When do girls stop having sleepovers?

[disneychic2]

My kids had them all through high school and my grown daughter just went to one with all her high school/college friends. I loved having the gang over for sleepovers! Also, I am a mature adult and have had several sleepovers with my group of friends. One year we all brought our high school year books (since none of us knew each other back then). Another year we all brought our wedding photos. It was a lot of fun. We drank wine and watched movies and talked all night.

 

[mpls_mm]

I love sleepovers!! My DD13 and my DS8 have them all the time. I feel like I get to see who their friends are and it helps us stay connected. I usually let both kids have friends over and let them all play together if they want and then separate them at night. (Just because the little boys can bug the big girls) I have a sunroom and a basement, I just shut them in and let them sleep in whichever spot they choose.
Favorites,
Make your own pizza party, pizza shells and topping, let them make everything themselves. Make your own banana split/sundae party, always a blast. Tacos are another favorite with minimal direction. I let the big girls watch scary movies and they do blindfolded makeovers and I take pictures.
Sometimes, I let each one have 4 or 5 friends each over! I think we will look back on it as a lot of fun. Yes, I dislike some of their friends, but usually once I get to know them, it gets easier. It's better than letting me them sleep at their houses.
I know which kids are naughty, which ones have parents who don't supervise them, which ones get in trouble etc, etc.

 

[hereyago]

DD13 has been participating with sleep overs since she was about to go into first grade.

Now I've had the one time thing of a kid getting sick, well a headache and luckly she lived a couple streets down and her dad acted like it was my fault lol, but I quickly corrected him and we've been friends ever since.

I've had about 4 girls plus dd, that was crazy and it wasn't planned, but our area lost power and I had a generator and they were actually liking it before the generator was turned on. but mostly I stick to the 1 kid only rule, that particular night was a fluke.

I also make rules: number 1: I am not responsible for anyone being bored, I don't putup with it from my dd and I don't think I should entertain other kids especially now with them being older. I also don't pick up, my dd wants to have them she can be the hostess and clean up after them. when I go to sleep I better not here craziness to wake me up, lol


If dd has an event the next day, no sleep over the night before, i don't put up with the I am tired thing.

Her friends know the rules and don't have aproblem because they keep coming over. and it's wierd: they will do their own little things and then come and watch a movie with me or ask if they can bake something or try cooking something different.

I didnt have sleep overs but i would go to other kid's houses starting in 5th grade or so. In 9th grade I actually called my parents to come get me, the girl's mom would drink and be abusive to her and proceeded to curse me out and even at that age, that wasn't acceptable and I never spent the night there again.

 

[ChristmasElf]

I don't do sleepovers. Here or there. I have only let me kids stay the night off maybe once or twice and I rarely let anyone else sleepover here. You go play with each other for a few hours then come home at bedtime. No need to sleep at someone else's house.

Also for teen girls, IMO, letting them sleepover someone else's house is just asking for the whole sneaking out thing where they may end up laid up somewhere with some teenage boy. I won't have that.

Totally agree

 

[njmom47]

Do they ever end with girls?

I think they happen all thru High school and even into college.QUOTE]

DD2 (age 18 and out of HS) hardly ever sleeps home, and when she does, more often than not, she has a friend sleep over. It's been this way for the past 3 years or more.

 

[grumpy101]

Im 25 years old and I still sleep over at my friends house only because if we are doing something together as a group or if somebody had to much to drink.

 

[hambirg]

Count me in with the "they never end" crowd. When I was in high school I think every weekend I slept over or had a friend sleep over. Nothing bad ever happened. . .we didn't sneak out and get knocked up.

My DD15's BFF sleeps over almost every weekend (her Mom has a new boyfriend and that's a whole other thread ). They stay up late and sleep late. It's not a problem. They're both good kids.

 

[minkydog]

Well, dd's almost 21 and when she's home from college, I still find the occasional extra girl or two around in the morning. I never had a problem with sleepovers at my house or with dd staying at someone else's. I guess I can understand nixing them if you don't trust your kids or their friends but it seems kind of sad to me to limit them. I loved getting to know dd's friends really well by having them stay over and taking them on trips with us.

