DIS Dads The Dis Dad's Club II

[dvczerfs]

Go ahead and have another one...it will keep you young!

thanks herd! my best man in my wedding 25 years ago just got mar. 2 years ago and they just had a daughter last year. he was 42 when she was born. he called me up and said, dave, how the heck did you do this? i cant keep up w/her? i told him i was only 27 when my dd was born. i see your sig., god bless you and i admire you! my mom was 35 and my dad was 36 when i was born and im the youngest of 5. i just blended in! they both passed away when i was 16 and than 17. but, in those years we spent alot of time at dw! alot of great mems.!. hopefully one day (a long time from now) dd will look back and think the same thing.

 

[dvczerfs]

I feel your pain, bro. My oldest is 17 & will probably be getting her license soon enough (just a permit for now...) She actually just lost her driving privileges for a while (long story.) I still have four more to go!

On top of all that I just hit 40.

 

[DisneyFed]

Old guys with young kids RULE

My wife and I blew the curve at our hospital when my son was born....

I was 34 and she was 32---but where we live tends to have a "younger" new parent population...and there was no one over 22 in the Maternity Ward with us (even though it was full--I mean, packed to the gills, no extra room, get out early full)...

They made us stay the full 48 hours, but no one told us why...but I figured it was for several reasons..

Funny thing was, we never called the nurses, they always came to check on us (you keep the little ones with you at our hospital, unless you request for them to be sent t the nursery--we didn't, we kept him with us--I stayed on a pull out chair).....our nurse told us we were the only one's not to call every half our..

We figured that once we left we were on our own, so we may as well figure it out now....

I will say there was a lot of drama going on in that hall...I'm guessing some of those new moms had no idea what they were getting into

 

[DisneyFed]

Old guys with young kids RULE

My wife and I blew the curve at our hospital when my son was born....

I was 34 and she was 32---but where we live tends to have a "younger" new parent population...and there was no one over 22 in the Maternity Ward with us (even though it was full--I mean, packed to the gills, no extra room, get out early full)...

They made us stay the full 48 hours, but no one told us why...but I figured it was for several reasons..

Funny thing was, we never called the nurses, they always came to check on us (you keep the little ones with you at our hospital, unless you request for them to be sent t the nursery--we didn't, we kept him with us--I stayed on a pull out chair).....our nurse told us we were the only one's not to call every half our..

We figured that once we left we were on our own, so we may as well figure it out now....

I will say there was a lot of drama going on in that hall...I'm guessing some of those new moms had no idea what they were getting into

 

[DisneyFed]

Double tap..sorry...darned "Expeditionary Internet"

 

[MiJo]

45 days to go!!!
Anyway, I'm 58 and my DW is also in her 50s. Our "kids" are now 32, 30 and 27 and they have blessed us with 3 wonderful grandkids (3 1/2, 3 months and 1 week). I can relate to all of the stuff you guys are talking about since we've been through it all. When our older son got his license, he would have a problem sometimes with telling time. We would expect him home at a certain time in the evening and he wouldn't always make it. There were a few nights when my DW actually woke me up and had me get dressed, get in the car and drive around looking for him, just to make sure he hadn't ended up in a ditch somewhere. These were the days before cell phones, guys! As for having kids at a ripe old age, my FIL was in his 60s when my DW and her two sisters were born! He was quite a guy. He passed away at the age of 93 and he split wood and worked around the property right up until the day he died. I should mention that my MIL is about 30 years younger than he was so she wasn't in her 60s when she had the girls! His first wife died of cancer and he ended up marrying his DD's best friend! My MIL is still alive, lives next door and is a wonderful person who really loves our kids.
The biggest problem with having adult children is that their problems get bigger as they get older! Even though they are out of the nest, they are never really gone. Fortunately, two of ours live nearby and our son who is in the Navy is able to make it home most weekends, so we get to see them very often. In fact, it is our Navy son who will be making the trip to WDW with us in October; he hasn't been there since he was 7, more than 20 years ago, and we're really looking forward to the trip.

Stay safe, DisneyFed, and thanks again for your service to our country!

