The DDA Trouble Free Zone Part 30

[tmfranlk]

So, what's on tap for today everyone? We've got the liberry to get to at some point. Then we're pretty empty until 3. After that, it gets pretty full. After we pick up mom we're hitting this small coffee shack place nearby. Some people in the community designated today "Sam's Day" and we want to stop by in support. The man who runs the shop is a 37-year old man who was born in Egypt with Cerebral Palsey. He was abandoned just after birth, but luckily rescued by someone. He came to the US as a child to be helped by the Shriner's and ended up being raised by them. He's had 29 surgeries in his life including one a couple of years ago from which he had a 10% chance of survival. He felt like he was supposed to open this shop and share his story with others and so did so, but he's been struggling with it. Some lady in the area happened to stop there in Sept and asked his story. She felt inspired to help in some way so started a grass roots campaign to make today "Sam's Day". Emails have been going around and flyers posted at local businesses. As of Tues he still didn't know it was happening (though his wife is in on it). Businesses have been donating food and volunteers to help staff things so that Sam isn't a) overwhelmed and b) can just visit with people throughout the day. It's amazing how much has come together in a short time from just one person deciding to organize something special for a complete stranger. Hopefully, today will be a big success, but also drum up some regular business for the shop.

Okay, sorry, that got long, but I find it all very inspiring.

Back to my day, then. So then we pick up Phil and head home for a little bit before leaving again. Tonight Mom, Terra and I are going to Mops and Pops Trivia Night (couples event for MOPS at church - Mom is a mentor mom, Erin is in MOPS and I provide childcare for the 3-5yos). They said if the Pops can't come to bring someone else so I'm going with Mom and Terra is going to play with the other kids. I think this is the first time I'll have done something with adults-only in at least 3 months if not much longer than that.

 

[Pooh67_68]

Tia, now nice of that woman to start Sam's day.

 

[Pooh67_68]

Enjoy your night with the adults.

I think this is the first time I'll have done something with adults-only in at least 3 months if not much longer than that.

 

[Pooh67_68]

Not much here today. Mom has a doctor appointment today at 11:00 and then we may go shopping.

 

[tmfranlk]

Well, I think that I finally have my signature to where it will fit, yet keeping most things. It would be easier if the limit was just a little bit taller, even if that meant your signature only showing one time on a page like they suggested.

 

[Mommy2EmMoLu]

Tia- Sam's day sounds like a wonderful thing. It's so nice to see that good people still exist.

I am sitting here waiting for a phonecall/email from Allyson's mom. She isn't here yet and I have yet to receive a phone call or something saying she won't be coming today.

It infuriates me that people think I am to be at their beck and call. I can only imagine that if I wasn't at my house when they came to drop their kid off that they wouldn't be too pleased

Tonight we are going out to find the rest of Emma's costume, nothing too exciting!!

 

[tmfranlk]

So, what are the weekend plans everyone? Not much here. We postponed our garage sale until next weekend, but now I can't remember what I was thinking of doing on Sat if it weren't for that. Oh well, guess it wasn't anything too exciting. Sunday we are going to the "hunkin hatch" with the whole family. Hopefully that will go okay as last Sunday ended up being a little dramatic.

Speaking of that, I could use some advice if anyone has it...
On Sunday Kristi got really upset because Chase wanted me to hold her. She had just awakened and realized they were here and I was in the room. She reached for me and I picked her up. I thought Kristi was joking at first, but realized she was really upset. I tried to take Chase out and give her to Kristi, but she started crying and asked me to take her inside if I was going to hold her. She was too upset to listen to what I was saying. I just apologized to her and told her that I didn't mean to upset her. I then took Chase inside, put her down to play and then left for the grocery store (was asked to, not just "running away"). I saw Mom bring Chase out as I left.

When I got home, I did my best to avoid whatever room Kristi and Chase were in because I didn't want a repeat. However, the one time Chase did see me, she looked at me like she was sad I didn't come talk to her. No one (Kristi or Erin - who as I've said before doesn't seem to like me sometimes anyway and has acted that way since we were kids) even said goodbye to me when they left. I was only in the next room and they all "shouted" it to others in other rooms/upstairs. Then there was a whole other thing that happened, I feel at least in part, because she was mad about Chase.

