Wedding Thank You Notes

[Lionqueen2]

That's it. Sometimes I just want to know that they got the gift. For instance, at one wedding the bride's father was in charge of collecting "the envelopes". I don't even know if the couple ever received my gift. I never heard anything about it and the groom is related to me.

A similar thing happened to me. We were told to put 'gift envelopes' on a tray on the gift table. It has been over a year and we still have not received a thank you. I don't even know if the bride and groom ever received my gift.

 

[Goofyzgurl]

DD was invited to her summer camp counselor's wedding last summer. We didn't go b/c we had prior engagements but I did send a gift. No thank you note though.

 

[dcgrumpy]

what do the photos have to do with the thank you notes? unless again it's regional thing-when i have gotten wedding thank you notes i've never received a photo (baby gifts maybe-weddings never).

I guess it is regional, I've never received a thank you note without a photo of the bride and groom.

 

[Aprille]

i can do you one better never got a thank you for the wedding gift, 2 years later get an envelope in the mail with a printed letter 'apologizing' for sending the enclosed thank-you note (in a sealed addressed envelope with a return address on it) so late but that they had been 'completed timely' and accidentaly packed away and 'forgotten' when the couple moved soon after the wedding. critical error-the address on the envelope of the 'timely' thank-you note enclosed was one we had only been at for a couple of months, and the return address was one the b/g had'nt moved to until about a year and a half after they married (so no way it was written 2 years earlier ). surprise, surprise-3 days later the invite to the baby shower arrives.

Are you kidding me?!?! That is pathetic!

I'll give them props for creativity (sort of) but it certainly wasn't very well thought out.

As to the original topic - unfortunately not getting thank you notes is getting to be more of the norm for us too. I'm downright surprised (and delighted!) when I do actually get one. That is just sad.

 

[dcgrumpy]

playing devil's advocate, if I found thank you cards with old addresses I would put them into new envelopes with the correct address.

 

[Coll0610]

My mom had complained for years about not getting thank you notes from her god-daughter (my cousin). The final straw was when she didn't receive a thank you note from the wedding. The last gift my mom ever gave her was an etiquette book with a bookmark in the chapter on thay you notes. (She didn't get a note for that gift either).

 

[MosMom]

I think it is a no home training thing. If they aren't raised to do it, they don't know to do it (although, seems like common sense).

 

[disneygirl725]

In March, we went to a second cousin's wedding, and she appears to be well off. They didn't cash the check for about 2 months!!

When they sent the thank you cards, my name was spelled wrong!!!! We got the thank you 3 months later.

For all other wedding's, I've always received a think you card. And I've been to plenty of weddings over the past few years too!!

 

[CJBaby]

I've never received a thank you note without a photo of the bride and groom.

Neither have I. That's why I love receiving wedding thank yous, and why I even enclose party pics for children's birthday party thank-yous.

 

[RitaZ.]

My mom had complained for years about not getting thank you notes from her god-daughter (my cousin). The final straw was when she didn't receive a thank you note from the wedding. The last gift my mom ever gave her was an etiquette book with a bookmark in the chapter on thay you notes. (She didn't get a note for that gift either).

I guess some people will never get it.

 

[summerrluvv]

I don't give gifts expecting a thank you card. While it's nice, it doesn't bother me if I don't get one.

 

[jagafen]

I haven't heard of a Bride who doesn't use some sort of planning book as a guide while planning their wedding....and they ALL address thank you notes, and the propriety and timing of sending them out. To not send an acknowledgement of a gift is thoughless and rude, when people have generally spent hundreds on a gift, let alone lodging and travel costs to boot.....by not sending a thank you, you are telling your guest that their gift is more important then their presence, and since you have the one, you don't need to address the other.

We just came back from a wedding. My husband and I have been married for 2 years. Our invitation was addressed to Mr. Marc G and GUEST. The groom works with my husband, and had told his fiancee what my name was....we sent them a gift from the registry, and I signed the card Marc and Jennifer G....lo and behold, we arrive at the reception site, and our place card says Marc and GUEST. I couldn't help but be offended. To not properly acknowledge your guests, or pay attention to those "little details" that slip by you, just shows a lack of thought and attention to detail. While the purpose of a wedding is the union of two people, if you're going to invite guests, I feel it is the bride and groom's responsibility to make those guests feel welcome. I'm not saying they have to roll out the red carpet and fawn at our feet, but we are talking about a little common courtesy here....BTW...I'm not expecting to get a thank-you from the happy couple....

 

[Grumpy's Gal]

when I got married, my relatives packed up the gifts and took them home for me since I left for my honeymoon right after the reception.

