What are some of your personal “rules” that you never break ?

[cruiser21]

That's fine, to me there are some things worth making a scene over. Intolerance,such as NHdisneylover was talking about, is one of them and would not be allowed in my home.

I guess that's fine. Whatever works for you. I prefer being tolerant over intolerance.

 

[DeniseJH]

I guess that's fine. Whatever works for you. I prefer being tolerant over intolerance.

As is your right.

 

[cruiser21]

As is your right.

Just curious where do you people hang out that your kids are hearing bad language and racial slurs. My kids are 14 and 16 and they've never been exposed to that in real life. Internet yes.

 

[DeniseJH]

Just curious where do you people hang out that your kids are hearing bad language and racial slurs. My kids are 14 and 16 and they've never been exposed to that in real life. Internet yes.

Unless I missed a tangent again, I'm talking about adult guests in my home (or children, for that matter), as was what NHdisneylover's post (pg. 4) was about. I've been following the line of discussion with this as the premise.

 

[LSUmiss]

What about after school age? Get back me to me in 10 years and let me know how that worked out. BTW my kids have turned out just fine.

Get back to you in 10 years & let you know how what worked out? And, I’m not there yet so there are things that I will not allow in my home in front of my child. Are you saying there was nothing off limits even when your children were very young?

 

[LSUmiss]

Just curious where do you people hang out that your kids are hearing bad language and racial slurs. My kids are 14 and 16 and they've never been exposed to that in real life. Internet yes.

Unfortunately, DH has extended family who engage in behavior that we don’t think is appropriate so they’re not welcome in our house. I have never had to throw them out or make a scene b/c they are never invited.

 

[cruiser21]

Get back to you in 10 years & let you know how what worked out? And, I’m not there yet so there are things that I will not allow in my home in front of my child. Are you saying there was nothing off limits even when your children were very young?

I'm not around people that do anything that's off limits. My family is just not like that. I'm not going to confront a stranger...people are nuts. There are people in my family or work life that have different political, religious views or life style choices that I don't agree with, but I'm not going to alienate them.

 

[LSUmiss]

I'm not around people that do anything that's off limits. My family is just not like that. I'm not going to confront a stranger...people are nuts. There are people in my family or work life that have different political, religious views or life style choices that I don't agree with, but I'm not going to alienate them.

Differing Political or religious views are one thing. The family we do choose to be around is polite enough to not discuss these things anyway. But life style choices can mean a lot of things. We do choose not to associate with ppl (family or otherwise) who engage in behavior that we are morally opposed to.

 

[kdonnel]

Just curious where do you people hang out that your kids are hearing bad language and racial slurs. My kids are 14 and 16 and they've never been exposed to that in real life. Internet yes.

Your kids hear racial slurs and more at school, especially being middle and high school age. According to my wife who works in an elementary school, profanity in general is rarely used by kids in Kindergarten but ramps up to include racial overtones by 2nd or 3rd grade.

 

[cruiser21]

Your kids hear racial slurs and more at school, especially being middle and high school age. According to my wife who works in an elementary school, profanity in general is rarely used by kids in Kindergarten but ramps up to include racial overtones by 2nd or 3rd grade.

you are so right about this. You can kick people out o your home....but school internet? You can't control everything .

 

[Disneylover99]

Just curious where do you people hang out that your kids are hearing bad language and racial slurs. My kids are 14 and 16 and they've never been exposed to that in real life. Internet yes.

Definitely Highschool. I wouldn’t have believed it if I didn’t hear it myself when my windows are rolled down and I pick up my son from school.

 

[DeniseJH]

you are so right about this. You can kick people out o your home....but school internet? You can't control everything .

Of course they are going to hear it elsewhere, but if it should happen in the home, or whenever they are with their parents, it is the parents job (IMO) to teach them that it is inexcusable, and to set that example.

 

[RangerPooh]

I'm a rule follower for the most part. So I often have a difficult time going against them...unless I'm in a po'd mood.

