touchy missing money issuse

Is this bucket easily accessible? I have never kept large amounts of cash around, but what I do have is in our master bedroom in a drawer where no one but DH and I have access to it as it isn't a room anyone else would go into. And it is never the amounts you are talking about.

I also wonder if you are miscalculating or missing some transaction you actually took it out for. I only say that because that is something I would do.
 
If it were me I would be asking my husband first. I would hate to accuse someone else and then it was not them. I put important things like that in a fire box in the house and put the key where no one knows except my husband. But that is just me. I hope you locate the money.
 
That's horrible that you may suspect a friend took the money. Certainly isnt a friend if she did take it. Did you have a cable guy or worker in the house? I'm hoping you spent the money and forgot, although unlikely.

It isn't really that unlikely. People do that. Especially considering she took some on vacation recently.
My parents have a similar fund. Recently the money in it was gone. They don't have many guests so basically the only people that had been around since they last counted it were family members. My mother was very upset with herself because she thought she misplaced the envelope or threw it out accidently while cleaning. If she thought someone had taken the money she kept that to herself. It turned out she forgot they had used it on a day trip and forgot. My dad made a passing comment about that little day out and then it was like a lightbulb moment. She remembered that's where the money went. Good thing she didn't accuse anyone of taking it.
 
I will tell you that years ago I had a set of books, children's books, that my parents brought back from Europe for my kids. I had read them as a child and they weren't available in the US, so I asked my parents to buy them for my kids.

They went missing. I was concerned the lady who cleaned our house had taken them. She had a grandchild and had commented on them in the past and wondered where to get them.

My parents had just visited and stayed in that room. I asked them. They said no, they didn't have them.

Well, 2 months later, my dad found them in his garage. Apparently they had been in a box and my dad had gone in and packed mom's and his stuff and thought the box was my mom's.

Just a story of mistaken accusation. Thankfully I didn't accuse the cleaning lady.
 

I put away money for trips rewards ebay rummages any way I can put money together--I keep it ina a disney bucket until I have so much in it and then I take it to the bank

I also have an envelope with gift money from my mom and my DIL before they passed away

today I noticed from the envelope was about $300 missing--I have a system I keep track of who the money was from when the amount I keep each one paper clipped

some of it was still in the original christmas envelope

I am just sick about it--its just my DH and me living in the house--the kids are raising there own families

I really hate to say this but my friend and me had a rummage sale this weekend she was in and out of the house several times which I didnt think anything of and they are really hard up for money the last time I looked through that money was the middle of july when we went on a mini vacation and I took some along in case I saw something I wanted

the stack of money was still all there just the money from the envelope was missing like who ever took it figured it wouldnt be so obivious if it was taken from the envelope--also the money was in the christmas money holders 2 of them were missing--

god I feel just horrible for thinking this way--

thanks for listening I just I needed to get this off my chest
This absolutely sucks. However, short of any new evidence< it is probably something you are just going to have to file away in the back of your mind for future reference....I would however suggest to NEVER, EVER keep any sum of money larger then whats in your wallet in your home....first you become an instant target. You may think its a secret, but just a casual conversation overheard by the wrong person, turns your house into a target for theft. Also, putting your money into a simple savings account protects it. it will always be there, you can track it on line, and ONLY YOU have access to it.....in this day and age having cash on hand is not as important as it once was
 
I put away money for trips rewards ebay rummages any way I can put money together--I keep it ina a disney bucket until I have so much in it and then I take it to the bank

I also have an envelope with gift money from my mom and my DIL before they passed away

today I noticed from the envelope was about $300 missing--I have a system I keep track of who the money was from when the amount I keep each one paper clipped

some of it was still in the original christmas envelope

I am just sick about it--its just my DH and me living in the house--the kids are raising there own families

I really hate to say this but my friend and me had a rummage sale this weekend she was in and out of the house several times which I didnt think anything of and they are really hard up for money the last time I looked through that money was the middle of july when we went on a mini vacation and I took some along in case I saw something I wanted

the stack of money was still all there just the money from the envelope was missing like who ever took it figured it wouldnt be so obivious if it was taken from the envelope--also the money was in the christmas money holders 2 of them were missing--

god I feel just horrible for thinking this way--

thanks for listening I just I needed to get this off my chest

There is no way you just misplaced the money or spent it? Or that your DH did?

It would be hard to be 100% certain it was your friend. Sounds like an expensive lesson to go to the bank more. We never have more than $80 or so just sitting in our house (and that is in our wallets). It is either in the safe at home or in the bank.
 
Oh....and if you do leave some money for a disaster or emergency in your home.....make sure you and only you know where it is, that it is hidden in a place you and only you would know about, and could not be found by someone even looking for money.....buried in a can in the back yard type stuff (you think im kidding, but its probably safer then anywhere in your house)....and then never, ever speak of it to anyone anywhere, including these public boards.
 
My first thought is that when you went into the money for vacation you may have been interrupted and somehow when you got back to what you were doing something else had disrupted the cash somehow and it's simply misplaced.
 
best case scenarios
1. The OP took some out, spent it, can't remember and hopefully something will trigger the memeory.
2. If the friend took it, she feels guilty and returns the cash. or even slips it back in the envelope.