There were about 8 gifts or so that the cards had came off of so I had no idea who gave me them. The cards never turned up at all. When you receive so many gifts at one time, and it's late and people have been drinking, they're not too careful about keeping the card with the gift, at least for my helpful relatives anyway.

we kept a roll of scotch tape at our gift table and the attendants made sure every single card on a gift was TAPED to it when they loaded them up to take home.

 

[Conservative Hippie]

My mom made sure we wrote thank you's for every graduation gift, so I most certainly wrote them for all my wedding gifts. I had a baby shower last week and I haven't started on those yet, though. (For reference, I'm 25.)

I didn't get thank you's from my littlest brother's graduation gift or from my other little brother's wedding gift, but I forgive them.

 

[KnJ]

I have been married for three months, but still working on the Thank Yous, but everyone will get one

 

[Princess_Michelle]

OK, I'll reveal my deep dirty secret ........I have been married for 5 and 1/2 years and never sent out Thank You Cards!! OK, now let me defend myself...

First off...My parents were spoiled rotten and weren't raised to practice such proprieties. SO, they didn't teach us about that stuff either. I was about 16 or so when I first learned such things occured, so it wasn't ingrained into my psyche...

Second...My DH and I were both in the Army at the time (of engagement). We kind of HAD to get married there so we would be stationed together. I basically had 6 or 7 months to plan a wedding in Monterey, CA (which hello, is one of the most expensive places ever) Did I mention that I had never even BEEN to a wedding before AND that my family all lived in the South, and his in PA??

Third.....We had to time it just right for everything to work, which meant; we had to get married the weekend after we took all our Final Exams, speaking exams, etc. basically, really hard Chinese tests that we had been preparing for since we started the course, 62 weeks ago. So, in addition to planning a wedding (with no family near me) I had to study/practice for life altering exams, AND a final PT test, While preparing to outprocess, while packing up to do a DITY move to Texas AND freaking out b/c my company at the last minute planned a weekend training exercise, you guessed it, the weekend of my wedding.

So, it all worked out, finished all my tests, the next day I had to start picking up people from the airport & showing them around. The next day, we got our test scores (whew, passed). Everyone else arrived THAT night. PT test next day and rehearsal that night. Wedding on Saturday, everyone (yes, us too) drives up to San Francisco on Sunday. On Monday, start to outprocess and get into high gear packing mode (mandatory formations out the wazoo) AND family still in town. Graduation ceremony on Thursday, say goodbye to family that night. Final outprocess Friday morning, pack up car, say good-bye to DLI, leave for Texas that night. Have to be there by Sunday. Check in at AFB in Texas. Find place to live, unpack, go buy stuff for house. More intense training for 4 months. Then, shipped to Hawaii. Live in hotel for a month. Get a new apt, FINALLY atleast get thank you's out to church family, start on everyone else's.....and yeah, that's as far as I got.

I apologize for my incredibly rude and uncouth behavior............but it felt good to get that out....

 

[aprilgail2]

I guess it is regional, I've never received a thank you note without a photo of the bride and groom.

I have not either, they all come with the picture in them. One of my cousins in another state has not sent out thank you's for their wedding and it was about 3 years ago. Its a big joke at family gatherings here now to say "hey, you get that thank you not from John and his wife-it was really nice wasn't it".....sort of a running joke in the family.
I taught my daughter from the time she could hold a pencil (even if her name was scribbled on there) that she writes a thank you note for every gift, even if the person handed it right to her at her party and she said thank you to them that it is good manners to follow up with a thank you card. She sends them to all the kids that come to her birthday party too. Funny thing is that ever since my baby shower I get those cards out so quick, one day I had friends over and they gave her a gift and when they were leaving they said they half expected the thank you card to beat them home because we are so prompt with them,(they live 30 minutes away LOL)

 

[LindsayDunn228]

I think it is a no home training thing. If they aren't raised to do it, they don't know to do it (although, seems like common sense).

I totally agree. When I graduated high school, my mom was on me right from the start to get my thank-you notes done. Graduated from college, same thing. After my wedding showers, it was the first thing I did after I got all the gifts home.

It's about respect and courtesy. I wish people would show more of it.

 

[Nancyg56]

My favorite is when I received a thank you note for a wedding 7 months later, and two weeks after that, received an invitation to their baby shower. I have yet to receive a thank you note from that (it has been 2 years).

This is what has been happening to me lately. I get the thank you just before, or as in the last time, the same day I receive the next invitation.
I honestly don't worry about thank you card for much but I often wonder why I don't receive one for a wedding or for a shower.

 

[powellrj]

I had no idea people sent pictures with wedding thank-yous. It really must be a regional thing. Since DS is getting married in a few months, I have been reading more and more current wedding info and I have never seen it listed anyplace.