Sister Wives, anyone???

[Robinrs]

I agree. Consenting adults and all, I don't see the problem. Definitely not for me tho. And for some reason, DH doesn't think it would be swell to have more than one wife to deal with. That struck me too about Cody. He kind of creeped me out. Maybe it was just nerves. He seemed to get a little annoyed with the one little girl for not understanding the announcement of a potential 4th wife/mom. Ditto.So what if people watch and then are disgusted by it? People should only watch shows that make them laugh, or shows in line with their own beliefs, or what?? Maybe they thought it would be interesting to watch. And of course it's on because people are curious...I doubt the powers that be making these decisions are out to put on shows that people aren't curious about. What shows do "deserve" an audience? And how judgmental is that? I don't think there's much on TV that "deserves" anything.

Especially sexist crap like this.

 

[wdwmom0f3]

One of the wives said in voice over that it was getting boring around there (for them) and they needed to bring in some excitement. But there also seems to be some concern that Kody kissed the woman he was "courting" to be the 4th wife.

It just seems so unfair that Kody can fall in love and marry as much as he wants, yet the women have just him.

Yes, he looks like he is having all of the fun. That would NOT fly with me!

I think that # 1 essentially helped pick the other 2, so of the first three, everyone was part of the decision. Number 4 though seems to be just his decision, so I can see where the jealousy is coming from.

I think the whole idea of sister wives is disgusting, but brother husbands ....maybe a possibility

YES! I would like to see a show about that! Somehow, I don't think that you would find to many families like that though.

 

[DWGal210]

I already have my hands full with one husband. The last thing I need is two or more. Just like the idea of having multiple wives, it might SOUND like a good idea until you actually put it into practice. Everyone seems to think it's some kind of weird sexual thing, but any married couple will tell you that the sex becomes pretty routine after awhile. So then what are you stuck with? Three women in various stages of PMS, childbirth and menopause. Yeah, right. Does THAT sound like a dream marriage to you?

So let's flip it and say multiple husbands. Great. Now I got three guys leaving their socks and shoes all over the house instead of one, not to mention all of them probably fighting over who's got who's Craftsman tool in the garage.

And forget getting enough hot water for my shower in the morning.

And don't get me started on how they act when they're sick. I don't need that in triplicate.

Not to mention the intimate relations because guess what, ladies? You now have to perform three times more than you did before.

I like to think I'm pretty normal when it comes to that, but let's face it - there simply are times when I just. don't. feel. like it. And having to assuage at least two men's feelings that it's not them, it's me, when I don't feel like it? Ugh. Easier to just go through with it.

When you think about it, having multiple husbands OR wives isn't a picnic, nor is it something anyone should enter into lightly. Anyone who thinks it's just about the sex doesn't have the imagination it takes to picture what life is like AFTER the sex.

LOL, Carly.....I was wondering the same thing. That's why I
posted the above ?? about the why's behind plural marriage....there's gotta be more to it if the husband volunteers to deal with all that goes into having more than 1 wife.

 

[MaryAnnDVC]

Especially sexist crap like this.

Then don't watch. You see it as sexist crap; I see it as interesting insight into a lifestyle that does exist. I don't have to be sitting here nodding my approval at something I observe on a television show to find it interesting.

You seem to enjoy bashing "reality" TV shows while at the same time intimating how superior you are for NOT watching it.

 

[Mouse House Mama]

Am I the only person who thought that Kody beared a striking resemblence to the Burger King? I swear he was like the creepy commercial where the big Burger Kind head pops up everywhere.

 

[descovy]

Count me as another that is fascinated by the show. Certainly is not the life for me to lead... but I guess that's my point. My life on tv would be pretty dull. I am curious how folks DIFFERENT than me want to live, and why?

 

[cm8]

I would never want to live that way.

I want to be pampered and loved-I don't share......

I know that's right

 

[starrzone]

Am I the only person who thought that Kody beared a striking resemblence to the Burger King? I swear he was like the creepy commercial where the big Burger Kind head pops up everywhere.

Maybe that's it!!! I KNEW there was something that was especially creeping me out!

 

[RachaelA]

Am I the only person who thought that Kody beared a striking resemblence to the Burger King? I swear he was like the creepy commercial where the big Burger Kind head pops up everywhere.

