What are some of your personal “rules” that you never break ?

[AnnaFloridaLover]

Im not going to list things which are really just abiding by the law (no drinking and driving or illegally parking in the disabled spaces, etc)

Personal rules:

Use a racial/sexist/homophobic/transphobic slur in my home, I will call you out on it and explain tht it is not welcome in my home. Do it a second time and I will ask you to leave and you re not invited back. I'd rather be uncomfortable confronting that sort of thing than complicit by letting it slide.

Does this type of situation happen often? I've never felt the need to call someone out or kick anyone out of my home for their views. Everyone we host is respectful and tolerant of others or if they aren't they wisely keep those views to themselves.

 

[cruiser21]

I never, never, ever drink alcohol prior to going to church. (Usually go on Saturday evening.).

Now-I have no issue having an adult beverage after church, but never before.

I'm glad you clarified the Saturday evening. LOL.

 

[Ladyandthepuppies]

My personal rule is that blood doesn't make you family. I was abused by my brothers growing up and I'm happy to say that I will never talk to them again. People who don't get it are always so sad that I've cut them out of my life, but the truth is that they're terrible people and I am a happier person without them. I always tell my kids that they need to treat each other with decency and respect because that's what a real family does.

Another rule is that I will not eat at a restaurant in a large group unless the payment situation is settled in advance. If I know we can all get separate checks, or one person has offered to pick up the check, or we have all agreed to split it equally, etc. then I'm in. But I have gone out with grown adults more than once and at the end watched them pass the bill around (and around and around) and come up short from the total. It was incredibly embarrassing and at least three times I put extra $ in just to get out of that situation. Never again.

 

[cruiser21]

Does this type of situation happen often? I've never felt the need to call someone out or kick anyone out of my home for their views. Everyone we host is respectful and tolerant of others or if they aren't they wisely keep those views to themselves.

Me neither.
In not going to tell people what they can say or not say. That's on them it's not a reflection of me.

 

[DeniseJH]

Me neither.
In not going to tell people what they can say or not say. That's on them it's not a reflection of me.

I've never had this situation, but I'd follow the exact same rule as NHdisneylover if it occurred. There are some things that are beyond tolerable, and beyond condoning.

 

[LSUmiss]

Me neither.
In not going to tell people what they can say or not say. That's on them it's not a reflection of me.

I will tell ppl what they can & can’t say in front of my child if it’s in my home. If we are in public or their house, I would remove us from the situation.

 

[cruiser21]

I've never had this situation, but I'd follow the exact same rule as NHdisneylover if it occurred. There are some things that are beyond tolerable, and beyond condoning.

I never hear people talk like that. I don't think it's a common thing.

 

[cruiser21]

I will tell ppl what they can & can’t say in front of my child if it’s in my home. If we are in public or their house, I would remove us from the situation.

There's this thing called social media that kids gravitate to at a certain age. Nothing that anybody says in public is going to be worse then what they see and read online. I wish that wasn't the case, but it is.

 

[low-key]

My personal rule is that blood doesn't make you family. I was abused by my brothers growing up and I'm happy to say that I will never talk to them again.

Im sorry cant imagine how much that messes with you thru out life

 

[MillauFr]

I always hit 16 when the dealer is showing a face card.

 

[DeniseJH]

There's this thing called social media that kids gravitate to at a certain age. Nothing that anybody says in public is going to be worse then what they see and read online. I wish that wasn't the case, but it is.

I agree - but I also think that it is a good thing for them to see that this is not acceptable, especially from their parents. They lead by example.

 

[LSUmiss]

There's this thing called social media that kids gravitate to at a certain age. Nothing that anybody says in public is going to be worse then what they see and read online. I wish that wasn't the case, but it is.

Young children usually don’t have access to social media. I’m not talking about a teenager.

 

[arminnie]

I have never parked in a “handicap” parking space, and never would.

I never did either, but I very quickly became handicapped last year. Now I can’t walk, have a van with a lift (yea! I just got it) and of course handicapped plates.

And it STILL feels weird to pull into one of those spots. If I get someplace early that only has a couple of HC spots I’ll take a regular spot if I can still be fairly close.

 

[ols386]

I never did either, but I very quickly became handicapped last year. Now I can’t walk, have a van with a lift (yea! I just got it) and of course handicapped plates.

And it STILL feels weird to pull into one of those spots. If I get someplace early that only has a couple of HC spots I’ll take a regular spot if I can still be fairly close.

I’m so very sorry that you’ve become handicapped. It must be difficult.

 

[cruiser21]

Young children usually don’t have access to social media. I’m not talking about a teenager.

I wish you luck, but most kids start on the internet pretty early these days.

 

[cruiser21]

I agree - but I also think that it is a good thing for them to see that this is not acceptable, especially from their parents. They lead by example.

I guess I'm just not a confrontational person. I prefer to discuss things in private with my kids rather then make a scene. That's more the example I prefer.

 

[LSUmiss]

I wish you luck, but most kids start on the internet pretty early these days.

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Um not before school age. But good for you if nothing is off limits in front of your kids b/c they might see it anyway.

 

[DeniseJH]

I guess I'm just not a confrontational person. I prefer to discuss things in private with my kids rather then make a scene. That's more the example I prefer.

That's fine, to me there are some things worth making a scene over. Intolerance,such as NHdisneylover was talking about, is one of them and would not be allowed in my home.

 

[arminnie]

I’m so very sorry that you’ve become handicapped. It must be difficult.

Thank you. It is weird, but I am adapting.

A little over a year ago I could walk 4 miles at a good clip and walk up to the 5th floor using the stairs. Then my left leg started being weird. A major nerve is now totally dead for some unknown reason.

But I am so fortunate. It is all below the waist- not from the brain which means it is not MS or ALS. And I have no pain at all.

I am still able to stand up (with some assistance) and can walk a few steps with a walker. That gives me so much more freedom in transferring, dressing, bathing, etc.

Fortunately I could afford to get the van and lift. At other points in my life I wouldn’t have had the funds to buy a cane. So I am grateful for what I do have.

 

[cruiser21]

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Um not before school age. But good for you if nothing is off limits in front of your kids b/c they might see it anyway.

What about after school age? Get back me to me in 10 years and let me know how that worked out. BTW my kids have turned out just fine.