Sharing a hotel room with someone other than spouse/young children

[mom2rtk]

I don't think I could ever work for a company that expected co-workers to share a room. That's just weird.

I'm fine sharing a room with family or close friends, but not with acquaintances or co-workers.

I've worked for a number of pharmaceutical companies. They always required that employees share rooms at training sessions away from home. I hated the idea at first, but it really grew on me over time. It was a great way to get to know other people in the same position from all over the country and brainstorm between training sessions. In a room by myself, I would have been far more likely to just hole up and study alone.

 

[PlainJane]

When I was a kid if my family was staying in one room I would sleep with my mother and my brother would sleep with my father. Normally, we would stay in a timeshare villa though. In that case my parents would always stay in the same room and my brother and I would either stay in a shared room with two beds, separate rooms (if it was a three bedroom), or I think he would sometimes sleep on the pullout.

Over the years as a teen/adult I've shared a bed with my mother, aunt, female friends, and of course my husband while on vacation. Most recently my husband and I shared one room with my parents. It was only for a couple days and it was fine. We were only there to sleep, shower, and occasionally relax. Generally, we would hangout in a large lounge/seating area off the lobby if we wanted to spread out. My parents offered to let us stay for free, and there was no way we were going to pay $300-500 in NYC a night for our own room with that offer. The main point of the trip was also to see each other, we just happened to be having the reunion of sorts in NYC.

 

[gray52]

I've worked for a number of pharmaceutical companies. They always required that employees share rooms at training sessions away from home. I hated the idea at first, but it really grew on me over time. It was a great way to get to know other people in the same position from all over the country and brainstorm between training sessions. In a room by myself, I would have been far more likely to just hole up and study alone.

If you're just out of college, new to the job or it's a team building retreat/training thing and you need to incorporate yourself into a company quickly.... I can maybe buy into that. Otherwise, it would be my first cue that your company is either struggling financially or doesn't treat their employees very well... And in either case, it's time to find another job.

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[mom2rtk]

If you're just out of college, new to the job or it's a team building retreat/training thing and you need to incorporate yourself into a company quickly.... I can maybe buy into that. Otherwise, it would be my first cue that your company is either struggling financially or doesn't treat their employees very well... And in either case, it's time to find another job.

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No, it's just standard practice when putting together a national sales team in the pharmaceutical industry.

 

[Wishing on a star]

no matter where you were, and the hotel was just a place to sleep at night.....

Hey, speak for yourself, but my DH and I might disagree!

 

[Sorsha]

Hey, speak for yourself, but my DH and I might disagree!

"Growing up, and even now, the whole point to a vacation was to squeeze in as much FUN during the day, no matter where you were, and the hotel was just a place to sleep at night (and maybe swim in the afternoon)."

I AM speaking for myself, and my DH! That's why we are staying at a Good Neighbor hotel at the economy level for our upcoming Disneyland trip. I honestly don't expect to be in it much!

 

[mumto3girls]

I don't think I could ever work for a company that expected co-workers to share a room. That's just weird. I'm fine sharing a room with family or close friends, but not with acquaintances or co-workers.

When I first got a job out of college I had to go to Hartford for a month of training. There were people from all over the country and they put two in a room. I was the only female from my office so I was randomly assigned to room with a woman from New Jersey. She was very nice, but she was a bit older--I was 23 and she was probably mid 30's-- than me and was a single mom. Her son was staying with her mom, but she missed him terribly and she cried herself to sleep, most, if not all, nights. I managed to leave every weekend which helped. I still wonder about her from time to time.

 

[2princesses3princes]

We have taken my mom with us on short trips to the WI Dells and have had her room with us. This was only for 1 night though and the kids were really little. I don't think I could do it anymore though not that the kids are older and need more space.
My company has a state wide training session every year in the dells. They offer us the choice between our own room (standard hotel room) and sharing a suite with co-workers (we get to choose which co-workers and everyone still gets their own room within the suite).
I do not think I would be at all comfortable sharing a standard room with a co-worker I did not know. I like my privacy too much and would feel very awkward doing that.

 

[JanaDee]

Thank goodness DH's company policy is everyone gets their own room.

 

[Janepod]

No, it's just standard practice when putting together a national sales team in the pharmaceutical industry.

Maybe in sales, but I can say from experience that other areas of Bristol-Myers and Merck do not do this.

 

[JessicaR]

My family and I can still share a room - me, husband, and 2 boys 17 and 21. Lately though we prefer 2 rooms or a suite with separate areas. It's mostly I want my own bathroom! lol

Last few cruises the boys had their own room.

I also go away with my sisters and mom and we can all share a room and usually do.

I have a trip coming up that I am going with my sister and my 5 year old nephew - we are sharing a room.

 

[Stinkerbe11]

I can share a room but they have to be silent sleepers. If you snore, you're out the door

 

[Warren325]

I don't like sleeping with anyone in my room even with my siblings. I only like sleeping with my mom and I enjoy hugging her and cuddling at night.

 

[Disney Doll]

I wouldn't choose to sleep with my siblings or friends or parents now in the same standard hotel room unless it was an emergency or an unusual situation. If I was going on a trip with a female friend and no DH I wouldn't have a problem sharing. When I was a kid me, mom, dad and brother shared a room. We'd get a rollaway bed and then brother and I would fight over who got to sleep in it. I prefer not to share on business trips. Thankfully, with one exception, I have never had to share on a business trip. The one exception was OK because my roommate was someone I knew and liked and was fairly friendly with so it worked out. However, there were others on that trip who were sharing with people they had never met and they weren't happy. One girl spent a lot of time in our room because her older woman roommate would ask her to leave so she could have some privacy for a while. This same woman would also take 1.5 hours getting ready in the morning so the other girl either had to wake up at 5am to get bathroom time or she'd have 10 minutes to get ready. Frankly after one day of that I'd have spoken to the lead person on the trip and gotten my own room. This girl was young though and didn't want to make waves.

 

[ronandannette]

I don't like sleeping with anyone in my room even with my siblings. I only like sleeping with my mom and I enjoy hugging her and cuddling at night.

Warren, you've come to the right place, and not a minute too soon! While not actual mental-health professionals, many of us do play one on the DIS. Now just relax and let us help you with that pesky Oedipus complex....

 

[Squidgyness]

I've had a variety of experiences on trips with a variety of arrangements.

96/98 Florida trips I don't remember much I think I slept with my sister in the same bed

03 I shared a bed with my father as my sister was too old

06/09 I got the sofa bed in a two room suite (oh relief from the snoring!)

I have also shared a room with a friend on school trips but not in the same bed (he was a good guy though, no trouble at all. More than I can say for others on those trips.)

Finally on my 2011 trip to Malta in Europe I saved all I could and paid for a separate room with my sister away from my parents and we got separate beds.

Personal space is key for me these days, when I was a kid it didn't matter so much but now... Next trip is next June to Malta again for a week. My parents offered the trip and I was very grateful, especially considering I am worth literally a negative figure right now, and they jumped through hoops to get a sea view room for a single occupant - me, since my sister isn't going this time. Luckily it wasn't insanely expensive.

I'm not ungrateful for the trip and I didn't want to seem snotty by asking for a separate room, but I'd genuinely, truly rather stay at home than share a room with my well meaning but slightly paranoid/protective mother and LOUD (did I mention he was LOUD?) snoring father for seven days. I need hardly any noise to sleep properly, so seven days of snoring would be torture... Can you say sleep deprivation? If that makes me a bad person I understand and I think I can live with it... I can certainly sleep like a baby in my quiet sea view room all to myself