Well...
D got home not until after dinner last night. He was wiped out from not sleeping and the drive home in the dark and rush hour and snow, so we didn't talk. I was so stressed last night, I kid you not, I was so tightly wound that I was quivering in bed.

I didn't fall asleep until about 2:00, then he woke up at 5:00 and couldn't go back to sleep. We're a heck of a pair.
So, we got the boys on the bus this morning and talked. M called D yesterday and asked if he had a resume ready. D just keeps saying, "I don't know, I don't know." His main sticking points seem to be remaining at 1) living in FL - he doesn't want to move every few years, so doesn't know if he wants to "spend the rest of the boys' school life in FL"; and 2) worried about the work needed to sell our house.
I just said that while I know I appear to be taking the "pro" side in all this, I really just want hm to be happy, not trying to push it, and if living in FL wouldn't make him happy, well...
But, I can admit to you guys what I can't say to most people - that I am starting to get excited about the idea and might be disappointed if he really wants to stay.

Why, I'm not sure. There's only a couple of reasons for me to WANT to move, and those are
him being less stressed, and being done with snow for a while.
In the midst of our talk, he got a message that he will be having a trip not this weekend, but next, to Vero Beach (and yes, they usually stay at the
DVC there) which is just up the road from M's house. He ought to have a chance to get to Palm City/Stuart, which is what we're looking at. Whether that will have an effect, I don't know. But, it's good timing, I think.
Then, after our talk, it was time to pick up the boys and he wanted to go office furniture shopping. I don't know if that was a signal that he's not looking to move or if he thinks it would be good for selling the house, or if he's just not thinking that way at all!
One of the playgroup moms was missing her DH (who's traveling for a week - she's not used to it as I am) and asked us over. So, by the time I got home an hour ago he was asleep on the couch and nothing more has been said.
I probably just need to let it go for a while, but it's the biggest thing in my head right now, and it's hard. And, as I've mentioned, I'm not sure why I'm so "pro move" if you will...

Sigh.
And, I think that he really doesn't know what to do, so I know it's not the time to ask for an answer. I do think I might be downplaying what a big decision it is, yet I do think he might be better off. Yet, I'm not unhappy here in NH and don't need to go. ACK!!!!!
Thanks once again for reading, or listening, or whatever. It's so nice to have folks to bounce stuff off of that are more neutral - the ladies tonight were sweet in that they would miss me, but therefore being fairly negative.

to everyone. I need some sleep. See you tomorrow.