 

[FreezinRafiki]

Funny thing was, we never called the nurses, they always came to check on us (you keep the little ones with you at our hospital, unless you request for them to be sent t the nursery--we didn't, we kept him with us--I stayed on a pull out chair).....our nurse told us we were the only one's not to call every half our..

At the moment my DS was born, there were probably 6 hospital personnel in the room (doctors, nurses, techs, etc). Less than 30 minutes later, it was just myself, DW, and one wrapped up little boy. If we didn't already have DD 2 years before, I could really see how that would freak someone out.
Of course, typing this made me nostalgic, so I went back and looked at some of the pictures. Look at that - I'm wearing a Disney World sweatshirt.

 

[KTME]

Old guys with young kids RULE

My wife and I blew the curve at our hospital when my son was born....

I was 34 and she was 32---but where we live tends to have a "younger" new parent population...and there was no one over 22 in the Maternity Ward with us (even though it was full--I mean, packed to the gills, no extra room, get out early full)...

They made us stay the full 48 hours, but no one told us why...but I figured it was for several reasons..

Funny thing was, we never called the nurses, they always came to check on us (you keep the little ones with you at our hospital, unless you request for them to be sent t the nursery--we didn't, we kept him with us--I stayed on a pull out chair).....our nurse told us we were the only one's not to call every half our..

We figured that once we left we were on our own, so we may as well figure it out now....

I will say there was a lot of drama going on in that hall...I'm guessing some of those new moms had no idea what they were getting into

Old Guys With Little Kids Rule.....Those are the words I will be saying to myself in five years and I am 45 taking the newest one to kindergarten. I can hear it now from the little kids.....Wow your grandfather is old....

Five months and the newest Disney Fan will be here!!!

 

[KTME]

Well fellas, I been through a lot emotionally recently and needed somewhere to vent really. My Dad, has been diagnosed with a brain tumor and will be going in for surgery on Wednesday morning. We are still not sure if it is cancer yet, that will be determined after the procedure. He just turned 70 and is healhty as a horse otherwise. My mom is taking it hard and I feel I need to be strong for everyone, but it is a very difficult task. I'm not really sure why I am posting this here on a Disney site, but I thought all of us being Dad's you could relate. I guess I just needed to get it off my chest.

Thoughts and prayers for my Dad would be appreciated.

Thanks

Hope everything went okay. You and your father have been in our thoughts and prayers.

 

[1Grumpy John]

Daddy O still have you in our prayers.

disfed, you gave me a good laugh, thanks

 

[Mrincredible1980]

Hey guys I have been gone for a little while, its always great to see so many new dads. If there is anyone out there interested in joining a fantasy football league I have three slots in my ESPN league. Its completely free and full of dads who love to talk some football trash. Anyone interested just send me a pm.

 

[DisneyDaddy-O]

Hey Guys,

Let me start by saying thanks to all of you that send your goods thoughts, prayers and well wishes. It was a long and exhausting day, my Dad made it out of surgery and woke up and had all the tubes taken out and recoginzed all of us. He is talking (a little confused still mind you) and even got to his feet last night. We did not get results from the tumor yet but this is a huge first step in a process that will take months (if not longer) to get over. I'm hopeful that all will go well today and we get some more good news. I will be in and out of work and the hospital today and will try and keep you guys updated.

Again thanks for the support, I don't think you all realize how much it helped yesterday when sitting in the hospital thinking that we were in your prayers.

I had a lot of time to think over things yesterday and just want to say keep all that you love close and remember how precious life and family are.

Thanks

 

[lessernobleman]

Old Guys With Little Kids Rule.....Those are the words I will be saying to myself in five years and I am 45 taking the newest one to kindergarten. I can hear it now from the little kids.....Wow your grandfather is old....

Great... I hadn't thought of it that way. I'll be 42 when my youngest goes to Kindergarten. Luckily there are quite a few "older" dads in our school district.

Think about this: How old will you be when your kids graduate? I'll be 54 for my youngest... That sucks.

 

[vladimir10]

Great... I hadn't thought of it that way. I'll be 42 when my youngest goes to Kindergarten. Luckily there are quite a few "older" dads in our school district.

