Team Focker Watch Chat - Good Grief We Talk A Lot! Part 5

[DisneyJo]

Turns out Michael's daycare called and said that he fell off the monkeybars and broke his arm. They were getting in the ambulance on the way to the hospital.

OMG LL poor Michael, I hope he isn't in too much pain, good luck on Monday

BTW...I think I'm moving back home. don't tell anyone. I've been offered an opportunity I can't refuse.

Fantastic Jen!

The trip to see the family was good!

I'm so glad it was a lovely day Kat and the photos are cute!

okay, my mom calls me yest and says ,

"so , do you think i can still get a room at disney when you go"

Wow what a lovely DD you are

I've talked to my friend who lost his Dad and he gave his blessing for us to leave.

So the bags are packed and we will be leaving in about an hour.. UGH... ONLY HOUR OFF SCHEDULE.

Talk to you from WDW..

Katt.

Have a great time Katt, glad you went!

Well maybe I shouldn't tell you what I'm doing today. Nothing! I am taking a book or two and going to lay on a raft in the pool. One of the good things about DH being gone. I feel no guilt for doing it.

Sounds lovely!

I said, "She doesn't have to ask. I would have said it was okay. But J, I can't believe you are going to lie for her. What is that teaching her?"

I can't believe he'd lie for her, what kind of father is he?

Jo Did I go to the Airshow and have fish & chips for TEA! I like plaice & chips !!

Sorry Rosie, it was a bit of a rush going to the airshow and I forgot both FR and my camera, you did go for a swim in the pool today though

Wow Dawn the walls look great

Oh and TE and I aren't speaking.

Oh T I hope you talk again quickly

I am now a bad Aunt and because I do not want to have her one more day.

You are not a bad Aunt so don't even think that, so how often do they look after your DS? Maybe you could ask for them to return the favour, they might not be quite so quick to ask in future!

Also if anyone can give me an idea of what to do about my ds and his imaginary daddy I would be very grateful as I am at a loss.

Lots of kids have imaginary friends, I'm sure he's fine and you're doing all the right things

He said he wants to be in clovis with his friends, his school, and his "dad" (my dad).

Have a safe journey Jen and Jon



Hi to everyone else, you sure are chatty without me aren't you, and there you are keep saying it's all me


We've had such a lazy day today, literally just swam in Dad's pool all day, Ellie hardly comes out

 

[princessjv]

I explained to Jon that sometimes (and I don't know if your son's father has contact) people aren't ready to be mommies and daddies. His daddy wasn't ready to be a daddy, but I was ready to be his mommy and anything else he needed. Yes, it's hard not to have a daddy, but the good thing is...I take care of you. My heart is big enough to everything a mommy and a daddy can do.

Beautiful wisdom from one strong woman to another.

I asked him about his wishes.

He actually said: "I'll do whatever you want mom."

Um Jen, you are raising one wonderful young man there kiddo. No matter what his life challenges may be, you will know you raised a good person. That is all us mothers can wish for.

"see you" when you are home. Be safe.

I don't have kids but I do have a nephew that I love dearly. DH thinks they take advantage of my because I always keep Reid whenever they ask. I say I love spending time with him, and if I'm not busy, I'll be happy to keep him. If I do have plans, I'm not going to change them to suit my sister. He's only one and so far there hasn't been as issue, but just because I don't work right now, I'm not the nanny. Maybe talk to your brother without your SIL to explain your point of view.

Good for you! It is wonderful to have family who is willing to help with your kids, but I never would expect them too and I also don't ask too often. What comes around goes around. You are paying it forward. Hopefully they will want to spend time with your children, should you have them.

Hi to everyone else, you sure are chatty without me aren't you, and there you are keep saying it's all me


We've had such a lazy day today, literally just swam in Dad's pool all day, Ellie hardly comes out

We are carrying on without you, but we always wish our JoJo was here to chat away with us!

Sounds like a lovely day you are having! Well I should say...had~ since your day is mostly over. Do you have plans for tomorrow?



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I'm home from a 3 hour grocery shopping trip, which in all reality should have taken an hour at most... CHILDREN! They fought the whole time. "He's squishing MEEEE....", "She won't scoot oooovvverrr."

Batty! They drove me BATTY!


But I do love them.


Which is why I'm taking a few minutes of mommy time and they are taking a break in their beds, in hopes that at least Tink will sleep. We are going to the Target firework show tonight. It is the city of Minneapolis' big Aquatennial Celebration and Target sponsors the firework show to end the week long of festivities. If I can get some good shots, I'll post them. They are simply the most spectacular firework show which I have ever, ever seen.

