Things that could end a good relationship.

[Liberty Belle]

I have the attention span of a goldfish. LOL! I actually do love jogging outside. In the summer i'd do it when i cant hit the gym. I like that variety, gym AND jogging outdoors. Best of both worlds! And i so need that variety. Very important for me. I admire ppl who are content with working out at home.

You guys are making me jealous. I have two herniated discs and am unable to do intense workouts, but we do have a nice treadmill and a good, hilly neighborhood to walk in.

 

[Wishing on a star]

HUGE, HUGE, HUGE, difference between Miracle Whip (omg, that stuff is gross!!!) or leaving one's socks on the floor, and very negative and shallow judgements about ones personal appearance.

WOW.... Just freakin' WOW...

Yep, all those women throwing yourself at you.... Yet, none seem to live up to your required 'image'. Good luck with that, dude.

 

[FireDancer]

I personally think there is a difference between bodies changing and letting yourself go.

There is a difference between normal aging and no longer caring. The former is part of life, the latter is just laziness. There are also things like illness and injury that can derail even the best plans. That is also very different than just giving up.

Health and fitness are important to me so I date people who feel the same way. My current girlfriend and I run races together, eat similar, both play on co-ed sports teams, like to plan active vacations, and stuff like that. If those things are important to you find a significant other that also finds them important. That is true of anything though. I value professional success and date women who are professionally ambitious. I'm an extrovert and date extroverts. Other things are less important to me so I don't care either way. I don't care about hair length or wearing heels for example. I don't care about who you vote for though some social issues could be deal breakers for me. Your favorite sports team for example. The more you have in common with someone the happier you'll generally be in my opinion.

Also, caring about looks doesn't make you shallow, caring only about looks makes you shallow.

 

[TheAviator]

HUGE, HUGE, HUGE, difference between Miracle Whip (omg, that stuff is gross!!!) or leaving one's socks on the floor, and very negative and shallow judgements about ones personal appearance.

WOW.... Just freakin' WOW...

Yep, all those women throwing yourself at you.... Yet, none seem to live up to your required 'image'. Good luck with that, dude.

Yes I realize I am the only person on the planet that has standards and certain requirements in their prospective future partner some of which are based on physical appearance. I realize this is totally unheard of and is a new concept in our very non-shallow society.

I just happen to leave out the non-shallow criteria since I thought we were talking about shallow ones, i.e. Miracle Whip and leaving socks on the floor.

But I realize I seem to have accidently touched on a big nerve with some of you.

 

[palmtreegirl]

I have the attention span of a goldfish. LOL! I actually do love jogging outside. In the summer i'd do it when i cant hit the gym. I like that variety, gym AND jogging outdoors. Best of both worlds! And i so need that variety. Very important for me. I admire ppl who are content with working out at home.

Oh not content by choice, I just can't afford a gym. Lol Just one of things I chose to let go of to stay home with the kids. I have to run in order to stay in shape because if I don't, I'll put on weight. With the weight gain(even 15 pounds)comes high blood pressure for me and since I don't want to go on meds, I run. So yeh it's by choice, technically, but more like a backed in the corner and don't have any choice one.

 

[HM]

Yes I realize I am the only person on the planet that has standards and certain requirements in their prospective future partner some of which are based on physical appearance. I realize this is totally unheard of and is a new concept in our very non-shallow society.

I know you are being facetious in this statement. There are plenty of people that think like you.

One thing that I found (married now for 24 1/2 years) is that the person I ended up with was nothing like the image I had in my mind as I was growing up and when I started dating people. The only 'criteria' that he met was being tall. The only things that really mattered in the end was that he was caring, hard-working, has a lovely spirit, and loved me.

 

[TheAviator]

I know you are being facetious in this statement. There are plenty of people that think like you.

One thing that I found (married now for 24 1/2 years) is that the person I ended up with was nothing like the image I had in my mind as I was growing up and when I started dating people. The only 'criteria' that he met was being tall. The only things that really mattered in the end was that he was caring, hard-working, has a lovely spirit, and loved me.

I agree those are the most important things, of which I would add sweet and giving. But I thought we were talking about superficial, light hearted things, but mine seem to be drawing major flames.

 

[Liberty Belle]

Yes I realize I am the only person on the planet that has standards and certain requirements in their prospective future partner some of which are based on physical appearance. I realize this is totally unheard of and is a new concept in our very non-shallow society.

I just happen to leave out the non-shallow criteria since I thought we were talking about shallow ones, i.e. Miracle Whip and leaving socks on the floor.

But I realize I seem to have accidently touched on a big nerve with some of you.

You really don't see the difference between liking miracle whip, throwing socks on the floor, rooting for another team and cutting your hair, not wearing heels, and getting fat??

I would say the female equivalent of yours would be more like going bald, not wearing a girdle (could not think of another good equivalent for the heel thing since many women are physically uncomfortable in heels), and getting a pudgy stomach. I think most men would feel the same way about those most women feel about yours.

 

[TheAviator]

You really don't see the difference between liking miracle whip, throwing socks on the floor, rooting for another team and cutting your hair, not wearing heels, and getting fat??

