Tax Returns/Child Support Question

[kami2199]

I see what you're saying and perhaps we need more oversight by judges and courts to see that things are done fairly. But I do have a possible solution: 50/50 custody. Each parent takes the children for half the time (maybe 4 days this week, 3 the next, etc). NO ONE pays child support. Each parent provides half the child's financial needs. They either split medical and dental care, or one parent covers the kids there and the other covers things like child care expenses or dance classes, etc.

Yes, this is difficult but then no one can use the children as a way to get money out of the other. Also, there's no way to be a "deadbeat" parent when the child is in your house half the time. Downside -- neither parent could claim the child on taxes since no one will have him more than 50% of the time. (Or both parents would have to agree on who claims which kids which years). Upside -- the child gets to spend the same amount of time with both parents and both parents get to be a part of the child's daily life and involved in what the child is doing.

-Dorothy (LadyZolt)

This seems like the logical solution but 99% of the time it will never be this way. I know here that unless you prove the mother unfit - full custody is usually awarded to her if the children are too young to decide. I thank God I don't have to deal with this myself. I really couldn't bare the thought of giving up my children 50% of the time, but I also know my husband couldn't either. Divorce is tough, I hope I never have to experience it.

 

[keholder]

In IL it is based off of the pay minus reasonable and necessary deductions (or that's how mine is) Medical, taxes(based on what you should be claiming) and employer required dues. That being said I think it would only be a issue if his ex brought it to the courts attention. My ex had a child prior to ours that is was paying support for. My support was based on 25% of what he made minus the above and minus the his prior child support payments. When I asked my lawyer he said that the first child getting support always gets the payment first because the people involved are already aware(or should be) aware of the first before making decision to have more children. I think it would be best to ask his div.or a tax attorney. Sorry if this sound confusing! Hopefully it will all work out, good luck!

 

[mandynee22]

10 to 1, it's based on his gross anyway. Check your state's DOR-CSE website (they should have the guidlines) but that's probably what it is.
He can change his withholdings

Scratch that- read ahead

 

[kami2199]

It is based on NET income, not GROSS in our state (just to clear it up, here is the link):

http://www.ilchildsupport.com/calculating.html

Thank you for all your comments, he will be contacting his attorney to figure out the best/right thing to do.