I also need to prep all of the food for the baptism I am catering tomorrow AM. busy, busy.

 

[princessjv]

I want to see the other 2 pictures in your siggie. I only see one, kiddo.

 

[askelton]

Which is why I'm taking a few minutes of mommy time and they are taking a break in their beds, in hopes that at least Tink will sleep. We are going to the Target firework show tonight. It is the city of Minneapolis' big Aquatennial Celebration and Target sponsors the firework show to end the week long of festivities. If I can get some good shots, I'll post them. They are simply the most spectacular firework show which I have ever, ever seen.

That sounds like so much fun!

I want to see the other 2 pictures in your siggie. I only see one, kiddo.

Are you talking to me or the other Angela? Because I wanted to add another picture to my siggie but it came out too large no matter what size I uploaded it. All this was in my head and I didn't think I actually said it. Although who knows? Maybe I did.

 

[HomeschoolMama]

Are you talking to me or the other Angela? Because I wanted to add another picture to my siggie but it came out too large no matter what size I uploaded it. All this was in my head and I didn't think I actually said it. Although who knows? Maybe I did.

I see two red X's and a picture of you (I assume) in red with your hubby (I assume again).


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Is anyone else watching Hannah Montana in Concert tonight? We're getting pizza and watching it.

I'm hoping we'll be done painting by then (but I'm recording it just in case). We just have to paint the brown stripe in a few minutes. We cleaned out all the stuff in the school room a minute ago, so it should go back in quickly. My firend is giving me her twin bed frame. We had a red daybed someone gave us, and I'm tired of it. It's impossible to tuck the coforter and sheets in. K's supposed to make a cool headboard and window box out of the diamond board stuff yousee on truck boxes. Not today, though. No way. I'm done with projects for a while.

 

[sharkB8HooHaHa]

Are you talking to me or the other Angela? Because I wanted to add another picture to my siggie but it came out too large no matter what size I uploaded it. All this was in my head and I didn't think I actually said it. Although who knows? Maybe I did.

Anglea, I noticed your new picture this morning...it's really nice.

 

[puggymom]

Wow, not a good few days for the Fockers , so much catching up to do

G-luv - Godspeed to you and Jon. I truly beleive things happen for a reason. It sounds like moving back is truly the best thing for all (and congrats on the job)

T - on Grandpa. I'm sorry for your loss, but know he is looking down on you

LL - I would be furious too but hopefully your appointment on Monday will go well for Michael, give him some pug hugs

Sorry to everyone else but HI and I missed you guys this week.

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And my bad karma for the week. Murph (mom) has been feeling terrible since last weekend. Can barely get out of bed and very achy, my first thought is Lyme (she has a lot of ticks around here and walks her dog a few times a day and finds them on him). She thought she was getting fibromyalgia since these are my symptoms, but I never heard of it starting at 74 yo. She finally went to the DR yesterday and he took lots of blood and he suspects "something viral" Now we wait and see. In the meantime he gave her some anti - inflammatories that are knocking her on her butt, though she was able to get out of bed easier today.

As for the drama at work, the new VP says I will be fully transitioned by the time I leave for Fockerfest (well she called it vacation), I hope so!

Hope everyone has a better week, we need some good karma around here.

 

[PrincessV]

OH MY HECK!!! WTH is happening to us around here?!?! I only have time to quote the last couple pages, but I'm read up and thinking about each and every one of you right now.

Bye ya'll.

I'm going home.

Jen sweetie, you just keep being that strong woman you are and you'll get through this craziness. Home is waiting and you guys are gonna be more than fine.

I get accused of being too protective (to a fault) of my kids too. You just have to let it roll off of you. No one knows your kids the way you do. If you make a decsion that's best for him, then that's the way it is no matter what someone else says. It's so hateful for her to say you're not doing what's best for him.

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Ditto. Dawn took the words right out of my mouth, so I'm quoting her!

HE has no contact with his dad. When I got pg his dad told me he had raised his family and wanted no more children. When I would not abort he left and went back down south to his other children. He showed up at my house once after son was born and told me to drop the child support since I didn't have the abortion and knew he wasn't going to be a dad to son, that my son was my responsibility and he couldn't pay child support and support his other children. He couldn't believe I could be such a ***** and didn't care that my support for my son was going to take money away from his other kids. He thought I was a better person than that and didn't I care about his family? Well no I do not. His ex has never had a job and he pays her extra support under the table so she can collect extra money from the state. I just do not know what to tell ds and he is going to be hurt when he is older and realizes that his dad did not want him and is in Georgia being a dad to his other kids. I do tell him that his dad is not mad at him he just lives far far away and can't be here for him. I then tell him that is why he has his Uncle Mike (my mom's brother who can spend a few weekends a year with son) and Matt (my cousin who drives me batty sometimes but does do guy things with son a few times a year). My ds will just insist he does have a daddy and they do lots of thing together. His dad takes him fishing, bought him some dinosaur pjs. Lives on a lake. Non of this happened and I am just sad when he talks about it.

