Team Focker Watch Chat - Good Grief We Talk A Lot! Part 5

[Parla]

I just read that Randy Pausch died this morning. Did anyone read The Last Lecture? I watched the actual lecture but have yet to read the book.

I just got that book from the library but haven't started reading it yet.

Before you all start tellinf me I am crazy all of the kids sans 3 or 4 will be in PreK with Jimmy come Septemebr, so I thought this was a good idea for them to get to know each other. Jimmy knows them all, but they all don't know each other...does that make sense?

I hope nobody tells you you're crazy for this. It sounds like fun! DD decided one day this past Spring that she was going to have a concert in the back yard. The way she told me about it though made me think something was going on with school because she kept talking about her friends all talking about it. Well, it took me two whole days to figure out that she had invited all her friends to come to our house for a concert that she was going to sing an original song at. I thought, "What the heck? We don't have any plans." So she and I printed out some invitations and sent them to school (I included a note about how the idea came about since I figured there were other parents as confused as I was) and a few kids actually showed up on a weeknight. We got all of our Kindermusik gear out as well as a big keyboard that I had put up in the garage because I forgot to get it down for Christmas a couple of years ago and I made PB&J sushi rolls (just rolled out bread with PB&J cut into what looks like sushi) cut up some apples and baked some cookies. The kids had a blast but I swear everyone that I worked with thought I was nuts having a concert just because DD had invited everyone.

I'm here!!! I think you're a great mom for doing something so fun for the kids!

Ummm, wow. Those were great ideas! I know who I'm asking if I need ideas for anything that has to do with my kids!

There will be many, many more moments just like this one, in his future...very sadly.

for your whole family sweetie.

Please tell me this is some phase that will go away soon!

We are going through this with DD right now. She lies about the silliest things and gets punished for it every time but she is still doing it for now.

Then a small story about a boy and a wolf.... Seems cliche now but it worked!

We tried this with DD but I think she just likes to get a rise out of us.

Ok, well seems like I showed up just in time!

What a carppy experience. Back in the day... didn't they set and put the cast on before they sent you home? Now they make you wait all weekend before the ortho guy does something with it and don't they re-break it or something? I'm all confused as to how this works but the thought of the little guy waiting all weekend with a broken arm and those morons hardly helping him at all makes me sad...

BTW...I think I'm moving back home. don't tell anyone. I've been offered an opportunity I can't refuse.

I can't keep a secret! I'm going to tell DH right now. He didn't care about the Sea World story that I shared with him though so I'm not sure he'll care about this too much.

I prefer pina coladas...but right now...I'll take one of these.

Mmmmmm.... Pina coladas.....

Plus, I"m miserable.

Sounds like a good reason. I'm sorry Jon won't be closer to his docs but it looks like the pros outweigh the cons on going back.

 

[englishrose47]

Off to bed so will say Good night Fockers !!

 

[Miz Diz]

What if you had someone in your life...who you are very close to. Like family. And their child was out of control. But, telling them may make things bad between you. WWYD?

That's so hard. The thing with my great neice is that she is not out of control. As long as she is getting her way, she is fine and her parents make sure she gets her way. You can't blame her for being that way because her parents are teaching her that.

I think most people know if their kids are out of control or brats. I hate to say anything to anyone because then I feel like they think I believe my kids are perfect. Which they are definitely not. But people with out of control kids, will get the message when no one wants to be around their kids. I'll give you my sis as an example. Her youngest is much better behaved now, but last year, she and her dh were going on a trip and they had a tough time getting anyone to take her youngest. My parents even told her no because they just can't handle him. I offered because I didn't want her to miss out on her trip, plus he is better behaved for me than other people. Her sister-in-law ended up taking him. I know this is getting OT, but when he started school last year - it really helped him. His teacher told my sis how he was one of the best kids in the class. My sis told her she can't be talking about her child (she is not blind that he is/was a terror, this is a kid who got mad one day and started throwing his brothers things out his bedroom window). But the teacher said - yes, her child.

