When do girls stop having sleepovers?

[Gisele]

They never really do; children>tweens>teens>college>boyfriends>husband?

 

[Gisele]

Wow, you would freak out if you saw my livingroom right now. There are currently 18 kids sleeping at my house to celebrate DD's 15th birthday (which is actually not until 9/25). Oh and there are 5 boys included in that number. We live less than a mile from 3 motels (so obviously they are in walking distance) and if these kids want to "get together" they don't need to wait to do it in my livingroom, besides I am in and out of there constantly and they know it. We have had these sleepovers before and never had an issue.

I like that the kids know of your presence... And how about having a baby monitor located in the right place, where only you know of it? That way, you can hear all that is going on, the good, the bad, and the ugly.....

 

[ICF]

I dont think they ever end.....the gender of the person "sleeping over" just changes....

 

[declansdad]

I don't do sleepovers. Here or there. I have only let me kids stay the night off maybe once or twice and I rarely let anyone else sleepover here. You go play with each other for a few hours then come home at bedtime. No need to sleep at someone else's house.

Also for teen girls, IMO, letting them sleepover someone else's house is just asking for the whole sneaking out thing where they may end up laid up somewhere with some teenage boy. I won't have that.

Nothing like a sleepover to turn a teen girl into the town bike.


How about a little trust!!

 

[rcpae]

I read this question to my 17 yo daughter and her 17 yo friend yesterday evening. Now, they both turn 18 within the next 2 months. They started laughing and then looked at each other and said they still planning on having the occasional sleepover or getaway once they are married! I died laughing! But truly, that is what I want for my children, true and wonderful lifelong friends.

 

[powellrj]

My class from HS had its annual bonfire last night and several were planning to sleepover. We are in our 50's, and I can see this going on for many more years!

 

[rodeo65]

We are just starting into this phase with an 8 & 10 yr old. Last year for DD's 8th birthday we had her first sleepover with 5 girls. It was mayhem. All. Night. Mayhem.

We've learned in the year since to pick and choose who gets invited in what combinations. There are a couple of girls that we just will not allow to stay over together - their mission is to stay up all night long. Her 9th birthday is coming up and we are again having six girls stay over, but our children changed schools last year, so a different mix entirely. We've had a couple of the girls individually over the past year and that has been fine. Two of the bunch coming this year are sisters and NEED their sleep. When they stayed over the last time, they were asking DD to go to bed at 9:30. These girls are welcome to stay over anytime!

I fully expect sleepovers to last through high school (maybe beyond), mine did.

 

[malibuconlee]

I don't do sleepovers. Here or there. I have only let me kids stay the night off maybe once or twice and I rarely let anyone else sleepover here. You go play with each other for a few hours then come home at bedtime. No need to sleep at someone else's house.

Also for teen girls, IMO, letting them sleepover someone else's house is just asking for the whole sneaking out thing where they may end up laid up somewhere with some teenage boy. I won't have that.

WHAT? OK I can tell you I spent many nights at friends homes in high school and we weren't sneaking off meeting boys.

Freshman year I probably spent the night at my best friend's house every Friday night. It was easier on my mom during football season too when she had to work evenings. My mom would do the drop off and the other parents would do the pick up.

And FYI...anything they can do after curfew can be done before curfew, where there's a will there is a way.

 

[ZephyrHawk]

I have been to more than one bachelorette party that involved a clasic girl's sleepover. I don't think it's something you necessarily "grow out" of, unless, you know, you intend to grow out of having friends and fun.

 

[Minnesota!]

I'm 33 and still have them! We love them here!

never had had issues with kids being cranky, moody, etc.

AAMOF, my bff is sleeping over for 2 nights next weekend!

