When do girls stop having sleepovers?

[Kitzka]

DD 13 has sleepovers at least 4-6 times a month. She dances competitively or would do it more often. In the summer when there is no camp it can be 6 nights a week (wed is ALWAYS family night).
She started at 4 and I don't see an end in sight and I love it that way!

Lara

 

[mdsoccermom]

Neverending here (I hope!) My 17 y.o. daughter is having 4 of her friends sleep over tonight after their school's spirit fest. And that's fine with me (and her dad!) I'm happy knowing where she is and knowing that she and her friends always feel welcome in our home. And she and her friends love the monkey bread I make for them in the morning.
It does get chaotic when her younger brother has a sleepover, too (those dual sleepovers are usually reserved for special occasions like New Year's Eve). But honestly, I want my kids to always feel like they can bring their friends home and have a good time.

We do the New Year's Eve sleepovers as well. I had them growing up and now my kids do.

 

[jbcheerchick93]

Im a senior in high school and I still go to sleepovers. They're fun! Some girls start to not like them, but I know girls who still have sleepovers when they're home on the weekends from college.

 

[StephMK]

DD17 still has them. Three weeks ago we just had 7-8 of her friends stay over. They watch Disney or scary movies, laugh a lot & eat a ton of snacks. It was like a swarm of locusts in our house, they grabbed all the food & took off for the basement. They are loud but I'm glad they are able to enjoy these times before they all head different directions next year.

 

[castmember19]

Too old for sleepovers?

Um... once you have a family of your own at home, I suppose. I don't know. I'm 19 and still have them. Of course they end up being less giggly-girl-gossip-nail-polish-fashion-shows and maybe just a movie or tv shows and actual sleep these days.

They are definitely not as common though. Now that we're older it's more often that we're out and just decide to stay over just because it's late.

Meanwhile, DBF spends the night at his BFFs at least twice a week. I've visited a few times... it's usually time spent playing video games. Blegh.

 

[pyrxtc]

I would say they never end. I don't see why they have to.

 

[DisneyFan32WI]

My teen daughters are always having sleepovers. I don't worry for a second what they are up to.

 

[MichelleVW]

I find this point of view incredibly sad, and wonder what kind of kids you have?

And if teens want to have sex, there are plenty and better opportunities available than sneaking out of a sleep over.

Seriously...it's incredibly sad. I can't imagine thinking that way about one of my daughters. My girls are 18 and 20 and never gave me any reason not to trust them while they were in high school.

 

[WowLookAtThat]

I don't do sleepovers. Here or there. I have only let me kids stay the night off maybe once or twice and I rarely let anyone else sleepover here. You go play with each other for a few hours then come home at bedtime. No need to sleep at someone else's house.

Also for teen girls, IMO, letting them sleepover someone else's house is just asking for the whole sneaking out thing where they may end up laid up somewhere with some teenage boy. I won't have that.

Wow..I knew my sleepovers were missing something! (jk) but seriously I don't really see how sleepovers can lead to girls sleeping around. To make that connection is reaching a conclusion that most likely isn't there.

I was around 17 when I stopped having sleepovers. This was because we were moving on to college, some of my friends were getting married and there wasn't a lot of time. However, with the girls in my family we still do a "girls night sleepover". We go to a family members house, watch television and do each others hair and nails. Its the perfect place for family gossip.We try to arrange this time before the holidays or during summer.

 

[MUFFYCAT]

My DD are 17 & 20 and had group sleepovers untill about 16. They never gave me reason to think something "bad" would happen.
My older DD now has college friends visit over the breaks and summer vacation.

 

[jenrose66]

DH and I feel sleepovers are just the root of all evil...either hosting them or having our kids go to them. Kids always end up cranky and tired and sometimes sick. And, when my girls were younger, I had one friend who wanted to go home, one I had to sit up with for hours, and one who threw up...so I do not like them AT ALL. But, my kids (my girls) still love them. Figures..

DD15 wants to have a sleepover either here or at friends' every weekend! At what point do girls get to be "too old" for sleepovers? I'm pretty sure that at age 15, I wasn't sleeping over anywhere.

Any thoughts?