K is the best at stripes. Here's how he did B's wall...
He puts the tape up with his level that has a light thingy on it, then paints

This looks great! We painted stripes on dd's wall - below the chair rail, using blue, green, and pink. Your colors and design look much better!

My brother practically ignores my ds now that he has a son but no one says any thing to him. I think this it what is actually bugging me the most right now.

That's so sad.

We've had such a lazy day today, literally just swam in Dad's pool all day, Ellie hardly comes out

Glad you had a lazy day! Sounds fun.

Is anyone else watching Hannah Montana in Concert tonight?

I saw it and thought it was a little disappointing.

 

[Miz Diz]

Jen - to you. You have made it longer with your mom than I would have. I'm glad things are working out with the job offer.

WallE- DH took DS to see this and ds liked it. He's never seen a movie that he didn't like. Dh hated the movie. I guess I'll see it when it comes out on video.

Mo - the light at the end of the tunnel is nearing...........

Night all

 

[rachel3]

hello girls!!! sounds like everyone needs a big

about the dad thing-- my dad was around, but not much of a father and i turned out okay ( i think so anyway!!) bc i had a wonderful mother. she was supportive and told me i could/ do anything i wanted or dreamed!!! i think with just one great parent , kids will be just fine!!

margie-- i don't think you're wrong at all. it sounds like your db thinks you should be available any/all the time, so he can have fun. when you have kids , sometimes you have to make sacrifices. you can't always do the fun things you want by yourself. i think you're completely justified feeling the way you do.


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so , on a lighter note, i want to ask your opinion. my mom wants to do cirque de soleil when we go to wdw. she offered to pay for tickets and all. i'm having trouble fitting it in to our schedule, but wanted to know if anyone has ever been. is it worth it to arrange things around to make time. i think we can do it the first night, but it will be hectic. also, i was going to take my dd (7). do you think she would like it???

 

[rachel3]

jen--- i'm so sorry your mom acted the way she did. it sounds like your making the best decision for jon.

 

[rachel3]

okay, since everyone's been having bad few days, i want to share funny (but little yuck ) story with you.

i was at work, drawing blood. well, i'm looking at this lady's hair and see this gnat crawling in her hair. i'm staring at it...........

me (thinking silently)-- eww, there's a gnat in her hair. it looks like it's going to fly out of her hair to me.

then the gnat moves to the end of the hair strand on her forehead, then moves back on the hair shaft. continues moving back and forth. i kinda focus my eyes a little better.....................

me (thinking silently)-- omg. there are gnats all over her hair. ewww. i'm looking closer and the gnats stay in the hair and do not fly away.
then i have a lightbulb go off in my head (remember blonde girl in a brunettes body ) OMG. THEY AREN'T GNATS, THAT'S LICE!!!! EWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW.

i quickly finish my task, run out of the room. i tell the doctor, i think that lady has lice. there are little bugs crawling in her hair. ( i omitted the part that i originally thought it was a gnat/ gnats) he says, rachel if there are bugs in her hair , then she does have lice. then , he starts cracking up laughing at me. he grabs a surgical cap, says "i'll put it on her, i'm bald anyway". what a great doctor!!!!!

so, the rest of the night, we're all freaking out!!!! i wasn't too close, but the other nurse helped her undress and change into a gown !!!

i know i sound like a dumb #$% , but i've never seen the actual bugs. i know they usually look for the white nits!!! call me naive i guess!!!

i've been itching for 3 days. nothing there, just all in my mind.

so, sometimes i do NOT like my job!!!!

 

[askelton]

And my bad karma for the week. Murph (mom) has been feeling terrible since last weekend. Can barely get out of bed and very achy, my first thought is Lyme (she has a lot of ticks around here and walks her dog a few times a day and finds them on him). She thought she was getting fibromyalgia since these are my symptoms, but I never heard of it starting at 74 yo. She finally went to the DR yesterday and he took lots of blood and he suspects "something viral" Now we wait and see. In the meantime he gave her some anti - inflammatories that are knocking her on her butt, though she was able to get out of bed easier today.

to Murph. Feel better soon

Oh and BTW I have jury duty this week. YUCKKK.