Kristi claims that Chase wants me over her. I don't want to diminish her feelings at all, but at the same time Chase does go to Kristi from me all of the time too. She'll go back and forth between us in the span of a time when I'm with them. When I first arrive or they first arrive, Chase does usually want me to hold her. Then she'll play on the floor or go to Kristi or go to Chris and sometime later come back to me again. This was the first time I have ever heard Kristi say anything that even remotely indicated she was upset.

I don't want to hurt Kristi's feelings, but at the same time, don't think that I should have to ignore Chase or stay in another room all of the time either. It makes me really not want to go to the pumpkin patch on Sunday even though it was my idea and I already promised Terra.

So has anyone ever felt like Kristi does with their own kids and someone else? Can you tell me what you wanted that person to do to help the situation? Any advice would be greatly appreciated as right now I just don't even feel comfortable with the idea of being with my family. Kristi and I usually talk at least a couple of times a week and we haven't talked at all.

 

[babytrees]

Ladies (and Tom! ), your chatter is cracking me up! You're right though, nobody will read it. I remember when we all used to read every page (before someone was wise and thought of recaps! ) and the response would take HOURS, even after just a weekend away!

I have my egg retrieval at 7:30 this morning, so if you're awake I'd love some extra prayers. I'm not worried about the actual procedure so much, but the outcome... I'm a little unsure about the last few days of my protocol, so it's got me super stressed. I'll try to update when I can. I should be out of recovery and home (although maybe with a little amnesia!) by lunchtime.

Thanks for all your support!

I know I am late but I am praying for you all day today.

 

[babytrees]

Did I miss something about signatures? Mine seems to be cut off, as do a few others. Did they reduce the size?

yes ma'am....they put a new program into place that automatically makes signatures conform to some new rules.

 

[babytrees]

John came home with a different car yesterday.
Not unusual since if there is a car with a problem that needs to be driven a bit before the problem appears, then they sent it home with him.

Well turns out its not a problem car, he decided to buy a different one. So even thought we agreed no more car payments after paying off the last one, he went and got another car. His words to me, but its only $100 a month.

So now we own a 2001 fully loaded Infinity.

gotta love man logic

 

[babytrees]

So what's your lousy sleeping source? Mine has been incredibly active dreams. I wake up feeling like I lived a second life, not slept. 3 out of 5 nights this week and I am beat.

I suffer from bouts of stress driven insomnia...that and a husband who snores, wakes up at 4 and is LOUD getting out of the house daily....I could go on and on.

Hope you can sleep better tonight!!

 

[babytrees]

Oooo, Heaven! I was really in trouble when they opened a Mexican restaurant just outside our complex entrance in CA. Yummy and not too expensive Mexican food less than 200 feet from my door = trouble!

Well one of the three is horrible food (but cheap) one is run by Mexicans from the Yucatan area so true authentic Mexican food...yummy but a bit pricey(you know it's good Mexican food because the Mexicans outnumber the rest of the clientele 3 to 1). The owners are awesome though!!

I will give a pouty post review this afternoon

The funny thing is it's in an old IHOP building and they didn't do much exterior work so we've been calling it the Mexican IHOP. Yup I'm strange!!

 

[tink2020]

Things went well this morning. I was home from the hospital after about 3-4 hours, and feel pretty good. I'm supposed to take it easy the rest of the day, so Kyle and I are watching a few movies, etc and just relaxing. They got 10 eggs, but we have to wait until tomorrow to see how they look and how things are going. Thanks for your prayers!

 

[babytrees]

Good morning, DDA!!!

So I got Terra's costume done yesterday and she looked really cute. She is just so darn proud of her costume idea. Luckily, most of the parents caught who she was right away, if not sure, they at least asked her and she would beam that they knew. I didn't get any pictures, but I will at Halloween. I do think that I need to add a few more holes though. They tended to fall in the folds so I want to put some more right in the middle where they are more noticeable. (Though don't tell Terra as she swears it is "just great" and doesn't need more.)

She did look like a walking advertisement at the mall yesterday when we went to pick up Phil. She was still wearing her Charlie Brown zig-zag stripe shirt and the new book Schultz came out yesterday where the cover is yellow with the zig-zag line on it.

I can't wait to see pictures!!

I love the old cartoon holiday shows!!