I never did sleepovers till I was older and it was only with my best friend. We'd average twice a month. I'd stay at her house one weekend and she'd do my house next. Our mothers were a non factor in these. We'd talk about school and boys and watch tv. No one stayed up with us and we were not cranky These sleepovers occurred from freshman year right up until college.

 

[Fintastic]

I don't do them unless I know the other child(ren) really well. DD's BFF lives right next door so having sleepovers couldn't be easier. She wants to go home? Great, I just open the door and watch for 15 seconds until she's home. Otherwise I'm not into it.

 

[tvguy]

My daughter is 20, and she had or was at about 6 sleepovers over the summer. All with high school friends who have scattered the globe going to college, but were home for summer.

But, I was also the coolist dad around when for her 18th birthday, we threw a party here at the house and rented a bounce house. I'm dead serious too. Her friends LOVED it

 

[Principessa1284]

Well.. my friends and I had sleepover parties up until we graduated from high school, and I still crash and a friends house now and then (I'm 26). In high school, all my theatre friends and I frequently had co-ed sleepovers at each others houses. Perhaps we did it wrong, because no one ever did anything they shouldn't have done at any of those, and no one ever got pregnant. All the parents trusted us.. they didn't have any reason not to.

 

[LuvsDragonflies]

I don't mind sleepovers. Loved them as a kid and my mom let me have them and go to them. I prefer the girls here, but they like to go over other friends houses sometimes too.

I figure that before I know it, they'll be out of the house all the time, so I'm gonna enjoy it while I got it.

 

[kkacar]

I guess in my family you are never too old. 2-3 times a year we do a girls only sleep-over. My Gran (72) Mom (55), me (33), daughter (9), sis-n-law (25), Aunt (45), sis-n-law2 (24) and occasionally a cousin or 2 may come. So I guess in my family you never out grow it. We love doing it. We call it girls only pajama party. We do make an exception though for my 2 nephews although oldest nephew 4, last time would not come "girls are yuck," his words not mine.

DD9 has one at least once a month. Either her besties here or she will go over to their house. Or she will stay with my brothers or my sisters or one of her many sets of grandparents, and she has some older cousins as well as Aunts and Uncles she might stay with. At this point I ask her if she has plans.

Kelli

 

[Mama-san]

When I was in high school and college, and living at home with my parents, I had pretty early curfews (11 in HS; 12 -12:30 in college) - shocking I know. Many, many nights I would spend the night with girl friends who had a later curfew than I did or didn't have a curfew at all (particularly in college). I had to live somehow!!!

 

[hereyago]

Also for teen girls, IMO, letting them sleepover someone else's house is just asking for the whole sneaking out thing where they may end up laid up somewhere with some teenage boy. I won't have that.

This just made me laugh. Cause when I was a teenager, I actually told my parents I would be spending the night with a guy or if a guy spent the night-but that is a whole different topic.

However, my friend somehow got pregnant not by spending the night at a sleepover but by meeting her boyfriend during her meal break from work and her parents to this day still have no idea that she was pregnant and had a abortion, but they think they did a wonderful job of being "strict" ha ha

So for you would the no sleepover rule also pertain to boys? cause you know girls don't get pregnant by themselves.

 

[sajetto]

I agree - my daughters had sleepovers all the way through high school and into college if friends were home at the same time.

I think sleepovers are an important part of a preteen and teen girl's social life and I always feel sorry for the girls whose parents who won't allow them.

ITA! I was lucky enough to have a mother who hosted sleep overs all the way through high school. Those sleep overs gave me my best memories from my teen years.

 

[mousebymarriage]

Also for teen girls, IMO, letting them sleepover someone else's house is just asking for the whole sneaking out thing where they may end up laid up somewhere with some teenage boy. I won't have that.

Wow, you would freak out if you saw my livingroom right now. There are currently 18 kids sleeping at my house to celebrate DD's 15th birthday (which is actually not until 9/25). Oh and there are 5 boys included in that number. We live less than a mile from 3 motels (so obviously they are in walking distance) and if these kids want to "get together" they don't need to wait to do it in my livingroom, besides I am in and out of there constantly and they know it. We have had these sleepovers before and never had an issue.