Why do people bring nanny's?

[WendyMichaelJohn]

Not bringing a nanny (personally wouldn't have one if I had millions of dollars) but I AM bringing a GRANNY! LOL! My mom loves being with my children, and they love being with her. So she's coming along too, as well as other family members. They'll love some down time with her in the room, making brownies, watching Mickey cartoons to get excited. DH and I will enjoy a drink, and a few hours to enjoy vacation on our own.

OP, just curious, do you have children of your own? Did you think that those might be older siblings, btw? I'm 15 years older than one of my sibs and 20 years older than another one. (Same mom and dad!) So on our last WDW trip, you might have seen me and thought I was the nanny too!

Shel

 

[jackskellingtonsgirl]

Not bringing a nanny (personally wouldn't have one if I had millions of dollars) but I AM bringing a GRANNY! LOL! My mom loves being with my children, and they love being with her. So she's coming along too, as well as other family members. They'll love some down time with her in the room, making brownies, watching Mickey cartoons to get excited. DH and I will enjoy a drink, and a few hours to enjoy vacation on our own.

OP, just curious, do you have children of your own? Did you think that those might be older siblings, btw? I'm 15 years older than one of my sibs and 20 years older than another one. (Same mom and dad!) So on our last WDW trip, you might have seen me and thought I was the nanny too!

Shel

You reminded me of back when I first became a nanny. I was at the grocery store with my charge and the girl at the register said something about me being the mom. I told her I was the nanny. Her eyes got huge and she said "You're her GRANDMOTHER?!" I was about 24 at the time!

I have two sisters. One is ten years younger, the other is 21 years younger. All three of us have the same parents.

 

[WendyMichaelJohn]

It's funny that people who say they aren't bashing really think that by saying they are "not bashing" renegs any negative undertone in their message.

I guarantee you that my DS2 is not losing out by us having a nanny. He spends 90% of his free time with us and the other 10% with others (nanny, grandparents, etc.) Saying "I'd rather do for my kids" implies that those of us with nanny's do not, which is a pretty outrageous thing to state. In my opinion, having your kids with you 100% of the time is not the healthiest thing for them. Yes, we have a nanny. It's because we have a nanny that we can spend quality time with our son. I don't have to waste precious time making meals, doing laundry, or cleaning the house. All my spare time is spent with DS2 doing things focused on us and him.

But we also send our son to preschool half day, 5 days a week. Do we have to? No. We could keep him at home, but you should see how much he LOVES school and asks about it on the days he doesn't go. In fact, while at WDW, he asked if he could go to school!

Now, I agree there are those who have nannies and expect them to raise their children. I cringe when I see people like that. They are missing out on the most rewarding time of their lives. I really don't have an explanation for those people...

This is JMPO, but I personally couldn't fathom not cooking for my kids. To me it is an important part of being their parent (mother in my case) and a rather symbolic act. I gave them life, I sustain that life. Also, they see me cooking. They learn that there are things that people have to do...cook for themselves, clean up after themselves, cook for others, clean up after others...

This is just me, but I can imagine my daughter becoming quite spoiled if she thought that cooking and cleaning are things you just have OTHER people do for you...other paid people, rather than something you do for people because you love them. I love the act of cooking for my son. I love watching him eat happily. I love my child learning to clean up AFTER HER BROTHER because she has seen my example. Also, if I didn't do any housework and she got only playtime with me, I think it would be negative for her. She'd think that every second of my available time was to be spent in active play with her. Instead, she helps me clean up now.

I just personally couldn't fathom not cooking for my family. Such a symbolic act. I'd hate to miss out on it.

JMO

Shel

And someday I hope to see her brother helping her clean her room too, when he's old enough. Just didn't want it to seem like I expect dd to clean up after her brother forever.

 

[Chicago526]

Well, I can't speak to having a nanny as a kid, but my mom did have to put me in daycare (a private woman's home rather than a chain, but daycare none the less).

She did it not to "futher her career" but to pay off medical bills they owed from when I was in the hospital (for over 2 months, the insuance coverd 80%, they had to come up with the rest. Even at '79 prices that's a lot of $$$).

