The new "New Moms" thread!

[beckmrk04]

Stacy- that is so sad about Ty's teacher! Poor kids- that's a hard age, too, because kids get so attached to their teachers. Hopefully you'll start feeling better too, once your first trimester is over.

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Vaylie had her first "sleep-over" last night with cousin Landon. She has stayed the night at my mom's and mil's, but never with BIL and SIL and my nephew Landon (who is 3 months older than V). They had fun! Nic (my SIL) said that it was so cute- today they went to wal-mart and Vaylie and Landon walked around holding hands. They are adorable! She was pooped when we got home today, though, and was ready for a nap. All that playing wore her out.

 

[Pollito916]

Bethany - Yay for your DH! That's great news!

Becky - I agree with the other ladies that it would be best to talk to your doctor. One other thought is that maybe the other women are ttc too soon after having the IUD removed - is there a period of time you are supposed to wait? Oh, and too cute on Vaylie's first sleepover! It sounds like she had fun!

Stacy - hi, glad your pregnancy is going so well. That must be hard for your son with his teacher dying in 1st grade. I remember when my 6th grade teacher died, and it was rough, but I think an 11 year old is a little better able to cope than a 6 year old.

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We had a pretty un-eventful weekend. Yesterday was DH's b-day, but he was too tired to go out or anything since he worked, so we just picked up some dinner and my mom made a cake. Tomorrow we close on our house! I can't wait!

 

[beckmrk04]

Pollito- congratulations on your new house!! Fun stuff.

So, I'm getting ready to start actively potty training Vaylie. Any tips, hints or suggestions? Any toys/dolls/videos that some of you used and liked? I think I'm going to buy the Once Upon a Potty doll/dvd for her. She's really starting to understand "pee pee" and where it comes out and that you go on the potty (although she hasn't done it yet).

 

[7beasley]

Ugh -- Just a quick vent!!!

There are some threads right now on the community board that are making my blood boil...I *know* I should just not read them - just look away and ignore them entirely - but I don't - I open them --- thankfully I have been restrained enough not to post - but UGH!!!

There is a thread right now about "Abortion and Fertility Treatments" and its basically people saying that if you are against abortion you have to be against fertility treatments too....anyway -- some crazy people have actually posted that if you can't get pregnant on your own it is because it is god's will that you should never be a parent!!

I just can't stand it - it tears my heart apart to hear that kind of spewed hatred. I just can't believe people think that way! As alot of you know - we did massive amounts of fertilty treatments to have Izzy -- I just can't believe people think people like me were deliberately chosen by god to not be parents alas because they think god thinks I don't deserve to be a mother or wouldn't make a god mother --- it makes me want to cry! People are awful and hateful.

At least I did not post a response -- I am not in the mood to be verbally harrassed and be-littled by some of the know it all's on that thread!

And the other thread driving me nuts is the "Babies Names I am so Done with" or something like that --- of course - one poster posts a slew of names that they are sick of hearing and one is "Isabella" and it drives me crazy that is such a popular name. When DH and I picked it - we knew no-one named Isabella and thought it was a cool different name. Fast forward to 2 months after her birth and we realize the name is everywhere and in 2007 it was the 2nd most popular girls name. UGH!! We had **no** idea -- we did no research before picking the name.

So whatever - people think that people who name their kid that are trying to be trendy, are dull, are boring, are not creative and jumped on a band wagon -- so be it. Nothing I can do about it - its her name.

Ok - enough venting -- sometimes I hate the hatefullness of the CB -- if not for you guys here on this thread - I probably would not even visit the CB anymore.

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Thanks for listening - I will post later about Izzy's B-day party this past weekend -- it was great!! I have some pictures.

Hope all of you are well.

Hugs,
Nicole

 

[jennyL]

I know about names. LOL My name is Jenny and DH is Michael. They were the two most popular names for many years when we were born. I even had one class in 9th grade with 9 Jennifers in it. It was crazy.

We did the same thing with Noah's name. We hadn't heard many and we both liked it which was a major deal. Cut to the hospital and they tell us its one of the most popular names now. So I guess he'll have alot of other Noah's when he gets to school.

My sister was the same way. She's an Emily but being born in early 1995 she was at the beginning of that trend. So my parents picked one that wasn't popular but it became very popular before she got into school so everyone thought they followed the trendy folks when in fact they were really at the early stages of it before all the lists had come out.

