Sharing a hotel room with someone other than spouse/young children

[lurkernj]

I think it would be wierd to share a room with my husband AND other people at the same time whether it be friends or family (other than our kids). I have no problem sharing rooms/beds with my female friends/female relatives (as long as the bed is at least a queen), but not while Dh is present.

 

[Disneychix]

I will and have shared a room with my mom and my kids. But throw DH in the mix and grandma gets her own room (sometimes she even takes the kids )

I would never want to share a hotel room with my family and my MIL so I get it.

I will and have vacationed with girl-friends before. Sharing rooms and beds isn't an issue. I would never in a millon years share a room for more than 1 night with my DH and another couple, just not our thing. If it was a 1 night deal (like before a cruise or for a concert in another city) we could handle it.

 

[skylizard]

I would only consider ever sharing a room with a select few of my immediate family and very close friends. And even then it would only be for one night (two max). I can't imagine sharing a room for a week long vacation.

 

[LBIJim]

For vacations we always shared a room until my daughters became "young ladies." I suppose they became uncomfortable with me there, so we started to get a suite or connecting rooms. Maybe for an overnight trip we could all share a room, but not longer than that.

We did a trip last summer with 18yo DD and I sharing a bed, 21yo DS and DH sharing the other. I grew up in a large family so bed sharing was routine.

In this situation, we'd get a suite or two rooms. Maybe if I had two sons it would be different, but my daughters became uncomfortable with a male in the same room.

During college spring breaks, we had four guys sharing two beds in a room. No big deal really. There were some crude jokes but we were usually so wasted we didn't care where we slept. When I go away for guys trips now, however, a third person has to get a rollaway bed. If there's four or more, we get multiple rooms.

I've shared rooms on business with male colleagues, sometimes strangers. Again it wasn't a big deal. Now my company will spring for separate rooms for each person, but I still sometimes share with someone I know well.

Jim

 

[georgina]

My kids are used to camping and sharing tents, so a room was no different for them. Especially at Disney Beach Club prices, we would not get an extra room. My older DD and her boyfriend joined us for part of the trip, they did have their own room! My DDs have never been 'young ladies', maybe that is the difference.

My DH takes our 2 DDs on scuba trips, often inviting a male friend of his, and they get a suite or multiple rooms in that situation, but they don't seem to consider their father a male to be uncomfortable around.

 

[niclodn]

I guess I'm in the minority here, but I have no problem sharing a room with anyone. I've even shared rooms with people I've never met in person before (mostly for runDisney events). No big deal.

 

[Katy Belle]

Back in the day, when we were young and poor, we shared hotel rooms with others. DH and I shared hotel rooms with his parents, my parents, even friends occasionally. Now that we are older, and have more $, we don't share rooms.

We have 3 sons, ages 14,16,19. We will still all stay in one room, if there is a pull out sofa or roll away. It doesn't bother us to have our own kids in the room. Heck, we lived overseas for 5 years and I would come to the States with the kids. Many nights they had friends stay in the hotel with us, but DH was never there, just me and the kids. Never bothered me a bit.

I could see sharing a hotel room for a night or two, with grown sons and their wives...like we did with our parents. Perhaps one night at a relatives wedding, that kind of thing.

I go on a trip with my BFF every year. We get 2 bedroom suite, or adjoining rooms. We COULD stay in one room, but we like the privacy and freedom of two.

That being said, we just got back from WDW for Spring Break, we did two adjoining rooms at Pop Century. Two boys were in one room, one boy and DH and I were in the other. For space, two bathrooms, two tvs, this is the way to go!

 

[DWGal210]

I don't mind sharing a room, and even a bed, if it's a short amount of time. For instance - this past weekend I went out of town to see my goddaughter play volleyball and so it was her, her mom and I in one room. My goddaughter (14) and I shared a bed. It was only two nights, so no biggie. Had it been longer than a few nights, however, I would have gotten my own room. We are also sharing a room at Disney in a few weeks, as my aunt and I are doing the Expedition Everest 5K. Again, was it more than a few nights, I would get my own room.