Think about this: How old will you be when your kids graduate? I'll be 54 for my youngest... That sucks.

I'm right there with ya. I'm 40 this year, and my one and only son starts Kindergarten this year, too! I try not to think about how old I'll be on graduation day...


28 days....

 

[GoHerd1028]

Old guy with kids....I resemble that remarkLOL

Disney Fed...you talked about drama...well let me tell you I think I can top what you saw...our kids are both adopted....and we were at the hospital when both of them were born...our daughter was born to an older birthmom and it was a very pleasant experience for us all..she and her boyfriend were actors and singers on broadway (starving artists) and could not take care of themselves let alone a small child...very sad...The drama this time came when it was time to turn our son over to us and she looked at him for the last time. It was the most emotional thing I have ever seen and I made the mistake of looking at her as she looked at him for the final time and I will never forget the look of heartache in her face. She knew what she had to do and left us a letter to give him to tell him she loved him so much that she made this choice so he could be something in life that she could not offer.

The second time we adopted I thought ok..we have done this before and it will be ok...heck now ...the girl was young and knew she wanted to put the child up for adoption so she could go to school but Grandma was putting the pressure on hard. After the baby was born...she put on an Academy Award winning performance in the hallway with the weeping and wailing and gnashing of teeth...I was sick cause I knew it was going to fall through...but the girl remained firm in her decision. Grandma even got the bracelet that was intended for my wife and put it on and we had to get a court order to get my wife one...luckily the Dr who delivered our daughter was an adoptive parent herself and told the CEO of the hospital that they better make this situation right quickly...after the dust settled...we ended up getting our own room on the labaour and delivery floor for the rest of the stay...we just had to put up with Grandma comning in to take pictures all the time because she still had that darn bracelet on her arm....

Sorry I rambled on and this probably does not make sense...but...I have several gray hairs because of all the drama ha ha.

Keep your head down and stay safe over there buddy!!! Still looking forward to seeing pictures when you get time.

Steve

 

[FreezinRafiki]

our kids are both adopted

Oh man, both of those situations must have been very difficult to go through. Our oldest is adopted, but it was a much smoother process. From what we've heard, her birth mother was into her 40s and had adult kids already. She gave up our daughter under Wisconsin's Safe Haven Law (you can drop off a baby up to 3 days old any any hospital, fire station or police department no questions asked.) Anyway, she came to the hospital, gave birth, and left. We were foster parents at the time and got the call that afternoon. We were there when she was 13 hours old and haven't looked back since.
She's now 4 and knows all about birth parents and adoption. She's African-American, and notices the difference in skin tone. The hardest part is trying to walk that fine line between making her birth mother look like a great person for giving her a chance at a better life with us, but not making her look like a saint. (The cocaine and pot in my daughter's system at birth are testaments to that.)
If you don't mind me asking...do your kids know about their past? I would guess the 2 year old might not, but at 4 your DS is the same age as my DD.

 

[GoHerd1028]

Oh man, both of those situations must have been very difficult to go through. Our oldest is adopted, but it was a much smoother process. From what we've heard, her birth mother was into her 40s and had adult kids already. She gave up our daughter under Wisconsin's Safe Haven Law (you can drop off a baby up to 3 days old any any hospital, fire station or police department no questions asked.) Anyway, she came to the hospital, gave birth, and left. We were foster parents at the time and got the call that afternoon. We were there when she was 13 hours old and haven't looked back since.
She's now 4 and knows all about birth parents and adoption. She's African-American, and notices the difference in skin tone. The hardest part is trying to walk that fine line between making her birth mother look like a great person for giving her a chance at a better life with us, but not making her look like a saint. (The cocaine and pot in my daughter's system at birth are testaments to that.)
If you don't mind me asking...do your kids know about their past? I would guess the 2 year old might not, but at 4 your DS is the same age as my DD.