I don't really read much on the CB anymore. I'm here and on the budget, family and creative community ones but thats about it.

 

[jennyL]

Ok I forgot to ask about what I came on to ask anyway. I tell you I still have baby brain.

Anyway my mom is asking for our Christmas lists and wants to know what we want for Noah. Since he's too young to have wants yet I've got to figure out what we want him to have. Ideas? He'll be 11 months at Christmas so anything thats 12 months and up that we just have to have?

 

[Villain-lover]

Jenny..Sam & Zoe turn one in a couple of weeks, and here are some of my b-day and Christmas ideas..

large knob puzzles
simple shape sorters
little people stuff
a wagon
little tykes cozy coupe cars
baby dolls (I got a boy and and girl doll already for them for christmas)
I would like a couple of big trucks they could push around


Nicole...I hear ya about the CB..and that thread in particular got me too....I may have to make an appearance over there....

 

[exwdwcm]

Hey guys- i've been MIA a few days- between how busy i am at work and my sister's wedding this week, things are just crazy!

We had a great time at the wedding, although there were a few mishaps, the hotel valet losing my dad's keys just hours before the wedding so that he was stranded in downtown dallas when the wedding was about 20 miles away. William did pretty well considering the long weekend. We were at the church by 5:30, wedding at 7pm, then reception from 9pm-12am. he finally passed out at 10:30pm and slept in his stroller during the reception until we left at 12:30. Then got him back to sleep at 2am and he actually slept until 9am. he NEVER sleeps that late, so that was nice. He took a 4 hour nap yesterday too. poor kiddo was beat!

i also got back some of our family pics too. i should have Will's day care pic soon- it is so cute, he is smiling in that one.

ASH- Ellery is so cute in her fall pics! I hope you get the sleep thing figured out, i know it must be wearing on you so bad.

POLLITO- Alex looks like such a big boy now! good luck tomorrow on the house closing!!!

DMICKEY- i think you left or are leaving today- have a wonderful time!

BETHANY- hope Owen is getting back on a good schedule! DH to the rescue huh?

JEN- Ethan's pic is so good! now you need to post up Emma and Evan too. hope your ankle is better, ouch!

STACY- hang in there- hope you get some more energy soon. The first tri is always so exhausting. so sad about the teacher passing. the party sounds so fun!!!

JENNY- Will loves anything he can push around- car type stuff, balls etc. Books and puzzles are always good for any age.

NICOLE- step away from the board!!! I know how hard it is to read those threads. i don't dare open a political one, in fact, i stay away from most debate type ones. I just don't have time to get into it. it is hard to step away once you're in. the fertiility one kills me, but at the same time, you just have to actually feel sorry for those folks that think that way. They are so IGNORANT that i pity them. They can't open their minds beyond their own little world. I KNOW for a fact that God wanted me to be a mom. I've always wanted to be one and I have always mothered everyone in my life to the point of annoyance. It just is part of me. No one can tell me that since i had to do IVF that God didn't wnat me to have kids. That's simply ridiculous. I am sure God appreciates them speaking for him, when they have no clue what his intentions are for those around them. so in the end, living your own life with your precious Izzy is the best revenge, if you want to call it that. and on the name, if you love it, that's all that matters. If it annoys them, well they can just stay away. LOL----i guess you see that i don't give a rat's you know what, what other people think. if you're happy, that's all that matters anyhow.

BECKY_ try not to worry too much, but ask your doc if you are concerned. JEN had a great comment and i found further evidence online.....I had read that as much as 50-75% of pregnancies end in miscarriage, but the woman never realizes it because she either isn't actively TTC (hence, isn't paying attention to her cycle) or just doesn't know since it happens SO early, within the first 4 weeks or so.
"All pregnancies have a 20% chance of miscarriage. This generally occurs during the first trimester. A surprising 75% of pregnancies end in the first 2 weeks, but the good news is that you don't even know you're pregnant yet and the miscarriage is very had to differentiate from a regular period that just comes a few days late. "

 

[Pollito916]

Becky - no suggestions yet on the potty training, I don't think Alex is ready yet. He understands "pee pee" and "poo poo" and where the potty is and what it's for, but he just doesn't seem to care if he has a dirty diaper on most of the time. Sometimes he will say "poo poo" when he has a dirty diaper, but other times he will just keep playing without saying anything until we smell it. Let us know how it goes! I've heard that an attachment to the regular toilet and step stool is better than using the little mini potty chairs because you can skip the transition and they won't freak out as much in public. Plus the added bonus of not having to clean out the little potty.