He does!

 

[C.Ann]

I watched it and found it to be completely fascinating. I'm always intrigued by the logistics of the situation and found it interesting that they each had their own section of the house that was their own so to speak. You have to remember that each wife came from polygamous families to begin with, so sharing one man seems perfectly normal to them and their children.

As for financial support, he is in advertising (which can be lucrative) and at least two of the wives work. They all seem to be in their 30's or 40's which means they are quite possibly mid-career and are each making a decent income.

As far as the sharing one man thing - I'm not sure that's something I could do. But I wasn't raised to judge others on whether or not their lifestyle is bad or wrong simply because I can't see myself participating in it. Obviously this is working for those couples or they wouldn't be participating in it themselves. As long as they are happy, that's all that matters.

I'll hang out and see how this series goes. If it turns into yet another reality show full of he-said, she-said, someone gets the screaming-meemies and it's drama drama drama all the time, I'll be cancelling the DVR series and stop watching. I've often said that if I want drama I'll watch the professionals do it.

I found it quite interesting. I wouldn't automatically condemn it just because it's not something I could personally do--I could never live like the Duggars, either, but they seem happy enough with their choices. (The families on both shows.) If anyone was being forced into the lifestyle, then I'd have a real problem with it.

As long as they're not living off the government, "to each their own"..

I totally forgot to watch it - but if the sister-wives are happy with it, then obviously it works for them and that's all that really matters.. Kind of like having a huge extended family all living under the same roof..

 

[momrek06]

Hey people, this thread was to be about SISTER WIVES ... why is it getting all into religion ... ?


AND to whoever said Cody looked like the BURGER KING character ...

 

[monkeybug]

Regarding the Sister wives show, I think it's interesting! I would never choose to live that life, but I don't find it morally wrong if that's what they choose.
I think the reason there is no "brother husbands" out there is because women are waaaaay to smart for that! Can you imagine having to nag more than one man to mow the lawn, or change their smelly shirt, or put the seat down? No thanks!!!

 

[Buckeye Princess]

I actually enjoyed the first episode of this show. Not sure if I'll continue to feel this way but for now I liked it. I appreciate hearing about different perspectives and life styles. I thought they had some good points as to why this lifestyle worked for them. I even found myself saying, yea, that would be an advantage. Just because its not the life for me doesn't mean that I think it is wrong for someone else. I was talking to my husband about it over dinner tonight and he jokingly asked me what I thought of him taking on more wifes. I told him that I love him dearly but that I just don't think he's the type of man who could handle more than one wife. Especially on when that wife is me. haha

 

[shortbun]

Regarding the Sister wives show, I think it's interesting! I would never choose to live that life, but I don't find it morally wrong if that's what they choose.
I think the reason there is no "brother husbands" out there is because women are waaaaay to smart for that! Can you imagine having to nag more than one man to mow the lawn, or change their smelly shirt, or put the seat down? No thanks!!!

I don't think these women nag their spouse. He's in charge and that's that.

 

[Aristomommy]

I actually enjoyed the first episode of this show. Not sure if I'll continue to feel this way but for now I liked it. I appreciate hearing about different perspectives and life styles. I thought they had some good points as to why this lifestyle worked for them. I even found myself saying, yea, that would be an advantage. Just because its not the life for me doesn't mean that I think it is wrong for someone else. I was talking to my husband about it over dinner tonight and he jokingly asked me what I thought of him taking on more wifes. I told him that I love him dearly but that I just don't think he's the type of man who could handle more than one wife. Especially on when that wife is me. haha

I was also surprised that the show held my attention the entire time. These women appeared too "normal", although I'm not sure what I imagined. I personally could not live that lifestyle for many reasons, but they all seemed like happy consenting adults.

One observation I made was that the husband really tried to make an effort to spend time with each wife more than many husbands do with their one wife. That part seemed sincere even though he was driving 4 hours to date potential wife #4 The women also seemed very comfortable with the arrangement, so who am I to judge? I was also surprised when they stated their children were free to choose their religion or no religion at all. Odds are though, that since they go to a school with only polygamist families that they will meet someone else who supports that lifestyle.

