Vent: "I'll talk at you later."

[Beth76]

Nothing grates on my nerves me more than my MIL leaving a voice mail message: "I'll talk at you later." Annoys me to no end. She had a voice mail sneak in on me today and now I can't her voice out of my head. She leaves the same exact message every time she calls (I never answer the phone when she calls and leave all messages for DH) OK, vent over. Continue on with your day.

 

[momof3disneyholics]

That is an odd message to leave. Why leave one at all if you aren't going to say anything?

 

[Beth76]

That is an odd message to leave. Why leave one at all if you aren't going to say anything?

I know. And she always leaves that same message too. Except for the time she called and said "I just want to make sure you're not dead since I haven't heard from you in a while."

 

[BratTink]

Maybe its because you don't take her calls???
My sis-in-law does that to my parents (brother's wife) and it really hurts my parents feelings. Every time they call the house during the day, my brother returns their calls from work 20 minutes later. Its horrible.

 

[DawnCt1]

Its better than seeing your MIL's number on caller ID and wondering if she was calling for a medical emergency, etc. She never leaves a message. At least "I'll talk to you later" means that she ain't dead.

 

[momrek06]

Nothing grates on my nerves me more than my MIL leaving a voice mail message: "I'll talk at you later." Annoys me to no end. She had a voice mail sneak in on me today and now I can't her voice out of my head. She leaves the same exact message every time she calls (I never answer the phone when she calls and leave all messages for DH) OK, vent over. Continue on with your day.

That is such an odd message....talk AT you?? Does this imply she is mad at you?? If she said TO instead of AT, I would think no biggie...but the AT is she maybe angry about something. JMO

 

[flipflop]

Its better than seeing your MIL's number on caller ID and wondering if she was calling for a medical emergency, etc. She never leaves a message. At least "I'll talk to you later" means that she ain't dead.

I think the fact that she is calling probably means she ain't dead.

 

[Chattyaholic]

I get the feeling you don't like your MIL.

I've said the "talk at you later" thing myself before, never thought it would be something to "offend" someone else. It's just a little different than "talk to you later", no big deal, I didn't think....

And maybe the reason she leaves that message is just to leave some sort of message. Like, she doesn't think you're at home, so she'll try back later or something.

My DD won't leave any kind of message when she calls and we're not home. Bugs me. I always wonder what she wanted, but I hate to call her back and ask, since it obviously wasn't all that important. I just wait for her to call back. But I still wonder...

 

[CJBaby]

I've never heard "talk AT you later." Probably a regional thiing.

It would bother me too, but then again I always wish people would just state their business when they leave me a message, instead of the old, "give me a call when you get a chance."

If it's not a sensitive matter, just TELL me what you want!

 

[stinkerbelle's mom]

I've heard people say "talk at you later" before. I think its just her way of being cute--whether she realizes its annoying or not I don't know.

 

[clarabelle]

I hear people say it all the time.

 

[JR6ooo4]

Nothing grates on my nerves me more than my MIL leaving a voice mail message: "I'll talk at you later." Annoys me to no end. She had a voice mail sneak in on me today and now I can't her voice out of my head. She leaves the same exact message every time she calls (I never answer the phone when she calls and leave all messages for DH) OK, vent over. Continue on with your day.

If you never talk to her, and she does not expect your husband to be home then it is very correct that she is talking AT you.

If you answered the phone, even only to say, "I will give DH your message" then she could say "talking with".

Mikeeee

 

[imsorry]

Well, if you picked up the phone it would be talking "to" you or "with" you. Since she knows she always gets the machine, she is letting you know she knows you won't answer. So, she is talking "at" you.

I've never heard it before; but I think I will use it now when I want to get in a little dig.

 

[Keli]

It's a common phrase around here so I hear it often.
It's been my experience that people that find that sort of thing irritating are people that like grammer and use it properly and get irritated with purposeful bad grammer. Does that fit you?
I have a couple of friends that get all up in arms when people say things like "I resemble that remark". It just gets on their nerves for some reason.

 

[Charlotte ~08]

Never heard the phrase "at you" before, only heard or used "with you". It would really get on my nerves too!

That reminds me of when someone says "I'll see you later on the phone". Um, no you wont, you dont live here.

 

[Beth76]

It's a common phrase around here so I hear it often.
It's been my experience that people that find that sort of thing irritating are people that like grammer and use it properly and get irritated with purposeful bad grammer. Does that fit you?

Yep. That's it. Well that and that it's my MIL. Probably wouldn't bother me as much if it was someone else

As for not answering the phone, she never calls to talk to me so there's no reason to answer the phone. I always let DH know to call her back.

 

[believe]

I have a SIL that NEVER answers the phone when we or my MIL calls. It is very irritating. Especially when later they claim, we never got your message till last night...when the message was left 2 days ago

Honestly if you don't want to hear the message and you know that is what she is going to say just delete it without listening to it and let your DH know she called. Obviously, you must have caller id so you don't have to listen to it.

As for MIL calling only to talk to DH...my MIL will tell me what to she wanted him to know. I will tell him and when she talks to him she repeats it all again I guess I must leave something out.