Sharing a hotel room with someone other than spouse/young children

[sunshinehighway]

It wouldn't even cross my mind to not share a hotel room with a relative or close friend. It doesn't even bother me to share a bed with them (same gender of course). I've gone on group trips to Disney and we stay in DVC villas. Most have 2 Queen beds (or Queen sleeper sofa) and one King. I'd never even think it pay for another room so I didn't have to share a bed.
I was recently in Paris with a friend. The hotel rooms are on the small side so we had twin beds but they were pushed together so it was basically a king.

I usually run around so much on vacation that I wouldn't care who was sleeping in my room.

 

[denisem]

No problem sharing a room with any family member or close friend, have done it many times.

I do draw the line on sharing a bed - I'd need at least a king-size and would hug the edge.

 

[HM]

My kids are a 20 yr boy and 18 yr old girl. They share a room with us. We carry an Aerobed where ever we go and one of them uses it to sleep on while the other gets the second bed. We just had a trip in March with them at three different hotels and we did just fine in one room at each place.

Most of the time when we travel with other family members, we rent houses (at the beach or mountains) and that way everyone gets a room. It's been a long time since I actually shared a room with someone other than my immediate family, but I have done it. My sister and BIL shared a room with my DH and I and our two very young kids in Williamsburg one year. Sleeping bags on the floor for the kids.

I've travelled for work and shared a room with a coworker before a few times. There is no way our office would spring for separate rooms.

 

[scrapquitler]

DH and I got to discussing this the other day, and decided we were definitely raised different

Overnight trips in my family were a super special occasion, and you were happy to sleep where you were told. We squeezed as many as we could into a room. Because DB and I were four years apart, we only slept one on the floor, one on the bed once we got to be teens, but all four of us shared a room because that's all we could afford to do. Even a few years ago when my DM and my DS and I went out of state, we shared a room, with DM and I sharing a bed (obviously).

DH, OTOH, is horrified at the idea of sharing a hotel room with anyone other than me or a child of ours that is still a child. Now that DS is 19, he and DH feel that he should have his own room. If we were to travel with other adults, there is no way that DH would share a room with them, no matter if they were relatives or not.

Now I understand that seperate rooms would be lovely, but what's with the manly phobia about sharing? I mean, if it's just *sleeping*, what's the big deal?!?

Terri

It doesn't bother me at all, as long as I know the people.

My Mom, my aunt and my cousin and I travel to several ladies weekends each year, we all share rooms as necessary, and if two of us need to share a bed, we do, it's not a big deal.

I have also traveled to a number of quilt shows out of state with friends, and every time, we had four of us friends in a room with two queen beds, and we all slept two in each bed and nobody worried about it or cared.

When I travel with my DH and my two kids (one DD, one DS) we always sleep girls in one bed, boys in the other. No way I'm paying for extra rooms, I'm too cheap.

I think it's a man thing...maybe they are worried that they will wake up with an erection and someone will think they are having a sexual attraction to someone else in the bed or in the room?

 

[kkmcan]

I've shared a room/bed with some girl friends 2 years ago when we decided we needed a girls trip. Ugh! It was awful! One girlfriend got so ill and couldn't leave the room most of the trip. She needed to be near the bathroom at all times, if you know what I mean.

The other girl snored so loud. I was so miserable without my family who doesn't snore. I got literally no sleep that trip.

Another time my mom, sis and I went to Chicago to visit some family and again it was a girls trip. I shared a bed with my mom and it was fine for a couple of nights but I wouldn't look forward to it. She stayed on her side and doesn't snore or make any noises but it was kinda weird.

 

[Wishing on a star]

I am with your DH.....
Sorry OP, but I would NOT push this.
If this is his comfort zone, respect it.

Seriously...
Ohhhh, I am ohhh so famiiar with the whole "but we're family/friends and it's one big party...."
BTDT as a child from a large family.
NEVER, EVER, AGAIN....

Our son is now an almost grown teenager.
We have shared a large hotel room/suite with him, for a night or two or three... when necessary. We do everything possible to book suites/condos etc...
Our trip to Mexico in a few weeks we will be in a full one-bedroom condo, with a set up for him in the main area. (even sucks to have to share a bath... but only comes in 1br/1bath.

I don't see us sharing a hotel room with him, or anybody else, who is an adult. Just don't see it happening.
And, this especially goes for sharing a bed!!!!!
EVER.

PS: Yes, this is one aspect where Disney and Cruise lines suck... Prime Full Rates for a separate extra hotel-room. No other reasonable options for families.

 

[Kogo Shuko]

I've shared hotel rooms in the past with friends and will in the future. When I was younger I would also share beds.

However, I'm an extremely light sleeper, and the last time I shared a hotel room with my good friend, I was nearly at the breaking point by the end of the 4th night. She snores... LOUD. So I got pretty much NO SLEEP on that mini vacation. >_<

 

[DawnM]

Oh, also adding......DH doesn't prefer to share a room, but now that he is a Scoutmaster Assistant for our BSA troop, he has often shared a tent with another man.

He is fine with it, although he sleeps better when he is alone in the tent.

He once shared a tent with a sleep walker. That wasn't fun. The man got up and started walking around the tent mumbling something about a snake. Freaked DH out because he didn't realize the man was asleep. He jumped out of bed and got his flashlight to help look for the nonexistent snake in their tent.

 

[quandrea]

I'm with the person who doesn't tell relatives they are visiting. I'm also in the no house guests camp. Both dh and I like our space. Since we had children ten years ago we always book a space that allows us to have our own bed and bath. The kids sleep on pullouts or in another bedroom. People always ask why we travel all the time with our kids. We do because we still get private time while on holiday. If I can't be as comfortable on holiday as I am at home, I'm not going.

