What kind of wake/funeral do you want? Inspired by Camcolt, C.Ann and 4cruisin

[wishuponastarforever]

After reading Kyle's response on the thread about crazy things happening at a wake and writing my own response, I figured this was actually a seperate subject.

So - what kind of wake and or funeral do you want?

My plan when I lived in Texas was to be embalmed with ant killer so I could continue to kill the fire ants as long as I possibly could.


Now that we live elsewhere, I hope no one spends very much on the funeral. I just want to be cremated and scattered in the ocean. That way my family would have to go on a cruise to place flowers on my grave. I want the money to be spent on one huge party complete with fireworks, balloons, bubbles - the works!!!

 

[DawnCt1]

I want to be surrounded by beautiful flowers, the guests walking up to the casket with tears in their eyes and then have someone shout out loud; LOOK SHE'S ALIVE!!

 

[wvrevy]

I don't want one...I plan to live forever (or die tryin')

Seriously, I would prefer that my family and friends have something closer to a party than a wake...Remember the good times instead of regretting that their won't be more of them.

I'd also like it if my great-great-granddaughter would sing a lively song, so I guess I'll have to wait around for her to show up

 

[stinkerbelle]

I don't know about myself - but my younger brother has already planned his.

He wants an open bar to be placed next to his casket (so his friends have somethign to look at while they are waiting for a martini)

Then me and my DH are to foot the bill. hehehehe

 

[Chattyaholic]

Actually, I just answered this on the other thread

But, I too think this topic deserves to be a thread on its own.

I don't want a full blown 3-day long "funeral" when I die, it's just too hard on the family.

If I pass on before my DH, I would like to be cremated and have a short, private, commital service at the cemetary with just close family, and any close friends THEY choose to ask to come.

Same for if DH passes on before me, no long drawn-out affair for him either. Not sure if he wants to be cremated or not, guess I better find out. But just a short, private commital service at the cemetary with our close family and friends. His extended family wouldn't attend our wedding (religious reasons ) so there is no way I want them attending his funeral and coming up to me saying how sorry they are...blah blah blah...

And around here it's quite common to have a funeral dinner following the service and I don't agree with that either. Let the family go home and grieve together, without a big dinner where they still have to greet guests and make small talk, ugh!!!

 

[Minnie824]

I tell DH I want to be cremated and have my ashes spread in seven seas lagoon in wdw.

 

[Saffron]

That's exactly what I want! I want to be cremated and scattered all over WDW, especially the Lagoon! Then I want everyone to have a picnic, in the Florida sun and relax, just relax! If my someone insists on a memorial service, I want it to be lively and upbeat, like an outdoor service on a sunny day and a picnic afterwards, hamburgers and hotdogs all around! LOL! Just a rememberance of good things about life and meeting up again some day!

 

[minniepumpernickel]

Ooh good thread! I watch six feet under all of the time! I think being scattered on a beach would be really cool! No fighting over my assets either, perhaps I'll use them all up by that time anyway!

 

[Aurora63]

I would like my non-embalmed body to be buried under a tree...so I could be fertilizer for it. I saw that in a movie and it sounded like a pretty good idea, so that's what I'm sticking to! People could see the tree growing stronger, and maybe think of me, if they knew me, or if not, just admire it.

 

[wishuponastarforever]

You bring up an interesting point. I too have thought of having ashes scattered at WDW - thought it would be great - then my family would have an extra excuse to visit. If we all have thought of this - makes me wonder how many people have actually DONE this?????

 

[CamColt]

Boy, I ask 1 question and inspire 2 other threads, with the help of C Ann of course.