Bring a book, or 3.

so , on a lighter note, i want to ask your opinion. my mom wants to do cirque de soleil when we go to wdw. she offered to pay for tickets and all. i'm having trouble fitting it in to our schedule, but wanted to know if anyone has ever been. is it worth it to arrange things around to make time. i think we can do it the first night, but it will be hectic. also, i was going to take my dd (7). do you think she would like it???

We haven't been, but it's on my to do list. I say If Mom wants to take you, go for it! I've heard it's amazing.

 

[Muffinygood]

OMG Rachel.......ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww!!!!

This is why I would be a TERRIBLE nurse! I'd have yelled, "OMG! You have LICE!" And run screaming from the room.

Not proud of it, but I would have.

Jen: You are doing the right thing. I don't suppose that your motha would change how she is at her age, and her comments were unforgivable. I say you had your answer when you asked Jon...

Margie: I don't know what to suggest for you. I will say that I work very closely with a group in my town called Youth Assistance. I know they are all over MI, but not sure if you have them where you are. We are a mentoring group (like BigBro/BigSis) that works with kids as young as kindergarten. We work with Caseworkers who then decide what course of action to take, be it a mentor or involving kids in lessons of some sort to give them a direction, or counselling for themselves or parents.
Bug isn't doing anything abnormal for his age. The only difference is that instead of an "imaginary friend" he's made it his dad. My sister and I were raised by mom after dad left (i was 4 but she was only 1) and she would invent the most insane stories....She's perfectly fine now (she's a nurse) and if you ask her now she will tell you that her "friends" were very real to her then. I didn't do it, but it might have been healthier than the way I acted out in my teens....
This is all I could give you for advice: You are already doing a better job ALONE than alot of parents do together! How many people do you know that are clueless to their kid's needs and don't really INVEST in their kids?! Bug won't suffer for having one ON THE BALL parent. Find him a hobby as he gets older than includes men (boyscouts is great for this!!) and continue to be supportive the way you are! He'll be just fine!

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Ok, yesterday was a very lazy day. I did take the boys for haircuts and pick up some groceries but that's it! DH is still not feeling like himself so he's not up to doing much. That's fine with me.
MUST RANT, CANT HOLD IT IN!!!
My mil/fil are supposed to visit sometime in the near future. (it's time for MY rant now) and as per the last 20 years, they haven't deigned to tell me WHEN! They are the MOST irritating people I know!!! In 20 years, I don't think they've EVER told us what day they'll arrive, when they're leaving..etc. All of this AND they bring their DOG without permission EVERY time! ARGH! This is the same dog that BIT my son (repeatedly I might add) and that I've begged my DH to tell them to board at the kennel.

Finally, after 20 years, I got DH to tell them: You can come. But only for a week (they are usually here for 3!!!!) and you can't bring the dog.

So, they're being passive/agressive now. They are coming. They said they are boarding the dog, though he was with them when they called me from NY (they're visiting family there first) but they won't tell us when!!!

When I mentioned FF to MIL on the phone last week, she said, "We'll just work around you." Oh, thanks! WELL< if that's true than tell me when you're coming!!! AND for once in 16 years, BABYSIT For God's SAKE and save me a couple hundred dollars so I don't have to hire someone!!!! BUT NO. I have to line up a sitter, they STILL haven't said when they're coming but I'm sure it will be around 3 weeks from now and I feel like I'm going to explode!

So help me, if they bring that dog to my house, I think I'll go straight outta my head. BTW, we don't have ANY pets. NEVER have, not a single one. There's a reason. We are ALLERGIC!!!! And on top of that, they have NEVER asked if they could bring a dog. HOW RUDE! And also important to this rant is that they barely SPEAK to my children. The kids are old enough now that ds15 said in the car the other day, "I'm sure Gramma and Grampa love us but they don't act like it." OMG> so sad.

