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[AuntieMe3]

@lynxstch So sorry you guys are having such a hard time with DHs care. Big for you.

Got home yesterday afternoon to some nice hot, summer rain. It's been awhile since it's rained more than a little drizzle here, I'm in the desert remember. Didn't last long but it was nice....love a summer storm. We were a little hot and muggy until the wind blew the clouds away, then it was just hot the rest of the evening. We ended up over at our friends for the evening, swimming in the pool and ordered pizza for dinner. DD had been at the beach all day with friends but she came by for a dip in the pool when she got home and then we all went home together not to long after that.

This morning, DH and I went to breakfast with our friends(like I said in another post we spend A LOT of time together. LOL) and the rest of the day has been spent lounging. DH has to go back out of town for work this coming week but I'm staying home this time.

Something exciting to look forward to, I read about Disneyland(well California Adventure) doing their Halloween party again this year, so Dd and I decided to go. Tickets go on sale Tuesday so I'll get our tickets then and we plan on getting a hotel room for the night after the party. I'm not thrilled about the price, but we really want to go so we just doing it. The first one we went to maybe 10/12 years ago was $25, the last time we went 6/7 years ago was $50...the cheapest day were looking at is $114... Crazy but it should be a nice night with low crowds compared to a regular day.

 

[lynxstch]

Huge Lynn. I don't suppose there is a different hospital he can be transferred to? This one sounds awful GOOD for you for reporting all this to the patient advocate on Monday! You might also consider compiling your notes and sharing them with the hospital director.

Nowhere close to here Mona. It's either Univ of MD in Baltimore or to WV,,no thanks! I am doing just that with my notes, and if the patient advocate wants to notify the Director she can..or else I will be doing it! This is 'supposed to be' one of the best hospitals around, or at least that's what they touted when Univ of Pittsburgh took it over..but I am sure not seeing it,
On the upside,,apparently my conversation with the Charge Nurse did some good. Summer got there before dinner,,and hubby needed to be situated more comfortably in the bed. He pressed the call light, and his male nurse and another nurse came in immediately. Summer said they were very polite, and asked him if there was anything else they could do for him at the moment. It only took all day to get that accomplished!

 

[flyingdumbo127]

Welcome home, officially, AuntieMe3, so glad you had a good time and also fun at home with friends. How fun to be planning a DL trip

I didn't think there was Lynn, just thought I'd ask, my friend. A small (FINALLY) step! Continued prayers and always love.

 

[lynxstch]

Good morning QUACKERS! This is the first time in awhile I have seen our thread on the second page--not allowed!
It must have rained some overnite, as there are some puddles on the chairs outside the back door. Calling for a chance of rain today, with temps upper 80's.

Not much new to report. I just spoke to Nurse David (the nice one who put notes on the gauze on hubby's leg for me 2 days in a row, so I could be sure it was changed), and he said hubby did well overnite, they just got him situated a little more comfortably. My sister in law had brought him some balloons and a card for me to take in today, and I had to call and make sure they were allowed. With some covid stuff still in place I wasn't sure. He asked and they said it was fine. That will brighten up his room a bit.

I was in bed by 8:30 last nite. So tired, and just felt drained after all the stuff that went on yesterday. I slept soundly till about 11, then was awake and up and down the rest of the nite. Going to lay on the couch for another hour or so. Sister in law is picking me up and dropping me off at the hospital on their way to church this morning and will pick me up around 2, before they have to go somewhere. I so appreciate it, and it's saving me a ton in cab fare!

Have a nice morning everyone!

Well I need to edit that already. Hubby just called, and said he had a dream that he walked into the hospital but now he can't get out? Still sounded half asleep, but said he was trying to get the bed rail down so he could get up. That he would call me back if he couldn't get out. I called the nurses station immediately, as I know they had been in there within the last hour, but wanted them to go check him again. David assured me that the bedrails are indeed up and that hubby can't reach the part to lower them. That he did still seem about half asleep, so they turned out the backlight and darkened the room a little more, hoping he would just go back to sleep..He said they would keep checking on him until shift change just to make sure..geez..hubby is not a big dream person , so that one scared me!

 

[tazdev3225]

Good morning everyone.

