Rude Behavior At Disney

[Mickoofy]

The thing that drives me crazy is when you wait for over an hour to have a spot with your kids to see the parade and at the last minute people are all over you, in front of you, and now your kids are having a hard time seeing. This has happened more than once. Very rude!

 

[Dreamer & Wisher]

On our most recent trip we were getting breakfast in the food court at Port Orleans French Quarter.

I was waiting to get Beignets at the bakery counter. There was one man in front of me who was waiting for them to get him something.

Two CM's were working in this area. This woman comes up behind me and asks me if I am ordering Beignets. I reply yes. She says to me " I am going to order ahead of you because you will have to wait for the beignets, they make them fresh." I give her a strange look. She says "really they make them when you order them." I can see that there are no beignets in the display or on the counter. I am quite aware of how it works but I still don't know why she thinks she can order before me.

The two CM's turn around and one brings the man in front of me his order (I think it was a cappuccino) The lady behind me shouts at one of the CM's "I want a muffin" the other CM took my order for the beignets but I just thought it was the strangest experience.

 

[Talking Hands]

Well, that's kind of poopie. The entire schedule has to be based around being in 1 spot at exactly 1 time on A specific day. That's quite a hardship!

Something you live with if you want to be able to fully understand the shows. It was amazing the first time I happened on a show with an interpreter.

 

[peytonsmomie]

Something you live with if you want to be able to fully understand the shows. It was amazing the first time I happened on a show with an interpreter.

Oh, no doubt! I'll have to see if I can schedule us at a show that's got it on the agenda. I love watching so much that I ended up getting drafted into the church I went to at the time's Deaf ministry, despite having had no previous experience at all. Once I finish school I'll get back into it, I kinda drifted off when things got ridiculously busy.

I'm still shocked by the numbers of people who have experienced folks draping their children over strangers during the parades so they can see. I get freaked out if a stranger looks at my kid for too long, I'd lose it completely before I'd arrange my child over a person I didn't know!

 

[Hollywoodhaha]

I didn't read thru all of the threads, but there is one thing I find very rude. On our last trip we went with my in-laws, MIL, FIL, SIL, BIL, and niece and nephew. With my DH and 4 kids, there were 12 of us. To keep track of 6 small children (ages 8, 5, 4, 3, 2, 1), we dressed them all alike. Evidently, someone thought they were all siblings and said where my oldest DD could hear that "I'm glad they're not mine." I wish I had heard because I would have gladly informed her that I am VERY glad they are mine (even if technically two aren't mine).

HOW RUDE.
haha.. reminds me of stephanie on full house

 

[dzorn]

That is so sad!

Ranks up there with parents who threaten their kids that the police are going to come and take them off to jail (unless they're really coming to take them to jail, of course! )

I did do this when DD broke into her sisters bank.::cop: Her sister decided to settle out of court instead of pressing charges.

 

[bobbieh76]

My DD5 has a developmental disorder that also involves more anxiety and sensory sensitivity than most children. When you look at her, she looks absolutely perfect so I do get the snide glare when she is in her stroller in a queue, complains loudly that her legs hurt, or has a panic episode in a crowd. There's some of you who might say "well, why take her to Disney if she's so sensitive" but she loves it and it is good therapy for her (believe it or not). Anyway, I always have a stroller and never expect a bus seat to be given up for me but one night she was especially tired on a crowded bus and we had to stand. She was very upset and everyone looked at us like we were disrupting everyone's ride. I was pretty mortified but my daughter finally crashed on a blanket on the floor. There was no way I could hold on and hold her. Anyway, we arrived at the resort and everyone STEPPED OVER US instead of allowing me a moment to gather my stroller and pick up my sleeping child to exit the bus. I was practically in tears at the lack of courtesy that evening! One other mother finally told her husband to get my stroller and help me off the bus with it.

And my daughter has been the child having a meltdown as I pushed her out of the park or into the bathroom. Sometimes these situations are inescapable and not a result of bad parenting so I just wanted to let you know that sometimes what you see as rude/annoying behavior might be someone else's nightmare and they are just as appalled by their situation as you are.

And Disney IS A PLACE FOR STROLLERS! It is a place for children and adults alike so let's all try to empathize with those around us a little more. I know it's a lot of $$ per minute just to be there but you'll feel better to stop and help someone than mumble under your breath as you walk away, perhaps judging someone for how they inconvenienced you.

Ok, lecture over!

WELL SAID!!! My son also suffers from an anxiety/sensory disorder so I can TOTALLY understand. My son did very good at WDW I was so happy but we did have a few "melt downs" and I handled them best I could. I ignore other peoples stares etc b/c they have no clue what my life has been like and what WONDERFUL progrss he has made!

