Parents of strong willed children support group

[BeachGirlFLA]

Let's just say that my parents could have used this support group when I was growing up. I wasn't badly behaved, especially at school but I had a mouth on me and if I disagreed with something I had no problem letting my parents know (although they were the only ones I stood up to) and I was STUBBORN and still am.

 

[Robinrs]

My parents needed this group BADLY for my sister!! She was a terror!! I spent most of my life feeling sorry for my parents and trying to be OVER good to make up for her.

What scared me is everyone told me I was going to have a child like her... Thank GOD that didn't happen!! My sister was the poster child for the "strong willed child".

The great thing is she became a strong and tough defender of my parents in their elder years. She took care of them and loved them till the end. She regrets what she put them thru but they loved her no matter who horrendous she was.

It took years but it DID get better.

 

[clovergirl5]

Oh my gosh! I didn't see the kidding part right away! Whew! I was composing my answer in my head and deciding whether I should post it or run away!

I was thinking the same thing...didn't see that bottom part right away

 

[clovergirl5]

Avoid Wal-mart, Ikea, McDonalds.

If that doesn't work, getting a switch seems to work well.

Couldn't help yourself could ya Were you double dawg dared kitty?

 

[Caropooh]

DH and I thought there couldn't be anyone more stubborn or strong-willed than our DD15 and then DD10 came along! She has blown her sister out of the water! (we won't mention thta Mom is rather stubborn!)

 

[clovergirl5]

On a bittersweet note...my baby ain't no baby anymore. dd2 slept in her toddler bed instead of the crib last night. She loved it and did so good!
Proud of her

Im Jenny, btw. SAHM to 4 dd and 1 ds. Ages 2-13.

Hey, no hijacking....maybe a disclaimer should be established

 

[Gabes_mommy]

On a bittersweet note...my baby ain't no baby anymore. dd2 slept in her toddler bed instead of the crib last night. She loved it and did so good!
Proud of her

Im Jenny, btw. SAHM to 4 dd and 1 ds. Ages 2-13.

Hey, no hijacking....maybe a disclaimer should be established

Hi Jenny! I officially put you in charge of creating our "no hijacking" disclaimer.

 

[Robinrs]

Avoid Wal-mart, Ikea, McDonalds.

If that doesn't work, getting a switch seems to work well.

omg I've been gone too long!! I had to read more posts to GET THIS!!!!

 

[glitterkittyy]

Couldn't help yourself could ya Were you double dawg dared kitty?

I wasn't even single dawg dared. lol I'm just contrary, remember?

 

[Amg120499]

It'll get better. Divorce is hard on dc, coming from divorced parents when I was 16. Love her and love her and hug her and hug her and let her know its gonna be ok. It will eventually get better. Huge hugs to you and her. I know its a hard time.

Thank you for this - I really appreciate it.

I'm Melisa, a single mom to 7-year old Julianna. She really is the light of my life when I don't want to rip my hair out because of her behavior.

I work in a small office and am the Vice-President of the PTA at Julianna's school. If we are not there, we are at her dance classes, choir practice and soccer games. Boy, I'm so glad one of us has a social life!!!!

 

[ckay87]

My son has one of those attitudes where he "doesn't take any garbage from anyone!" I tell myself that one day this will be an attribute. In 7th grade, it's just not.

Yea, I need a support group.

 

[ReneeA]

Thank you for this - I really appreciate it.

I'm Melisa, a single mom to 7-year old Julianna. She really is the light of my life when I don't want to rip my hair out because of her behavior.

I work in a small office and am the Vice-President of the PTA at Julianna's school. If we are not there, we are at her dance classes, choir practice and soccer games. Boy, I'm so glad one of us has a social life!!!!

The cute little blonde in my photo below...that's Juliana. She came out screaming; and then screamed her lungs out 18+ hours a day for the first year of life. We originally wanted 3 or 4 children. Our minds were changed after that one.

She's smart. She's cute. She's sassy. She's headstrong. She's bossy. She's very independent. She thinks that she knows everything about the world at 6. She can be hilarious at times, when you don't want to cry. We have tried every sort of discipline there is. Read all the books, stuck to all of the punishments. Nothing works, although she seems to be a touch better in the last 6 months.

I went to parent teacher conferences and all of the 1st grade desks were lined up neatly in their rows, and there was one lone desk butted right up against the teacher's. Guess who? You got it! It was my lovely headstrong DD. The teacher did say that things were much improved, and when she started to mover DD's desk back with the rest, Juliana asked to remain there. She said to the teacher that she knows if she goes back by the other kids, she will talk too much, not listen, and not get her work done. She wanted to stay up by the teacher because she doesn't like homework and wants to get her work done in school. I was mortified that the desk was there, but very impressed that she's making good choices on her own right now.

Anyway, long story short...I join your club. It's a club I never thought I would have to join since I am a very no-nonsense kinda gal. But here I am.

 

[Mandychelle79]

I was blessed by not one but two little strong willed kiddos. Damn my mother for wishing that I would have kids just like myself. And they are, just like me annoys me to know end. My typical reaction to them is that I have had ( 23 or 25) more years of experience in being bull headed so I will win. Thankfully DS hasnt realized that he is WAYYYYY more bullheaded than I ever was.