Nicole - I'm sorry you had to read that. It is hard to believe that people would actually think something so ignorant today. So they think it is "God's will" that crack wh***s that give birth to malnurished children that are abused by the parents and eventually end up in the care of the state, and that those women *deserve* to be a mother more than someone who actually *wants* a baby and is willing to go through so much to have one?!? Just makes no sense to me. I have to stay away from those threads. Don't feel too bad about Izzy's name either - it is a lovely name and you and your DH know the truth about why you picked it. DH & I have had a similar name picked for our first daughter for 10 years, ever since his mother died, who's name was Isabel. I know it is popular right now, but we will still use it if (when!) we have a little princess!

Jenny - Alex was a similar age at Christmas last year, and his favorite gift was a ride-on/push toy that is an airplane with Mickey Mouse on it. There are similar toys with all different characters on them at any toy store, and most kids love it at that age b/c they can push it when they are learning to walk, then ride on it as they get older.

Michelle - Your family pics turned out great - you are an attractive little family! I never knew the miscarriage statistics were so high!

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Well, we went for the final walkthrough and signed our lives away. Now we're just waiting for the phone call to pick up the keys. Alex was actually really well behaved during the appointments. Mostly because we brought a portable dvd player and let him watch Blue's Clues and eat goldfish crackers. But you gotta do what you gotta do to keep them quiet at a time like that with no sitter!

 

[exwdwcm]

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Well, we went for the final walkthrough and signed our lives away. Now we're just waiting for the phone call to pick up the keys. Alex was actually really well behaved during the appointments. Mostly because we brought a portable dvd player and let him watch Blue's Clues and eat goldfish crackers. But you gotta do what you gotta do to keep them quiet at a time like that with no sitter!

CONGRATS!!!!! great news for you guys. we need pics! it is so overwhelming signing all those documents and seeing all those big numbers!

 

[beckmrk04]

I try to stay away from the nasty threads. Sometimes I succeed, sometimes not.

As for the ignorance on the infertility- you guys know you were meant to be moms. It just happened that you had to go through a little (ok, a LOT) more to get there. And if it wasn't God's plan, you wouldn't have beautiful little babies now. No one can know God's plan for us.

And baby names. Ugh- everyone has an opinion, of course. I made the mistake of asking what people thought about the name Vayla (Vaylie) on the Nest boards one time. I had about 30 responses that were like, "EW! That's horrible." "PLease don't do that to you child." "Hideous." Learned my lesson there! I asked. But, in the end, it was the name that felt right. And I have a beautiful little girl whose unique name fits her spunky, funny, sweet personality. So, all that matters is that you picked a name you loved.

 

[ImarriedGrumpy]

There are some nasty threads out there, I agree. I just walk away (or should I say "click away"? ) and avoid those.

Sorry some of you have had to deal with dorks who don't understand IVF, etc. Just hug your little miracles and think about what a gift it is to have your kiddos!


DH and I thought we were picking a fairly uncommon but not unusual name when we chose Owen, but in the last year it's been jumping up the list of popular boys names in the US. When we picked it out, it wasn't on the top 100 most popular names, and by the time Owen was born it was up to 60-something, and now it's around 40-something if I remember correctly. We had lots of people tell us they love it, and others who could only think of the star wars reference (Uncle Owen...still get that one), and some who could only think of the actor (Owen Wilson).

His middle name, Rhys (pronounced "Reese"), has gotten a lot more comments, mostly from people who think it's a weird spelling and they can't deal with it. It's the Welsh spelling, and DH really wanted a full Welsh name for Owen to reflect his heritage, so Owen Rhys it was. I told DH that as long as he didn't do the Welsh spelling for Owen (something like Iowain), I was all for it.