Know what? Leo sees his dad every other weekend, plus half the holidays. And he makes up impossible stories baout his dad. Last week, I heard about how Daddy used to dig up dinosaurs. A few months ago, it was that Daddy was an astronaut. The reality is that Daddy decided 8 months after Leo was born that he no longer loved me (we'd been married 8 years) and fought me tooth and nail not to pay child support for a son he and I planned long and hard for. As of today, my ex owes more than $12k in back support and I seriously doubt Leo will ever see that. My point is that, even when the details are different, the theme seems to be the same; kids need to find ways to deal psychologically with absentee parents, even when those parents love their kids and see them often. If it helps, my dad was never around since I was 4... and I think I turned out pretty well!



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Well, we had a better day today. Leo and I had some time alone (i.e.: without Gramma) this morning and it helped a lot! Then we all three went to see Wall-E.... WOW!!! I'm completely in love with the movie!

 

[sharkB8HooHaHa]

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...went to see Wall-E.... WOW!!! I'm completely in love with the movie!

I was wondering how you'd feel about it, V. I hate to say I don't think I liked it at all.

 

[englishrose47]

OH MY HECK!!! WTH is happening to us around here?!?! I only have time to quote the last couple pages, but I'm read up and thinking about each and every one of you right now.




Jen sweetie, you just keep being that strong woman you are and you'll get through this craziness. Home is waiting and you guys are gonna be more than fine.


Ditto. Dawn took the words right out of my mouth, so I'm quoting her!


Know what? Leo sees his dad every other weekend, plus half the holidays. And he makes up impossible stories baout his dad. Last week, I heard about how Daddy used to dig up dinosaurs. A few months ago, it was that Daddy was an astronaut. The reality is that Daddy decided 8 months after Leo was born that he no longer loved me (we'd been married 8 years) and fought me tooth and nail not to pay child support for a son he and I planned long and hard for. As of today, my ex owes more than $12k in back support and I seriously doubt Leo will ever see that. My point is that, even when the details are different, the theme seems to be the same; kids need to find ways to deal psychologically with absentee parents, even when those parents love their kids and see them often. If it helps, my dad was never around since I was 4... and I think I turned out pretty well!

V I hear you the girls father is not in their life and they are quite happy about it. My DSIL is really the only man who has been in their life since they were little. They may not call him Dad but that's how they regard him. Their father listened to all his Bar room lawyer friends and sid he didn't have to pay child support. He owed $5k AT THE TIME! Wel Judge said JAIL til you pay in full. He did and has had a different attitude since !! H e tried telling the judge he had no money and wasn't eorking after admitting that DD tracked him down to a bar! Judge says Support is more important than Beer Pay Up !!

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[PrincessV]

I was wondering how you'd feel about it, V. I hate to say I don't think I liked it at all.

No way - really?! I was instantly smitten with Wall-E. And the messages (way too many for a 6yo, admittedly) really got me. I have this almost overwhelming desire to make a second trip to the recycling center this week!

Their father listened to all his Bar room lawyer friends and sid he didn't have to pay child support. He owed $5k AT THE TIME! Wel Judge said JAIL til you pay in full. He did and has had a different attitude since !! H e tried telling the judge he had no money and wasn't eorking after admitting that DD tracked him down to a bar! Judge says Support is more important than Beer Pay Up !!

That's exactly what it took for my ex to start paying... he was one small step from jail time. But, he'd managed to buy 2 new cars whilst not paying support for 2 years.

 

[sharkB8HooHaHa]

No way - really?! I was instantly smitten with Wall-E. And the messages (way too many for a 6yo, admittedly) really got me. I have this almost overwhelming desire to make a second trip to the recycling center this week!

The message was AWESOME...and I'm all for a moral in a movie, but...weird things disturbed me, like why the President had to be a real human (Fred fill-in-the-blank) but all other humans in the movie were animated. I didn't connect more because he was a human-human. The blending of the two didn't work for me. And how did the plant live in outer space? Technicality, I know, but it bugged me. And B LOST IT when it was over. I'm sure that effected my opinion, but he wailed and said "it's just sooooo sad!"

Yup. It was.

And a little too dark. However, it might be one of those movies that I hated the first time around but come to love upon seeing it again.

I'm glad you enjoyed.