 

[clovergirl5]

Welcome to "The Parents of strong willed children" thread. A DRAMA-FREE ZONE


DISCLAIMER--

This is a group of parents who want to discuss their strong willed children in a safe, non-judgemental setting. We are here to support each other and lend a shoulder when our loving children are being monsters

Please no cattiness, rudeness, mudslinging, bashing or criticizing of our parenting skills or our children, who we love more than anything.

If you can't say something nice, then don't say it! If you do find that you just have to post something that is not supportive and is rude, you will be asked to leave this thread and we will all put you on "ignore". Thank you




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[Gabes_mommy]

The cute little blonde in my photo below...that's Juliana. She came out screaming; and then screamed her lungs out 18+ hours a day for the first year of life. We originally wanted 3 or 4 children. Our minds were changed after that one.

She's smart. She's cute. She's sassy. She's headstrong. She's bossy. She's very independent. She thinks that she knows everything about the world at 6. She can be hilarious at times, when you don't want to cry. We have tried every sort of discipline there is. Read all the books, stuck to all of the punishments. Nothing works, although she seems to be a touch better in the last 6 months.

I went to parent teacher conferences and all of the 1st grade desks were lined up neatly in their rows, and there was one lone desk butted right up against the teacher's. Guess who? You got it! It was my lovely headstrong DD. The teacher did say that things were much improved, and when she started to mover DD's desk back with the rest, Juliana asked to remain there. She said to the teacher that she knows if she goes back by the other kids, she will talk too much, not listen, and not get her work done. She wanted to stay up by the teacher because she doesn't like homework and wants to get her work done in school. I was mortified that the desk was there, but very impressed that she's making good choices on her own right now.

Anyway, long story short...I join your club. It's a club I never thought I would have to join since I am a very no-nonsense kinda gal. But here I am.

She is so cute! I think that's so sweet actually that she wanted to keep her desk next to the teacher's desk.

Here is my little guy in one of his sweet moments. This was at WDW when he was seeing fireworks for the first time. He was so excited and was saying, "look mommy".

 

[ReneeA]

She is so cute! I think that's so sweet actually that she wanted to keep her desk next to the teacher's desk.

Here is my little guy in one of his sweet moments. This was at WDW when he was seeing fireworks for the first time. He was so excited and was saying, "look mommy".

He's adorable!! You can tell he's a firecracker by that gleam in his eyes!

 

[Gabes_mommy]

I was blessed by not one but two little strong willed kiddos. Damn my mother for wishing that I would have kids just like myself. And they are, just like me annoys me to know end. My typical reaction to them is that I have had ( 23 or 25) more years of experience in being bull headed so I will win. Thankfully DS hasnt realized that he is WAYYYYY more bullheaded than I ever was.

This is hilarious because my mom used to always say she wished I had a child just like me. I'm pretty sure I did. Welcome!

Welcome to "The Parents of strong willed children" thread. A DRAMA-FREE ZONE


DISCLAIMER--

This is a group of parents who want to discuss their strong willed children in a safe, non-judgemental setting. We are here to support each other and lend a shoulder when our loving children are being monsters

Please no cattiness, rudeness, mudslinging, bashing or criticizing of our parenting skills or our children, who we love more than anything.

If you can't say something nice, then don't say it! If you do find that you just have to post something that is not supportive and is rude, you will be asked to leave this thread and we will all put you on "ignore". Thank you




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[clovergirl5]

This is hilarious because my mom used to always say she wished I had a child just like me. I'm pretty sure I did. Welcome!



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if you and everyone else here agrees.

 

[DMickey28]

I think I have the buds of a strong willed child on my hands ... I thought it was the terrible twos but I think it might be more than that. He is 2.5. He is a very loving sweet child most of the time but he wants what he wants and he will do anything to get it.

We are learning how to deal with it ... recently, as in the last two weeks or so, I have found DH and I bribing him and that needs to stop. He is a typical 2 year old picky eater and we have been bribing him to eat good foods with desert ... it's wrong and we are putting the stop on that now. Today he has been in time-out in his room three times before 10 when we went to my dr. appointment! Then he learned how to open his own door (childproof lock!). He has learned to come to me say "Sorry Mommy" and give me a hug ... argh!

Here's a pic of him ....

 

[LuvOrlando]

I happen to think being stubborn is an advantage, to a point, and I encourage independence in my kids. After all, the WRONG sorts of men will steer clear of my DD10 in search of an easier spouse to dominate. The best families are headed by warm loving strong women IMO. As for my DS11, being able to stand your ground is the mark of a good decent man, husband and father. How can you walk the straight and narrow if you can't even walk by yourself?

I'd take my 2 headstrong decent kids over 2 wishy washy followers anyday

Now foolish and stubborn is an altogether different mix I wouldn't want any part of, but as long as the kid can learn from his/her OWN mistakes (even if not from the parents advice), they'll be fine. So when one of my kids digs in their heels I stop and consider life experiences when that might be a good thing (saying no to drugs or physical intimacy) take a breath and have a talk about appropriate vs inappropriate ways of voicing opposition... and sometimes I just plain let it go.

Now don't get me wrong, it is incredibly hard to parent my strong willed kids but I keep my eye on that brass ring of 2 strong adults and think the mindset helps a bunch. Only time will tell if I'm right or not.