Would never share a hotel room with anyone but hubby.

 

[cluvsdisney]

I won't share a room with DH & someone else but I have shared a room with my sister or some girlfriends when I go away with them.

 

[U2_rocks!]

It takes me a while to adjust to a hotel room anyway - throw in people I don't usually sleep with and it's much worse! I have never been one to allow my kids to sleep with me, so I am only used to DH. When I have to share a room with the kids it takes a while to adjust to their noises and movements. One DD talks in her sleep occasionally, and sometimes I can hear their different breathing, or they may be restless and moving around in bed. If they would just pass out and sleep in silence all night I would adjust much quicker!

I am wary of sharing a room with people outside of my immediate family because I am not sure what kind of sleeper they are and I lie awake at first anticipating snoring or some such thing. I have shared with others for gymnastics travel meets, and they were OK, but I was worried I might disturb them! Also, in a hotel room there's no way to get up and watch TV in another room if you can't sleep, and I worry that bathroom trips in the night will wake them. I guess it's just the uncertainty that makes it harder to relax.

 

[Minnesota!]

I am on your side - and Dh would be, as well. He is going on a "boys weekend" this month, AAMOF, and he is sharing a room with his brother. It is a group of 20 guys and over the years they rotate who shares with who. No big deal.

 

[Arielle22]

DH and I have shared a hotel room with a friend before. Wasn't ideal but money was tight.

Our DDs are 18 and 20 but they still share a bed and share our room with us.

When I travel with my sisters and friends, we definitely share rooms and may share a bed depending on how many of us there are.

We grew up sharing rooms, with 4 girls in one room and 3 boys in another so it doesn't phase us.

DH has never expressed any concern about sharing a room either. Our girls know he snores and they take it in stride.

 

[Minnesota!]

I grew up with a summer home so we shared space with all kinds of people. No biggie to me really.

DH prefers privacy as well. That being said we would share if we needed to or it made sense.

This is probably why I don't see the big deal - I grew up going to a cabin every weekend from May - September. There were only 2 bedrooms and a camper, but there were typically 12-16 people up there. So you crashed where there was room...usually everyone in the living room or such. I loved it!

I wouldn't want anyone to nap in our bed either. Why would that even be necessary?

When we have parties/holidays at our house, there is usually a person or two who wants to nap mid-gathering. An older person, typically, but it could be a kid or someone who has had too much to drink. They are free to crash in any bed in the house - it's usually ours since the kids are in and out of their room. That is how I grew up, too. My grandpa or an aunt was usually napping after the big meals

 

[disykat]

Our two young adult sons, 21 and 18, still travel with us at least once a year to visit family. We share a room. Now that one usually brings his girl friend we've had to upgrade to two connecting rooms and figure out sleeping arrangements that way. This year I'm considering renting a house so we'll have three bedrooms and girlfriend can have her own space.

 

[NotUrsula]

My parents would have died laughing at the idea that three related people couldn't share a hotel room. Both of them were from families of 9 children, and both of them grew up with their grandmothers living in the house as well. In both cases that added up to 12 people in 2 rooms totaling about 800 sq.ft., and no indoor plumbing, either, so they shared the bathwater as well. When I was growing up we had a much larger house, but when relatives came to visit we all shared. Along with 2 more cousins, I moved into my parents room for the duration, and my older siblings vacated their rooms and slept in the LR so that aunts and uncles could use their rooms with their younger children. We had a bathroom, but only one. It was perfectly normal for us all to walk between rooms in nightclothes or underwear -- MODEST underwear.

Which brings me to the only issue that I have with sharing a room with someone other than DH: it's a bit physically uncomfortable because normally I don't wear full-coverage pajamas to sleep. However, I do keep a set of pajamas for just such occasions and use them when I must. When traveling as a family we treat room-sharing like camping: everyone sleeps in very modest nightclothes and makes it a point to fully dress in the bathroom or behind a curtain if there is one.

I don't share on business trips, but that's not an issue of personal privacy so much as it is an issue of distance. I don't like my work life intruding on my personal life, so I need a space where I can shut out my co-workers. (Actually, I prefer to stay in a different hotel if possible.)

 

[Planogirl]

I've shared a room with friends many times and it's no big deal to me. I just wear shorts and a t-shirt.

I do prefer to have my own bed even if it's an inflatable one on the floor.

 

[skw444]

I have no problem sharing as long as I know the people. My girls are in Girl Scouts and we've been on several camping trips where we have shared the same room as other girls and their mothers. And in a few weeks, we'll be headed to Savannah and my dd and I will be sharing a hotel room with another girl and her mom.

 

[pigletgirl]

It's OK for a short time, but for a longer trip I would not do it! I like my space.

 

[mnrose]

We are a family of four...husband, wife, and boy/girl twins, now 14 years old. When they were little, we preferred to have more than one room, simply because we could put them to bed, and not have to go to bed early like they did. Now, that they are older, we need the room. LOL! If we are staying somewhere 1 or 2 nights, we will share a single room with two beds...my D and I in one bed, and my son and H in the other. That only works for short term stays though! My D and I can share a bed nicely, but H and my son both prefer their own beds if possible....PPH in Disneyland worked perfectly because it had the extra day bed for my son. If more than 1 or 2 nights, we go for a suite or a private rental (VRBO). So this summer, for example, when we go to the Black Hills we are staying at a lovely B&B that has one room that is really a 2BR apartment....perfect for us.