Stalker or just freak??

[VampHeartless]

Originally posted by LMC
Have your boyfriend make regular appearances. If you aren't dating right now, maybe you could have a male friend or a male relative that he doesn't know, stop by your house on a regular basis to make it appear that you have a significant other and he will leave you alone. I'm with everyone else, I think that he is watching and doesn't live in FL. This is scary!

I volunteer for this position!!!

 

[btass]

Go to the Police IMMEDIATLEY! If not for yourself, for your kids! What would happen to them if this nut case did something to you!

 

[MELSMICE]

I'd call the police right away - this guy sounds weird!

 

[clh2]

Any updates??? We are all very concerned!

 

[aprilgail2]

Originally posted by clh2
Any updates??? We are all very concerned!

sorry...I updated here...
http://disboards.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=626455

 

[acepepper]

Talk about rampant paranoia. You're all scaring this girl half to death. Some of the responses to this are WAY over the top.

 

[legs22]

Originally posted by acepepper
Talk about rampant paranoia. You're all scaring this girl half to death. Some of the responses to this are WAY over the top.

Having been a stalking victim myself, I don't think they're "WAY over the top".

 

[Esmerelda]

I agree with Legs22. I work with a gal (nurse) that years ago we had both our first and last name on our badges (not now) but anyhow....she got stalked by a patient for goodness sakes!!

I mean it got VERY nasty...he already knew where she worked...he found out where she lived...got her UNlisted phone...he went thru her garbage..her mail (before she got to it) He would call her and leave all sorts of sicko messages..the final straw was waiting outside her home one day when she was heading to work. She had to file charges..and go to court with this clown. This whole process took a couple of months before it was finally over. I felt really bad for her..she was scared to death.

Please don't ever think that someone of this mentality is just "rampant paranoia" because its not. Psychologically they are missing a few screws. The nurse I work with had never met this guy...she just took care of him in the ER for 3 hrs and that was it. He took her for a long hard ride. The OP already knows the fella.

been there, watched it...not pretty
Esmerelda

 

[acepepper]

Originally posted by Esmerelda
I agree with Legs22. I work with a gal (nurse) that years ago we had both our first and last name on our badges (not now) but anyhow....she got stalked by a patient for goodness sakes!!

I mean it got VERY nasty...he already knew where she worked...he found out where she lived...got her UNlisted phone...he went thru her garbage..her mail (before she got to it) He would call her and leave all sorts of sicko messages..the final straw was waiting outside her home one day when she was heading to work. She had to file charges..and go to court with this clown. This whole process took a couple of months before it was finally over. I felt really bad for her..she was scared to death.

Please don't ever think that someone of this mentality is just "rampant paranoia" because its not. Psychologically they are missing a few screws. The nurse I work with had never met this guy...she just took care of him in the ER for 3 hrs and that was it. He took her for a long hard ride. The OP already knows the fella.

been there, watched it...not pretty
Esmerelda

None of this means that all this is going to happen to the OP. Everyone seems to be jumping straight to the worst case scenario based on not much at all.

Take this for example;

Hi, not trying to scare you or anything

LOL, really? Followed by this;

This guy is nuts. Do not be alone at night by yourself. If your children walk to school, tell your son (only know this from your pic on your posts!!) that he is not to go up to a car if someone ask him a question. To run!! If you can find a picture of this nut show him to your son so that he knows this person can be dangerous to him. Sometimes these nuts go after your kids because they know this will get your attention. Get you some pepper spray. He obviously has driven by your house, so he knows where you live. He probably already knows your schedule. Dont be alone at the mall (outside parking lot). Try changing your schedule a little bit everyday. DONT BE PREDICTABLE!!

When I said "rampant paranoia", I wasn't talking about the guy making the calls, I was talking about the posters replying to this thread. This poor girl probably started off being a little concerned, (understandably), but I bet after reading some of this she's now a nervous wreck, too scared to step outside her front door.

 

[EsmeraldaX]

Better safe than sorry. The OP has children and having been stalked myself, I think for the safety of both herself and her kids she needs to err on the side of caution.

 

[snoopy]

I read this and had some of the same thoughts as acepepper, but in the end I came to the conclusion of better safe than sorry. I hope this guy is on the up and up; but if not, best be on the safe side. I don't know that I would go so far as to barrell myself in the house, but I don't think its a bad idea to let the police know, particularly since she asked the guy not to call and he has continued to do so. Too many women have passed this type of thing off as no big deal and consequently their endings were tragic. Perhaps its harmless, and if that is the case, the guy won't call or bother her again. And if his intentions were to stalk or harm her, contact with the police is probably not what he is looking for. I think she did the right thing.

 

[acepepper]

Originally posted by snoopy
I read this and had some of the same thoughts as acepepper, but in the end I came to the conclusion of better safe than sorry. I hope this guy is on the up and up; but if not, best be on the safe side. I don't know that I would go so far as to barrell myself in the house, but I don't think its a bad idea to let the police know, particularly since she asked the guy not to call and he has continued to do so. Too many women have passed this type of thing off as no big deal and consequently their endings were tragic. Perhaps its harmless, and if that is the case, the guy won't call or bother her again. And if his intentions were to stalk or harm her, contact with the police is probably not what he is looking for. I think she did the right thing.

I agree that telling the police of the situation was what she could have (and has) done. Maybe giving the guy a warning that if he called once more she'd tell the police may have been enough.

But making her think that the guy was a psycotic killer waiting in the bushes for an opportunity to slit her throat, was way over the top based on what she'd written.

 

[luvthatduke]

Just another couple of pennies:

The woman clearly & emphatically said, "NO! STOP!"
But the guy keeps going... Sound familiar to anyone?

It doesn't matter that he's "only" repeatedly
calling and contacting her -
she told him to stop and he didn't.
If this was PHYSICAL contact, he'd be behind bars...

My point is this:
Maybe some of the advice was strong,
but if he's not respecting her protest now,
why should she trust him later?

I stand behind my original post and the others
that are telling her to be careful...

No means No means No means No means No...

 

[pw2pp]

Yes, the guy is nuts. TWELVE phone calls in 4 hours? even after you told him "NO".
I would call the police.

 

[GeekChic]

advice to change your phone number may not be the best; this is from a book about stalkers:

When the stalker gets your home telephone number, don’t change it. Instead, always let an answering machine pick-up. Get a new, unlisted number, and give it to everyone who calls but the stalker. Gradually, only your stalker will be using your old number – it will become his private line. If it upsets you when he calls, put the machine in a room you don’t use. You can even have someone else monitor the tapes. This way, the stalker will think he is still getting through to you, although you will never make the mistake of picking up when he calls. Whenever you close off one avenue for a stalker, he will find another and it could easily be worse.

this is a good website with a lot of helpful info. i would report to the police and also look for as many good advice techniques as i can find for dealing with this situation.

safety first, be careful! there's more at this website

http://www.antistalking.com/victim.htm

 

[Lewski709]

acepepper obviously you know nothing about being stalked, be glad but this is nothing to take lightly. NOTHING.

 

[browneyes]

Originally posted by Lewski709
acepepper obviously you know nothing about being stalked, be glad but this is nothing to take lightly. NOTHING.

I totally agree.