey, MY mom's in that club!

 

[SunFloridaDisney]

So maybe we should all support one another and not have to feel defensive about our individual decisions by attacking another.

Amen to that!

 

[jackskellingtonsgirl]

Obviously I am THRILLED that families have nannies because I enjoy what I do. If families prefer to travel with their nannies then that is perfectly acceptable, as long as the family and the nanny agree on the terms.

But please do not try to pass it off as being a "favor" to the nanny! I don't think anyone wants to spend their vacation working and being told that they should appreciate the opportunity. If the nanny travels with the family for the purpose of caring for the children the way she does at home then it is not a vacation for her. It is working in a different location.

A family who wants to show appreciation to their nanny might consider giving the nanny a generous bonus so she can take her OWN vacation. That's what my employers do.

 

[Miss Jasmine]

Personally I am waiting to have rug-rats until I can hire a nanny. I don't want them spoiling my fun, plus I can't stand the smell of poopy diapers.

 

[Aidensmom]

lol And the next useless arguments will be "Who packs the best sack lunches ?" with the most anticipated thread of "If you don't cut the crusts of your sandwich your self your a dumb mom darn-it!!!"

Here is my entry for the Worst Mommy award:

I don't pack sack lunches AT ALL because my son is fed at daycare where he spends 8 hours a day while his father and I are working. And at the end of the month DH and I are leaving our son at Grandma's when we go to WDW for the weekend.

Did I win? Did I?

 

[AnaheimGirl]

While reading this thread I noticed most of you are parents. I know everyone has thier own idea about parenting. I thought I would put in my two cents about nannies since I am only 17 and was raised by one.

As I stated in an earlier post I had a nanny since I was born. She cleaned my house before I was born and then took over an additional resposibility by taking care of me. My parents owned two business one which is international. Yes, they were very busy when I was younger. They had just gotten married and I was born 7 months later so in my opinion they were busting thier buts to make a career for themselves, which I am extremely proud of them looking back.

My nanny did everything. She was superwoman in my eyes. She did cook and clean and in her spare time she took my places so I could have fun. She was an incredible woman.

Looking back I see nothing wrong with her raising me. She lived in my house for 5 or 6 years while my parents were in their prime working time. When I was 14 my parents retired. It was because of my nanny that my parents could retire so young (my mom was 40). My parents provided with everything I needed. I didn't have a bad childhood or am "psychologically damaged" because I had a nanny. In fact, I am extremely close with my mom now, closer than most teenagers.

My nanny died last year in a car accident. Her two children then told me that they thought of me as a little sister because our families were so close. I realized then I would have been psychologically damaged if she would have died when I was young. I miss her so much now and would want a special person in my children's life such as her if I ever do have children.

I just thought you may be interested in a younger person's perspective.

Thanks for your perspective. I fond it interesting that you'd want your kids to have a special person in their lives such as a nanny. It goes along with my philosophy that a child can't possibly have too many people who love them.

I'm sorry for your loss, too.

 

[Mickeyhugger]

I can't believe how some of these posts making jokes about 'being the worst' parent. How sad for your children.

 

[auntpolly]

I can't believe how some of these posts making jokes about 'being the worst' parent. How sad for your children.

I don't know - I haven't always been the model mom -- but my DD thinks I've been pretty fun -- I don't think she'd trade me. I don't think you need to be sad for her. And I'm sure everyone is , um , kidding about being worst mom...

 

[AnaheimGirl]

Would you want to go on vacation with your boss? Would you consider that a reward for a job well done? Just curious.

Depends on the boss. I had one boss who was great fun and I'd love to go on vacation with her. In fact, I have gone on a couple of weekend trips with her and other co-workers.

If I was getting paid for it, (as I'd expect a nanny to be), yes, I'd consider it a reward to do my job in WDW, rather than at home. But I'd expect to still get my 2 weeks (or however long) regular vacation to do as I please with my own family, as well.

I've never had or been a nanny, but they way I see it, taking the nanny on vacation ought to be fun for her, but it shouldn't be considered her vacation for the year.

 

[aidanht]

Going on vacation with us was always been a MAJOR job perk for our nanny before she got married herself. We always gave her the choice of going with us (at our expense) or staying home (and being paid her regular salary) and she always chose to go with us. First of all, it was a great opportunity for her to travel to places she would not ordinarily get to go to. Second, she loves our kids almost as much as we do and loved sharing the experiences with them -- who doesn't love to see Disneyworld, etc., through the eyes of a child? Third, it was great for us to have an extra set of hands and eyes -- and with three kids, it was great to have three adults so we had an even number for rides at theme parks, water slides, etc. Some vacations we would go out for dinner or a show without the kids one or two nights, but many vacations we didn't; it just depended on the kids' schedules.