PMS in a Handbasket--Don't be afraid, just bring us food... Part 2a

[tevagirl]

Yeah, yeah, yeah. Whatever.

 

[phorsenuf]

Good morning all! Now that the boys are back in school I am up bright and early these days!
So what exciting things does everyone have on tap today??

 

[snowwhitesmom]

Yeah, yeah, yeah. Whatever.

Aw, teva - what's wrong this morning?

 

[L107ANGEL]

Yeah, yeah, yeah. Whatever.

Not a morning person huh
Just work 4s, hows the wedding planning?

 

[tevagirl]

Aw, teva - what's wrong this morning?

I dis'd too late. I feeling it.

 

[tevagirl]

Not a morning person huh
Just work 4s, hows the wedding planning?

Ah crap, does it show?

 

[snowwhitesmom]

Sorry, teva - have some coffee!
I'm off to work -- have a great day, all!

 

[L107ANGEL]

Ah crap, does it show?

Just a bit

 

[phorsenuf]

Not a morning person huh
Just work 4s, hows the wedding planning?

Wedding plans are coming along pretty good. Bunch of little things to take care of but after talking with my FDIL we decided they are things we can take care of together when she gets here.
I still have to meet with the pastry chef at the restaurant to show them a picture of the cake. I also have to call the dress shop and work out getting the dress for the maid of honor who won't be in town until 2 days before the wedding.
But all in all it's going pretty well. But what's the deal with people not RSVPing? Oh and I'm annoyed with my DH's sister who is NOT coming! Bad bad bad!

 

[phorsenuf]

Here's a pic of the cake

And the bridesmaid dresses

 

[L107ANGEL]

I love them 4s!!! Why are people not rsvping

 

[phorsenuf]

I love them 4s!!! Why are people not rsvping

I don't know
I got quite a few back but I'm probably missing about 10 (20-25 people with guests). Considering we invited 100 people in all I guess that's not too bad but we have to get the count in soon.

 

[L107ANGEL]

What?! Isn't the wedding soon!

 

[phorsenuf]

The wedding is the 30th of this month.

 

[L107ANGEL]

Oh my!!! Are you going to call them then?

 

[phorsenuf]

Yeah, I'm going to have to. One who didn't reply was my DH's nephew. I know they are not coming (just because the rest of the family isn't) but I still think he should have replied. I said something offhand and my MIL said "oh, I'll let Sue know". Sue is his mother. Well hello....the "boy" is 20 something and married. I really don't think mommy needs to call. Grow up for goodness sakes! Sorry....have some in-law issues! LOL

 

[L107ANGEL]

Why are the inlaws giving you a hard time? Like you don't have enough stress huh?

 

[phorsenuf]

Why are the inlaws giving you a hard time? Like you don't have enough stress huh?

They just drive me nuts!

When "John" (my DH's nephew) was getting married last year we were expected to attend. We live in NH, they are in TN. We were expected to pull our 3 Kids out of school 2 weeks before finals and fly down for the wedding. I said no, not a good time for the kids to miss school. Well that didn't go over very well. Ended up my DH took a day off, flew into TN rented a car, drove 3 hours for the wedding. Stayed 2 nights (the wedding was Sat) left on Sunday and came home. Nobody met him at the airport or spent any time with him. In fact at the wedding my BIL handed him a camera and asked him to take some pictures. He was in 1 family wedding picture.
So here it is our sons wedding and not one of them are coming up for the wedding. His Sis has been to Canada, L.A and Florida this year (with her DH's business trips) and is tired of traveling. Nice, huh? They give us a hard time and they blow us off. It has nothing to do with money because they are very well off and she could grab a flight from TN to Boston for $99. each way. There is no reason she can't at least come.
Needless to say I am pretty pissed off about it as is my DH.
But I can't say I am surprised though because that is how she is.

 

[Tigger&Belle]

4's, isn't it amazing how you see the true colors of people at a time like this? For my older son's Bar Mitzvah, my mother used the excuse that she hadn't had enough notice....she'd had 2 years! I can understand not understand the importance of it for Alyssa's and not coming, but she should have gotten it for Ben's. She could have at least made up a better excuse. My sisters were livid (I laughed over that one--it was so ridiculous). So for the past 2 1/2 years since we've known Zach's date, we've all been reminding her. Who knows if she'll actually come, but it won't be for that reason. She is old and it is a long, hard flight, so I do cut slack.

I've learned (and it's a real hard thing to learn) to be grateful for the people who do come to an important affair and to let go of the people who don't attend. My DH gets worked up over who doesn't come, but it's not worth it. Then it's taking away from who is actually there. And to think that someone like my nephew, who I haven't seen in 7 years and who is a poor grad student and will be sleeping on an air mattress who knows where in my house and his wife who I've never met, wants to come, that just thrills me! It is like the Hokey Pokey and this is what it's all about!

However, I would be a little irked if I were you about that double standard. Now you know how it works, huh?

 

[phorsenuf]

Ya know, I knew she wasn't going to come because it would be too much of an inconvenience for her. Our family has always been that way to her.
She's a weird one too. When her DD got married they honeymooned in ME. So my SIL and her DH and some friends decide to go vacation in ME at the same time. They spent their honeymoon with her mother. In fact on the wedding night Mom went and hung out with them and they played cards. You can tell the new hubby is not thrilled with MIL, even after all these years.

I completely lost all respect for her though when her dad was dying. My MIL was trying to take care of him by herself. She herself has many health problems so it was hard on her. We helped as much as we could but we were both working too.

So we finally get my SIL up to help and we asked how long was she staying (she had no job or children left at home) she said for a while. We were relieved that my IL's now had help. She stayed 5 days! 5 days as her father laid dying. Why? Becuase her DH kept calling wanting her home and she had to get back by Sunday for her Sunday school class. We couldn't believe it! It was at that point that I knew I wanted nothing to do with her.

She'll come up to NH and visit her friends, but doesn't come see us or even call. When her DD and family came up for a visit she made an itinerary for her of who to visit and when. We were not on the list. When her daughter questioned her about it she came up with some lame reason. DD said well too bad, I'm going to go see them. Now every year when she comes up we spend time together and have a blast.

I don't really dislike anybody in my life except for her. She's just so self-centered.

I'm soryy.....I didn't mean to go on like that. But as you can tell I'm not very happy with her! LOL