After attending my MIL's funeral today, I have a good idea of what I want and dont want.
First off, if the family I have left wants a wake, I dont mind, but I dont want them to have to sit in a receiving line. I despise having to either be in the line and have to talk to people I dont know, or go to one where I have to meet people for the first time during such a sad time for them.
Second, Ill be happy with a little memorial service in the funeral home as opposed to the whole church thing. We did that for my FIL and it was so easy. This morning seemed so long and draining for most of us. We started at the funeral home about 8:45, went to the church for a 10:00am mass, then to the cemetary for the prayer service there, then onto lunch. It seemed like we did so much driving around and it kept going on and on.
Another thing I dont want to be buried. Id much prefer to be cremated. Of course I like the idea of being scattered in WDW(where else), but realistically if that werent possible Id want to be in the ocean.
Finally a big party! This is what MIL planned and it really turned out great. Id estimate there were close to 100 people at the hall and a lot of laughs. There was even a cake with a picture of her in her clown outfit(she was clown that went around cheering up sick kids and stuff like that). There were ballons scattered all around and a dozen pink ones(her favorite color). In the end each grandkid and whoever else got one, let them go outside...to Nana in Heaven. Ironically, today was her birthday, so we joked that this was her birthday party. She had it all planned out because she had been sick for a while and I think it turned out just as she would have liked.

 

[Towncrier]

Dig a hole in the backyard and stick me in it. Or at least what's left of me after any useful organs have been harvested. No service. No flowers. No headstone. Either that or throw me out with the trash. Once I'm dead, my body serves me (or anyone else) no purpose.

 

[goofy4tink]

Part of me will be at WDW!! That will be in writing someplace. My 10 y/o dd will assume that duty, I'm sure. But before that, probably brief wake, then a celebration (I hope) of my life at the church where I attended as a child and all my kids were baptized, I was married in etc. Very upbeat music. A big party. Then what's left of me will go into a plot with my mom, to be joined at a later date by my dh and kids. The two things etched in stone are...WDW for a part of me and my recessional music will be "Lift High the Cross".

 

[palmtreegirl]

Originally posted by Minnie824
I tell DH I want to be cremated and have my ashes spread in seven seas lagoon in wdw.

Ahhh I think we stubbled on the real reason they don't allow swimming in the lagoon.

 

[palmtreegirl]

I don't want a traditional wake, I hate when people stare at me and I don't want them doing it when I'm dead either.

 

[Tigger&Tink]

I have always told my family,,,I wanted them to take ME to DISNEY for the REST of my (afterlife),,not a big deal,,just a little of me on BTM,, as they come around,,,,,a bit in the waters of POC,,,and a bit more during the Fire Works,,and I want a bit tossed off the TOP OF the WORLD...... I DO NOT want any SAD long drawn out days for them,,a party at WDW would be the best,,,,,,I mean I know it is NORMAL to be sad for a time,,,BUT 20 mins should do IT..THEN PARTYYYYYYYYYYYYY in my name !!!!

note:---I don't plan on going for a while though I HOPE

 

[Robinrs]

I agree with Towncrier... throw me in a hole.

Smile for me, I'll finally be happy.

 

[Pongo69]

Honestly it really doesn't matter. I DO not want my dh to spend lots of money on a funeral The body in the casket is just a shell which housed my spirit which has already ascended into the HEAVENS.

IN other words I JUST WANT TO BE WITH MY HEAVENLY FATHER WHEN MY TIME COMES

 

[C.Ann]

I think I answered this on some other thread but..

If DH goes first, he will be cremated and his ashes will be buried in a military cemetery.. Then when I die, I'll be cremated and my ashes will be buried there as well..

However, should I go first, I have instructed my DH, DD, & SIL to have me cremated - save my ashes (well - it's not really like I expect them to throw them out or anything - LOL) and then when DH dies I want them to mix our ashes together and scatter them somewhere up to the lake.. So be forewarned - if you're in the Adirondacks near a lake someday in the future - going for a nice leisurely drive with the car windows down - and you happen to get something "in your eye", it very well could be my DH and I - LOL........

I have a nice life insurance policy that I don't want wasted on a fancy wake, coffin, and long, drawn out funeral.. Just torch me for a few bucks, stick my ashes in some sort of container (actually I think I'd like a Folger's coffee can) and then use the proceeds from the life insurance policy for something FUN - like an awesome no-holds-barred trip to Disney World!!!!!!!!!!

 

[Talking Hands]

A celebration of life at my church where I am a member with lots of music and very little preaching. Then I want my ashes scattered over Bay Lake.