 

[snarlingcoyote]

Its not illegal. He is only legally married to the first wife. The others he is spiritually married to. They are all only cohabiting together which is not illegal.

Technically, in the state of Utah, I think it is actually illegal, one way or another, but the AG there doesn't go after the polygamists, as I understand it, just for being polygamists. He will go after some things that some of the groups, like the Warren Jeffs bunch, do, like welfare fraud and pedophilia, but not the actual polygamy itself. This seems to be the standard in most of the country, as the US Supreme Court has come down squarely that what consenting sane adults do in their bedrooms is their own business, so what that means for polygamy, if it was ever really challenged, is a good question.

 

[snarlingcoyote]

Am I the only person who thought that Kody beared a striking resemblence to the Burger King? I swear he was like the creepy commercial where the big Burger Kind head pops up everywhere.

Ohohohohoh! That made me spew Mountain Dew!

 

[DWGal210]

The stars of TLC's new show Sister Wives are under police investigation in Utah for a possible charge of felony bigamy.

Police in Lehi, Utah, said Monday they began looking into salesman Kody Brown and his four wives before the show premiered Sunday.

"At the conclusion of the investigation, the evidence will be forwarded to the Utah County Attorney's Office for review and possible prosecution," says Lt. Darren Paul.

Police acknowledged that publicity over the show's announcement prompted the case. Bigamy is a third-degree felony in Utah but is rarely investigated.

Brown and his wives Meri, Janelle, Christine and Robyn have 13 children and three stepchildren. They say they will lead a lifestyle that they want, even if it means breaking away from tradition

"If we raise productive, contributing members of society who are moral and ethical, that's our final goal, whatever their path is," says Janelle, 40, who has six children with Kody.

• Reporting by CATHY FREE
Reporting by Mike Fleeman

This was on the People.com site tonight. Interesting....

 

[luvmythree]

Technically, in the state of Utah, I think it is actually illegal, one way or another, but the AG there doesn't go after the polygamists, as I understand it, just for being polygamists. He will go after some things that some of the groups, like the Warren Jeffs bunch, do, like welfare fraud and pedophilia, but not the actual polygamy itself. This seems to be the standard in most of the country, as the US Supreme Court has come down squarely that what consenting sane adults do in their bedrooms is their own business, so what that means for polygamy, if it was ever really challenged, is a good question.

I just recieved this from a good friend of mine who lives in Utah and is a practicing LDS woman. *Bolding mine*

‘Sister Wives' family under investigation following TV debut

A polygamous Lehi family featured on a new TV series that debuted Sunday night has drawn the attention of local police.

Kody Brown and his wives are the subject of a TLC program called "Sister Wives." In a statement released Monday, Lehi police said they are now investigating the family for bigamy, a third-degree felony.

"At the conclusion of the investigation, the evidence will be forwarded to the Utah County Attorney's Office for review and possible prosecution," according to Lehi Police Lt. Darren Paul.

TLC spokeswoman Laurie Goldberg had no comment Monday night on the investigation.

Producers of the show apparently feared the Browns could come under legal scrutiny. They contacted the Utah Attorney General's Office months before airing the program.

"They called us and said, ‘Hey, are you going to shut us down?'" said Scott Troxel, spokesman for the attorney general.

"Sister Wives" premiered Sunday night with an hourlong special, the first installment of a seven-part "docu-series" about Brown and his three (soon-to-be four) wives -- Meri, Janelle and Christine -- and their 13 children. The series began with Brown announcing plans to take on another wife, Robyn, and her three children.

A TLC news release describes the show this way: "From their unconventional family structure and living arrangements to financial challenges, each half-hour episode exposes the inner workings of a polygamist household, revealing the unexpectedly tight-knit and loving relationships between Kody's wives." Also, the show "captures the intense dynamics surrounding a man juggling three wives while attempting to keep it a secret from the outside world."

Troxel said the Utah Attorney General's Office doesn't have the resources to go after polygamists unless it suspects crimes such as child abuse or child trafficking.

"Right now, it's not in our hands, but we're not closing the door," he said.

The Utah County Attorney's Office became aware of "Sister Wives" after receiving several phone calls Monday, said Tim Taylor, chief deputy county attorney.

