What would you do? This is awkward!

[Donna M]

Well, you sure have gotten plenty of advise from all angles. My take is that maybe your daughter is of interest to him, or maybe he was just excited that he met some people that will be in the same area as him. I wouldn't think he's going to do anything illegal.

If it was me, I would probably just screen all the calls and not answer his. He will be leaving the area.

What I think I should do is explain to him that we actually don't want to meet up since we don't know him well enough. Did you say he was friendly? Hopefully he'll understand and it may help him later on.

 

[tinkerone]

only read two pages so this may have been addressed but.......i wouldn't report it to dcl. if he was 'off' getting him fired would not help. who knows what he could do then.
its highly unlikely he is in any way harmful BUT who wants to take the chance. i wouldn't. keep saying your busy and keep your eyes open for the next while.

 

[KingRichard]

Just tell him you got the Flu and it's not pretty!

 

[Evi]

Wow is all I can say. Lets start of with if your not comfortable sharing your info with someone don't. Better to be honest and upfront then create the awkward mess your in now. Why is he contacting you? You ask because he is young and is cultured enough to want to travel to new places and open minded enough to be willing to make friends with strangers. If you travel..outside of the US pretty much anywhere and talk to people and they enjoyed the conversation they will usually exchange contact info. Especially young people who want to travel and see new places and happen to be going to where you live.
I mean really I'm from Boston old Boston, like Main St. USA where you knew everyone who owned the Spa and butcher shop etc etc. The whole if it works in Peoria thing. Were not introverts as out of towners would think, its more of we are personal people. With all that said and done If I gave out my number I would meet up for lunch in a public place. Heck hes a kid I might even pay for his lunch call it a day and wish him well. You could even tell him your super busy and buy him a pass on a tour bus. I mean again maybe its me but I don't think its the big deal being made out to be. Hes just a kid traveling and got excited because he met people who lived somewhere he was going.

If not be upfront and say hey I know your not a bad kid but I'm really busy and don't have time to hang out I really wish you the best and a take care. Maybe we see you on our next cruise. Or man up and say look your freaking me out maybe I'm really paranoid and your a nice person but I'm not comfortable and don't want to make you feel bad but would rather you not contact me anymore.

Calling Disney to complain all I can say is shame on you..you shouldn't have given your number out and then get mad that he called you.

 

[missjudit]

Wow is all I can say. Lets start of with if your not comfortable sharing your info with someone don't. Better to be honest and upfront then create the awkward mess your in now. Why is he contacting you? You ask because he is young and is cultured enough to want to travel to new places and open minded enough to be willing to make friends with strangers. If you travel..outside of the US pretty much anywhere and talk to people and they enjoyed the conversation they will usually exchange contact info. Especially young people who want to travel and see new places and happen to be going to where you live.
I mean really I'm from Boston old Boston, like Main St. USA where you knew everyone who owned the Spa and butcher shop etc etc. The whole if it works in Peoria thing. Were not introverts as out of towners would think, its more of we are personal people. With all that said and done If I gave out my number I would meet up for lunch in a public place. Heck hes a kid I might even pay for his lunch call it a day and wish him well. You could even tell him your super busy and buy him a pass on a tour bus. I mean again maybe its me but I don't think its the big deal being made out to be. Hes just a kid traveling and got excited because he met people who lived somewhere he was going.

If not be upfront and say hey I know your not a bad kid but I'm really busy and don't have time to hang out I really wish you the best and a take care. Maybe we see you on our next cruise. Or man up and say look your freaking me out maybe I'm really paranoid and your a nice person but I'm not comfortable and don't want to make you feel bad but would rather you not contact me anymore.

Calling Disney to complain all I can say is shame on you..you shouldn't have given your number out and then get mad that he called you.

Very will said; lots of options. And, yes, I would not complain to Disney, either.

 

[briarrose1]

If not be upfront and say hey I know your not a bad kid but I'm really busy and don't have time to hang out I really wish you the best and a take care. Maybe we see you on our next cruise. Or man up and say look your freaking me out maybe I'm really paranoid and your a nice person but I'm not comfortable and don't want to make you feel bad but would rather you not contact me anymore.

Calling Disney to complain all I can say is shame on you..you shouldn't have given your number out and then get mad that he called you.[/QUOTE]

I do agree with the above. While he shouldn't have asked for in the first place, you could have said we'll get to you later, here's my email, give me your number, etc.

ALSO, if a young, male CM has been on the ship for 4-6 months, and he's going to see his "girlfriend" after that long a time on ship, I would think that would be the only thing he'd be interested in!!

 

[myfamilyluvs2cruise]

Just a quick update- we were busy all weekend long- and my husband got back to work this morning. Looks like he has called us 6-7 times over the weekend, but not left any additional messages.

I really appreciate everyone's thoughts and advice. This thread has to me been like an interersting sociological experiement, as the reactions range from "Definitely meet and what is wrong with you that you don't want new friends" to "YIKES- Report it to Disney" and everything in between. It is interesting to see how societal norms are so varied, and one person's comfort zone so does not work for someone else.

But everyone's advice has been helpful, and much appreciated! Perspectives are varied- but interesting.

As of right now, I probably would not report to Disney, since I do feel we should have said NO in the first place. It was unprofessional for him to keep asking us for private info, but he probably figured he was leaving the ship at the end of the week. We have no idea if he plans to go back for another contract- so maybe didn't care if he was violating any rule?

I agree that being upfront is important in just about everything in life, but it is definitely easier to just not pick up the phone.

Being busy is easy, as we always are.

So I guess we will take a little advice from everyone- and hopefully he stops calling. If my husband picks up, he will be straightforward, but kind.

Thanks again everyone!