I am so sorry that happened.. I really wish people would remember not all disabilities are able to be easily spotted..so the next time you are in a crowd and you see a kid acting out just remember you have NO idea what that family is going through and it is NOT your place to judge OUR parenting skills!!!

 

[SuperTink]

Oh and to those people that think I should have someone in my family run over so they need to be in a wheelchair so I get some of the "benefits", SHAME ON YOU. Wishing pain upon another person is also RUDE. But that is what the OP was about.

First of all, that's not what I said.

Secondly, you just don't get it and probably never will.

 

[ntsammy5]

 

[peytonsmomie]

so the next time you are in a crowd and you see a kid acting out just remember you have NO idea what that family is going through and it is NOT your place to judge OUR parenting skills!!!

Shortly after I became a mom, my mother in law pointed out to me that you can tell more about a child by the behavior of their parent than you can by the behavior of the child. I remember that whenever I see a child having a meltdown or an incident of bad behavior. A child who is pounding the ground with his fists and screaming bothers me much less than the parent who continues their phone conversation as though nothing is happening.

Whenever I see a kiddo having a meltdown, parents frazzled and trying desperately to soothe and settle the child, it's time to attempt to be helpful. Whether that's keeping an subtle eye on siblings to make sure they don't wander off, scooting over to give a bit more space, or simply averting my (and my kid's!) attention to give the family a chance to get back on the rails without feeling like a circus act.

It's tough enough managing neuro-normative kids in a high-stimulation place like Disney. For families managing to give their kids the magic despite hurdles that must be overcome, it's not too hard to back off a little and provide a little benefit of the doubt.

 

[fireflymedic]

this post could have stoped after the posting of the little kid pooping on the ground by a que line, cant get any more rude (dare I say disgusting) than that.

Not wanting to call any one a lyer but I can barley belave the peing in a line, but the pooping takes the cake.

 

[bwilcox]

On our most recent trip we were getting breakfast in the food court at Port Orleans French Quarter.

I was waiting to get Beignets at the bakery counter. There was one man in front of me who was waiting for them to get him something.

Two CM's were working in this area. This woman comes up behind me and asks me if I am ordering Beignets. I reply yes. She says to me " I am going to order ahead of you because you will have to wait for the beignets, they make them fresh." I give her a strange look. She says "really they make them when you order them." I can see that there are no beignets in the display or on the counter. I am quite aware of how it works but I still don't know why she thinks she can order before me.

The two CM's turn around and one brings the man in front of me his order (I think it was a cappuccino) The lady behind me shouts at one of the CM's "I want a muffin" the other CM took my order for the beignets but I just thought it was the strangest experience.

Well, she was obviously more important than you!
(in her mind, anyway)

 

[dmccarty]

I can't imagine a Disney without strollers.

There certainly are far more strollers at WDW now than there were in the 70's. I dont ever remember seeing the herds of strollers at the start of ride lines. And when we went at the end of the 90's I dont remember the stroller herds but the herds are sure around WDW now. I can imagine and remember WDW without stroller herds.

I don't really have a problem with the strollers. I think I might have been hit once. Another time I was walking down Main street and a women pushing a stroller passed me. She had a balloon on the stroller and when she passed me it moved into my face. Without thinking I flipped it away. She had some snide comment about its only a balloon. I bit my tongue but want to say well let me bounce it off your face and see if you like it. But I had more important things to do since I was on a mission to buy a gift for a neighbor as a thank you for getting our mail.

Later,
Dan

 

[mom22bless]

Do ya'll really have nothing better to do than come on here and bicker about a bus stop problem? Please...agree to disagree. These are the things that get atopics shut down. I have asked...others have too. Please be considerate and bring your concerns with each other to PMs.

 

[Leshaface]

Shortly after I became a mom, my mother in law pointed out to me that y

ou can tell more about a child by the behavior of their parent than you can by the behavior of the child

. I remember that whenever I see a child having a meltdown or an incident of bad behavior. A child who is pounding the ground with his fists and screaming bothers me much less than the parent who continues their phone conversation as though nothing is happening.

Whenever I see a kiddo having a meltdown, parents frazzled and trying desperately to soothe and settle the child, it's time to attempt to be helpful. Whether that's keeping an subtle eye on siblings to make sure they don't wander off, scooting over to give a bit more space, or simply averting my (and my kid's!) attention to give the family a chance to get back on the rails without feeling like a circus act.

It's tough enough managing neuro-normative kids in a high-stimulation place like Disney. For families managing to give their kids the magic despite hurdles that must be overcome, it's not too hard to back off a little and provide a little benefit of the doubt.

This is VERY well said!

 

[Stacy_C]

There certainly are far more strollers at WDW now than there were in the 70's. I dont ever remember seeing the herds of strollers at the start of ride lines.

