Untitled DL chat thread. Everyone is welcome! Part 12

[staley7580]

I know! I did see it, I mentioned it to DH ("Hey, looks like several hyenas are going on a girls only trip") but I just don't see how I could go. He'd be totally great with me going, but with the boys' school schedules and extracurricular activities, there's no way DH could work and take care of the boys.

He usually has fridays off, right? So you leave on friday, and come home on sunday! Easy peasy... I will be leaving thursday, and coming home on Sunday, and dh is going to take Thursday and Friday off work to stay with the kids. He is also going to have his friends over that weekend, so he gets to have some fun to.

 

[staley7580]

Alex? Did you leave?

 

[Alex2kMommy]

He usually has fridays off, right? So you leave on friday, and come home on sunday!

Unfortunately that's just changed.

They're starting to demand more time. Last week management began scheduling more "must attend" meetings for him on Fridays, and another manager was telling him that some certain project that DH is peripherally involved in "needs to be managed more carefully, because if it fails it will fall on your head!" (I think the guy is just trying to make his own department's problem DH's problem, he heads up that department. Excuse me, WHO's head will roll if it fails?!)


Babysitting that project like the guy wants is a full-time job, and DH is already doing the work of two full-time jobs, so I'm really ticked off. Personally I think the guy is just an *** anyway (I asterisked that myself, not sure if you can say 'donkey' on the DIS?) He's jealous that DH has moved up to his rank so quickly, and talks down to DH. I told DH, "You've been with the company 4 years, and everyone in IT knows your name. You are well respected, and people seek out your opinion. You have risen faster than anybody ever has! This butthead? I'd been with the company almost as long as this guy, and never heard his name before he became a director! If he took longer to get to that level it's because he wasn't exactly setting the world afire, right???"

 

[Alex2kMommy]

Alex? Did you leave?

Nope, just a long-winded reply.

 

[AZMickeyfans]

Hello everyone!

I hope everyone is having a good day. Sorry to barge in here but I had a request from Tinkermell for some dessert instead of breakfast this time, so I thought I'd drop a few things off......

Cheesecake anyone?

Maybe carrot cake is more to your liking?

A sampler with some fruit maybe?

Mmm, chocolate cake! BTW, this can be found at a restaurant in Fullerton called The Cellar which isn't that far from DL.
http://www.cellardining.com/desserts.html

Love the strawberries and whip cream!

A classic sundae?

This needs no words.....

Neither does this!

To get you in the mood for Thanksgiving....

Okay, well, enjoy the treats. And if anyone is on a diet or trying to eat healthy and this was the last thing they needed to see, well, then I'm sorry. But you can blame Tinkermell........


Have a good day all!!!

I'm in heaven!

Thanks Beth!

 

[Alex2kMommy]

I'm in heaven!

Thanks Beth!

I know, I'm STARVING now!!!

 

[AZMickeyfans]

Hey guys I gotta head to the dance studio and I'm swinging by the Character warehouse after that.

Just wanted to say hello! Be back tonight!

 

[staley7580]

Well... that just sucks! How is his job looking going? Sounds like now would be a good time to go... Hopefully it will work out that you can go, it is going to be crazy fun...

Dh freaked on me when I told him I wanted to go... But I spelled out for him how it would work out, and the kids were nothing to be frightened of... And I will make enough food to last the weekend, and clean and do laundry... Everything will be OKAY! He keeps telling me that if I dont make enough food, he is not opposed to eating the children...

 

[AZMickeyfans]

Well... that just sucks! How is his job looking going? Sounds like now would be a good time to go... Hopefully it will work out that you can go, it is going to be crazy fun...

Dh freaked on me when I told him I wanted to go... But I spelled out for him how it would work out, and the kids were nothing to be frightened of... And I will make enough food to last the weekend, and clean and do laundry... Everything will be OKAY! He keeps telling me that if I dont make enough food, he is not opposed to eating the children...

Oh no your daughter is so big!

 

[staley7580]

Hey guys I gotta head to the dance studio and I'm swinging by the Character warehouse after that.

