Telling Dd's About Santa, Good Ideas?

[paula70]

After lots of thought and sadness, it is time to tell my DD's there is no santa.

I honestly don't think DD11 really believes but has put on a really good front. She questions it often and none of her friends believe but she is sweet and naive and wants so bad to keep believing. DD8 1/2 questions it as well but is more easily swayed.

So before they completely give up on the idea themselves, I want to find a cute way of telling them. My GF told me about a poem one her friends used that let the kids no that Santa was really Mom and Dad but now she can't find it.

Does anyone else have a cute way to let the kids know that Santa is really Mom and Dad?

TIA!

 

[Darcy03231]

Why tell them at all? My kids are 15, 17, 20 & 24 and I have never told them there is no Santa. In fact, they still get presents from Santa under the tree every year.

 

[paintnolish]

I guess specifically telling them is new to me, too. My parents never said it to me or my sisters-we just figured it out on our own and grew out of it. Good luck, though!

 

[John Smith1]

Why tell them? My Dad never told me, I just outgrew it.

My gf's 15yo son told me the other day that he wishes he still believed in him. I asked him how he found out and he told me he just figured it out.

Kids love fantasy. I don't think you ever have to tell them that Chuck E Cheese is a guy in a rat's suit either, they just figure it out.

 

[paintnolish]

Why tell them? My Dad never told me, I just outgrew it.

My gf's 15yo son told me the other day that he wishes he still believed in him. I asked him how he found out and he told me he just figured it out.

Kids love fantasy. I don't think you ever have to tell them that Chuck E Cheese is a guy in a rat's suit either, they just figure it out.

DD knows Chuck E is a guy in a suit but is still scared of him. It's the teeth, she tells me...

 

[shortbun]

I waited until my son asked me. I always told him that Santa was part of the spirit of Christmas - the giving part and that we gave to others as the Three Kings gave to the baby Jesus. It evolved into Santa just being a representative of the giving and that anyone can be a Santa. He was a little worried that the tooth fairy, Easter Bunny and Santa would all disappear now that he knew. We assured him that the spirit always lives and that even adults 'believe.'

 

[John Smith1]

DD knows Chuck E is a guy in a suit but is still scared of him. It's the teeth, she tells me...

If I want a REAL laugh I pull out the vid of my ds running from CEC on his 3rd bday!!!! He's 12 now and does NOT like that vid!!

 

[cindy_belle]

I only told my 11yo when he pointedly asked me if "I" was Santa. I then told him the truth and asked him not to tell his 9 and 5 yo DS. They will ask me when the time is right for them.

I think that this is something where the right time will present itself. You don't have to go looking for it IYKWIM.

 

[Luv Bunnies]

I think Santa is something kids will outgrown on their own. If they specifically ask questions, it's fine to be honest with them. But I'm not planning to go out of my way to tell my boys unless they bring it up.

 

[ThreeMusketeers]

Why tell them at Christmas time????

And why tell them at all?

My parents never sat me down and told me.
I knew at a certain point there was no Santa, but I always played along. And As an adult I am not scared or damaged.
Isn't it just one of those things that eventually you just "know". (???)

The spirit of Christmas (Santa) can live on in parents or elves..does it really matter?

I agree with being creativly honest. If they point blank ask.

But it sounds like your kids still WANT to enjoy the magic of Christmas, don't take that away!! =)

 

[friendofgusgus]

DD knows Chuck E is a guy in a suit but is still scared of him. It's the teeth, she tells me...

Ooh, this makes me laugh - my DSS11 still hates that thing - and would kick and scream until he was removed from the party room at his own birthday party many moons ago! Ah, the good old days...

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Don't ever tell them unless you want it thrown back in your face.

Let's see my 12yodd demanded to know when she was 7, I think.

My 17yodd gets mad when my 12yodd says "there is no Santa, mom told me." Then picture bickering ensuing...

My 17yodd is one that will always "believe".