 

[englishrose47]

No way - really?! I was instantly smitten with Wall-E. And the messages (way too many for a 6yo, admittedly) really got me. I have this almost overwhelming desire to make a second trip to the recycling center this week!


That's exactly what it took for my ex to start paying... he was one small step from jail time. But, he'd managed to buy 2 new cars whilst not paying support for 2 years.

The girls Dad was sent there and then cried so much to his new girlfriend that she took out a loan . His bailwas set at what he owed

 

[PrincessV]

weird things disturbed me, like why the President had to be a real human (Fred fill-in-the-blank) but all other humans in the movie were animated.

OMG, I totally missed that bizarro situation! Probably too busy attempting to tune out the Louder-Than-Loud Family sitting right behind us.

I did like that when I asked Leo what he thought the movie was about, he said something about Wall-E loving Eva and Eva learning to love because he'd been a good friend. Sure, he missed the take care of Earth message, as well as the take care of ourselves message, but he warmed my heart all the same.

 

[englishrose47]

Jo I'm glad I went swimming but I want me some plaice and chips !!

 

[sharkB8HooHaHa]

I did like that when I asked Leo what he thought the movie was about, he said something about Wall-E loving Eva and Eva learning to love because he'd been a good friend. Sure, he missed the take care of Earth message, as well as the take care of ourselves message, but he warmed my heart all the same.

What a cutie he is.

 

[Disneyland_Mama]

Well, we had a better day today. Leo and I had some time alone (i.e.: without Gramma) this morning and it helped a lot! Then we all three went to see Wall-E.... WOW!!! I'm completely in love with the movie!

I knew you'd love it!

Ok... gotta got back a read a million bazillion pages... thanks guys.

 

[Disneyland_Mama]

Ok, I think I'm relatively caught up and it seems like last week was a pretty CRAPPY week for the Fockers!

all around, my friends!

And just a bit of a sense of humor to remind us to try to smile even when it's tough!



Love to youse all!

 

[KatGarcia]

Well here's to a better week for us all!



I'm tired from doing a lot of nothing today but watching tv while KC worked. We are trying to tone down going out so we save some money for Focker Fest!

Oh and BTW I have jury duty this week. YUCKKK.

 

[lazydoxy66]

okay, i haven't read at all. i've been here dising and catching up on tr's...

do you know why???????

well, obviously i love to dis, but i didn't mean that....................


i meant the fact that once ya tell me i can't do something, i want to do it so much more!!!!!!! haaaaaaaaahhhhhaaaaaaaaaaaaaa....

we have a new witchy poo in town girls!!!!!!!!!!!!!! but i can be evil too!!!!

i feel your pain mo!!!!!!!!!!

yup, get that popcorn out girls. i;m feelin more to come on the work front!!

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Well, gee, mom, thanks for the support.

She has no class sometimes.

I can't believe she could be so cruel. I'm so sorry!

Ladies just got back from my moms and have not caught up yet. I just needed to post as I am so upset I am in tears. I can't even hardly type it I am so upset and angry and mad. My family just makes me want to scream.

I think it must be dump weekend. You can vent all you want to here.

I was wondering how you'd feel about it, V. I hate to say I don't think I liked it at all.

I liked it a lot. My SIL hated it. I asked her why and she said the Wall-e - Eve thing just didn't work for her. She thought it was too sappy and after all they were robots. I said 'Well it was really a kids movie'.

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I don't know what to tell all of you with the family and motha problems. My brother and I were raised by my DDad. The woman that gave birth to us walked out when we were very young. I don't have any children but that just is hard to believe as a woman. She saw us every once in a while at first. Then I noticed her cards stopped saying 'Love, Mom' and started saying her fist name. Then they stopped altogether. DDad would just tell us she lived too far away. I haven't seen her since I was 13 yo. Except when her father died. She hid from us in a back room at the funeral home. This was about 8 yrs ago. ( She would have been mid 50ish) She has never tried to explain herself. It wouldn't do much for me now. My DDad did a good job of not saying anything negetive about her until we were in our teens and started asking questions. I'll just say 'WOW'! I never felt like anything was my fault. I rarely missed having a mom around. I guess DDad filled in the gaps pretty well. I don't have any feelings about it, really. I do feel sorry for her at times. She missed so much.

I think it's best, even though it's hard sometimes, to tell the truth and not in a negative way. Children grow up to be adults. They know who was there for them and who wasn't.

Adults should be able to handle the truth. If they can't then you aren't losing much of a friend, MIL, motha, brother, etc. Eventually, you'll blow up at the wrong time and you'll lose them anyway. Do what you need to do!!