Does anybody remember Fat Albert's christmas special??? If you see it on tape or DVD please pick it up for me...it is my absolute favorite and it's never re run anymore.

 

[babytrees]

So, what's on tap for today everyone? We've got the liberry to get to at some point. Then we're pretty empty until 3. After that, it gets pretty full. After we pick up mom we're hitting this small coffee shack place nearby. Some people in the community designated today "Sam's Day" and we want to stop by in support. The man who runs the shop is a 37-year old man who was born in Egypt with Cerebral Palsey. He was abandoned just after birth, but luckily rescued by someone. He came to the US as a child to be helped by the Shriner's and ended up being raised by them. He's had 29 surgeries in his life including one a couple of years ago from which he had a 10% chance of survival. He felt like he was supposed to open this shop and share his story with others and so did so, but he's been struggling with it. Some lady in the area happened to stop there in Sept and asked his story. She felt inspired to help in some way so started a grass roots campaign to make today "Sam's Day". Emails have been going around and flyers posted at local businesses. As of Tues he still didn't know it was happening (though his wife is in on it). Businesses have been donating food and volunteers to help staff things so that Sam isn't a) overwhelmed and b) can just visit with people throughout the day. It's amazing how much has come together in a short time from just one person deciding to organize something special for a complete stranger. Hopefully, today will be a big success, but also drum up some regular business for the shop.

Okay, sorry, that got long, but I find it all very inspiring.

Back to my day, then. So then we pick up Phil and head home for a little bit before leaving again. Tonight Mom, Terra and I are going to Mops and Pops Trivia Night (couples event for MOPS at church - Mom is a mentor mom, Erin is in MOPS and I provide childcare for the 3-5yos). They said if the Pops can't come to bring someone else so I'm going with Mom and Terra is going to play with the other kids. I think this is the first time I'll have done something with adults-only in at least 3 months if not much longer than that.

sounds like a good day all around

work, work function, taco meat making. Boy I live a thrilling life

 

[jackskellingtonsgirl]

Tia - I am sorry Kristi is acting that way. It's not like you are trying to take her child away. It's not your fault if Chase wants you to hold her! I have never had DS want to go to someone else, so I don't know how that is. But I do have charges who want me instead of Mom, and most of my friends have had that happen, too. The difference is that we really do spend more waking hours with the kids than their moms do, so it is almost natural for them to want their nanny. Brother used to ask for me all the time on weekends. I have had one friend lose her job because the baby preferred her over the mom. Obviously Kristi is jealous, but that isn't your fault. I think she is being very juvenile, and I hope someone points that out to her soon!

 

[jackskellingtonsgirl]

Jennifer - 10 eggs sounds like a good start! Lots of good wishes that things progress well from here!!

Theresa - Can't say I have ever seen the Fat Albert Christmas special. I do like the Pee Wee's Playhouse Christmas special, though.

I was in Sears yesterday. They have a few Disney ornaments. The ones I saw were 2 Tinkerbell snow globe ornaments or 2 Princess snow globe ornaments. The American Greetings store has an ornament of the "leg lamp" from A Christmas Story. I thought that was funny, but not funny enough to actually buy one.

 

[jackskellingtonsgirl]

I took some of the extra spaces out of my siggie and now my banana SORT OF has legs.

 

[jackskellingtonsgirl]

I think I am finished messing with my siggie. For now. Until I think of some other profound statement to put in there.

 

[babytrees]

Tia - I am sorry Kristi is acting that way. It's not like you are trying to take her child away. It's not your fault if Chase wants you to hold her! I have never had DS want to go to someone else, so I don't know how that is. But I do have charges who want me instead of Mom, and most of my friends have had that happen, too. The difference is that we really do spend more waking hours with the kids than their moms do, so it is almost natural for them to want their nanny. Brother used to ask for me all the time on weekends. I have had one friend lose her job because the baby preferred her over the mom. Obviously Kristi is jealous, but that isn't your fault. I think she is being very juvenile, and I hope someone points that out to her soon!

I am going to have to go with Elizabeth on this one!! I lost 2 kids I was watching because of this too....mom came up with a contrived story that didn't ring true. I am sure her feelings hurt...she is probably already feeling working mom blues and then add insult to injury (in her mind) Chase prefers you over her anyway.

Can you tell her you understand her feelings but you will not hide from Chase.