I can tell you this: I'm going to FF. I don't care if they're here or not. I'd prefer NOT. I don't mind hiring sitters, because unlike some people (my dsis included) I realize that parenting is a full time job. I understand that if I want to do something PURELY selfish, for myself that I have to make safe and competent arrangements for my kids. I doubt seriously that my IL's would make the cut in either department. And so help me, if they try to bring that dog here, we may have a showdown. When I tell them today on the phone that we are hiring a sitter and that they are NOT welcome to arrive or be here from aug 22-25th I think it will get ugly. They will probably even OFFER to watch the kids but since I know (and the kids know) that they will IGNORE them and treat them like dirt the whole time, that isn't going to happen. I swear, I'd leave the two of them here ALONE before I'd agree to that!!! Ds15 is more mature than they are!

So, what's my issue. Just needed to blow off some steam. I love my dh to distraction. He has few faults, but his parents were almost the dealbreaker.
They're evil.

MEL

 

[Muffinygood]

Holy carp. sorry my post was insanely long. sheesh.

 

[dreamn_Disney]

Again thank you all for the kind words and ideas. We are going to be at the beach today. I am not sure how long I will stay as Nana isn't going and I do not want her stuck home alone while Bug and I are off having fun. Nana's skin is clearing up nicely but she still can't shave and we agreed that lake water might not be the best thing for her infection.
Mel- and your boys can come and stay here. I collect kids. They look cute sitting on my brick-a-brack shelves. I do not know what to say about the dog. I would most likely just suck it up and be all mad inside until I exploded and looked like an idiot.

 

[Miz Diz]

Holy carp. sorry my post was insanely long. sheesh.

You feel better, though. Right?

Man - they would drive me insane! My inlaws never stay more than a night or 2. We would all drive each other crazy if they stayed any longer.

 

[HomeschoolMama]

Mel- That would drive me insane too.

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I'm going to church with my family this morning! I haven't been since I started feeling so bad. So, I'm excited to go.

Also- Things don't sound so good for Katt again. Sounds like the trip is off according to her TR.

 

[Parla]

i think i covered it all!! if you have any questions pm me!! i can't believe what horrible care you received. i would have gone over all of this stuff with you and your son at discharge. if i think of anymore info i will let you know.

I you people! Party tips, medical help... the list goes on. This is such a great group.

so, yes, i'm very happy that she's going, but feel little guilty cuz it wasn't my first reaction, kwim????? thanks for listening gals!!!

Don't feel so bad. We all have those little negative feelings sometimes that we feel bad for later. Most people just don't have a place to clear their consious and not be judged.

I've talked to my friend who lost his Dad and he gave his blessing for us to leave.

So the bags are packed and we will be leaving in about an hour.. UGH... ONLY HOUR OFF SCHEDULE.

Talk to you from WDW..

Katt.

Have a great time. I hope it's a million times better than your last trip.

...he doesn't want the girl that cuts his hair to see him like this!

That is so cute! Poor guy. Too bad he doesn't already have a hard cast. He would probably want her to sign it.

I told dh, I don't think we'll invite them over any more.

I totally agree. I would make it very clear to them (at least talk to your niece privately) of the decision and why you made it. I'm sure they will have other people make this decision about them in their lives and I think they should know about it. Hopefully she can do something about her DH. I'm worried that if he's teaching his daughter to lie so well, what is he lying about in his own life???

The first thing I'm doing when I get home...meeska and I are going for a tall strong drink.

That sounds like a good plan!

"Well, as he grows, his disabilities are going to become more obvious. And I hope you don't think those kids will be his friends forever. Because they won't."

That was a horrible thing to say. She doesn't know the hearts of the children that have become friends with Jon. Those could be his best friends for the rest of his life.

I just don't know what to say anymore. I think we may pack up and leave today.

I'm obviously a few pages behind but I hope that you are packed and ready to go. She was already treating Jon like a servant. I think it's best for everyone if you get "home" ASAP.