I have a special vacation cash pouch. I had 300 in visa gift cards with cash and 1000 in disney giftcards. One day I discover the cards are gone. It took me about a week to recall I spent them at bjs buying disney gift cards. My son said something and pop I remembered
 
Ask your husband first. He may have needed it for something and forgot to mention it to you, or maybe even meant to replace it before you even noticed.

If it wasn't him, it will be rough trying to pin this on your friend. Something similar happen with my friend last year while she had a party at her place (someone stole her Iphone) and to this day we haven't been able to prove who the culprit is. Don't blatantly accuse your friend because even if she did take the money, no one likes being called a thief or assumed to be responsible for something they may have not done. However, if it turns out that she is the most likely suspect, laying it on thick about someone stealing your money is not wrong in my book. Also wouldn't blame you if you decided to distance yourself from her. We have an idea on who likely stole my friend's phone and I can barely stand being in the same room with the person, because I never got a good vibe from them in the first place, but now that my trust in him bottomed out, its hard to be around them and so I rather not. The last thing you would want is the need to feel guarded every time you two are together.
 
I remember in 5th grade a student had moved away and left her note book. I told the teacher it was a cool notebook. I never thought about taking it. One day the teacher asked me if I stole it. I said no. I did not take it. It never even crossed my mind. But it sure made me feel awful.
 
If you are going to keep large amounts of cash in the house, you need to create a LOCKED AND HIDDEN place to put it. The key is to make it impossible to quickly access the cash without tools. Hiding takes away the temptation of the casual grab, and locking it slows down those who are actually looking for it. If you are going to keep your money in a bedroom drawer, buy a combination lock box, drill holes in the bottom of it and bolt it into the drawer-bottom: it's a bit conspicuous to casually walk out of someone's house carrying a dresser drawer!

I learned this when I was burgled a couple of times, and each time the thieves had gone through my lingerie drawer. I was creeped out by it, but the cops explained to me that "the underwear drawer" is such a common hiding place that it's the first place that thieves look for cash and weapons, and that they are easy to find just by feeling/listening for the sound of something other than fabric as your hands move through it (They also told me that if you live in a place where burglary is an issue, keep a couple of bills in a narrow mouthed glass container (mason jar is optimal) in an obvious place -- as bait. It needs to be small enough to get your hand into, but a bit difficult to get your hand out of, so that you'll have to grab the jar with your other hand to get your hand free. The point of this is to get good fingerprints. You would think that burglars would make it a point to wear gloves, but the cops told me that more often than not, they don't. The issue is differentiating the burglar's prints from everyone else's -- thus the point of the bait jar.)
 
I had a similar situation one time and it took me a while to get to the bottom of it. I had a bunch of cash in a dresser drawer, mostly because I was too lazy to deposit it. Suddenly the entire envelope went missing. I had no suspects except DW, DD (who was about 4 at the time and probably couldn't reach the drawer), and the dog. There had been nobody else in the house. After about a week, DW told me it was in the safe -- she wanted to teach me a lesson.

A couple of months later, she left a tennis bracelet on her dresser. Hee, hee! pirate::banana:
 
thanks for all the interesting theories --just to clarify though--it wasnt the vacation money that was gone--that was all there in a big paperclip in the bucket what hurts it was my gift money for christmas and birthdays my mom and my in laws would give me money and that money I would clip a note who it was from and the ocassion

I know specaily whats missing cause my in laws always had those money holder cards for christmas and would put the cash in there and I still have (had ) them so I know which ones are missing and how much was in each

and I did take some gift cash with me when we went to the dells but I put what was left where I got the cash from

and hubby and me do borrow from the vacation cash at most $50 and repay it the next payday--we never borrow from my gift money

and for the garage sale it was just my friend and I here she was the only one who came into the house and for part of the day my hubby was home

oh well like others have said expensive lesson--and make more trips to the bank
 
thanks for all the interesting theories --just to clarify though--it wasnt the vacation money that was gone--that was all there in a big paperclip in the bucket what hurts it was my gift money for christmas and birthdays my mom and my in laws would give me money and that money I would clip a note who it was from and the ocassion

I know specaily whats missing cause my in laws always had those money holder cards for christmas and would put the cash in there and I still have (had ) them so I know which ones are missing and how much was in each

and I did take some gift cash with me when we went to the dells but I put what was left where I got the cash from

and hubby and me do borrow from the vacation cash at most $50 and repay it the next payday--we never borrow from my gift money

and for the garage sale it was just my friend and I here she was the only one who came into the house and for part of the day my hubby was home

oh well like others have said expensive lesson--and make more trips to the bank

I am sorry, it does hurt when things like this happen :)
 
Many years ago, a "friend" called and asked to come spend the day with me; we weren't close, but I said okay. During the day she went to the bathroom, I assumed to the guest bath but it turned out she went to our bathroom. I had a bottle of pain medication sitting out on the counter, and she took it; I knew immediately that she had done it but her husband worked for my husband and he WAS a good friend. Years later, when they divorced, he came to me and apologized; she had finally broken down and told him she took my medication. She was addicted and having trouble finding a source, so she came to visit so she could see if I had any. I never left anything like that out on the counter again.
 

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