Just wanted to say hello! Be back tonight!

Okey dokey artichokey!!

 

[staley7580]

Alex? DId you leave again?

 

[Alex2kMommy]

Hey guys I gotta head to the dance studio and I'm swinging by the Character warehouse after that.

Just wanted to say hello! Be back tonight!

Hi and 'Bye, Shawna!

 

[Alex2kMommy]

Well... that just sucks! How is his job looking going? Sounds like now would be a good time to go... Hopefully it will work out that you can go, it is going to be crazy fun...

Dh freaked on me when I told him I wanted to go... But I spelled out for him how it would work out, and the kids were nothing to be frightened of... And I will make enough food to last the weekend, and clean and do laundry... Everything will be OKAY! He keeps telling me that if I dont make enough food, he is not opposed to eating the children...

Sorry, had to go fold a load of

He pretty much stopped looking. Well, he wasn't ever really actively looking, just interviewing when some contact person called and said, "Gee, we think you'd be GREAT for this job!" In most cases his salary was a stumbling block, they couldn't beat it.

His current employer did a good job making it a number that would be hard to top, because they swore they couldn't afford to lose him, so I get that, and we certainly have benefited from that. But last year he put in over 400 hours OT (he's salary, so he doesn't get paid for his OT), and the year before it was about 500 hours. Now it looks like they're pushing to increase his OT, but I'm gonna push back on that, he already works too much. On really stressful days or really long days he comes home and his eyes are baggy and his face is grayish, it's scary!

 

[Alex2kMommy]

Oh no your daughter is so big!

'Filling'.

 

[staley7580]

Sorry, had to go fold a load of

He pretty much stopped looking. Well, he wasn't ever really actively looking, just interviewing when some contact person called and said, "Gee, we think you'd be GREAT for this job!" In most cases his salary was a stumbling block, they couldn't beat it.

His current employer did a good job making it a number that would be hard to top, because they swore they couldn't afford to lose him, so I get that, and we certainly have benefited from that. But last year he put in over 400 hours OT (he's salary, so he doesn't get paid for his OT), and the year before it was about 500 hours. Now it looks like they're pushing to increase his OT, but I'm gonna push back on that, he already works too much. On really stressful days or really long days he comes home and his eyes are baggy and his face is grayish, it's scary!

I would be pissed. Especially with his health issues, it doesnt seem healthy for him to work so much. And it sucks for them to have to work so much overtime. At least my dh gets paid for it....

 

[Alex2kMommy]

Well... that just sucks! How is his job looking going? Sounds like now would be a good time to go... Hopefully it will work out that you can go, it is going to be crazy fun...

Dh freaked on me when I told him I wanted to go... But I spelled out for him how it would work out, and the kids were nothing to be frightened of... And I will make enough food to last the weekend, and clean and do laundry... Everything will be OKAY! He keeps telling me that if I dont make enough food, he is not opposed to eating the children...

DH is great with the boys. Though I don't think he likes being alone with them all day. Whenever I'm gone a full day (like last Saturday, when I went to a scrapbooking workshop) he takes them over to his dad's and they usually stay for dinner, too. The grandparents love it, of course, the kids usually have fun, too, and DH doesn't have to be dealing with them all on his own.

When we're together on the weekends, he would rather not go anywhere, though, it's very interesting. He's become a real homebody. Even when I was working, I'd much rather go out and do something fun, some activity we really enjoy or something we haven't done in awhile, or something totally new. He'd rather stay home, maybe visit the neighborhood park or school playground to get the kids running around, watch a DVD...

 

[staley7580]

'Filling'.

OMG!!! Filling would be it! But Alex would definitely still leave him hungry...So he would need the baby as a chaser!



Okay... I am having some issues with Alex. He has recently reverted to wetting the bed. I am stressing on it, he started at DL, and has gone almost everynight.. I dont know what to do! He used to do it a long time ago, but he stopped for a long time. All of the sudden he is doing it again?