She kept working until I graduated high school. After a while, the medical bills were paid off, of course. But her extra income meant that she could pick up treats at the gorcery store (like pop, potato chips, ice cream) instead of just the esentials like bread and milk (and before she started working, all we could afford was POWDERED milk!). It meant we could take a vacation to the lake once a year, and one VERY special year, actually go to WDW (the best week of my childhood, I wouldn't have traded that week for ANYTHING). It meant that my brothers and I could do sports and take music leasons like we wanted to.

We could have existed on my dad's income. We lived on both incomes. I have no regrets about how I was raised, I knew even when I was 5 and 6 that mom had to work for us to have the "extras" and it never bothered me or my older brothers. We knew we were loved and enjoyed the time we DID spend together all the more.

Some people HAVE to have nannies. Others choose to have them for convienance but still spend tons of time with their kids. And yet others are lazy and want someone else to raise their kids. I'm willing to bet the vast majority are in the first two catagories.

 

[WendyMichaelJohn]

If people WEREN'T judgemental at all, there wouldn't be any definition of right and wrong.

Maybe we should all ask the children (those who are being RAISED by nannies?) They're seeing that parents dual-careers are more important than they are. (Okay, this comment is intended for those who obviously don't need a second income, which I'm sure there are many.)

I'm going to pull foot out of mouth here.

 

[WendyMichaelJohn]

Nevermind!

 

[wdwjunkie2005]

We have had a series of AuPairs over the past few years (they are here for 12 month stints). We usually take our AuPair on at least one vacation a year. We have taken our AuPairs to Disney World as well. In fact we plan on taking our current AuPair to Disney World next Summer. They are part of the family and as such we think they should be included in such a nice vacation. When told that we would like to take them to Disney World with us, each one has gotten a smile on their faces.

They understand that it is a working vacation, but we always make sure they get plenty of free time to do what they want while there and as long as they are with the family, we pay for all their meals, tickets, and such while there. Going to Disney World is sort of a reward for all their hard work during the year. I haven't had one complain yet about having to have to go to Disney World. It has been more like "Thank you for taking me!"

Bart

Can I come to work for you?

 

[wintergreen]

YES! Dh and I get pretty tired of the social/moral relativism that's rampant these days. Discernment is not a bad thing!

Oh please! I think that the OP was looking for reasons why those who choose to take nannies/au pairs/babysitters with them to WDW choose to do so. This has degenerated into a discussion of whether it is "right" or "wrong" for moms to choose to work outside the home, or stay at home full time with their kids. Every family's situation is different. Every family makes the choices that are right for them. I'm not sure that issues of social/moral relativism even enter into the minds of lots of working moms--particularly single moms--who are just trying to make sure that her kids can eat and have a roof over their heads. On the flip side, why not dads? I never see discussions about why dads should stay at home if mom chooses to work.

Please ladies, it would be much more productive if we could all support each other in the very diverse decisions that we make every day in relation to giving our kids the best that we can give, rather than bashing each other for making "right" or "wrong" decisions.

 

[jekajekalynn]

Hey, nannies, no nannies... It's all good! .. You're in WDW . Why are ppl fighting about this small NOTHING issue? Nothing better in life to do?

 

[Kelly Grannell]

I'm thinking about leaving my kid at home but bring the nanny anyway. how's THAT !!!

 

[WendyMichaelJohn]

Oh please! I think that the OP was looking for reasons why those who choose to take nannies/au pairs/babysitters with them to WDW choose to do so. This has degenerated into a discussion of whether it is "right" or "wrong" for moms to choose to work outside the home, or stay at home full time with their kids. Every family's situation is different. Every family makes the choices that are right for them. I'm not sure that issues of social/moral relativism even enter into the minds of lots of working moms--particularly single moms--who are just trying to make sure that her kids can eat and have a roof over their heads. On the flip side, why not dads? I never see discussions about why dads should stay at home if mom chooses to work.

Please ladies, it would be much more productive if we could all support each other in the very diverse decisions that we make every day in relation to giving our kids the best that we can give, rather than bashing each other for making "right" or "wrong" decisions.

I think it is a hot topic because we all feel passionately about parenting. Seriously, no one gets really upset when talking about rental strollers vs. your own stroller. This one really hits home. Maybe it is good to use kid gloves...