I feel the same way. Now that DD18 has gone off to college I hardly ever see her girl friends. I miss them almost as much as I miss her.

 

[Feckless]

My kids started doing sleepovers when they were 6, but with family friends they have known their whole lives. Regular friend sleepovers stared at about 8. My DS has only had one sleepover with anyone other than our friends - he just isn't that interested in being away from home. Now DD would have a sleepover every night if she could. I loved going on sleepovers when I was a kid and can't imagine depriving my kids of them, despite how brutal the next day is!

 

[Hannathy]

Also for teen girls, IMO, letting them sleepover someone else's house is just asking for the whole sneaking out thing where they may end up laid up somewhere with some teenage boy. I won't have that.

I find this point of view incredibly sad, and wonder what kind of kids you have?

And if teens want to have sex, there are plenty and better opportunities available than sneaking out of a sleep over.

 

[Mermaid02]

I'm 43 and my best friend stayed here a couple of weeks ago....

 

[RitaZ.]

I had them all the way through high school.

So did I. It was usually no more than 4 of us (girls) and we didn't sneak out to hook up with any boys. I have a lot of fond memories from those times.

I allow my kids to go to sleepovers and to have them at our house. I like their friends and I've gotten to know their families. I do have rules and keeping the noise level down is at the top of the list. My youngest is 13 and, so far, we haven't had any problems with sleepovers.

 

[charming23]

I'm 26 and my friends and I still have sleepovers. Most of the time they are out of necessity, but a lot of the time they are just to have a girls night full of movies and fun.

 

[quasar4legs]

My son is 20 and we are still having 'sleepovers'.
I keep feeding them and they keep staying

I kinda love having a house full of young men to fuss over, it's fun.

 

[Happy Mom2]

I agree - my daughters had sleepovers all the way through high school and into college if friends were home at the same time.

I think sleepovers are an important part of a preteen and teen girl's social life and I always feel sorry for the girls whose parents who won't allow them.

I agree. DD had her 1st sleep over in July, and now all her friends are doing the same. I will happily let her have them for years to come. I do prefer to have them on a Friday night so it doesn't interfere with church on Sunday.

In high school, we had co-ed sleepovers with my church youth group, and NO there was never any one fooling around. We were all just good friends.

 

[MrsJackSparrow4Life]

While the frequency of sleepovers slowed down after I hit about 15 or 16 they have never stopped altogether and I am almost 30

 

[beachcomber]

Never!!! I host a sleepover for my mom friends at my house once a year! We ship my husband and kids off to a hotel, and we have a blast. Some stay up all night, some cherish the idea of sleeping with no kid interruptions and go to bed early. We have a cheesy movie on sometimes, we get tipsy, we play games and we snack like crazy. And girls trips are awesome too!

 

[RabbitFood]

Neverending here (I hope!) My 17 y.o. daughter is having 4 of her friends sleep over tonight after their school's spirit fest. And that's fine with me (and her dad!) I'm happy knowing where she is and knowing that she and her friends always feel welcome in our home. And she and her friends love the monkey bread I make for them in the morning.
It does get chaotic when her younger brother has a sleepover, too (those dual sleepovers are usually reserved for special occasions like New Year's Eve). But honestly, I want my kids to always feel like they can bring their friends home and have a good time.

 

[C.Ann]

We did more sleepovers once we became teens, than when we were younger..

Unless you make it a house rule, I wouldn't expect them to end any time soon..

 

[mdsoccermom]

I had sleepovers all the way through high school. My daughter who is almost 13, loves sleepovers. The summer is packed with them. I fully expect her to have them all through her teens. My only rule is no sleepovers the night before a soccer game.

I find the attitude that a teen girl sleeping at a friend's home means they will sneak out and sleep around sad. I only have to wonder about the upbringing in that household to think it will be a problem.