 

[staley7580]

DH is great with the boys. Though I don't think he likes being alone with them all day. Whenever I'm gone a full day (like last Saturday, when I went to a scrapbooking workshop) he takes them over to his dad's and they usually stay for dinner, too. The grandparents love it, of course, the kids usually have fun, too, and DH doesn't have to be dealing with them all on his own.

When we're together on the weekends, he would rather not go anywhere, though, it's very interesting. He's become a real homebody. Even when I was working, I'd much rather go out and do something fun, some activity we really enjoy or something we haven't done in awhile, or something totally new. He'd rather stay home, maybe visit the neighborhood park or school playground to get the kids running around, watch a DVD...

Dh and I are the opposite... I would rather hang out at home, and he ALWAYS has to be on the go... I think that has to do with his attention issues. When i was in Reno a few months back, he was over at his moms house everyday... Works for me! At least that way they are eating...and the baby gets her diaper changed...

Frelan has only been alone with the kids the one time... SO this should be interesting. I am alone with them all the time, and I do okay... (at least I remember to give them baths, and understand they need veggies!)

 

[Alex2kMommy]

I would be pissed. Especially with his health issues, it doesnt seem healthy for him to work so much. And it sucks for them to have to work so much overtime. At least my dh gets paid for it....

Right. He is a very hard worker, that's just the way he was raised and he has a hard time NOT putting in extra hours. Knowing that, our former boss asked that he take Fridays off to cut down on his OT. (This was when we canceled our first DL trip in April '06. DH had wound up in the hospital with chest pains, but the boss didn't know that, just knew that DH's hours were out of control.)

Because of his work, he has to do some work from home in the evenings, and sometimes get up in the middle of the night to get something done before the computer systems come back online in the early morning. That kind of thing we don't have control over, but we can control how much time he spends in the office during the week. So we cut out one day. Ironically it did not cut his hours by 8 or 9 hours, but I think it did shave about 5 off, he still winds up doing phone meetings or some computer work, but at least it's just a few hours and he can take a nap with DS3 to get some extra rest.

I'm actually hoping it will be possible to work maybe a couple days from home in the future. Even though it's a work day, it won't be as stressful as it is when he's in the office, and he'll maybe be able to nap mid-day which will alleviate some of the tiredness he has. We'll see.

I don't know, this one guy, who claims to be a 'friend' and that he's just watching out for DH, I just think he's jealous and being a jerk. And I don't think what he says is true, I think he's either just trying to scare DH or as I said, pushing his responsibilities and stressors onto DH. I don't trust him.

 

[staley7580]

Right. He is a very hard worker, that's just the way he was raised and he has a hard time NOT putting in extra hours. Knowing that, our former boss asked that he take Fridays off to cut down on his OT. (This was when we canceled our first DL trip in April '06. DH had wound up in the hospital with chest pains, but the boss didn't know that, just knew that DH's hours were out of control.)

Because of his work, he has to do some work from home in the evenings, and sometimes get up in the middle of the night to get something done before the computer systems come back online in the early morning. That kind of thing we don't have control over, but we can control how much time he spends in the office during the week. So we cut out one day. Ironically it did not cut his hours by 8 or 9 hours, but I think it did shave about 5 off, he still winds up doing phone meetings or some computer work, but at least it's just a few hours and he can take a nap with DS3 to get some extra rest.

I'm actually hoping it will be possible to work maybe a couple days from home in the future. Even though it's a work day, it won't be as stressful as it is when he's in the office, and he'll maybe be able to nap mid-day which will alleviate some of the tiredness he has. We'll see.

I don't know, this one guy, who claims to be a 'friend' and that he's just watching out for DH, I just think he's jealous and being a jerk. And I don't think what he says is true, I think he's either just trying to scare DH or as I said, pushing his responsibilities and stressors onto DH. I don't trust him.

Kick him in the shins... Want me to send Mikalah over to do it? Oooohhh.... I know!! Your little one, and my little one... that is a team of destruction NO ONE can handle. But really... that really sucks.