Shel

 

[auntpolly]

I'm thinking about leaving my kid at home but bring the nanny anyway. how's THAT !!!

Well, you'll burn in hell, but as long as you don't mind that....what the hey!

 

[Maleficent13]

Just subscribing to this thread so that when I feel my blood pressure getting a little low, I can come here and feel it rise.

 

[delilah]

This is JMPO, but I personally couldn't fathom not cooking for my kids. To me it is an important part of being their parent (mother in my case) and a rather symbolic act. I gave them life, I sustain that life. Also, they see me cooking. They learn that there are things that people have to do...cook for themselves, clean up after themselves, cook for others, clean up after others...

This is just me, but I can imagine my daughter becoming quite spoiled if she thought that cooking and cleaning are things you just have OTHER people do for you...other paid people, rather than something you do for people because you love them. I love the act of cooking for my son. I love watching him eat happily. I love my child learning to clean up AFTER HER BROTHER because she has seen my example. Also, if I didn't do any housework and she got only playtime with me, I think it would be negative for her. She'd think that every second of my available time was to be spent in active play with her. Instead, she helps me clean up now.

I just personally couldn't fathom not cooking for my family. Such a symbolic act. I'd hate to miss out on it.

JMO

Shel

And someday I hope to see her brother helping her clean her room too, when he's old enough. Just didn't want it to seem like I expect dd to clean up after her brother forever.

Quite frankly, if I could afford to pay somebody to take over grocery shopping, meal planning and cooking for me, I would jump on it like flies on honey. Right at this moment, I am trying to build up the emotional fortitude to go to the grocery store to buy some things for the rest of the week. It is my least liked chore, to shop for groceries, plan meals and cook. It is not something I like to do after an exhausting day of saving lives and counseling patients. Unfortunately, we can't afford to eat out all the time, either. I would much prefer to spend the time after school doing homework with my son, reading books, playing games and otherwise goofing off. Cooking is a chore, just like laundry, sweeping and pulling weeds.

 

[auntpolly]

Quite frankly, if I could afford to pay somebody to take over grocery shopping, meal planning and cooking for me, I would jump on it like flies on honey.

You hussy! Next thing we know, you'll be hanging out at the local tavern every night and forgetting your kids' birthdays!

 

[WendyMichaelJohn]

Quite frankly, if I could afford to pay somebody to take over grocery shopping, meal planning and cooking for me, I would jump on it like flies on honey. Right at this moment, I am trying to build up the emotional fortitude to go to the grocery store to buy some things for the rest of the week. It is my least liked chore, to shop for groceries, plan meals and cook. It is not something I like to do after an exhausting day of saving lives and counseling patients. Unfortunately, we can't afford to eat out all the time, either. I would much prefer to spend the time after school doing homework with my son, reading books, playing games and otherwise goofing off. Cooking is a chore, just like laundry, sweeping and pulling weeds.

Understood. Maybe it just helps that I like cooking.

 

[wdwjunkie2005]

I think it's nice that there are nannies who get to go on vacation with their families. It's like a great reward for taking care of their charges, even if they still have to work while on vacation. They get to see THE WORLD through the eyes of a child. I wish I could have that experience (one day, maybe not too far off, I will)!

For those of you who take your nannies to THE WORLD, do they get some free time to themselves? Just curious.

 

[dennis99ss]

I don't see the big deal here. We do not have a nanny, as dw is a sahm, but, I can see how it is absolutely needed if you have a two career household. Or, if you have a one parent household. Even with a sahm, we have help in cleaning the house, in doing the yard, helping get ready for the holidays, etc. As to eating at home all the time, there is very little time for it, with the obligations of kids sports, scouts, school, etc.

I do, however, know people with nannies. Although it may take some time in getting the right one, once there is a fit, the nannie becomes part of the family. I don't think it is even an issue of whether the nannie goes or not. She just does, because that is where the family is going.

 

[Rex Rules]

The bigger question is why do people feel they have the right to say if someone else should or should not have a nanny - or should or should not have children?
To each his own!

 

[jekajekalynn]

*carries a "ROUND 2 " sign* Everyone to their corners! Make it a clean fight! *DING!*