I would say the female equivalent of yours would be more like going bald, not wearing a girdle (could not think of another good equivalent for the heel thing since many women are physically uncomfortable in heels), and getting a pudgy stomach. I think most men would feel the same way about those most women feel about yours.

No I don't, and I would not flame you one bit for expecting your man to not get a beer gut and wear a girdle. Now baldness is truly something some guys can't control. That is not the same thing as a woman purposely cutting her hair off very short. (Not that there's anything wrong with that, just saying its not for me.)

 

[lisaviolet]

The light hearted part of this thread is hysterical.

The other part - I thought this was interesting given the back and forth - you have to listen to the end:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xPAat-T1uhE

 

[smallblackstars]

My DH drives me up the wall with stuff he does!! He smothers all food I make him with mayo, he leaves his dirty socks and boxers on the bathroom floor in front of the laundry basket, he flicks through the TV channels without actually seeing what is on each channel before turning to the next, he leaves the house door wide open all the time... hello! we have a 3 year old and an indoors cat!!, he interupts people when they are talking (this one REALLY annoys me!!), the list goes on but oh well, I'm sure he could list things about me too!!

A deal breaker for me would be someone who smokes, nothing against people who do, I just personally do not like it and won't allow it in my home. DH used to smoke when I first met him, he asked me out but I told him I wasn't interested, when he asked why I was very honest and told him it was because he smoked. Fast forward 3 months from then and he had taken it upon himself to quit and he asked me out again!!!

 

[HM]

The light hearted part of this thread is hysterical.

The other part - I thought this was interesting given the back and forth - you have to listen to the end:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xPAat-T1uhE

THAT WAS GREAT! Thanks so much for posting the link.

 

[Liberty Belle]

The light hearted part of this thread is hysterical.

The other part - I thought this was interesting given the back and forth - you have to listen to the end:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xPAat-T1uhE

Yep. I love that. Dustin Hoffman is a wonderful, emotionally intelligent, mature man.

 

[Adipoo]

The light hearted part of this thread is hysterical.

The other part - I thought this was interesting given the back and forth - you have to listen to the end:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xPAat-T1uhE

Now that's a real man. I was lucky enough to find one and I hope the same thing for my daughter. Thanks for the clip.

 

[Liberty Belle]

No I don't, and I would not flame you one bit for expecting your man to not get a beer gut and wear a girdle. Now baldness is truly something some guys can't control. That is not the same thing as a woman purposely cutting her hair off very short. (Not that there's anything wrong with that, just saying its not for me.)

I'm sorry if you felt I flamed you. You and I seem to be very, very different. If I went too far, I apologize.

 

[Dani784]

No I don't, and I would not flame you one bit for expecting your man to not get a beer gut and wear a girdle. Now baldness is truly something some guys can't control. That is not the same thing as a woman purposely cutting her hair off very short. (Not that there's anything wrong with that, just saying its not for me.)

I recently cut thirteen inches of my almost waist long hair. It's now barely brushing my shoulders. Guess what? I hate how I look with short hair but its so easy and cool. Long hair is heavy and gives constant headaches. I also donated my cut hair to locks of love. But women that do things like that for ease, comfort, and charity are just not for you because a woman should be hungry, have a headache from ten pounds of hair and corns on her feet from the heels. THEn she's marriage material. Got it.

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ETA: you can do something about that baldness. Get some Rogain or hair plugs. How dare you not take care of your hair!!! Throw a rug on it cueball!

 

[aaarcher86]

I recently cut thirteen inches of my almost waist long hair. It's now barely brushing my shoulders. Guess what? I hate how I look with short hair but its so easy and cool. Long hair is heavy and gives constant headaches. I also donated my cut hair to locks of love. But women that do things like that for ease, comfort, and charity are just not for you because a woman should be hungry, have a headache from ten pounds of hair and corns on her feet from the heels. THEn she's marriage material. Got it.

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ETA: you can do something about that baldness. Get some Rogain or hair plugs. How dare you not take care of your hair!!! Throw a rug on it cueball!

Really ran with that one didn't you?! Yikes - resorting to personal insults... Taking his opinion a bit to heart aren't you?

 

[Soldier's*Sweeties]

Really ran with that one didn't you?! Yikes - resorting to personal insults... Taking his opinion a bit to heart aren't you?

Apparently everyone is...

Geez. It's not like you gals have to date or be married to him. He answered the question just like everyone else.

 

[DawnM]

Awesome!

I have a whole new level of respect for him.

The light hearted part of this thread is hysterical.

The other part - I thought this was interesting given the back and forth - you have to listen to the end:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xPAat-T1uhE

 

[Dani784]

Really ran with that one didn't you?! Yikes - resorting to personal insults... Taking his opinion a bit to heart aren't you?

How is it a personal insult when said poster is not bald? My dad is bald. Completely. And he looks awesome! He looks weird with hair. But to say that a woman cutting her hair is a deal breaker is just as ridiculous. This poster is a shallow pig. Now ThAT is personal.

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