@lynxstch - hope you have a better day today. Glad you called the nursing station to check on your husband. That was how the hospital found out my husband had a stroke. He fell out of the bed after a weird dream. I wanted to know why all 4 bedrails weren't up since they knew he was a fall risk and found out that it's illegal, my daughter verified it. We need to be proactive.

Today is my 40th Anniversary. It has been a roller coaster ride but that's life. We have survived so much together and in the end came out stronger. Don't get me wrong even today there are times I look at him and wonder what I was thinking that day but I am still here.

It's funny looking back I remember that week leading up to the wedding so vividly. My brother was in an accident - car vs bicycle. He destroyed my $300 bike although it wasn't his fault and I got nothing near what the bike was worth. He was the soloist for the wedding and he wound up with a concussion. Thankfully he was OK. My mother in law hosted the rehearsal dinner at my mom's house and all we had were deli meats. My mom made the salads as if she didn't have enough to do since she catered the reception.

My best friend did my hair and it took 4 cans of hair spray and my hair still came undone during the reception. It took a lot of washing to get all that goo out of my hair. Then I had to stop at the supermarket to buy gravy because my mom didn't think she had enough. Boy did I get some strange looks. I had to exchange my husband's shoes and then get them to him. Somehow he bought 2 LEFT shoes. Now he can't dance but he needed a right shoe. I played solitaire and watched John Wayne WWII movies til it was time to get ready. It was 90 degrees out and the church had no AC. As my dad walked me down the aisle he said we could make a right turn and leave if I wasn't sure. I stayed. The only thing that made me think of running was seeing my mother in law walking down the street to the church. I realized I was stuck with her in my life forever. My husband's nephew told me to ignore her, everyone did. The wisdom of an 11 year old got me to stay. I got nothing to eat at the reception so at 11 PM we all went to the local IHop for pancakes in our tuxes and gowns. It really was a day for odd looks.

I would only change a couple of things looking back. I would have had a different gown and NO veil. My mom made them both and not what I envisioned. I took the veil off my head the moment I exited the church. Everyone said I would regret doing that and nope - I regret wearing it in the 1st place.

I would have been more assertive about the bridesmaids gowns. They let me choose the color and then my aunt locked me out of the bridal salon with no coat in 20 degree weather til I promised to keep my mouth shut. And that was my Maid of Honor. I would also have researched Bridal Shops more carefully. The shop screwed up my Matron of Honor's gown badly. Thankfully we found a shop that had the dress, the color and the size with the extra length she needed but pleated. I was fine with that.

And the thing I regret almost as much is the baby blue tuxes. What was i THINKING???

Here are 2 pics - minus the veil


And one with my dad and the veil - I still hate it



One of my favorite pics was me and my little brother. He was mad at me for leaving


Dinner tonight will be at Jim's favorite restaurant. I like it but think the quality has decreased and last time I got sick on the scallops.

Hope everyone has a great day.

 

[Kirby]

Just checking in, visit with Lil Joe has gone well. He goes back to his dad this tonight. DD has another weekend scheduled with him in a couple weeks though she doesn't know where yet. Hopefully her ex will tell her sooner than later. Her attorney is going after him this week for contempt for withholding his current address so her ex will not be happy.

Continued prayers, so happy to hear good news!

I like the name Finn. Our neighbor's name is Jen, short for Genevieve. I think that gender isn't as important for names as it used to be. My niece named one of her girl twins Elliott.

I love BLT's and those pictures! Makes me hungry!

Enjoyed the dog pictures! We don't have pets anymore but we loved the ones we used to have. My DIS name was chosen from our Red/Blue Heeled named Kirby. He lived almost 17 years.

I know there were other things I wanted to comment on but I can't remember them. I prefer using a computer instead of a phone. I'll close with a pic of DD and kids. They were watching a Harry Potter movie during some down time.

 

[flyingdumbo127]

Good Morning Quackers and Happy Sunday,

Lynn, so very much love and prayers. Continued hope that today was be much brighter and easier for you! I am so glad to hear you are not having to drive back and forth yourself to the hospital. One more stress you do not need.

Happy Anniversary and much congratulations to you and your DH, Taz Dev! May you both enjoy many more happy and healthy years and fun together, my friend. Lovely photos

Hugs, Kirby, so thankful Joe is home for now. Continued prayers!

