What do you silently judge people for?

[KatMac]

People who suffer from the Dunning-Kruger effect. I judge them like crazy. And omg did 2020 bring about a record number of my judging these people. Unfortunately, it appears many people have extended their close association with Dunning and Kruger into 2021.

There seems to be a LOT of that around Covid-19. You know the type. They know a tiny bit about science, but have nothing more than a high school education. Yet they are convinced they know way more than the men and women who have studied epidemiology, microbiology, virology and immunology for dozens of years. They speak with great conviction about their nutty ideas. About half of the population suffers through the stupidity. As soon as they walk away from these people, they sigh and roll their eyes and go home to complain to their families about having to listen to another one. The other half hangs on every word. They spread it to other gullible people. Boom! A conspiracy theory is born of utter and complete ignorance.

The more you know, the more you humbly realize you don’t know. When you know little, you tend not to know what you don’t know. It results in a lot of foolishness.

 

[godisney14]

Pre-pandemic: people spitting on the ground and not washing hands after doing business in the restroom.

Pandemic: same as above but feel even stronger about it.

 

[Jimmy Mouse]

Smokers. I judge them. Nothing disgust me more than someone walking in my store reeking of smoke and breathing their nasty breath all over me. Do they not realize that they stink? Plus they have no respect for anyone's property. If they did they wouldn't throw their butts on the ground for others to clean up.

 

[AppleDumpling]

I judge people who openly push gender bias to children - "boys don't cry, man up, he's too sensitive, that's just for girls, he needs to toughen up" are all comments we've heard from people about our son - some people were family some not.

it weirds me out. and if i hear people doing it, i'm judging them. we gave my son a toy vacuum cleaner for his birthday when he turned 3 - the only one i could find was pink (which, again, seriously....?)

Yeah, that’s annoying. My DS also had a toy vacuum when he was little. It was a Dirt Devil, it was red, and it really worked. He’s grown now (24) and still likes to vacuum. Gave him a Shark when he moved into his own apartment; he was thrilled to get it.

The same people who do this are the ones who refer to a father caring for their own children as babysitting.

 

[tcufrog]

A friend of mine likes her own Facebook posts and comments. I haven't said anything to her but I do silently judge. This has been really bugging me so it's nice to finally tell someone.

 

[mrodgers]

it weirds me out. and if i hear people doing it, i'm judging them. we gave my son a toy vacuum cleaner for his birthday when he turned 3 - the only one i could find was pink (which, again, seriously....?)

Every time they came over, the kid would immediately go for my daughters' little Red Devil (yes, it was red, not pink) and he didn't freak, but kept taking it away constantly. You can see it in his face him holding back the freaking out.

 

[DisneyMommy77]

1. People with unkept messy houses.....at least try to pick-up once in a while. How does it not bother you???

2. People that put 0% effort into their health. Yes, I am talking to you co-worker that eats the jumbo M&Ms bag, Large Fritos bag and liter of Coke all at once in work meetings.

3. People with poor work ethics.

4. People that can’t make decisions.

5. People that can’t meet deadlines.

6.Hypocrites.

7. People that judge others

 

[mrodgers]

I gave my DS a real ironing board, iron and spray starch when he was a sophomore in HS. He had to wear a shirt and tie every day and I had enough of ironing for him and his sister. He used them every day while he was in HS and still does when he needs something pressed.

My DD has never used them and just wore a sweater over her blouses in HS to avoid ironing.

It's not teaching the boys to be sissies, it's teaching them to be adults.

My buddy needed that lesson. Lived with his dad and when he got a job in a department store, almost every day he's riding his bicycle through the neighborhood with a shirt and tie waving off a hanger for my mom to iron it for him, LOL. He needed me to tie his tie for him, then slip it off my neck so he could put it on and tighten it up... after the shirt was ironed, obviously

 

[mi*vida*loca]

People who make 6 figures but claim it’s not a lot of money.

 

[tzolkin]

I think that silently judging people is wrong even for little things.
...People think it is ok to judge someone for their fashion choices, or their driving style, and before long people are ok with silently judging others based on peoples skin color, religion, sexual orientation, etc, because everyone does it.

Have you never assessed that someone was rude/mean? Or manipulative/untrustworthy? Or unsafe (like a sexual predator or physical abuser)?

To me, these would all fall under the broad category of making judgements about a person based on their behavior. And these types of judgement are essential to protecting yourself and your loved ones from potential harm. I view being a good judge of character as an asset, not a character flaw.

I know there are lots of habits that have “slippery-slope” potential. But I think this is different. I believe it is possible to keep a strong division between judging people based on their actions/behavior and judging or making assumptions based on their race/gender/sexual orientation/etc.