When I travel/vacation in groups, though, I will get my own room, whether it's a trip of extended family or friends. I'm a single 32 year old and I am done sleeping on pull out couches, wherever there is a spare spot, etc. Often as the single person I've found that people don't take into account that even though I'm one person, I would like my own bed and a good nights sleep, same as the married people. Of course, I pay for it (I'm used to having to pay double occupancy) but I've had to train my family and friends that when we're scoping out where to stay, and deciding how many rooms to get, keep in mind that I would like my own room, even though I'm a party of one.

 

[bcla]

I've done it on occasion. I remember our Grad Nite trip decades ago. I didn't make arrangements and got assigned. I shared a bed at some motel with someone I knew. The other pair in our room we didn't know; we weren't mingling in the same circles. It was four assigned to two full sized beds. It was weird too, since they brought in some alcohol, although we didn't rat them out or anything. I didn't particular care for sharing a bed in that case, but it was a requirement for the trip. We did Knott's Berry Farm, Disneyland, our motel, and Magic Mountain - where we were inside all three parks within a 24 hour period.

And I shared rooms with someone I knew. Wasn't a girlfriend but we lived in the same house. I'd gone on trips for her, but it was almost like she was my sister. We'd save money by sharing a motel room, but always separate beds. Once she brought a friend along and they shared a bed while I had another one all to myself. Nothing crazy going on, but nobody seemed to care or think it was unusual. Some people are comfortable going on camping trips and sharing a tent with friends or even acquaintances.

I've stayed at a hostel once. And it was odd since I had one dorm room all to myself. They apparently had one room for men, another for women, and a third that could be used for either depending on demand. It was just me in the men's dorm and a mother and daughter in the women's dorm.

However, that's nothing. You should see what military beds for enlisted personnel were like. Of course they're communal, but back in the 19th century soldiers would share beds. Not only that, but soldiers slept in the same bed in opposite directions. So one guy's smelly feet were right about at someone else's neck.

 

[jodifla]

I come from a big family that didnt have a lot of money and we all squeezed in a room or didnt go! I cant believe all of the people that agree with your DH. If I had to get a seperate room for a 19yo he wouldnt be going!! I can think of only one reason my husband wouldnt want anyone in our room with us! I am going on a business trip and my co-worker and I, we are both females, will share a room (we are friends) some people thought this was weird. Why spend tons of extra money when you dont have to? We wear PJ's, talk and fall asleep....why do you need a seperate room to do this?

Boy, I'm with you! Who are these people who have money to blow on one person in a hotel room?

We stay with people all the time! The more the merrier.

 

[Hannathy]

Boy, I'm with you! Who are these people who have money to blow on one person in a hotel room?

We stay with people all the time! The more the merrier.

Add me in to! I can't believe they get so many rooms. Last time we went to Niagara Falls we had 6 in the room. All you do is sleep there. Also it is a lot of fun with everyone talking at night and in the morning. and if we had to pay for 3 rooms with their logic we never could have afforded to go.


We also had a hunting camp with 1 bedroom and then a big room and we regularly had 10+ people staying.

 

[jsmith]

We always shared with our sons-and I have known my sons and their wives to share a room to save money. Hubby frequently shares a room with another soldier on drill weekends since the unit requires it. We do get rooms by ourselves and the kids get their own but not if there are financial constraints for anyone-rather share than leave someone at home.
I show dogs-and its an expensive hobby-its not uncommon, if the husbands can not go for two or even three of us girls to share a room-and share with three or four large dogs in addition to the people. No issues.

 

[winterman]

I am planning a trip to WDW in April 2015 with DD and DGS (2 years). If it is just the three of us, we will all be in one room. If DSiL comes along, then I will get my own room. Hopefully connecting. I just would not be comfortable in the same room as him.

Last Nov. I shared a room at POFQ with my adult son. We did fine so we will be sharing a room on a May cruise and back to POFQ next Nov.

 

[Janepod]

Nope. For me it would defeat the purpose of a vacation. We take vacations so we can relax and have quiet time. Packing more people into the room would defeat the purpose.

 

[Styx Fan]

My family always shares hotel rooms...that is DH, DD10, DS17 and me. 2 rooms would be nice, but we just can't afford that.

Next month, I am going on a 2 night trip with DMIL and DD. We are sharing a room. I will sleep with DD. I have shared a bed DMIL, but find I just don't sleep well. Too aware of her presence, but it doesn't bother her at all. Sharing a room doesn't bother me, but unless it is DD or DH, I really want my own bed.