As for names, when I was little I remember thinking my own first name, Mona, was a bit weird. It is not short for anything. I was often disappointed as a younger kid to never see anything with just "Mona" on it at a touristy type place as a souvenir. ETA as opposed to the more common "Monica" or even "Ramona," which could and still can easily be found--neither are my name, though, so no interest in that.

For a long while, WAY before any TV families, which I don't personally think is right (putting your family on TV and for so long), I was on a "J" name kick for my future dream kids. I wanted many kids. As I got older, I thought it would be meaningful to get to adopt a child. This became more prevalent in me after some experiences with preschoolers in need of safer more loving home environments. God gave me the Blessing of being around many kids in different ways instead (schools, church, etc.) Loved them all

I have come to realize that should a child ever come into my life and care longer term and I got to name him/her I'd want the little boy or girl to have a more common name and based on my experiences one that could be found on souvenirs every now and then For boys I really like Biblical names such as: Andrew, John, Timothy, and Luke. Girls are harder for some reason! I do like simple names like Mary and Grace. I've often liked "ee" ending names as well such as Hailey, Kylie, Daisy (not sure I'd ever name a child this because of potential teasing, just pretty) etc.

for each of you!

 

[PollyannaMom]

HAPPY ANNIVERSARY @tazdev3225

 

[lynxstch]

@tazdev3225---

Happy 40th anniversary to you and your husband Lorrie!

 

[Breezy_Carol]

Good afternoon.

We were out of the house by 7:10 and at the beach parking lot at 9:15. Not bad considering a bad accident on DE 1 that we had to detour around. Got a great pick of spots on the beach. BEAUTIFUL beach day. I didn't go far into the water but did have two grandkids pouring on and splashing me. SonIL took a 5 gallon bucket with beach pails and shovels then filled the large bucket with ocean water. Carter was content to play in that and use a cup to pour water on my legs. One of DD's work friends came with the 2 kids and they set up with us too.

Friends left first then DD about 3, which was 6 hours and way longer than they thought the kids would make. I guess we left a little after 4. The flies were getting bad. All in all a nice beach day. Then we picked up carry out on the way home for dinner.

@tazdev3225, Happy Anniversary!
I always enjoy seeing wedding pictures.

I got nothing to eat at the reception

Same at our reception. I tried to eat but was either too busy or too excited. We went to a hotel by the airport to fly to WDW the next morning and it was too late for any restaurant so we had peanut butter crackers from the snack machine.

I wanted to know why all 4 bedrails weren't up since they knew he was a fall risk and found out that it's illegal, my daughter verified it.

True. When I worked in skilled nursing facilities, one used to be able to use a sheet or seat belt to hold someone in a wheel chair. Now anything like that is considered a restraint and not allowed. Including bed rails and leaving a patient in a recliner that they can't exit independently. What they do now, at least when I was last working, is leave the bed at the lowest position and place a cushioned pad on the floor next to it. There are also chair and bed alarms to let people know when a patient is getting up.

@Kirby, I'm glad your DD got to be with her kids. That picture looks like they are glad to be together.

I woke up a little queasy this morning, and tired, so have just been laying low. We didn't go to church but I'll watch later. Mona, we have a guest organist who used to be our regular organist.

 

[lynxstch]

Afternoon all--

what a difference a day makes (and different nurses)! He had the same ones today he had the first day..who are excellent. She checked on him every hour to see if he needed anything. He thought maybe he could lay on his side and sleep, so she got him on his side, propped 2 pillows behind his back, and in 5 minutes he was sound asleep (and comfy!). She made a note to tell the night shift to try that if he's having trouble sleeping. He slept soundly for an hour and 20 min. Dr came in and said rehab will be up to assess him to see if they will admit him up there. If they don't , I don't know what they think they can do..because he can NOT come home like this. PT didn't come in yesterday, and they hadn't come in yet when I left at 2:15. That's no help when they had him up and to the chair and using the commode for 2 days..and then he doesn't get out of bed at all for the next 2 He's eating okay,,wasn't hungry at lunch, but I blame that on the raspberry sherbet he asked her for at 11:00 lol. I told her if she would get me the soaped up washcloths and some towels, that I would get him cleaned up and save her from having to do at least one patient. She was very grateful. She undid all the wires and took the gown off, I got him all cleaned up,,and then she came in and put a fresh gown on him and rehooked all the wires. He feels much better now.