There was also only 1 park in the 70s. I would assume most people were just spending one day at WDW/MK considering there were fewer rides and much less ground to cover (aka: walking). Now, there are more parks and rides (obviously) thus making the need for strollers now more than the need was in the 70s.

 

[phragmipedium]

This happened to us on our last trip. We get on the bus at DHS to return to the hotel and DGD is asleep in DD's arms (she's 14 mos. old...so she's heavy enough to be uncomfortable). I know that a lot of people have gotten on the bus before us, so I say lets wait for the next one. Bus driver calls us onto the bus and says, "Surely someone will let mother and baby sit down." NO ONE did. There is actually a man sitting right beside her with a smirk on his face. I tell her we can get off and catch the next bus, but she's getting tired of holding her and just wants to go back to the hotel. There is another man sitting across from us and his very small little boy is taking up 2 seats...he has his feet in one. I look at him and say, "Maybe your son could make a little room for my daughter." and he goes ballistic on me about how we shouldn't have brought a child so young that they can't even stay awake during the day (sometimes I don't stay awake all day at WDW!). DD didn't want DGD to wake up because she knew she would cry, but we woke her up. I said right out loud, "They didn't care enough to make her comfortable enough to stay asleep, they can listen to the crying." Usually DGD is pretty good, but she WAILED the entire way back to hotel. So I guess we were the rude people on the bus with the screaming baby.

Interestingly, our rudest moment happened when DH *did* give up his seat for a woman holding a child. He just instinctively got up on a bus after a long late night at MK, and asked her if she would like his seat. She didn't thank him or even acknowledge him, just plopped down in it, glanced with a mean look at him, and huffed as if he should have gotten up quicker. I was speechless, or I probably would have said something like, "You know, where I come from, we say thank you when someone does something nice for us." He didn't have to get up, and the lack of a thank you or a quick smile really riled me up. It was hot, August, and late, and we all would have liked that seat, and it really irked me that she was so rude as to not acknowledge a kind gesture - in fact it made me want him not to give up his seat at all anymore, since so many people at WDW seem to be in their own bubble as if the world revolves around them and their happiness and comfort only. There were so many selfish, rude behaviors like pushing and shoving without apology that it made me wonder if anyone was actually happy in the Happiest Place on Earth. The rest of the trip I was able to just brush it off and enjoy my own time, but in that moment I was really upset with that woman.

 

[CookingMama]

I have walked through a ton of peoples attempted pictures. I have limited peripheral vision in my right eye. If we are walking along north on a path looking at a display on my left coming up and you are standing more then 6-12 ft back away from it, well I probably wont see you and I will step up into the frame. The only time I catch on is if people are standing in front posing.

 

[fmed845]

After reading some of these articles I might as well add mine. First 99% of the the time its great but once in a while.

Bus stops at the resorts. After missing one bus because it shows up almost full and your family is the only ones who can't get on, then while waiting for the next bus other families are arriving and the next bus shows up almost full a lady pushes her way to the front to tell the bus driver her father is coming on a ecv and he loads it on the bus along with 8 family members and again we have to wait.

Having one or two of a brazilian tour group up in front of you in line waiting for aride and after standing there 20 or 30 minutes the rest of the tour group 2 or 3 at a time tries to pass you telling you there with the group up front then they start singing and clapping in line until you finnally get on the ride.

Trying to get on the bus at DTD when it shows up almost full with a tour group and the bus driver tells the ones standing to move to the back of the bus to let more people on and they wont move and the driver has to open the back door to let people on. Then once under way they start singing and clapping all the way back to the resort. What a long ride.

 

[luvmickey5374]

Interestingly, our rudest moment happened when DH *did* give up his seat for a woman holding a child. He just instinctively got up on a bus after a long late night at MK, and asked her if she would like his seat. She didn't thank him or even acknowledge him, just plopped down in it, glanced with a mean look at him, and huffed as if he should have gotten up quicker. I was speechless, or I probably would have said something like, "You know, where I come from, we say thank you when someone does something nice for us." He didn't have to get up, and the lack of a thank you or a quick smile really riled me up. It was hot, August, and late, and we all would have liked that seat, and it really irked me that she was so rude as to not acknowledge a kind gesture - in fact it made me want him not to give up his seat at all anymore, since so many people at WDW seem to be in their own bubble as if the world revolves around them and their happiness and comfort only. There were so many selfish, rude behaviors like pushing and shoving without apology that it made me wonder if anyone was actually happy in the Happiest Place on Earth. The rest of the trip I was able to just brush it off and enjoy my own time, but in that moment I was really upset with that woman.

When I come across situations like these, where people don't say thank you....I simply say "You're welcome your highness" It certainly speaks volumes and is very effective when said loudly and infront of a lot of people