We have talked about adoption in front of the kids no specifics really though. Lauren does not have a grasp on anything yet and Ethan I think is taking it in and processing it. He has asked questions about where he was born and if we were with him when he was born. I told him that we were there from the moment he entered this world. I don't know how or when to begin the discussions of what adoption is. (If you have any helpful insight that would be great). Ethan was born on Dec 21 and we were able to leave the hospital with him on Christmas Eve (the best Christmas gift ever). We did not think lightning would strike twice and we wanted another child but did not think we could take the financial hit again so soon. Wife and I decided that if it was meant for us to have another one someone would approach us. I knew the chances of that were slim to none. 1 week later we received a call from a family member friend in IL about a family who was pregnant wand wanted to put the baby up for adoption and they wondered if we would want to adopt again. We immediately said yes. Then wife was questioning if we had made the right decision. She prayed for God to send her a sign and asked that if it was meant to be for the baby to be born near Christmas and then she would know. We received a call about 2 weeks later and the birthmom had an ultrasound and showed it was going to be a little girl and the due date was Dec 25...hello...it does not get much plainer than that. Christmas miracle number 2! She was actually born on Dec 11 and we were there for her also right from the beginning.

 

[dvczerfs]

Hey Guys,

Let me start by saying thanks to all of you that send your goods thoughts, prayers and well wishes. It was a long and exhausting day, my Dad made it out of surgery and woke up and had all the tubes taken out and recoginzed all of us. He is talking (a little confused still mind you) and even got to his feet last night. We did not get results from the tumor yet but this is a huge first step in a process that will take months (if not longer) to get over. I'm hopeful that all will go well today and we get some more good news. I will be in and out of work and the hospital today and will try and keep you guys updated.

Again thanks for the support, I don't think you all realize how much it helped yesterday when sitting in the hospital thinking that we were in your prayers.

I had a lot of time to think over things yesterday and just want to say keep all that you love close and remember how precious life and family are.

Thanks

 

[dvczerfs]

Old guy with kids....I resemble that remarkLOL

Disney Fed...you talked about drama...well let me tell you I think I can top what you saw...our kids are both adopted....and we were at the hospital when both of them were born...our daughter was born to an older birthmom and it was a very pleasant experience for us all..she and her boyfriend were actors and singers on broadway (starving artists) and could not take care of themselves let alone a small child...very sad...The drama this time came when it was time to turn our son over to us and she looked at him for the last time. It was the most emotional thing I have ever seen and I made the mistake of looking at her as she looked at him for the final time and I will never forget the look of heartache in her face. She knew what she had to do and left us a letter to give him to tell him she loved him so much that she made this choice so he could be something in life that she could not offer.

The second time we adopted I thought ok..we have done this before and it will be ok...heck now ...the girl was young and knew she wanted to put the child up for adoption so she could go to school but Grandma was putting the pressure on hard. After the baby was born...she put on an Academy Award winning performance in the hallway with the weeping and wailing and gnashing of teeth...I was sick cause I knew it was going to fall through...but the girl remained firm in her decision. Grandma even got the bracelet that was intended for my wife and put it on and we had to get a court order to get my wife one...luckily the Dr who delivered our daughter was an adoptive parent herself and told the CEO of the hospital that they better make this situation right quickly...after the dust settled...we ended up getting our own room on the labaour and delivery floor for the rest of the stay...we just had to put up with Grandma comning in to take pictures all the time because she still had that darn bracelet on her arm....

Sorry I rambled on and this probably does not make sense...but...I have several gray hairs because of all the drama ha ha.

Keep your head down and stay safe over there buddy!!! Still looking forward to seeing pictures when you get time.

Steve

wow, you guys are special people! have you figured out what days your going to be in oct.? or are you just wingin it yet?

 

[KTME]

Great... I hadn't thought of it that way. I'll be 42 when my youngest goes to Kindergarten. Luckily there are quite a few "older" dads in our school district.

Think about this: How old will you be when your kids graduate? I'll be 54 for my youngest... That sucks.

I will be 58 and could easily be a grandfather by then as well. My oldest will be 28 and the middle child will be 22 when the newest bundle of joy graduates from high school. It will certainly be an adventure over the next 18 years...and I am looking forward to every minute!