 

[Heigh-Ho]

Who you like in sports, that one may not be always silent

 

[Mackenzie Click-Mickelson]

Who you like in sports, that one may not be always silent

So true! College or professional. Living where I live there is a Border rivalry but in sports that is mostly college level because professional our NFL, MLB, our mid-level hockey team are all in the other state, but our MLS and minor league baseball are located on my side of the state line. NBA may be coming to our metro but that is still up in the air. But in terms of college sports the rivalry is strong with border wars. The border wars date back to pre-Civil war era issues between the two states. There's rarely any silence to the judging of sports though with the rivalries

 

[AppleDumpling]

Reckless drivers who weave in and out of traffic, cut people off, blow through stop signs and red lights, talk on cell phone, or any other action that endangers everyone else on the road.

People in a fast food restaurant or cafeteria who don’t throw out their trash and leave their table a mess. (Unless it is clear there is an employee whose job it is to bus and clean tables.)

People who use the F-bomb constantly in everyday conversation, in the form of noun, verb and adjective. IMO, it just sounds low-class and immature, and like any other word, it loses its impact when overused. These people need to expand their vocabulary.

 

[kdonnel]

Better to live and let live.

 

[Lilsia]

Parent's who obviously don't give a fig about their kids and want to be their friend instead of the parent. Mac and cheese and nuggets is not a nutritious, every day meal for them. Letting them run around and scream the whole time that you are in a store. Thinking your son's bad behavior is excusable because "boys will be boys" mentality. Bringing a newborn baby out anywhere, especially to a theme park. I don't think society is doing a good job of warning young people how hard having kids is. They think it's like having a puppy and it's a cute accessory. If you have a kid, you will not be able to do everything that you were able to do before. I think it comes down to a general uptick in selfishness now. Living in the midwest, I have seen an incredible amount of people that go out in winter and don't have coats on their kids and they are bundled up. Including many small babies that have no winter gear at all. How is this not common sense?

 

[fly girl]

Oh my. There is absolutely no doubt I have been judged on here by a whole lot of you! Yes, I am talking to you grammar police. I will admit, writing has never been my strong suit. I am a math and science person. I have a solid grasp on there/their/they're, but in the moment of feverishly typing to get my opinion out, all bets are off.

And yes, I am guilty of the every.single.time. period between words too. I don't use it habitually, but I am guilty! I use it solely to get an exasperated point across.

To all of you Judgy McJudgersons of the grammar world, no doubt I have made you bonkers. Oh well, you'll live.



My silent judgements:

Parents who are not coaches, but coach their kids from the sidelines during a game.
People who have facial tattoos. (not the make-up ones, I get micro blading)
Anyone who litters. I really don't like you.
Grocery aisle hogs. Move your cart to the side if you are debating something, chatting it up with a neighbor, or looking for your coupon.
People who treat service industry workers poorly. I cannot stand when people act as if they are better than someone.

 

[1GoldenSun]

Bad grammar seems to be a big one. This really doesn't bother me unless it's my kids doing it. They know this, too. Another one of Mom's buttons to push, haha.

 

[tarheelmjfan]

Parent's who obviously don't give a fig about their kids and want to be their friend instead of the parent. Mac and cheese and nuggets is not a nutritious, every day meal for them. Letting them run around and scream the whole time that you are in a store. Thinking your son's bad behavior is excusable because "boys will be boys" mentality. Bringing a newborn baby out anywhere, especially to a theme park. I don't think society is doing a good job of warning young people how hard having kids is. They think it's like having a puppy and it's a cute accessory. If you have a kid, you will not be able to do everything that you were able to do before. I think it comes down to a general uptick in selfishness now. Living in the midwest, I have seen an incredible amount of people that go out in winter and don't have coats on their kids and they are bundled up. Including many small babies that have no winter gear at all. How is this not common sense?

You definitely would have judged me, when DS was young. Having him didn't change my life at all other than we no longer went to parties or clubs. I still did the things I wanted to do. I just always had a +1 with me. I had him on a Friday, went home on Sunday & we both spent all day the following Saturday at a gym watching my nieces & nephews play basketball. DH worked long hours & I didn't trust babysitters that weren't my mom or sisters. That meant he literally went everywhere I did, after we moved away from them, when he was two. I was fortunate that he understood sit still & be quiet as a toddler & complied. I did always make sure he was warm in winter & cool enough in summer, so that may be the only thing I wouldn't have been judged for. I was also judged by people I knew for being overprotective, so more judgement wouldn't have bothered me.

 

[Lizgistix]

Plus they have no respect for anyone's property.

You're generalizing. Not all smokers are inconsiderate. Yes, there are people out there who are, but we're not all like that.

 

[Lizgistix]

I silently judge people who don't wear a mask or wear it improperly.
I judge people who toss their cigarette out of the car. Hello, you dropped something! Jerk.
I judge people who toss their garbage out of their car. Excuse me, litter bug!