Oh not at all.....building "codes" there are just nothing like we have here, even in our worst construction.
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I have lots of names for thelittle nugget.
I think cannelloni has a nice ring to it...."Lima", "Pinto", "Navy", "Garbonzo",.....
How sorry is that.
Hey y'all, I need your opinions on something: do you "force" a 13-yr. old boy into social situations to try to get him to make friends?
I say no. I don't see the point. DH says yes, and that "he's 13 and doesn't make the decisions in the family." Which is true, but this isn't a family situation. For what it's worth, my MIL is of the same opinion.....you simply make him go and "he'll come around."
DS13 - who never wanted to move here in the first place - is just determined that he doesn't want to go out and meet anyone. I've made several efforts, but he just doesn't want anything to do with it. I figure, if he has no friends, that's HIS choice, and not because I kept him sequestered out here in the woods!
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At 13 they don't always know what is best for themselves. Especially if he is punishing ya'll for making him move. It just doesn't get any worse than a stubborn teenager. Without knowing all the details at this point. I would have to agree with your DH. 
Get him out. At least in small doses. You don't want to deal with stubborn and depressed. Is it possible that he is a little depressed and just doesn't know how to handle it? Sometimes the anger and even acting out is a cover up for other things they don't know how to handle. Extra hugs can sometimes work wonders too.
I wish I had answers for you. I never once thought about him not being in a public school setting as being the problem. As a matter of fact that could make things worse right now. He sounds angry. Maybe he just needs time to deal with that. They don't always know how to deal with their emotions. Which can make them even more stubborn. As you know you are dealing with hormones. Wanting to grow up. Not wanting to grow up. It is just such a conflicting time. The only other thing I have to suggest is maybe right now he just needs his family. Ya'll be his friends and his security.I have tried everything that is available to us: youth groups, home school get-togethers (these are informal gatherings), trying to hook up with other families with boys his age. He is not into sports so joining a team is out. The last few times we've brought him out to attend something, he had such a bad attitude by the time he arrived that there was just no way he was going in! (and I'm talking fairly angry here, not just dragging the ol' feet in a classic "aw, I don't wanna!") I mean, do you physically drag him out of the car and shove him in the door?!.... I realize he might actually have a good time out there, but he is convinced right now he won't, and while I agree that he doesn't know all that is best for him, I'm just having a hard time seeing the logic of forcing him to make friends.
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ETA: I feel the need to add here -- before someone brings it up! -- that the fact that he is not "in" school has little bearing on this. First of all he has hs'ed before and done public school.....he prefers hs'ing. Plus, the ps's we are zoned for are BAD and out of the question. That situation gets messy and I'd rather not bring up the details of "why" it's bad....If he were asking to go to school or otherwise thinking that's why he has no friends, believe me I would do what I could to get him in SOME where. But again, it's not that he feels he has no friends, he just doesn't want any.
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I think cannelloni has a nice ring to it.
Thanks kimmar. Now you have me yelling out(in my head) names of beans to see how they sound....yeah....rolls off the tongue a lot better than, say-y-y-y-y-y, "KIDNEY".....
..."Lima", "Pinto", "Navy", "Garbanzo",.....
Smileybug, only you would come up with "cannelloni!".....
Has anyone suggested garbanzo yet?
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