 

[jcc0621]

And my bad karma for the week. Murph (mom) has been feeling terrible since last weekend. Can barely get out of bed and very achy, my first thought is Lyme (she has a lot of ticks around here and walks her dog a few times a day and finds them on him). She thought she was getting fibromyalgia since these are my symptoms, but I never heard of it starting at 74 yo. She finally went to the DR yesterday and he took lots of blood and he suspects "something viral" Now we wait and see. In the meantime he gave her some anti - inflammatories that are knocking her on her butt, though she was able to get out of bed easier today.

Get well wishes for Murph

As for the drama at work, the new VP says I will be fully transitioned by the time I leave for Fockerfest (well she called it vacation), I hope so!

Well, we had a better day today. Leo and I had some time alone (i.e.: without Gramma) this morning and it helped a lot! Then we all three went to see Wall-E.... WOW!!! I'm completely in love with the movie!

Jimmy has no interest in seeing it

That's exactly what it took for my ex to start paying... he was one small step from jail time. But, he'd managed to buy 2 new cars whilst not paying support for 2 years.

That is just sad that it takes the threat of jail for people to pay their child support

Love to youse all!

YOu too T

OMG
So, what's my issue. Just needed to blow off some steam. I love my dh to distraction. He has few faults, but his parents were almost the dealbreaker.
They're evil.

MEL

So sorry you have to deal with the Mel.

I'm going to church with my family this morning! I haven't been since I started feeling so bad. So, I'm excited to go.

Also- Things don't sound so good for Katt again. Sounds like the trip is off according to her TR. [/COLOR]

Oh No

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Well movie night was complete success. The kids had a ball and so did the parents. We showed a LIon King SIng A Long as the "pre-show" and then showed Finding Nemo. Nemo was a little longer than I remembered so by the end all the parents were watching and all the kids were playing on the swings and stuff

It was a long day/night but worth it becasue the kids had fun!

Not much planned for today. HAve to go grocery shopping and do some .

I will check in later Fockers!

 

[Parla]

We're leaving...asap.

Have a safe trip home. Jon is gonna be so happy to get back to his school and friends.

This probably doesn't make sense as I am upset and just typing.

I think we got the jest of it. I don't understand how people can be brought up by the same parents and turn out so differently.

My dad has paid so much money to help my oldest sister and my brother. In the last year he has bailed my two oldest nephews out of jail for alcohol related arrests. My other sister and I get angry because my opinion is he is just creating burdens on society that the rest of us will have to pay for when he is gone. These kids will never be able to fully support themselves. I just think there were better ways to help them. My nephew is living with him, driving his car and asking for money (while not working himself). It's just insane. My niece(9) called just a week before her birthday to ask Pappaw if she could have $20 because she needed to buy some things for the cow she was raising. He told her he didn't have it and she would have to wait for her birthday. The problem is my other niece (the sister of the nephew living with him) had just gotten a new Vera Bradley purse and my nephew felt the need to gripe about Pappaw having spent $80 on it. These kids live off the man and then complain when one gets more than the other. My younger niece was crushed that Pappaw would do so much for the older cousins and not be able to help her the one time she ever asked him. I'm glad that my kids don't live close enough to see it all or they would be living with hurt feelings too. There are lots of things they would like that we can't afford but I'm teaching them to appreciate what they have and not go begging and expecting other people to hand you everything.

He thought I was a better person than that and didn't I care about his family?

The sad thing is he isn't the first guy I've heard of doing that. Are you still getting support from him? What a jerk!

We've had such a lazy day today, literally just swam in Dad's pool all day, Ellie hardly comes out

I'm so glad you're posting. I thought we would be without you for a while.

I'm home from a 3 hour grocery shopping trip, which in all reality should have taken an hour at most... CHILDREN! They fought the whole time. "He's squishing MEEEE....", "She won't scoot oooovvverrr."

Batty! They drove me BATTY!

This sounds familiar. I can't wait until school starts so I can go back to grocery shopping alone.

OH MY HECK!!! WTH is happening to us around here?!?!

Aren't you supposed to place rosemary around your house to get rid of the bad spirits? Maybe we should all put this in our siggie.

The message was AWESOME...

