Serious faith questions.....

You are not alone, TinkerPixie. Your DIS friends are here to listen, many of us have been exactly where you are.

I don't have answers either, but I sincerely feel your pain.
 
I'm so sorry. My heart is breaking for you. Unfortunately I don't have any comforting words. I just wanted to let you know we are all here for you.




Tamie
 
My most heartfelt thoughts to you. I can understand what you're going through. It is such a hard thing to deal with and to make sense out of. I hope that you will follow others advice about her pain medication. She should be as comfortable as possible.
When my dear father passed away almost 2-1/2 years ago, I felt the same as you did - and actually read that Dylan poem at his service.
Take good care of yourself. You have many friends here who will always listen to whatever you are feeling and not judge you, but only support you.
 
I am so sorry. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your Mom. I have no answers for you. In matters like this, we do not always know why. There may not be a why, it may just be the way God made things.

Do not feel bad about asking these questions. God understands your questioning. He gave us hearts for love which can not bear to see the suffering of others, especially those we love.

I do know this, God placed us all here on earth to love and support each other. Do not be afraid to call on this support. We are here for you.
 

EROS, do all of your posts have to be so self-serving at a time when Tinkerpixie is suffering??? We are all very much aware of what you think about God, and the DISers who do believe in Him. But thanks for driving that point home yet again.:rolleyes:

Tinkerpixie-I am really sorry for your troubles right now. I am not a real holy roller type of Christian, I am not even the most devoted of Christians all the time, but I do believe God has reasons for everything, even if we don't always understand them, or agree with them, for that matter! I have been in several situations throughout my life where I have been royally p***** off at God...I think that's normal. One of the other posters on this thread said something about that's where faith comes in, because even if you don't like it or don't agree with it, you feel that God knows what He's doing.

I wish you peace, I wish you the strength to deal with the upcoming difficult days. I am sure that even if you are not too happy with God right now (which is quite understandable), He'll still be with you.

God bless you and your family.
 
I am very sorry to hear that your mom is suffering. Why she is suffering, I don't know nor do I have the answer to your question. I wondered the same things myself regarding why some suffered in death, and why some didn't. Why God would allow this suffering. I finally read the book "When Bad Things Happen to Good People". The book was beautifully written by a Rabbi. It provided many answers to my questions. I do remember when my Grandfather was praying, that I stopped by my Church to pray for God to let him die. But, remember as you are suffering right now and your mother is suffering right now. GOD is with you. He is there beside you with your pain and hers. It is in time of sorrow to turn towards him and not away from him. He does expect the anger towards him. What he doesn't expect is to allow our anger to turn away from him. I will pray for your mother and you. If you ever want to talk privately, please PM me. I lost my mother 9 years ago at Christmas. The pain you feel is a strong one and it never really leaves you.
 
My Mother suffered a long and painful death from cancer as well.

On her last day as she lay struggling to breathe, I held her hand and gently told her to go. I told her I loved her and that she was a wonderful Mom, but she didn't have to fight any more. I wiped a tear from her cheek and she took her last breath with my hand on her face. I think sometimes giving them your blessing makes it easier for them to let go.

I know how you are feeling and I'm so sorry! Losing a parent is one of the most difficult losses in life. It's been 15 years since I lost my Mom and although the pain has lessened, I still miss her.

I will pray for both you and your Mom.
 
Tinkerpixie.. my heart is with you as you go through this very painful experience. I only wish that someone was making your Mom more comfortable....It made me flash back to my Mother's death and how very difficult that was to deal with...It is strange as I think of this and the very little support we got from the doctors in a leading Boston hospital.. Thank God for the nurses who got us through this.. I hope that you have the support that you need to go through this passage of life...I railed against God myself and lost my faith for a long time.. I think that is normal... I am still not up to snuff there...but feel I have to believe in something.. life is so cruel without something to believe in..

So hugs to you and yours.. I am praying for you today... Love.. Marsha
 
Honey, my heart is breaking for you. I am so sorry you and your family are going through this. I will keep you all in my thoughts.

We are always here when you need to talk.

Katholyn
 
Lots of good thoughts and advice here, Susan. My very best wishes and prayers for your mom, and for all of you who are pained along with her. Always tough to see happen, and as said, ask for the relief should get. God does see us through, in the long run of things. {{Hugs}}
 
It is an age-old problem--Why does God allow bad things to happend to good people? Although I am a holy-roller type of christian (In reference to an above post, which made me smile) I don't have the complete answer to this question. I think maybe I'm not supposed to have the answer because God's ways are above our ways and his thoughts are above our thoughts. What I do know is that he is the prince of peace and as goofyposter stated he gives peace past understanding. In other words he can give you a peace when there is no logical reason to feel peace. When your heart is mightily grieved over the pain and illness of your mother when you ask he will still give peace to both you and her to help you through the situation. I am so sorry for what you are going through. My heart goes out to you and your family.
 
Having lost my mother a couple years ago , I have a very good idea of what you are going through. Having been a paramedic for over 20 years I have witnessed many times the ending of a life. Yet it does not always prepare you for the death of a close loved one.
Many times death does not come quickly nor easily. It does not always happen as portrayed in movies or on tv. When our loved one is the one suffering and there is no hope we wish for a quick end to that suffering. It is normal to question why and even sometimes question your faith. God will find a way back into your heart when the feelings of hurt and anger have faded.
Thoughts and prayers to you and your family during these difficult times.


Steve
 
Tinkerpixie:

Again just to bring it home...God is there, with you, with your Mom. Many times it is not for us to understand right now what is going on or why. Only later will that come to light. All he has to do is speak our name and we will cease to exist. Stay strong and hold on to your faith. It sometimes is the only saving grace we have. Love to you and you will be in my thoughts.

Debbie
 
I find that saying a prayer to my inner spirit works best. Stay strong. I'll be thinking of you.
 
I am not a real religious person, but I would like to tell you about a butterfly. My Mom was cronically ill for a long time, and 3 weeks ago I lost her:( . She told everyone she wanted two things before she died. One was to see me remarry (I think she loved my fiance more then I do:D ) The other was to be at her grandson wedding (my DS).She died 6 days before his wedding:( . While we were outside taking pictures that day, I was upset because it was drizzly and cold and my dress was sleeveless, not a day you would expect to see a butterfly, but when I looked over at my son's lovely bride, there on the front of her gown was a beautiful butterfly. My Mom loved butterflies, and I wonder, was she there with us? I think so. And I hope to see her again on my wedding day. Stay strong Tink, I know its hard, but just keep the faith.
 
I cannot tell you how sorry I feel for you, TP. I've been there and I know how you feel.

Please understand that your faith WILL see you through. I know it did for me. There are two forces on this earth, one that causes things to happen and the other who wants His children to live and prosper. He also watches how we react to situations, whether or not we blame Him or ask Him for help through the trials. Trial always come, no one can stop them, it's how we react through them is where we show ourselves.

We have free will to ask and question, it's our nature and we SHOULD. What we do after we ask is our choice also.

Hold on, honey, and PM me if you need someone to talk to...
 
I've pm'd you and will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.
 
What a lovely moment you shared, Dee, about your mom and the butterfly. We do have to, as you said, wonder at times.

And again, Susan, just continuing to keep your mom, and you, in my prayers and good thoughts.
 
Tinkerpixie,

I am going through the same thing with my Mom also and often find myself with faith questions of why, etc. I agree the answers have to come within and I am trying through my faith, family, and friendships to search my inner self for the answers. I can offer you lots of {{{hugs}}} because I truly know where you're coming from. Please pm anytime you want to talk!
 





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