DH likes to quote Shakespeare when people critique our choice of names for our son - he says "there was no thought of pleasing you when he was named" (although the original quote I think is "she") - it's from Much Ado About Nothing if I remember correctly. Anyway, it's become our little joke and we often mutter it under our breath to each other when anyone goes off on "Rhys" or "Owen". We're kind of Shakespeare geeks at our house...

 

[Jen_in_NH]

Some people on the CB lately have been impossible... I keep trying to avoid any infertility thread, but I get sucked in. At least I remember to not reply We picked a fairly popular name, but we had no idea how many Christopher's there were until we had one. Now we just get a ton of people asking us why he's not Chris. If he wants to be later, then sure. For now, he's Christopher.

So Early Intervention was here today, and the intake person said he'll definitely qualify for speech, and probably for gross motor (although probably not for long - he's practicing running like a madman. The cats are horrified! ) They have to come back for another assessment, and then they'll decide exactly what services he qualifies for. It's kind of a relief, knowing that there is something off and someone is going to help us get it straightened out.

 

[Jen_in_NH]

OK, so I tried. But I got sucked into the infertility thread. It hits a bit close to home when I find out Wednesday if this IUI actually worked.

 

[ashjohnson80]

I can't remember asking if people liked the name Ellery or not... I think I asked a couple of people what was there favorite between some of my top choices and I still got, "Ellery sounds like a boys name" "Ellery sounds like Celery" "Kids are going to call her Ellery Smellery".

Whatever. I have the world's most common name and have always hated it. It's a soap opera name. So really you can't ever win with the name thing.

Ellery took two steps today! She is uber wobbely, but it's not going to be long now! She also woke up an hour ago and puked on me. I got her to sleep so I guess I better be getting n bed before she wakes up again.

 

[DisneyGirl4188]

Ash, congrats to Ellery!!!

I hate when people judge what you name your child. We wanted something something a little different and Spencer isn't uber popular. Well, now we usually call him Spenny. My MIL's BF hates that name. She refuses to call him Spenny (which is fine, she can use Spencer). However, I HATE that she makes a comment everytime she hears Spenny. We usually ignore her, but seriously what does she hope to accomplish by basically insulting us?

I love the names you all chose. If we were going to have a girl our top pick was Isabella. I had no idea it was so popular.

As for the infertility threads, I have to stay far away. What a hateful, nasty thing to say that if you need fertility treatments you weren't meant to be a mom. My mom worked with a lady how had numerous IVF and never succeeded. She was a wonderful person and it was heartbreaking that she was never able to have a child.

Are you not suppose to adopt either?

 

[beckmrk04]

Amber- Spencer was our "boy" name we picked out.

Bethany- I love Rhys! I also liked the name Stella (long before we ever got pregnant) but got so much flack about it that now it's tainted for me. SO, when I got pregnant- we didn't tell anyone for the longest time what the name would be.

Ash- Ellery Smellery. Kids are way more creative than that. You could pick the most common name on the planet and kids will think up something. My mom wanted me to make Vaylie's middle name Dawn, like mine. Sure, mom! V.D. Lastname! Good idea.

Jen- I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you! And I'm so glad that you guys were able to get something going for Christopher- it has been such a huge help for my nephew!

 

[beckmrk04]

Well, I got a counter-offer on the car I want and we're going to accept pending financing. =) I tell you what- the internet is a car-shopper's best friend!! I found a great deal! So, hopefully on Saturday we will be driving our new-to-us-anyway car!

I'm off work today and I am not feeling very active. Bleh. Lots of things I should be doing.

 

[ashjohnson80]

Becky- Congrats on the car!

 

[exwdwcm]

OK, so I tried. But I got sucked into the infertility thread. It hits a bit close to home when I find out Wednesday if this IUI actually worked.

i didn't know you just did an IUI- well good luck to you! the 2WW is awful. HUGS and pixie dust!!!!!!!!

yeah Ellery for taking some steps! i love the name btw. i think it is pretty original yet still cute and great!

William is pretty common, but we wanted something traditional. Middle name is Reed- that is my dad's middle name and was my grandma's middle name. we wanted to incorporate my grandma (who had passed already) or my grandpa's name in some fashion, since he paid for our IVF. My grandpa passed away when Will was about 5 mos old. He got to see him(we were in the room when he passed) and was always thrilled we used grandma's name. I would have used his, but I just didn't like Walter or Louis.