I love Fred Willard and saw him on Jimmy Kimmel where they talked about him being the first live person in a cgi movie or something like that so I was prepared and didn't think anything of it.

I also loved the movie but hate to be preached at about global topics (NOdolphins) so I didn't pay much attention to the message and focused on the love story which I thought was really good. I also loved that John Ratzenberger's character's name was John for some reason. DS loves to point out the first moment he hears John's voice in a Pixar movie.

I just loved when Eve would say, "Wall-E!!!" when she was annoyed with him.

so , on a lighter note, i want to ask your opinion. my mom wants to do cirque de soleil when we go to wdw. she offered to pay for tickets and all. i'm having trouble fitting it in to our schedule, but wanted to know if anyone has ever been. is it worth it to arrange things around to make time. i think we can do it the first night, but it will be hectic. also, i was going to take my dd (7). do you think she would like it???

We haven't been but have seen it on TV a long time ago. They just did Cirque themed cakes on the Food Network Challenge last week. By the time the show was over DS was asking to go to Cirque the next time we went to WDW and I agree. I'm planning on making time for it.

In the age department this is probably the most family friendly Cirque show out there. I think the kids would do great!

okay, since everyone's been having bad few days, i want to share funny (but little yuck ) story with you.

As soon as you saw a gnat in her hair I knew what it was!

My lice experience...

I used to do data entry work for Columbia House. One night I went to the restroom as a girl was leaving the restroom. I say girl because she was probably about 18. When I went to wash my hands I saw a bunch of little black bugs that reminded me of gnats ALL over the sink. I moved to the next sink.

I knew they weren't gnats and went to my supervisor and asked if she thought they were lice. She actually said, "Oh, those are just garden bugs. Someone was probably gardening before they came to work."

So then I told all my friends and they went and looked but none of us had ever seen lice so we didn't know for sure but we knew they weren't "garden bugs".

I went home and got my Funk & Wagnells Encyclopedia out (feel free to laugh, I got made fun of for bringing my grocery store encyclopedia to work ) looked up lice and found a picture of what I had seen in the bathroom. I took it to work and showed my supervisor who still disagreed with me.

One of my friends was friendly with the lady that was over our whole building and came up with the idea of catching some so we could show her. So I took some clear tape and caught two of them to tape to some paper. My mom was so mad at me for getting so close to them.

The next day when it was confirmed (we had also been watching the girl who we suspected for a few days and ran to the bathroom every time she left it to find more lice on the sink) they made the girl go to a doctor and get checked. I always thought that was weird. You need to go to a doctor for lice????? She had really long thick hair and they made her cut it and use the shampoos before she could come back to work.

We were all pretty freaked out since we didn't have assigned desks so some of us had sat in her chair and one girl had given her a ride home a few days before. I really felt like I was still in high school when I worked there. Luckily, nobody else got lice (at least nobody admitted it).

This is why I would be a TERRIBLE nurse! I'd have yelled, "OMG! You have LICE!" And run screaming from the room.

Not proud of it, but I would have.

I think this is a natural reaction. Isn't it?

MUST RANT, CANT HOLD IT IN!!!

I'm so glad that DH and I are in agreement of not dealing with this type of carp from our moms. I'm all about not dealing with a bunch of negative carp when you don't have to. I know these people are our family but it's not worth the stress to me. I don't know if I posted before but we will no longer go to any family gathering that my oldest sister attends. I'm not submitting my children to her foul language.

 

[dreamn_Disney]

:The sad thing is he isn't the first guy I've heard of doing that. Are you still getting support from him? What a jerk!

He does pay as it is taken out of his paycheck each week. It is less than half the amount first calculated by the courts because he was paying support on the other children. I think all but one of them is out of school now. I should ask for a review.

 

[dreamn_Disney]

We are now off to the beach talk to you all tonight.

 

[Tanya90210]

Hey all Is there anyone here today???

Dreamn... have fun at the beach

 

[Goofyluver]

Godspeed, Jen and Jon

That made me giggle...I have no idea why...

