Was I Wrong Not To Go...?

[C.Ann]

When DH responded that he was unable to attend, if they wanted you there, they should have emailed back "what about AKL Megs?". They didnt so how were you to know????

This..

I'd just say "I'm sorry, DH didn't tell me about the party so I didn't know about it or I would have been there. Next time, could you email both of us?"

And this..

DD and her DH were invited to two birthday parties this past weekend.. In both cases, both names were mentioned - as well as my DGD's name.. They went and had a great time.. They have never received an invite (email or otherwise) from family or friends where only "one" person was mentioned..That sounds so odd to me..

I wouldn't worry about it.. If you feel bad, you could still send a gift or a gift card - if you'd like..

 

[NHdisneylover]

For what it's worth, I have the same memory (could be that we are both going insane).

And (assuming we are not going insane), I like your advice.

Thanks--it is nice to feel like I either remember correctly or at least have a buddy in my insanity

 

[NaLisa]

The good thing about living in the south is that our email invitation would have said, "You All are invited..."

You mean "Ya'll are invited," right?

 

[Mouse House Mama]

OP I think you ar ejust grasping at straws to blame someone else because you didn't want to go. It's no big deal if you didn't want to go but own up at least. You did know about the party since your MIL told you on Friday and the party was Sunday. I doubt you would be viewed as a "party crasher" and I think that term is a bit silly for you to use. Do you need a formal invitation and red carpet? It was a child's birthday party. You are under no obligation to go but acting like you had no idea when you did is imo ridiculous and if I was a family member I would roll my eyes at it. Keep in mind that you will have a child soon...

 

[EllenFrasier]

Why would adults care if another adult came to a kid's birthday party? Now if you had a child and didn't come, then they might have something to say because I think it's important to try to get my kids to their cousin's parties as it is often the only time they see each other all year.

As for the invitation, I agree with the others that say when one spouse is invited to this type of informal party, the invitation includes the other spouse and if there were children, then the children unless specifically excluding them.
Children's parties are totally boring so I can't blame you for skipping this one, but if your reason for skipping going is because you thought you were not invited, then that is a lame excuse.

 

[mjkacmom]

I agree with the PP who stated that, yes, of course you were invited, not realizing it is just a lame excuse, and you shouldn't feel guilty for skipping it, because on a cool rainy dad, the last place I would want to be is at a kids birthday party, with my DH's family, without DH, especially since I don't have kids.

Just because the email was sent to your DH doesn't mean it was just for him, now that you are married. I am the primary email recipient in our house, and emails usually aren't given a heading "dear so and so."

So, the next time you don't feel like going, come up with a better excuse.

 

[bgirldeb]

I too think that an email to one spouse automatically includes the two of you, but on the same reasoning, if your DH couldn't make it and let them know, that also excuses the two of you IMO, especially since it's his side of the family.

I think it would be different if you had young children that would be more of a part of a child's party.