Roles for family

[BecBennett]

DF wants to find something for his younger sister and younger brother to do, to be part of the wedding. We don't really need anything to be done, so it's probably going to be a matter of creating roles. What are some extra roles that I may not have thought of?

 

[pezaddict231]

You could have them do a reading during the ceremony. You could have them be ushers, not that people really need to be shown where to sit. You can put them in charge of the guestbook. Those are the typical things I've seen done, so you may already have thought of those...

You could put them in charge of getting everyone together for family pictures...but they would also need to know your side of the family, that would be helpful because Disney doesn't really help coordinate that at all.

 

[DoomBuggy0922]

Hmm... they could greet people and hand out your guide of events?

 

[*Pixiedust1438*]

DF has 5 nephews and 1 niece and we are also trying to find roles for them to be in the wedding. His niece and her brother will be ring bearer and flower girl, and we really wanted to include the rest, so right now we are thinking of having his three other nephews (the fourth will only be about 1 year so he won't be doing anything) carry the three candles for the candle lighting down the aisle for us. No big thing, just when it's time having the officiant ask for them to bring them up. We also might have them hand out programs to guests as the enter the ceremony, and/or hand out rose petals for the toss as guests exit. There are lots of little ways you can include them, depending on their ages.

 

[jtanddolly]

how old are they???

junior groomsman and junior bridesmaid...

have one be responsible for the guest book, have the other pass out programs and/or fans and/or tissues if you have them...

usher...depending on age

help cut/distribute the cake...depending on age...they would really need to at least be high school or preferably older for this role

do a reading during the ceremony or even reception...again...depending on the age

lighting of the candles...if you will have any at the ceremony

pass out "rice"/bird feed, bubbles, rose petals, streamers...whatever you may have when you leave the ceremony and/or reception

 

[chesterpdt186]

does it have to be the wedding ceremony, or could the reception or family dinner before hand be included?

Gophers/Go-betweens right before the ceremony can be a important task.
This alleviates the groomsmen and bridesmaids from running around right before the ceremony.

 

[BecBennett]

I meant to say their ages in the original post, but obviously forgot. They're 18 and 16.

I don't want extra bridal party (that's what DF wants) because we can't afford it, if it were completely up to me we'd only have a best man and MOH, But as it is we already have 3 a side.

I didn't think about the rose petal toss... That's a good idea.

I think I might get his sister to hand our the programs and petals, and I might get his brother a video camera, so we have two different angles of the ceremony

 

[prncess674]

I meant to say their ages in the original post, but obviously forgot. They're 18 and 16.

I don't want extra bridal party (that's what DF wants) because we can't afford it, if it were completely up to me we'd only have a best man and MOH, But as it is we already have 3 a side.

I didn't think about the rose petal toss... That's a good idea.

I think I might get his sister to hand our the programs and petals, and I might get his brother a video camera, so we have two different angles of the ceremony

I am confused, your DF has 3 men standing up, but yet of those three men none are his brother? Personally if someone asked me to be a videographer I would be seriously peeved. That like asking someone to clean up after the party, but yet saying it is an "honored position."

I don't understand why having additional wedding attendants would be cost prohibitive? Yes, you would have to buy a small token gift, but overall the dress, shoes, transportation and lodging for the attendant is paid for by them.

Even if they are a groomsman or bridesmaid, if you include them with some sort of "wedding duty" whether it be the program passer, candle lighter, etc then you would need to buy them a gift of appreciation.

 

[BecBennett]

DF has 3 brothers and 1 sister. 2 of his brothers are full brothers that he grew up with and are similar in age. The other brother and sister are half siblings and a lot younger then he is. He didn't really grow up with them.

Originally he wanted his 3 closest friends to be his groomsmen, as he's closer to them then any of his brothers, however after a bit of a stink up with his mum he changes his GM's to include his 2 full brothers, and his best friend.

My brother is doing our videography, and he's more then happy to do that, so there should be no reason that DF's half brother would be peeved about getting the same role as my full brother.

I don't want to spend an extra $100 on a bouquet if I don't have to. We're already going to have to cut all the button holes and corsages as they're not in the budget.

We just want to include them in the wedding so they know we're thinking of them.

 

[nickandlarisa]

We had my half-sister do a reading, and her husband (my brother in law) walk my mom down the aisle. So they were included but not part of the bridal party. For any men/boys you want to include, walking any mothers/grandmothers down the aisle is a nice way to include them. All of the other suggestions are good as well : handing out programs, guest book attendant, doing a reading, etc.

 

[BecBennett]

Thanks.

DF's younger brother is actually really good on the guitar, so if we can work out a way of getting a guitar to wdw we'll get him to play a song during the ceremony and maybe get his sister behind a video camera

 

[Belle2Be]

I am confused, your DF has 3 men standing up, but yet of those three men none are his brother? Personally if someone asked me to be a videographer I would be seriously peeved. That like asking someone to clean up after the party, but yet saying it is an "honored position."

I don't understand why having additional wedding attendants would be cost prohibitive? Yes, you would have to buy a small token gift, but overall the dress, shoes, transportation and lodging for the attendant is paid for by them.

Even if they are a groomsman or bridesmaid, if you include them with some sort of "wedding duty" whether it be the program passer, candle lighter, etc then you would need to buy them a gift of appreciation.

This exactly.