Once about 20 years ago, we went to Cedar Point with 2 other couples and found a motel with rooms with 3 beds. Yup, we all shared. We were young and crazy and it didn't bother us at all. Can't imagine that now, if due to bathroom usage alone!

But I beyond that, I have never gotten into packing as many people as possible into a hotel room. That is just not comfortable for me and makes it hard to sleep.

 

[JanaDee]

If we are going anywhere for more than 2 nights, the kids (17 and 12) get their own room with 2 beds, either connecting or adjoining.

I want my privacy and cramming as many people as possible into a room is not my idea of fun. Ever.

 

[Sorsha]

I am with you, OP.

Growing up, and even now, the whole point to a vacation was to squeeze in as much FUN during the day, no matter where you were, and the hotel was just a place to sleep at night (and maybe swim in the afternoon).

I shared a bed with my little brother until I hit puberty, then I slept with my mom(single parent). Yeah, that meant the 7 year old got a bed to himself, but oh well.

We have always squeezed all 5 of us into a room at WDW, usually the trundle-bed rooms at POR. DH and I in one bed, two oldest DDs in the other, and youngest DD in the trundle.

I have always shared a room with my BFF when we take weekend shopping trips.

Also, when I went with DD19's band in her junior year of high school to SoCal and Disneyland, all the chaperones had to buddy up on rooms. I was lucky that one of the chaperones was DD's best friend's mom, so I didn't get stuck with a complete stranger, but I still shared a room for a week with someone I was not related too. We did just fine, had fun even!

I just cannot see wasting the money on a room for one person, who is related to the other people, when there is room for everyone to stay in one room. Save the money and do something fun with it, IMHO!

 

[JVL1018]

We usually stay in DVC accommodations for longer stays. So that's either a 2 bedroom(kids have their own beds in a room together) or a 1 bedroom-kids sleep on the pullout couch in the living room. My husband and I always get the master bedroom.

They're 12(boy) and 14(girl) now, so they don't share a bed anymore, we'll bring an aerobed or use the sleeper chair once they all get installed in the villas.

We went to DC for 3 nights last summer. One room. I slept with our daughter, my husband slept with our son.
I can't imagine anyone feeling weird about sharing a hotel room with their opposite sex parents when they're teens. We all live together-seperate bedrooms, of course, but we hang out together. We all share a bathroom at home. In our case, I don't see a big difference.

As an adult would I share a room with my brother, my inlaws, my father, random strangers? No.

I do go away with girlfriends and we share rooms, and beds. No big deal.

I would never do my family of four plus anyone-not even my mom. Me alone with mom, yes I did. And we shared a bed bc we stayed in a studio with a bed and pull out couch.

 

[elphaba91]

Boy, I'm with you! Who are these people who have money to blow on one person in a hotel room? We stay with people all the time! The more the merrier.

I just went and checked and it would be more than double for the 3 of us to have separate sleeping quarters for our upcoming trip (if we stayed in the same hotel - would perhaps pick some with more suite options). I could think of much better things to spend that $4000 on!

Besides, sometimes sharing a room can be fun! In Australia we have something called Schoolies, where high school graduates go away (usually to the beach) after graduating and finishing their final exams. My friends and I rented a 4 bedroom house for 8 people - we had 2 per room, including 2 pairs sharing a bed. My room buddy arrived a day later than the rest of us and it wasn't nearly as much fun without her there! We'd shared a room on music camp the year before and actually wound up sleeping in an empty room across the hall because the third girl in our room wasn't interested in staying awake talking (and rehearsing our lines for the school play)...fun times...

 

[mill4023]

I don't like it. I sometimes share a room with a colleague on business trips and we've worked it out so the awkwardness isn't so bad....she is an early riser and I "sleep" til she's done getting ready. But I snore..I know I do...and so that's embarrassing.... My dd wants to take a group of girls to a water park and 2 rooms would be expensive, but I'm not keen on sleeping in the same room with a bunch of tweeners. I'm ok with attached rooms and the door open, but at least I would have my own space.

I don't think I could ever work for a company that expected co-workers to share a room. That's just weird.

I'm fine sharing a room with family or close friends, but not with acquaintances or co-workers.