Do have a social media rule- I don't friend my parents on facebook.

 

[Marchand63]

everyone in my car will be buckle up
no looking at your phone while driving or having a meal or a conversation

 

[NHdisneylover]

Does this type of situation happen often? I've never felt the need to call someone out or kick anyone out of my home for their views. Everyone we host is respectful and tolerant of others or if they aren't they wisely keep those views to themselves.

I've only had to ask someone to leave once---I have had to tell someone to cut it out or leave a few times:

We used to host cast parties for a local community theatre---"that's so gay" was a fairly common insult among the younger attendees- I'd nicely pull them aside and let them know why it was not acceptable in my home and that I did not want to hear it again. Never had to ask someone to leave.

DH has a young coworker who can be fairly homophobic and racist---was here watching a football match and when one of the players, of Turkish descent, missed a goal he went on about "fish eyes" and a variety of other racial slurs. I told him if he wanted to keep using racist slurs while watching he needed to find somewhere else to watch the game (DH totally backs me up here). He shut up.

For a few years we were part of a group for a wine tasting evening that was hosted monthly. winners picked the grapes for the next event and losers hosted next. When we hosted someone new was brought along by others. Something in the news came up in conversations and he talked about "those n-words blah blah blah" We told him that type of language is not allowed in our home. He settled down for a bit, then started up again talking to someone else (so I guess he thought if he wasn't talking to us directly, he could be as racist as he wanted to be=---we told him to leave. Several guests thanked us as he was making them all uncomfortable--but most had kids in school with his and were afraid to say anything and make waves that could trickle down to affect the kids.
He was plenty old enough to know better. Never saw him again---don*t really care.

Just curious where do you people hang out that your kids are hearing bad language and racial slurs. My kids are 14 and 16 and they've never been exposed to that in real life. Internet yes.

Um, the real world?

I find it hard to imagine that by teen years they've never heard it at a public event, large family gathering, etc. EVER.

 

[cruiser21]

I've only had to ask someone to leave once---I have had to tell someone to cut it out or leave a few times:

We used to host cast parties for a local community theatre---"that's so gay" was a fairly common insult among the younger attendees- I'd nicely pull them aside and let them know why it was not acceptable in my home and that I did not want to hear it again. Never had to ask someone to leave.

DH has a young coworker who can be fairly homophobic and racist---was here watching a football match and when one of the players, of Turkish descent, missed a goal he went on about "fish eyes" and a variety of other racial slurs. I told him if he wanted to keep using racist slurs while watching he needed to find somewhere else to watch the game (DH totally backs me up here). He shut up.

For a few years we were part of a group for a wine tasting evening that was hosted monthly. winners picked the grapes for the next event and losers hosted next. When we hosted someone new was brought along by others. Something in the news came up in conversations and he talked about "those n-words blah blah blah" We told him that type of language is not allowed in our home. He settled down for a bit, then started up again talking to someone else (so I guess he thought if he wasn't talking to us directly, he could be as racist as he wanted to be=---we told him to leave. Several guests thanked us as he was making them all uncomfortable--but most had kids in school with his and were afraid to say anything and make waves that could trickle down to affect the kids.
He was plenty old enough to know better. Never saw him again---don*t really care.



Um, the real world?

I find it hard to imagine that by teen years they've never heard it at a public event, large family gathering, etc. EVER.

Internet yes other kids occasionally. Family never work never. My kids have friend that loves 4 letter words. He has a black freind that loves the N word. I can't remember the last time I heard racial slur in public. Maybe it depends on what part of the country you live in.

 

[DLgal]

I don't buy or eat generic cereal. It's a stupid rule, but I won't break it. That stuff is disgusting.

 

[soccerdad72]

Never friend a co-worker (current or ex) on Facebook or other social media sites.

 

[cruiser21]

Never use Facebook or twitter

 

[Seahorse17]

Never to use a swear word