 

[shine87]

me and my bf still have sleepovers, our last one was in wdw haha, but seriously we stay at eachothers places a bunch, and we even have kids

 

[shortbun]

Lol, my high school girlfriends and I took our sleepovers to another level after high school and started taking vacations together where we'd often stay in and have hair coloring, manicures...as we aged we'd assign topics for pre-research. I remember one very fun vacation where one woman presented 'Vitamin Z' -zanax and another presented pre-menpause. That was also the week that my hair got colored for the first time-a disaster, lol! We were in our mid-40's. Our lives finally got too complicated and we all ended up in separate states making our trips more and more difficult. Now, I do overnights with my current girlfriends and we currently are discussing various religions and making mid century drinks-Harvey Wallbangers anyone?

 

[KatieCollette]

My best friend and I had sleep overs every weekend at my house till I was like 17.

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

Never.

 

[luvdzny]

DS had friends from a few different cities in a 100 mile radius, so when they got together they always stayed over night a someone's house, even after high school.

DD had sleepovers throughout high school. Even now she is 21 and married and if they go out with friends and there is alcohol involved they usually end up staying at someone's house.

I never minded the sleepovers. DD loved them and if she was crabby the next day she just slept. You are only young once, you might as well enjoy it!

 

[Nancyg56]

I don't do sleepovers. Here or there. I have only let me kids stay the night off maybe once or twice and I rarely let anyone else sleepover here. You go play with each other for a few hours then come home at bedtime. No need to sleep at someone else's house.

Also for teen girls, IMO, letting them sleepover someone else's house is just asking for the whole sneaking out thing where they may end up laid up somewhere with some teenage boy. I won't have that.

Good thing I was too ignorant of a Mom to know this little tidbit. My kids always had their friends stay over. My DS had his buddies here all of the time, we would wake up to more lumps on the floor and couch than when we went to bed. I fed them all and they were back the next day.just like stray cats

My DD had her friends here and she would stay with them, it was nice knowing she was in a group more often then not. They kids usually would wind up at my house because I was a sneaky parent. I bought plenty of whatever they liked and so they spent a lot of time with us.

Honestly, sleepovers last a lOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOooooooong time and I am glad of that! DH and I got to spend time with the kids and their friends and they all thought it was their idea I am so sad for Disneylover though. I gave my children good tools to grow up with and they used them wisely. I trusted them and they did not want to violate that trust. I cannot imagine what it must be like to always think the worst of a child I raised

 

[luvdzny]

I gave my children good tools to grow up with and they used them wisely. I trusted them and they did not want to violate that trust. I cannot imagine what it must be like to always think the worst of a child I raised

Great statement Nancyg56!!!! That is how we raised our children and they are 21 and 27 now and doing great. I wouldn't change a thing.

 

[Mad4Mickey]

I am 44 and still have a sleep over here and there LOL

My DD had them up till she married her DH at our house.

My son always had people stay over but he never stayed away from home. He tried but came home at 2 am and never tried again .

 

[js]

I stopped sleep overs after my dd was in HS and I found out she was sneaking drinking with her friends and then sleeping over her girlfriends house. This happened, EVEN though my dh and I DID GIVE HER GOOD TOOLS. But, sometimes smart children make stupid mistakes.
Since then, she is not allowed to sleep over anyone's home. If she asks for someone to sleep here, for instance one of her close friends, I do allow it.

My ds-13 had a friend sleep over last night since we were watching the boy for his parents. I have him have his friends over when he asks but it seems boys don't have nearly as much sleepovers in lower grades than girls do, so that is a good thing LOL

I have a neighbor that has a HS son who is a senior and when he has his friend sleep over, they do sneek out at night. I know it happens since when I asked my dd about an incident she said they had snuck out (the boys).

Whether people want to believe it or not it does happen and kids make mistakes, try to sneak or drink. But, I guess some of the lucky few it doesn't happen to THEIR kids since they have children that never do anything wrong (or they just don't know..and I know quite a few of those parents)

 

[RabbitFood]

I don't doubt that some kids use sleepovers as a way to do things they shouldn't be doing. In fact, I have first-hand knowledge of it (I made some dubious choices when I was a teen).

However, when it comes to my kids and my kid's friends, I prefer to assume the best of them until they prove otherwise. That doesn't mean we don't supervise. It does mean we allow sleepovers.