I am home and do not plan on doing anything but take a nap. Then I will find myself some dinner and watch some tv. May be in bed by 8:30 again tonite, but oh well.

Sister in law and niece have to go to Morgantown for appts tomorrow..so stepdaughter is picking me up. She is taking her friend in for her c section so they will pick me up on the way. And since she can't be in labor or delivery with her..she will bring me home in the afternoon, and then go back up to have dinner with her Dad. He enjoys getting some time with her as he rarely sees her, and she said she enjoys the time she gets to spend with him. It gives me a break from being there 8 hours a day and she can help him with his dinner..and make sure he's set before she leaves

Have a nice afternoon all!

 

[flyingdumbo127]

So glad you had a nice beach day, Carol 🏖 Hugs, feel better! I will watch church later. Thank you for the organist heads up

Hugs, Lynn. Overall, much better news than yesterday, my friend. PLEASE you remember to take care of yourself! Concerned about you and lifting you in extra prayer, too.

Good afternoon to all of you

 

[Snowysmom]

@lynxstch Glad that things are going a bit better at the hospital. It is frustrating that you had to go through alot to get the care he should have been getting all along. Be sure to take care of yourself, rest and eat well, so you can be your best. Thoughts and prayers to you.

@TazDev Happy Anniversary. I like your dress. I do know what you mean about blue tuxes. It was the times though.

The 2 DGS stayed overnight. I am so tired and a bit stressed. They are a handful and a half for sure. At least they slept all night once they finally decided to go to sleep. Boy do they want their way and that is it. No compromise. But they need to learn that Nana is more stubborn than they are. This morning our other 3 grandkids came over so we had a full house of 5 grandkiddies all 6 years and under. At least younger DS came along as the third much needed adult. Older DS and DDIL came for lunch and then brought their kiddies home. Even the dog is tired and napping now. He looks happy to have a quiet house once again.

I am not sure if work is going to be up and running for me tomorrow. I am so far behind with the systems being down since Wednesday morning. They have some areas up but not mine. I will have to talk with my manager to find out what his expectations are and to let him know what what I can do and how to play catch up. I call again tonight for status report.

Enjoy your Sunday!

 

[PollyannaMom]

...But they need to learn that Nana is more stubborn than they are...

Yep. My motto is: "I'm older, I'm smarter, and I have infinitely more patience."

 

[Pea-n-Me]

Good morning everyone.

@lynxstch - hope you have a better day today. Glad you called the nursing station to check on your husband. That was how the hospital found out my husband had a stroke. He fell out of the bed after a weird dream. I wanted to know why all 4 bedrails weren't up since they knew he was a fall risk and found out that it's illegal, my daughter verified it. We need to be proactive.

Today is my 40th Anniversary. It has been a roller coaster ride but that's life. We have survived so much together and in the end came out stronger. Don't get me wrong even today there are times I look at him and wonder what I was thinking that day but I am still here.

It's funny looking back I remember that week leading up to the wedding so vividly. My brother was in an accident - car vs bicycle. He destroyed my $300 bike although it wasn't his fault and I got nothing near what the bike was worth. He was the soloist for the wedding and he wound up with a concussion. Thankfully he was OK. My mother in law hosted the rehearsal dinner at my mom's house and all we had were deli meats. My mom made the salads as if she didn't have enough to do since she catered the reception.

My best friend did my hair and it took 4 cans of hair spray and my hair still came undone during the reception. It took a lot of washing to get all that goo out of my hair. Then I had to stop at the supermarket to buy gravy because my mom didn't think she had enough. Boy did I get some strange looks. I had to exchange my husband's shoes and then get them to him. Somehow he bought 2 LEFT shoes. Now he can't dance but he needed a right shoe. I played solitaire and watched John Wayne WWII movies til it was time to get ready. It was 90 degrees out and the church had no AC. As my dad walked me down the aisle he said we could make a right turn and leave if I wasn't sure. I stayed. The only thing that made me think of running was seeing my mother in law walking down the street to the church. I realized I was stuck with her in my life forever. My husband's nephew told me to ignore her, everyone did. The wisdom of an 11 year old got me to stay. I got nothing to eat at the reception so at 11 PM we all went to the local IHop for pancakes in our tuxes and gowns. It really was a day for odd looks.