"Obviously, we can't do anything until we get a case," he said before Lehi issued its statement announcing an investigation. "We haven't seen anything. I don't know if we will see anything."

Taylor said the county occasionally prosecutes people under its bigamy statute, though not necessarily polygamists.

"We'll take a look at any case that comes into our office to see if it has merit," he said.

In 2001, one of Utah's most high-profile polygamists, Tom Green, was convicted in Provo's 4th District Court of bigamy and failure to pay child support. He also was later found guilty of child rape.

Prior to his convictions, Green and his family talked openly about their lifestyle on international and national TV programs, including "The Jerry Springer Show," "Dateline" and "Judge Judy." Prosecutors said they didn't start investigating Green until seeing him on TV.

 

[snarlingcoyote]

I just recieved this from a good friend of mine who lives in Utah and is a practicing LDS woman. *Bolding mine*

‘Sister Wives' family under investigation following TV debut

A polygamous Lehi family featured on a new TV series that debuted Sunday night has drawn the attention of local police.

Kody Brown and his wives are the subject of a TLC program called "Sister Wives." In a statement released Monday, Lehi police said they are now investigating the family for bigamy, a third-degree felony.

"At the conclusion of the investigation, the evidence will be forwarded to the Utah County Attorney's Office for review and possible prosecution," according to Lehi Police Lt. Darren Paul.

TLC spokeswoman Laurie Goldberg had no comment Monday night on the investigation.

Producers of the show apparently feared the Browns could come under legal scrutiny. They contacted the Utah Attorney General's Office months before airing the program.

"They called us and said, ‘Hey, are you going to shut us down?'" said Scott Troxel, spokesman for the attorney general.

"Sister Wives" premiered Sunday night with an hourlong special, the first installment of a seven-part "docu-series" about Brown and his three (soon-to-be four) wives -- Meri, Janelle and Christine -- and their 13 children. The series began with Brown announcing plans to take on another wife, Robyn, and her three children.

A TLC news release describes the show this way: "From their unconventional family structure and living arrangements to financial challenges, each half-hour episode exposes the inner workings of a polygamist household, revealing the unexpectedly tight-knit and loving relationships between Kody's wives." Also, the show "captures the intense dynamics surrounding a man juggling three wives while attempting to keep it a secret from the outside world."

Troxel said the Utah Attorney General's Office doesn't have the resources to go after polygamists unless it suspects crimes such as child abuse or child trafficking.

"Right now, it's not in our hands, but we're not closing the door," he said.

The Utah County Attorney's Office became aware of "Sister Wives" after receiving several phone calls Monday, said Tim Taylor, chief deputy county attorney.

"Obviously, we can't do anything until we get a case," he said before Lehi issued its statement announcing an investigation. "We haven't seen anything. I don't know if we will see anything."

Taylor said the county occasionally prosecutes people under its bigamy statute, though not necessarily polygamists.

"We'll take a look at any case that comes into our office to see if it has merit," he said.

In 2001, one of Utah's most high-profile polygamists, Tom Green, was convicted in Provo's 4th District Court of bigamy and failure to pay child support. He also was later found guilty of child rape.

Prior to his convictions, Green and his family talked openly about their lifestyle on international and national TV programs, including "The Jerry Springer Show," "Dateline" and "Judge Judy." Prosecutors said they didn't start investigating Green until seeing him on TV.

Yep, looks like the Lehi police are prosecuting and the Utah AG really isn't from that article. . interesting.

You know, I think the current bigamy laws rely a lot on fraud as the underlying reason that bigamy is illegal. If you remove that aspect. . .and someone was willing to press it. . .hmm. I mean really, there are two kinds of laws forbidding behaviors in our country: there are things that are illegal because they are wrong, ethically and morally (like theft); and there are things that are illegal for other reasons (like moonshining which is illegal due to the taxes that aren't collected from moonshine).

If you have to keep your nose out of adults' bedrooms, what is the legal justification for outlawing bigamy between consenting adults? The idea that it leads to child marriages and coersion of women isn't a valid argument. Most legal things can lead to illegal things. (A glass of wine can lead to alcoholism. Driving can lead to speeding. Going on the DIS boards can lead to pool hopping. . .)

Hmm. There might be a reason I've always felt at home in New Hampshire too.