Big Brothers starts when they are 6. HE has no contact with his dad. When I got pg his dad told me he had raised his family and wanted no more children. When I would not abort he left and went back down south to his other children. He showed up at my house once after son was born and told me to drop the child support since I didn't have the abortion and knew he wasn't going to be a dad to son, that my son was my responsibility and he couldn't pay child support and support his other children. He couldn't believe I could be such a ***** and didn't care that my support for my son was going to take money away from his other kids. He thought I was a better person than that and didn't I care about his family? Well no I do not. His ex has never had a job and he pays her extra support under the table so she can collect extra money from the state. I just do not know what to tell ds and he is going to be hurt when he is older and realizes that his dad did not want him and is in Georgia being a dad to his other kids. I do tell him that his dad is not mad at him he just lives far far away and can't be here for him. I then tell him that is why he has his Uncle Mike (my mom's brother who can spend a few weekends a year with son) and Matt (my cousin who drives me batty sometimes but does do guy things with son a few times a year). My ds will just insist he does have a daddy and they do lots of thing together. His dad takes him fishing, bought him some dinosaur pjs. Lives on a lake. Non of this happened and I am just sad when he talks about it.

Honey, he's healing himself. It's okay if kids pretend now and again. Let him pretend he has a great dad. Because, he's going to learn differently someday.

Um Jen, you are raising one wonderful young man there kiddo. No matter what his life challenges may be, you will know you raised a good person. That is all us mothers can wish for.

Thanks Jen!

And my bad karma for the week. Murph (mom) has been feeling terrible since last weekend. Can barely get out of bed and very achy, my first thought is Lyme (she has a lot of ticks around here and walks her dog a few times a day and finds them on him). She thought she was getting fibromyalgia since these are my symptoms, but I never heard of it starting at 74 yo. She finally went to the DR yesterday and he took lots of blood and he suspects "something viral" Now we wait and see. In the meantime he gave her some anti - inflammatories that are knocking her on her butt, though she was able to get out of bed easier today.

As for the drama at work, the new VP says I will be fully transitioned by the time I leave for Fockerfest (well she called it vacation), I hope so!

Hope everyone has a better week, we need some good karma around here.

Hope Murph begins to feel better.

And here's to a better week!!!

Jen sweetie, you just keep being that strong woman you are and you'll get through this craziness. Home is waiting and you guys are gonna be more than fine.

Thanks V!

I was wondering how you'd feel about it, V. I hate to say I don't think I liked it at all.

Sssshhhh. I didn't like it either. The message was good. But the movie...

jen--- i'm so sorry your mom acted the way she did. it sounds like your making the best decision for jon.

Thanks Rach.

okay, since everyone's been having bad few days, i want to share funny (but little yuck ) story with you.

My OCD is running rampant.

OMG Jen: You are doing the right thing. I don't suppose that your motha would change how she is at her age, and her comments were unforgivable. I say you had your answer when you asked Jon...

I have decided to take a "motha break." We are not speaking...I need some time to cool down before I tell her what I think of her actions.

So, what's my issue. Just needed to blow off some steam. I love my dh to distraction. He has few faults, but his parents were almost the dealbreaker.
They're evil.

MEL

Mel, sometimes...as we have seen...family take advantage of us. They think they can because we are family. Not ok. Go to FF...have fun...and fahget about them. Hope everything works out hon.

That was a horrible thing to say. She doesn't know the hearts of the children that have become friends with Jon. Those could be his best friends for the rest of his life.



I'm obviously a few pages behind but I hope that you are packed and ready to go. She was already treating Jon like a servant. I think it's best for everyone if you get "home" ASAP.

Thanks C!

Yup. I"m home!!!!

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And...I'm home.

And it feels soooooo good!!!

We got home late yesterday evening...after driving through the remnants of Dolly. Not even a hurricane kept me from going home.

I have not spoken to my mother. She asked me if we were going to "talk about things" before I left, and I said no. I told her she crossed the line and I'd call when I was ready to speak to her.

We had dinner last night and then I went out with meeska...for a nice tall Pina Colada. And it was soooooo good. Sometimes...you need a little rum.