I would only change a couple of things looking back. I would have had a different gown and NO veil. My mom made them both and not what I envisioned. I took the veil off my head the moment I exited the church. Everyone said I would regret doing that and nope - I regret wearing it in the 1st place.

I would have been more assertive about the bridesmaids gowns. They let me choose the color and then my aunt locked me out of the bridal salon with no coat in 20 degree weather til I promised to keep my mouth shut. And that was my Maid of Honor. I would also have researched Bridal Shops more carefully. The shop screwed up my Matron of Honor's gown badly. Thankfully we found a shop that had the dress, the color and the size with the extra length she needed but pleated. I was fine with that.

And the thing I regret almost as much is the baby blue tuxes. What was i THINKING???

Here are 2 pics - minus the veil
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And one with my dad and the veil - I still hate it

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One of my favorite pics was me and my little brother. He was mad at me for leaving
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Dinner tonight will be at Jim's favorite restaurant. I like it but think the quality has decreased and last time I got sick on the scallops.

Hope everyone has a great day.

Just wanted to say, great pics and stories! The one about you and your Dad walking down the aisle made me LOL! Everything looks nice to me, and I even like the colors! You look like a good couple. Happy Anniversary!

Work weekend for me so been super busy. @lynxtch special I know this is all really hard for you. Was actually thinking of you this morning when I had to call a security code. One of our patients had taken his metal drawers out of his bedside table and thrown them at us, then picked up the whole nightstand and threw it across the room. This was after calling us unprintable names that would make a sailor blush the entire shift and demanding we bring him things. I had to stay there to deal with security personnel and administrators, etc. which took me away from my patients. Very challenging today in hospitals. When you speak to administrators, ask them for the staffing numbers on the shifts you had issues with, ie what they are supposed to have and what they actually had, which will help determine whether problems there are chronic, or whether they were acute. Best of luck.

 

[lynxstch]

Just wanted to say, great pics and stories! The one about you and your Dad walking down the aisle made me LOL! Everything looks nice to me, and I even like the colors! You look like a good couple. Happy Anniversary!

Work weekend for me so been super busy. @lynxtch special I know this is all really hard for you. Was actually thinking of you this morning when I had to call a security code. One of our patients had taken his metal drawers out of his bedside table and thrown them at us, then picked up the whole nightstand and threw it across the room. This was after calling us unprintable names that would make a sailor blush the entire shift and demanding we bring him things. I had to stay there to deal with security personnel and administrators, etc. which took me away from my patients. Very challenging today in hospitals. When you speak to administrators, ask them for the staffing numbers on the shifts you had issues with, ie what they are supposed to have and what they actually had, which will help determine whether problems there are chronic, or whether they were acute. Best of luck.

Wow , that is scary. That patient musn't have been very sick in order to be able to pick up the nightstand and throw it?I hope noone was in the line of the table! I always look at the board at the nurses station to see how many nurses are on and how many rooms they have,,but that's a good suggestion to ask for staffing numbers. I am just frustrated that he had no PT for 2 days. They were just getting him started walking again..and now 2 days flat on his back in bed has undone all the good they had started to do. Hopefully tomorrow we will get some answers!

 

[flyingdumbo127]

Hugs, Snowysmom and get some rest! Young kids do have boundless energy and most always only want things their way. Love your reply

LOL, love your motto Pollyanna, that's great.

Pea along with an extra thank you for the compassionate care you daily provide! Prayers you sleep well tonight, my friend and that the week ahead is easier in all ways for you, as well.

As always much continued love and prayer for you dear Lynn.

 

[lynxstch]

Lovely. Total power failure here, transformer on fire somewhere up the road and one heck of a storm just blew through. They estimate power will be back on by 10. I hope so or it's going to be impossible to sleep with no ac or fans.

 

[PollyannaMom]

Hugs @lynxstch and @Pea-n-Me!

 

[lynxstch]

Recorded message just called my phone and now says midnite.