 

[teacups]

I still believe. My husband still believes. My kids believe, and the oldest is 25! It's part of the magic of the season. When you OFFICIALLY stop believing part of the magic is gone forever. When you go to Disney do you point out that Mickey is a guy in a suit? No. That would ruin the magic, right? You just smile and wave back at the big mouse and are happy as heck to be there doing it! (most of the time you even grab your camera!)

Good luck whatever you decide

 

[Zippa D Doodah]

OP, my kids are about the same ages as yours (11 and 9). The 11yo asks lots of questions and I know she has figured stuff out, but both she and her brother would never own up to thinking anything other than Santa was going to show up Christmas Eve with toys.

My folks never have told me anything different. I'm 44yo and when we go see my folks on Christmas Day there will be a stocking at their house that Santa has left for me. I guess what I'm trying to say is why not just roll with the fun and magic of it all?

 

[Sparx]

i'm a seventeen year old college student, and i still believe in santa and christmas magic.

don't tell her he isn't real. let her decide for herself if she wants to believe or not believe.

you're never too old for a little christmas magic.

 

[DisneyMim]

Count me in on still believing. My kids are 24 and 20 and we never told them about Santa. To be honest I think they both knew way before I thought they did. With kids in school, activities, etc., there are bound to be talk all around them. There are still presents under our tree from Santa, it's just part of the magic of Christmas. And talking about magic, I still believe in Mickey and all the characters!!

Enjoy the Magic!!

 

[Soarin08]

i'm a seventeen year old college student, and i still believe in santa and christmas magic.

don't tell her he isn't real. let her decide for herself if she wants to believe or not believe.

you're never too old for a little christmas magic.

I'm 18 and still believe. It adds to the magic of the season. At my grandmother's, we still find gifts from Santa under the tree. So still believe in him. No sense in actually telling your DD.... I agree she needs to determine for herself if she believes in Santa or not.

 

[cinmell]

Why tell them at Christmas time????

And why tell them at all?

My parents never sat me down and told me.
I knew at a certain point there was no Santa, but I always played along. And As an adult I am not scared or damaged.
Isn't it just one of those things that eventually you just "know". (???)

The spirit of Christmas (Santa) can live on in parents or elves..does it really matter?

I agree with being creativly honest. If they point blank ask.

But it sounds like your kids still WANT to enjoy the magic of Christmas, don't take that away!! =)

OP, my kids are about the same ages as yours (11 and 9). The 11yo asks lots of questions and I know she has figured stuff out, but both she and her brother would never own up to thinking anything other than Santa was going to show up Christmas Eve with toys.

My folks never have told me anything different. I'm 44yo and when we go see my folks on Christmas Day there will be a stocking at their house that Santa has left for me. I guess what I'm trying to say is why not just roll with the fun and magic of it all?

i'm a seventeen year old college student, and i still believe in santa and christmas magic.

don't tell her he isn't real. let her decide for herself if she wants to believe or not believe.

you're never too old for a little christmas magic.

It adds to the magic of the season. I agree she needs to determine for herself if she believes in Santa or not.

I agree with the posts above. I wouldn't spoil it for them.

 

[raysnkaysmom]

I'm about 90% sure my 13 yr old DD doesn't believe anymore..but that 10% of me loves the fact its still a possibility.. and I think she loves the fact that I still beleive she believes, and thats why she doesn't tell me that she knows.. LOL

My 8 yr old DD asked her dad the other day if Santa put the gifts under the tree, or if it was him.. He said 'What do you think baby", and she said "I think you do".. and he said, "ok then, but never stop believing in CHristmas"...

I'd not come right out and say it... they figure it out when they are ready.. and usually, it just remains unsaid

 

[mjkacmom]

My mom hasn't told me, yet, and I'm 41! My oldest doesn't believe, and I don't think my 10 year old does, but I'm not bringing it up. It seems like most kids get it gradually, when they are ready. Even when my oldest questioned it with me, I said "if you don't believe, you don't recieve" and that was the end of the discussion.